Sexual Fidelity in Proverbs

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Welcome to No Compromise Radio Ministry. My name is Mike Ebendroth, Michael Lee Ebendroth.

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Today, we're going to continue to talk about sexual fidelity in Proverbs 7.

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So last show, I talked about Proverbs 5, walking through it. And today we're going to talk about the same topic with Proverbs 7.

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So kind of some Bible teaching, informal, with the main point being dads should be talking to sons.

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Dads should be talking to sons and daughters. Moms and dads should be talking to sons and daughters.

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And moms should be talking to daughters about this topic. It's hard to talk about.

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It's embarrassing sometimes to talk about, but we need to be doing that. We need to be the mature ones and to teach our children.

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And here in Proverbs 7, like Proverbs 5, it starts off with my son.

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And he's talking about this area of sexual purity or sexual fidelity.

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I said last time I didn't do these shows to sell my book, Sexual Fidelity, A 31 -Day

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Guide to Purity. But if it helps you, then you could pick those books up at Amazon. I republished it through Amazon.

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We went from Sexual Fidelity to Sexual Fidelity, A 31 -Day Guide, because the newer ones, gospel -centered more.

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The other one wasn't gospel -less or gospel -light, but just making sure I put in more about forgiveness and more about being cleansed and washed.

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And of course it is true. And I almost said it goes without saying, but then you say it anyway.

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If you have committed sexual sins, if you're a Christian, they're forgiven.

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They're washed. They're as far as the East is from the West. I mean, when it comes to sin, all sin is embarrassing.

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But I'd have to say probably a lot of sexual sins are really embarrassing. And just think if everyone knew all the sexual sins you've committed with your body or with your mind, how embarrassing it would be.

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I would hate that. Sometimes I think, one of the reasons why heaven will be so wonderful, no sexual sins in my skeleton closet mind anymore, right?

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That you just can't forget about or you don't want anybody to know, right? What if you get older and you lose your mind some with Alzheimer's and you start talking about all these things that you just hope are buried.

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But when the Lord Jesus dies for sinners, all the sins are covered. And that should make us very grateful.

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And that should make us very motivated not to sexually sin anymore. If someone and his name is

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Jesus paid for all your sins, including sexual sin, why would we wanna go back? Think about the wrath of God poured out on Jesus.

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As Pink says, it's as if hell's eternity was condensed into three hours and dumped on Jesus.

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The Holy One, the sinless one. Why would I ever then wanna go back to sexual sin?

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I can say this and I know it would be true for Mario and everyone else. I never wanna sexually sin again.

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I don't want to do that. I want to say no to sexual sin and yes to enjoying my wife and my wife alone.

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And it's a very difficult society to live in because while I don't look at pornography, the things that pop up on my

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YouTube site and the things that are just out there in advertisements and everything else is just a sleazy sex saturated culture.

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And in the old days, it was, I remember a book I read in high school, Subliminal Seduction. And you would see like shapes of things sexually behind the scenes.

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And you wouldn't notice unless it was like, unless you were discerning. Now it's just blatant, just everything.

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It's just like, it's crazy. And I wanna make sure I live a life that's commensurate with my calling.

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I want to live a life and walk in a manner worthy of my calling, Ephesians chapter four.

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Since I'm in Christ by grace alone, since God has granted me faith to trust in Christ, I'd like to live in a way that honors my

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Father. That goes well with me and my family and honors my Father. And I know that's what you want as well.

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We've even seen recently in Christianity, some sexual sins of leaders. And we wanna make sure we run away from these temptations.

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We want to be delivered from the evil one and not let into temptation, especially when it comes to sexual sin.

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So basically today, I want you to see that Proverbs seven is a proverb. It's wisdom saying, it's to guide you so you can understand what right and wrong is from someone who learned things the hard way, from someone, the

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Holy Spirit, who knows exactly what to say. And you can think about it as third use of the law.

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My son, here's how I want to direct you. Here's how I want to guide you. If you do these sins, you'll still be my son, but I'll be dishonored and you'll be chastened.

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And so if you're not a believer, you read these things and you should say, I need a savior. And if you are a believer, then you can say, isn't the

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Lord good for guiding me and directing me? And isn't the Lord good for having me united with Christ so I actually can do these things?

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What if you had no power to say no to sexual sin? What a life that would be. You have the power.

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And if you look at Romans chapter six, verses one and following, you can see how incredibly wonderful the idea of union with Christ is.

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Dead to sin, alive to righteousness. And so when it comes to sanctification, God is sanctifying us and we respond mainly with faith.

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I know you are sanctifying me and I know I can say no to unrighteousness and yes to righteousness.

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Proverbs chapter seven on No Compromise Radio. Is this called No Compromise TV now? Some podcasts aren't called radio, but ours was on radio to start.

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It was on WVNE 760, No Compromise Radio. I was flirting with changing it to duplex gratia, but I mean, after 16 years, 17 years, how are we gonna change?

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I mean, it's an international brand, I know. Even batteries are called no -co batteries. It's true, have you seen the no -co batteries?

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It's fun when you see the wall in a baseball park and it'll say

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Texas Roadhouse and it'll say Duracell batteries and then it's like no -co batteries.

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The no -co battery. People are loco Mario for no -co.

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And all our listeners are like 65 year old men. Proverbs seven, my son, keep my words and treasure my commandments within you.

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Keep my commandments and live and my teaching as the apple of your eye. In other words, they're gonna be sexual sinners who talk and who use their lips and forbidden words.

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And I want you to listen to me instead. Heed my words, hide my words in your heart that you might not sin against me is the idea.

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Bind them on your fingers, write them on the tablet of your heart. Really rivet them in your mind, don't forget.

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These things aren't to just be pondered and forgotten. These things are to be remembered, especially when you're in these situations.

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That's by the way, something that's important to do. You say to yourself, if I ever get in this situation, what would

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I do? Right, if I'm ever in a situation where I'm someplace and a girl comes onto me, what would

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I end up doing? If I'm ever in such and such a spot or whatever, I'm thinking ahead of time on how

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I would deal with those things. It's wise and that's what he's doing here. He said, say to wisdom, you're my sister and call understanding your intimate friend.

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I wanna make sure you're thinking rightly and you're not going based on feelings. You're not going based on hormones, thinking, right?

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Think, feel, do, that's the paradigm for Christians. We think about something, oops,

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I messed it up. We think about something, we do it and then we feel. The opposite is feel, do, think later.

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Think, do, feel. I make mistakes in my own radio show. Mario, you're supposed to correct me.

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You're my theological corrector here. Isn't there a mute switch when I say something wrong? Think, do, feel.

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Can I say that again? Think, do, feel. Cain sinned and his countenance fell because he was feeling than he did than he thought later.

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Then Proverbs 7, 5, that they may keep you from the adulterous, from the foreigner who flatters with her words.

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It's a battle of the words, as I say. Dad's words, her words. The spirit's words, her words.

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Who are you going to listen to? Who directs, who guides third use? Then what

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Solomon does, he paints a word picture that is not pornographic, but it's graphic.

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And it seems like you're there. It seems like he's pulling you in and you're like, yeah,

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I've either been there or I understand. And he paints a picture because he's trying to teach his son a lesson.

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And the lesson is, listen to my words. I love you. I know it's best. Don't listen to her words.

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Be careful. And so here's this picture. And it is, it's wild.

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For at the window of my house, I looked out through the lattice. I kept peeking through the blinds, looking out.

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What do I see? Live in town. What do I see out the window? I remember once I flew to India and I was in Bombay and I checked in at like two in the morning or whatever.

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And I couldn't sleep that night because it's the first time I was ever in India. And I've been there for several weeks now, over the years.

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And I hear this dog barking and I look out the window and there's a prostitute and a bunch of dogs running everywhere.

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I just closed the window and went to bed. Finally, I opened. And I saw among the naive and discerned among the youths a young man liking sense.

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I saw a guy just walking, young man. And the way I described to my son or at the men's breakfast, just walking around.

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Somebody who's not been informed by the dad. Somebody that's not heard Proverbs 5, 6, and 7. Somebody that's just heard their dad say, keep your nose clean.

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And just like you're out and about wandering only. Passing through the street near her corner.

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Uh -oh, he's going to her corner. And he takes the way to her house.

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It's going to be bad. If this man had sense, he wouldn't be going close.

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He'd be fleeing. He'd be running. You're not a hero when it comes to sexual sin, just run. Joseph ran.

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He didn't say, well, I'll just stick around anyway. And you can kiss me and you can hug me and you can do all these other things. I can withstand it.

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He runs. And sadly for him, it's dark.

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And it seems to be easier to sin at night, especially sexually. In the twilight, in the evening, in the middle of the night and in the darkness, four times.

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It's dark, it's dark, it's dark, it's dark. A young man with no wisdom, no training, no direction from God, no direction from his dad.

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And off he goes by her house. You know what's coming. This is a dad now teaching the son about this.

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And he's saying, don't be this stupid kid. Don't be this guy. Here's what happens to this kind of guy.

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And behold, boom. A woman comes to meet him.

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I can tell what's gonna happen. Dressed as a harlot and cunning of heart.

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I mean, if I was teaching this to my son when he was 12 or 13, I'd say, and she's got some low cut top.

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She's basically wearing a bikini. I mean, I've seen people not out on the streets and they're basically wear lingerie.

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Now back in those days, I don't know how a harlot dressed, but she's cunning of heart.

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And it says she's boisterous and rebellious. Her feet don't remain at home. She should be at home.

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She should be at home sleeping. It's night, night, night, night. And for the boy, it's gonna be nighty night here real soon.

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She's in the streets. She's in the square. She lurks at every corner. She's looking for someone. Doesn't, it can be anybody.

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She wants somebody. So she seizes him and kisses him.

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You just, you're where you're not supposed to be. And all of a sudden somebody's kissing you, grabbing you.

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What's gonna happen? Run, flee, act like Joseph, get out of there.

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And with a brazen face, she says to him, I was due to offer peace offerings.

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Today I've paid my vows. Therefore I've come out to meet you, to seek your presence earnestly. I found you.

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I'm so glad I found you. I mean, she's just lurking around anyway. She finds anybody. It could have been him or 50 ,000 other people, but it just happened to be him.

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And she knows this is gonna be very, very easy. She just after a man. That's all she's after.

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She just after a young man. That's all she's after. And she interestingly says, by the way,

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I'm not a pagan. I'm not a moon God worshiper.

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I'm not a sex God worshiper. I've just come back from offering peace offerings and paid my vows.

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I'm religious. I'm spiritual. I just went to Christmas Eve mass.

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I'm not some gross person, some immoral person. I'm a religious person. I've come out to meet you to seek your presence.

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And then here it comes. You either listen to your dad's words, i .e. Solomon's, i .e.

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scriptures, the Holy Spirit or hers. Now these are the words. We know she's dressed like a harlot, but we don't know her figure.

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We don't know her anything about the way she looks, but here's what she says. How does she convince him to go with him?

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I've spread my couch with coverings with colored linens of Egypt. I've sprinkled my bed with myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon.

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Wait till you get home and you get in bed with me. I've spared no expense for you.

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It's all for you. And boy, when it comes to pleasures, this is what my bed's like.

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And then she said, come let us drink our fill of love until morning, sexual love. Let us delight ourselves with caresses for my husband's not at home.

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He's on a long journey. All for you. My husband's gone. He's not gonna catch you.

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Nobody's gonna know. It's dark, time's four. I've come out to meet you. And boy, just think about our

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Romans. Just think about how sense and associations go. And when it comes to myrrh and aloes and cinnamon and my bed,

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I mean, come on, my husband's gone. He won't come home till the full moon.

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And with her many persuasions, it's her words are your dad's words. It's her words are the

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Spirit's words. Who are you going to listen to? With flattering lips, she seduces him.

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He goes. Now remember, Solomon is telling his son and he's already told his son, say no to sexual sin, save it for your wife and then enjoy yourself all night.

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Now let me paint a picture of what could happen to you. So you'll know if this ever happens, you better run.

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So you know, all right, I better be careful. It's kind of like sometimes Mario, when

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I'll watch some news account and some basketball player or some sports stars and some shooting at 4 a .m.

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at the bar, 2 a .m. at the bar. It's like, you know what? Nothing good is happening at 2 a .m. at the bar.

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You better get yourself home. I'm not a legalist or anything like that, but just better get home. There's a time to be home.

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And Solomon is saying, watch what's going to happen. And Solomon is saying, son, don't let this be you.

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Stronger people than you, wiser people than you, more godly people than you have fallen, don't you fall.

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This is not Solomon saying, son, keep your nose clean. This is watch. This is a dad for a long time talking to his son about this.

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This is not a dad who says, son, if you ever have any questions about sex and the birds and bees, just let me know.

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No, have the talk. And then you say, and if you have other questions about sex, I'm happy to answer anything you want in the privacy of our own home.

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Suddenly, he follows her. It's like he didn't have time to think. He hasn't gone through, all right, what would the

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Bible say? What would my dad say? What's happened in the past? Suddenly, and when you hear that word suddenly, in the

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Old Testament especially, I think out of my, I think if memory serves, 27 times it's used, the

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Hebrew word. And every time it's over, goodbye, bad news. Suddenly in a bad way.

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He follows her as an ox goes to slaughter or as one in fetters to the discipline of a fool until an arrow pierces through his liver and a bird hastens to the snare.

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So he does not know that it'll cost him his life. See, the trap,

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I have a lot of mousetraps at my house. I don't know how they get in the house. I mean, they can scrunch down to that thin.

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So I have mousetraps set up. They don't make the connection. Peanut butter on that little yellow thing, true, cost your life.

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Then you see the mouse's hands. Do mouse have hands? Feet, the front feet, front paws, front whatever they're called.

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And then you could tell, it's just like they're trying to get out, but it's not gonna do it fast enough.

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And then they're like rigor mortis like this. They don't make the connection.

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Bait, trap, death. Bait, trap, death. That's exactly what happens.

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So then Solomon says, listen, son, I just painted you this picture about this guy, an idiot, one who's stupid when it comes to sexual sin.

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Don't be that guy. Now that Solomon addresses him again. Now, therefore, my sons, listen to me.

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I know I want your best. By the way, I know what sexual sin does.

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Personally, I know what it does. And I don't want that on my son. Do you?

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Your daughter, do you? Haunting images, haunting things. And I know the pleasures of sexual intimacy with a wife in the holy covenant of marriage.

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Don't you want that for your son? Don't you want that for your daughter? Yes, I want those things.

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That's why I want you to listen to me because I'm older, I'm wiser, and I have your best interest in mind.

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You know what, son? I've had your best interest in mind to when you were conceived, going out to the store late at night, buying the right kind of vitamins for the pregnancy and folic acid, making sure the ultrasounds were done, making sure the delivery was taken care of, making sure all these things were just done right, protecting and providing, paying the hospital bills for your birth, making sure you were at the right doctor, at the right church, with the right vacation, with the right room.

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Do you know everything in your room? I bought you gladly, teaching you at my own expense.

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In the middle of the night when you wake up sick and mom's not around and you come to my side of the bed, I wake up and provide for you and rush down to CVS.

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And I gladly do it a thousand times over. I want what's best for you. And when it comes to sexual sin, if left to your own hormones, if left to your own feelings, if left to your own, well, the world does it, if left to, if it feels good, do it, if left to what two adult consenting people do in dark doesn't matter, if left to, well, she's on birth control and I used a condom, if left to everybody else's doing it, left to God is a forgiving

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God and He will forgive even if we commit sexual sin and have sexual intercourse. No, no, listen to me and pay attention to the words of my mouth.

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Son, we have that relationship. I love you. Now, can't you see the connection with God, the

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Father and us? If I've done those things for my four children, how much more has the

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Father done for us? How much more has the Spirit done for us? How much more has the Lord Jesus done for us?

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So listen, God is not a God who is trying to take away your pleasure. God is not a

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God who is trying to say, you just have to, everything in life is denial and everything in life is no and everything in life is like,

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I can't do these things. There's some self -denial, of course, there's some things we have to deny, but there's all these other pleasures.

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God has created marriage. God has created food. God has created touch. God has created our senses.

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God has created us to listen to music and to see beautiful things and taste wonderful foods.

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God is a giving God. Every good gift and every perfect gift comes from God. The Father of lights,

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He gives and gives and gives, James chapter one. So there's a connection here,

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Solomon and his son, the Spirit of God and us. Don't let your heart turn aside to her ways.

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Don't do that. For many are the victims she has cast down. And numerous are all her slain.

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Her house is the way to Sheol, descending to the chambers of death. Don't. Now, when you walk through Proverbs chapter seven, maybe one of the things you could do if you're a dad or a mom and you're kind of afraid to talk about these things with your children is to read

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Proverbs seven together and just talk about it. I mean, I didn't hardly do anything except just walk you through the text.

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I think that'd be a good thing. The other thing I like to do with my children when they were little is I would read through the

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Bible at dinnertime. So we would pick up Exodus chapter one, for instance,

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I would read it. I would say to the kids, what did we learn about God and sin? And why do we need Jesus?

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Ask him some questions. And then we would pray. Then the next night, or maybe we missed a night,

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I read Exodus two. And before I read it, what do we read in Exodus one? What do we remember? Oh yeah, those two ladies, they were helping a

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Hebrew woman give birth, Shipna and Pua. Oh, those are funny names. God honored them, this, that, and the other.

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See how Satan through Pharaoh wants to kill babies and all this. And then we read chapter two. And guess what?

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Before you know it, you're reading chapters about things that pertain to sex. And then you've got

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Luke sitting there like this, or if you have to raise your hand for a long time, you hold like this because your arm gets tired.

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Yes, Luke. And then he said, dad, what's a whore? Because I was reading how

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Israel whored herself with false gods. What's a whore? If you were a dad and your eight -year -old says, what's a whore?

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How would you answer? Shut up, son. We'll talk about that later.

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Well, I've got a 12 -year -old daughter there and then a four -year -old daughter over here and a one -year -old daughter over here.

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Whatever answer I give, it's a good answer. It's my house. It's a dinner table. I'm trying to explain it.

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And by the way, I'll tell you what I did say. I said to Luke, a whore is a woman who's not married to someone and she'll get in the bed with another man who's not her husband and sleep there all night and let that man touch her or do anything he wants to her.

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And Luke goes, oh, that's gross. That's awful. So you get to explain.

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So if you start reading the Bible to your children, these topics are going to come up so you can address them in the privacy of your own home and you, the dad, get to teach.

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Dad, it's on you. Kim would, in the morning, read the Proverbs with kids before school and all that stuff.

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At nighttime, I would be the one who, at the dinner table, would open up the Bible and begin to teach.

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Your kids need to know. Sex education is going to happen and you're the one that gets to educate them.

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And you're the one that gets to educate them in terms of, this is what is best for you.

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This is what's best for the world. This is how you honor me. This is what the Bible says.

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And it's back to what we did last week. Dads need to talk. If you're watching today, do you need to have that talk with your son, with your daughters, with your wife there and sit down and just enjoy talking about something that's difficult, but it's worth it?

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Well, my name is Mike Habendroth. This is No Compromise Radio Ministry. What you could do on a regular basis is, if it's the 7th, you read

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Proverbs 7. If it's the 6th, you read Proverbs 6. And 5, 6, and 7 all talk about the same topic, sexual fidelity.

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Before I wrap up the show one more time, do you know, dear Christian, that God won't hold any sexual sin that you've committed against you?

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You are free. You are cleansed. You are washed. I think about that word washed.

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And sometimes if people sexually sin, they're like, I just, my conscience is killing me. I wanna take a shower and be clean and I just can't stand this any longer.

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In God's eyes, you're whiter than snow, cleansed, justified. Jesus never committed sexual sin and God sees you in Christ as never committing a sexual sin.

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So why run back to it? Dogs return to their own vomit. We don't wanna run back to sexual sin.

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We wanna honor the Lord for what He's done. Not of gratitude. And that's what we're going to try to do by His grace.

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And you can pray, Lord, lead me not into temptation, but deliver me from the evil one. If you want the book, it is found at amazon .com

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under Mike Ebenroth, Sexual Fidelity, a 31 -day guide to purity. I'm working on a new book. It's actually a redo of one of my earlier books that I have the rights to.

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And that earlier book was called The Sovereignty and Supremacy of King Jesus. And I didn't pick that title, but it's about if you understand

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Jesus as king, you'll understand God better. We don't have kings. And even in England, there are constitutional monarchs.

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They're not real kings, but Bible kings, man, they were in charge. And so Jesus is a king.

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And if you understand Jesus as king, His sovereignty, sovereign, king's reign, everything makes sense.

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So king, how the sovereignty of God changes everything, that's coming up hopefully soon.