TLP 104: Your Kids Need an Interpreter

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If we don't want our kids living in a delusion, and if we want them living in God's reality, how does

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God expect us to help them in this endeavor? Welcome to Truth. Love.

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Parents. Where we use God's Word to become intentional, premeditated parents.

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Here's your host, A .M. Brewster. In the month of October alone, TLP has been heard in over 30 countries.

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That means that a large percentage of you are likely multilingual. Of course, it's impossible for me to know, but I would be kind of interested in how many of you speak more than one language.

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But anyway, those of you who are multilingual, and those of you who've ever found yourself conversing with someone who doesn't speak your language, knows exactly how important a quality interpreter is.

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I remember having a deaf friend of mine ask me to interpret for him as he spoke with a native German speaker.

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Yeah. And though I was fluent in American Sign Language and verbally fluent in German at the time, my

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German wasn't strong enough to bridge the gap to sign language. So there I was translating from German to English to sign language and then back again.

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Yeah, that was definitely fun. It stretched me. But more on interpreters in a minute. As a podcast consumer myself,

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Come on, you know we all do it. Anyway, it's so easy to listen to while otherwise engaged that I hardly ever take the additional steps to look at the tools and resources and links provided in the descriptions.

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I'm almost always glad I did. With that said, I'd like to challenge you to start interacting with Truth Love Parent.

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We think you'll be happy that you did. Alright, why am I proposing that your child needs an interpreter?

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We humans are so incredibly limited. When I taught speech to juniors and seniors, we discussed the basics of communication.

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And man, oh man, most of us think that communication is merely talking to someone. Well, that is not accurate at all.

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True communication happens when both people understand the message being presented. That alone can be challenging, but there's so much more than that.

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First, there's the message to consider. This message has not only content, but it also has form.

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And in a face -to -face exchange, that content and form is often received through both the visual and auditory channels, which means that our verbal communication is potentially being confused or benefited by our nonverbal communication.

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And any misunderstanding on any of these parts leads to communication problems. But that's just the tip of the proverbial communication tongue.

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Surrounding every form of communication is a broader situation. Communicating incorrectly within the situation can cause additional issues.

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Then there are the ever -present distractions that fight to steal understanding from even the simplest of explanations.

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But what about the communicator's field of experience? If I start talking about gerunds and dangling participles,

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Oxford commas, and phylloxenous and hillipillification, some of you will understand exactly what I'm talking about because we share a field of experience.

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The rest of you will be at least partially lost. Then you have all the people out there who are communicating in a very deceptive way.

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They use propaganda, they're lying, they're trying to manipulate. My point is that most of our children are in a constant state of information overload.

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And all that information is trying to communicate something to them. Assuming all the information was

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Christ -honoring, there will still be significant issues with communication. But then again, when you complicate the issue even more by stating the obvious, much, if not most, of the information your kids are interacting with is not

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Christ -honoring, man, we find ourselves in a world of hurt. And for some reason, we just expect our kids to decipher it all and make the right choices because we told them to.

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Consider with me 2 Timothy 4, 3 -5. The time is coming when people will not endure sound teaching.

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But having itching ears, they will accumulate for themselves teachers to suit their own passions, and will turn away from listening to the truth and wander off into myths.

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As for you, always be sober -minded, endure suffering, do the work of an evangelist, fulfill your ministry.

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Friends, we sinners are predisposed to walking away from truth and wandering into myths. Before we're saved, the

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Bible describes us as blind and incapable of truly understanding spiritual truth. And even after we're saved, our propensity is to do what's right in our own eyes and return to our sinful vomit like a dog does.

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And isn't this true of our children? I mean, isn't it funny how they won't prepare for the quiz their teacher told them would be on Friday because their friend suggested the teacher canceled it?

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Isn't it amazing how they can be bathed in truth and yet choose the self -destructive path? So, if we don't want our kids living in a delusion, and if we want them living in God's reality, how does

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God expect us to help them in this endeavor? I believe we'll find most of what we need just from this one passage.

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First, let's notice that the opposite of delusional living is being sober -minded, persevering through suffering, doing the work of an evangelist, and fulfilling your ministry.

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All Christians have been called to live in God's reality, and that involves us being temperate, having self -control.

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This obviously flies in the face of our world's failure philosophy that preaches you can have whatever you want, however you want, and as much of it as you want, whenever you want it.

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Secondly, we've also been called to persevere. That means to be patient, have long -suffering, especially in the face of difficulty.

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This could not stand in any more opposition to the hedonistic delusion of the world that says we need to live for pleasure, temporal happiness, and comfort, which your kids are being bombarded with in every single

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TV show, every single song, every single book. Now, I want to stop here and want to discuss Matthew 5 just for a minute.

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The first part of the Sermon on the Mount is commonly known as the Beatitudes, but to be fair, it's not my favorite title, and since it's not a biblical term,

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I'm free to not like it. I just don't like the term because I believe it's oversimplified a passage that's far more rich in truth for life than we can begin to understand.

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The first nine verses unveil not only attitudes we need to have, but the grand journey of our spiritual maturity, the veritable image of a

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Christian who lives in the reality of God. This image includes a humble, submissive, righteous, merciful, peacemaking individual, and that's what makes verse 10 and 11 so shocking.

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Regardless of how sweet and loving and gracious this person is, he needs to be ready to be hated and respond correctly.

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Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness' sake, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are you when others revile you and persecute you and utter all kinds of evil against you falsely on my account.

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Rejoice and be glad, for your reward is great in heaven, for so they persecuted the prophets who were before you.

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Jesus told us on multiple occasions that people would hate us simply because they hated him. There's no way out of it.

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Listen, our perseverance in this life must not be limited to the mountaintop experiences. It needs to carry us through the valley of the shadow of death, and it's only those who rest in God's reality that can pass through such a place and fear no evil because they believe

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God is there to care for them. So, if our children are living in the reality of God, then they will have self -control and perseverance.

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But our children have also been commissioned to evangelize the lost. Just as Christ submitted to the will of his

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Father, we too are to submit to that same will, and that will is to spread his kingdom abroad.

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Our greatest goal should be to share the amazing truth of God with all people. Staying grounded on his word makes it hard to misinterpret the information flying at us.

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And lastly, if the previous three didn't nail it, then Paul simply says, do your job. We and our children need to serve and proclaim and submit to God's perfect philosophy of life.

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So, our first point today teaches us that we shouldn't want our kids living a delusion, but instead we should desire for them to live in the reality of God by being self -controlled, persevering, gospel -centered servants of the

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Lord. So, number two is going to answer the question, how do we help them interpret all the information out there so they reject the delusions and embrace the truth?

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Well, for that answer, we just need to look a little earlier in the same passage. And that's today's second big point.

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Listen as I read. Earlier, when

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I read verse three, I said, the time is coming when people will not endure sound teaching. But those thoughts are actually conditions of verse two.

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Listen when they're all put together and read together. For the time is coming when people will not endure sound teaching.

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But having itching ears, they will accumulate for themselves teachers to suit their own passions and will turn away from listening to the truth and wander off into myths.

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Please note that it's because of all the failure philosophies and itching ears and myths that Paul is telling

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Timothy to engage in seven specific activities. And lastly, before we look at those seven in detail, please understand that this passage is not solely a requirement of preacher boys.

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And no one else has these responsibilities. No. And again, I say no. In order to help our children interpret the lies and misinformation of this world, we must be doing the exact same things

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Paul is encouraging Timothy to do here. And here they are. Number one, we need to preach God's divine truth.

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We need to proclaim to our children, thus saith the Lord. This word preach simply means to publish, herald, or proclaim.

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This passage fits beautifully with episode 92, Christian Parenting 101. It's just like Deuteronomy 6 commands our parenting to be brimming with God's word.

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So here, too, we're reminded how vital the Bible is to defeat failure philosophies. Number two, we're told to be ready in season and out of season.

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This means that we must always be prepared to meet the need of the moment, whatever it may be. And this does not happen accidentally.

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We must be trained, discerning, and wise. The evening before the Battle of Waterloo, the

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Duke of Wellington's number two man, Lord Uxbridge, went to him to find out what the morning's battle plan was.

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In the event Duke Wellington died, Lord Uxbridge wanted to be ready. However, Duke Wellington answered his query with another.

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He asked, Who will attack the first tomorrow, I or Bonaparte? Uxbridge knowingly answered that Bonaparte would definitely attack first.

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To this, Wellington replied, Well, Bonaparte has not given me any idea of his projects, and as my plans will depend upon his, how can you expect me to tell you what mine are?

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Now, don't misunderstand. Wellington was an accomplished military strategist. He didn't come to his position in authority saying,

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I don't know, we'll see what happens. Keep in mind, Wellington defeated Napoleon Bonaparte at the Battle of Waterloo.

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The point I'm making here is that Wellington was ready for whatever Bonaparte threw at him. Regardless of what projects

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Bonaparte unleashed, Wellington would be prepared. Well, how about us parents? Do we really understand what our kid's entertainment is teaching them?

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Do we know what they're encountering at school? Are we prepared for our son to come to us and tell him that his younger sister touched his private parts?

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Do we know how to respond when our child's principal tells us he was caught smoking marijuana at school?

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Where would we turn in God's word if we discover that our child is enamored by music with sinful lyrics?

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Are we ready with a correct response when we find out our child has been sexually harassed or abused?

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To that end, please listen to our TLP snippet number 11 entitled, How to Parent a Me Too. We must be ready in season and out of season.

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But number three, we also need to reprove our children. This is another Greek word that can mean admonish.

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Admonishment is a mix of teaching and warning. In many ways, admonishment is one of the largest parts of parenting.

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We admonish to help our children stay grounded in God's reality. But when they choose to believe a delusion, we move to number four.

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Number four is rebuke. This word means to correct. We provide them the truth necessary to change their behavior by rejecting the lie and believing

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God's word. And number five, we then exhort our children. This word means to call to the right.

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It's an invitation to our kids to join us on God's side. Join us in reality. I know

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I'm coming at this from a very generally positive angle, but I need to get real here for a moment.

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Too many parents demand that their children leave their own delusion merely to step into their parents' delusion.

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Please note that all of this is about God and His word. True ambassadors are not here for themselves, they're here for God.

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I'm not preaching to my kids how not to annoy dad. And boy, oh boy, let me tell you,

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I'm ready at the drop of a hat to preach that message. This is not about warning my kids what will happen if they annoy me.

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Punishing them when they do annoy me and then demanding they cut it out. No, I can't interpret life for my kids if I'm living in a delusion myself.

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My children need a good interpreter. Earlier I told you about that adventure I had interpreting from German to American Sign Language.

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I remember another story about a German couple who had a pretty good handle on the English language. They were on holiday in America when they saw a billboard for a charitable organization that read,

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We give gifts to children. Well, the couple understood every word in the sentence except the

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English word gifts. The reason they struggled with the word is that there's a similar word in German that's also spelled

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G -I -F -T. Only the German word gift means poison. The couple was horrified.

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We give gifts to children. Needless to say, they wouldn't have made the best interpreters at that moment.

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So too, we must be certain that we're grounded in God's reality before we can hope to train our children to embrace it.

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Okay, we only have two left, but let's review real quick. We will know our kids are living in reality when they have self -control, perseverance, and gospel -centered desire to love

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God and others. In order to help them understand the myths and failure philosophies of the world, the flesh, and Satan, we must preach the word all the time, be ready to parent at a moment's notice, admonish our kids to live in reality, correct them when they don't, and call them back to a life rooted in God's truth.

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And we must do all of this, number six, with complete patience. Man, too bad you had to throw in the word complete.

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Seriously though, I don't know about you, but this doesn't sound like an easy task. Our kids are having their ears scratched all day long.

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I encourage you to listen to episodes 14, 23, and 24. Those three episodes were written to help us realize the wicked and damaging myths propounded by the world through their music and movies.

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This is not an easy job. And remember, verse four tells us that they may well refuse to listen to truth and wander off into myths.

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And lastly, number seven, we're called to teach. This is different than admonishment. Admonishment lays the foundation by explaining the blessings of being right and curses of abandoning it.

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When our children choose to abandon the right, we must rebuke our kids and exhort them to return to the right.

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And then we teach them how to stay in the right. What does it mean to be an interpreter for your kids?

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We have to help our kids understand reality by interpreting life correctly for them. We have to help them see the destructive threads that run counter to God's word.

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We need to unveil for them the traps that Satan has set for their souls. We should reveal the misinformation and lies for what they really are.

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We can't do any of this without knowing truth. We can't call our kids to reality if we're living in a delusion.

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I hope today's episode notes are beneficial for you. You can find them linked in the description. And please don't miss our next episode.

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Our friend Natasha Crane has written a new book that's designed to help us do exactly what we're talking about today.

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On Tuesday, she and I will discuss some of the lies your children will encounter and provide you with the answers.

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The delusion of sin is powerful and seductive. But as always, God gives us the tools we need to help our children understand

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