Godly Motherhood Resolved | Proverbs 31:10-31, John 16:20-22

Let's get started beloved by turning over in our Bibles once again to the book of Proverbs chapter 31 beginning in verse 10

Proverbs 31 verse 10 Proverbs 31 verse 10 an excellent wife

Woman who can find for her worth is far above pearls The heart of her husband trusts in her and he will have no lack of gain she deals

Bountifully with him for good and not evil all the days of her life She searches for wool and flax and works with her hands and delights

She is like merchant ships She brings her food from afar And she rises while it is still night and gives food to her household and a portion to her young women to her young women

She makes plans for a field and buys it from the fruit of her hands. She plants a vineyard

She girds herself with strength and it makes her arms strong She senses that her gain is good.

Her lamp does not go out at night She stretches out her hands to the distaff and her hands hold fast to the spindle

She extends her hand to the poor and she stretches out her hands to the needy She is not afraid of the snow for her household for all her household are clothed with scarlet

She makes coverings for herself Her clothing is fine linen and purple

Her husband is known in the gates when he sits with the elders of the land She makes linen garments and sells them and gives belts to the tradesmen

Strength and majesty are her clothing and she smiles at the future She opens her mouth in wisdom and the instruction of loving kindness is on her tongue

She watches over the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness

Her children rise up and bless her as for her husband.

He also praises her saying many daughters Have done excellently, but you have gone above them all

Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears Yahweh She shall be praised give to her from the fruit of her hands and let her works praise her in the gates

Amen So beloved this is the the third part of this series that I've been preaching through on godly motherhood and You can tell from the sermon title today

Godly motherhood resolved Resolved I Really like that word resolved.

What does that word mean? godly motherhood resolved according to Webster's 1828 dictionary

The word resolve means to separate the parts of a complex idea to reduce to simple parts or to first principles to analyze to analyze to explain to inform in order to free from doubt or perplexity confusion as to resolve the conscience

To settle in an opinion or to make certain Amen, that's what

I really like that word. And this is precisely what I have been seeking to do in this series on godly motherhood because of the confusion in today's society in The feminist age that we live in the worldly Age that we live in it is very important to draw the lines where God draws them and Scripture is very clear in respect to with respect to the roles for men and women and for mothers and We read from today's passage once again that God himself in his word celebrates godly

Motherhood and feminine virtue as worthy of everyone's praise everyone's praise

Which the virtuous woman of strength lives out in all of a woman's identities roles responsibilities relationships and so on So this is what

In a very real sense, it's all about for a woman on the other hand however feminism mocks and dismisses

God's order God's institution and God's commands for men and women and Families it dismisses them as toxic masculinity

It calls it talk. That's a Saying you may have heard these days Toxic masculinity previously.

I had said toxic patriarchy, which they probably also use but the main term is toxic masculinity

Which essentially is to say that masculinity that resembles Men that makes you look like a man or act like a man according to traditional roles and really biblical roles

They consider to be toxic because it's orderly and hierarchical and They don't like the idea of hierarchy and patriarchy as well for that same reason now we have also seen how a godly mother a

Godly, so the past couple weeks I covered how a godly mother is a godly daughter

She's a godly daughter of her parents and of her of God her father and She is also a godly wife she is also a godly wife and a godly woman a godly mother is a godly woman a

Godly mother cannot be a man contrary to what today's society will tell you

LGBT and all that other nonsense that sinful wickedness a godly mother is and can only be a woman

Now she is a godly woman of Excellence. She is a woman of excellence like Proverbs Teaches us right it let's turn back to Proverbs 31 and verse 21.

I want to read a few verses from this this passage here To bring this out in Proverbs 31 verse 21 in verse 21 we read

She is not afraid of the snow for her household for all her household are clothed with scarlet

With scarlet and that's probably wool scarlet wool To keep everybody warm Verse 22.

I'm gonna read from the Amplified. She makes for herself coverlets coverings

Cushions and rugs of tapestry her clothing is linen pure and fine and purple wool and verse 24 she makes fine linen garments and sells them and supplies sashes or belts to the merchants

Amen so This woman godly woman of excellence

Not only does she not neglect herself. She takes good care of herself and of her family but this godly woman and godly mother of strength and of virtue is marked by Excellence in everything that she does in every aspect of her life

Every aspect of her life whether it's personal herself Whether it's

Personal whether it's family her family her household her husband whether it's business her business or Whether it's with her neighbors or the the needy so This is very important To that the scripture is very clear about highlighting this aspect of that godly woman of virtue of excellence and I I Wanted to bring this up because I didn't mention this last time but notice that she her clothing is linen pure and fine and purple wool

This is very important too because in our day We have all of this synthetic clothes polyester and spandex and all this stuff that's really not very good for us

But These fabrics these clothing that are pure linen wool cotton this is good quality clothing that lasts and It is made with excellence and notice also the that the color the color is purple

It's purple Which represents royalty? It's a royal color

It represents excellence It represents excellence and high value high worth

It's valuable as she is valuable far more than rubies right like the passage says earlier

Now these clothing that she wears These fine clothes that are pure and excellent

She doesn't wear them because she is immodest or vain She does not wear costly attire like The New Testament says to in order to bring attention to herself in a superficial way

It's not in a superficial way or a vain way After all she is the one who designed and made the clothing

She designed and made the clothing Which highlights

Her own prudence and frugality as opposed to buying Expensive clothes she designs and makes them excellent.

That's what we saw from 1st Timothy chapter 2 verse 9 Likewise I want women to adorn themselves with proper clothing with modesty and self -restraint self -control not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing

But rather by means of good works as Is proper for women professing godliness as is proper for a godly woman

Amen Just like this virtuous woman of Proverbs 31

Just like that Her focus and her attention should not be on Her Appearance to attract people for vanity's sake it should be on Her character her good works.

She should adorn herself with good works and Those good works like Proverbs 31

Explains will praise her in the gates in the city This is right in line with the virtuous woman

This is the virtuous woman of godliness and of worth of value

Likewise 1st Peter chapter 3 verse 3 through 4 says Your adornment your clothing your attire

Must not be merely external braiding the hair and wearing gold jewelry or Preoccupied with putting on garments what to wear, you know, some women take hours

Try and address themselves That is not fitting for a godly woman to spend in an ordinant amount of time

Figuring out what to wear especially for vanity's sake, but let it be the hidden person of the heart

The inner woman the inner character the inner person

Let it be that with the incorruptible quality of a lowly and quiet spirit

Which is precious in the sight of God, which is valuable in the sight of God It's excellent in the sight of God virtuous in the sight of God because a woman of virtue a woman of excellence both knows and believes

What the word says that charm is deceitful and beauty is vain but a woman who fears

Yahweh She shall be praised She shall be praised according to verse 30 of Proverbs 31

Now this brings me to the next important point in this chain of what makes a godly mother and the next point is that a godly mother is a godly

Christian a Godly mother is a godly Christian by definition

We but we must first understand this Godliness Applies to both men and women it applies to everyone women children so on men but in different ways in different ways and manners

Because of the differences of the differences in Their God design and God ordained

Identities roles responsibilities relationships and so on Because their very purpose and natures are different we are different we are distinct

We are not the same Now we are both humans obviously human nature but men men and women are

Different and they were designed to be different by God to fit distinctive roles

The woman to nurture to care

To raise her children and submit to her husband as the head

The man to love his wife as Christ loved the church To protect her provide for her priest of the home and so on that is what?

Scripture Teaches very clearly This is the most some of the most clearest teaching in the

Bible and yet it is sadly very Controversial and has fallen by the wayside even in churches today because of the feminist spirit of the age but at the root and foundation of it all the

Proverbs 31 woman of Excellence and virtue and strength as a whole is a woman of faith

She is a woman of faith not in herself Not in her independence, which is what feminism teaches to have faith in your own self as a woman

But she is grounded in God her creator and her father

She who fears Yahweh She shall be praised amen.

That's the woman of virtue Because charm is deceitful and beauty is vain but superficial beauty is vain, but a woman who fears

Yahweh a Godly woman who knows Yahweh and believes in him in his word and follows

Yahweh She shall be praised in the gates

She it by her by everyone by her children by her husband by her family her neighbors by everyone she is first and foremost a believer she is a believer in the truth of God and his word and of what

God has said and instructed for her to do as a godly mother and wife and daughter and Christian and Woman, and this is exactly what we've been seeing in the series that I've been preaching on first John that belief in the truth is what saves and sanctifies us as God's people a

Godly mother a godly mother is a godly

Christian who listens to the words To the teaching to the doctrine of God and his own son

Jesus Christ and believes them to be true Accepts them as true.

She can smile at the future like Proverbs 31 Rejoices Because she trusts

God and in his witness and gift of eternal life

According to first John 5 11 and Amen, this is what is at the root and foundation of it all you cannot be a godly anything apart from believing

Believing God that he is a rewarder of those who diligently seek him and of his gospel a godly mother then is all of these amazing and wonderful things and more and This has been the main theme or the main thesis of the entire series a

Godly mother is not just a mother. She cannot just be a mother She is a composite of godliness she is composed also of godly daughterhood of godly daughterhood godly wife hood godly woman hood

Godly Christian hood. I Looked it up. That is a word by the way, but it kind of fell out of use in the 1800s

Christian hood Christ likeness Christ likeness according to her feminine nature and roles and so on and of course

Last but not least a godly mother is Just that She is a godly mother

So this entire series I've been preaching about all of the aspects of godly motherhood but the the most obvious of which is the fact that she is a mother a godly mother

Now let's turn back over to Proverbs 31 and see What a godly mother looks like and does in Proverbs 31 verse 15

Proverbs 31 Verse 15 tells us this

God's Word says and she the godly mother Rises while it is still night and gives food to her household to her household and a portion to her young women or maidens

She is generous. She is sharing and she cares for her household

Take careful note of that verse 21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household

Why for all her household are clothed with scarlet? with with warm wool and fabric and clothing

So notice what does she? Focus her time and efforts on What is this godly mother focus her time on?

What does she preoccupy herself with? She opens her mouth in Wisdom verse 26 and the instruction of loving -kindness is on her tongue especially for who especially for her children verse 27 she watches over the ways of Who?

her household her household she Exercises careful discernment over her family and she does not eat the bread of idleness

She diligently cares for and preoccupies herself with her home with her home

Her children her children rise up Enthusiastically and bless her

Because she is a godly mother She is a godly mother of virtue and excellence in all that she does including mothering including being a homemaker a homemaker

Right. So remember beloved remember this very important lesson from God's Word Godly motherhood in a sense is a result or a consequence of all those other godly traits and characteristics characteristics of being a godly daughter and wife and woman and Christian godly motherhood is the the outflow that the logical

Outflow of all of those other roles and parts identities

Responsibilities roles all of those things and a godly mother treasures motherhood

She treasures motherhood She aspires to be a godly mother

She grows in godly motherhood She grows in godly motherhood finds fulfillment and Contentment in godly motherhood and in her home

That's where she finds her purpose beloved in her home. And That's exactly what?

Proverbs Says to her it teaches us here in verse 13

Proverbs 31 13 She searches for wool and flax and works with her hands.

How in Delight in Delight Beloved she rejoices in caring for and providing for Her home for homemaking she finds her purpose in her home rather than in a career outside of the home or unbiblical independence to seek independence from a man

Which like we saw last few weeks is Antichrist, that's satanic

Turn with me beloved to Titus chapter 2 Titus chapter 2 as we see a very critical passage on the subject of godly

Motherhood and womanhood and Wifehood and so on Titus chapter 2 verse 1 in this letter

This pastoral letter the Apostle Paul is instructing Titus the younger pastor

To teach his people certain things Verse 1 but as for you pastor

Titus Teach the things which are in agreement with sound doctrine with truth of God in his word which produces men and women of good character of virtue of excellence whose lifestyle

Identifies them as true Christians. I'm reading from the Amplified here as opposed to the legacy standard

Bible Older men are to be temperate self -control dignified sensible sound in faith in love in steadfastness

Christlike in character older women older women

Similarly are to be reverent in their behavior Not malicious gossips nor addicted to much wine

But teaching what is right and good So that they may encourage the young women to do what?

To do what beloved to tenderly love their husbands and their children as godly wives and mothers to be sensible pure What else?

Homemakers Homemakers where God is honored good natured being subject to whom beloved to their own

Husbands once again, we've seen this command numerous times in Scripture Subject to their own husbands as their head

So that the Word of God will not be dishonored. Amen Now keep in mind beloved

When a woman gets married the headship transitions from her father to that of her husband the father the husband now becomes her head and She has to submit to him

She is still to honor her father and respect her father But she does not submit to him in the way that she used to when she was single now her submission is primarily to her own husband to her own husband and a

Godly mother as we've seen is Not afraid of getting her hands dirty but rejoices in it of learning various homemaking skills and real estate skills to buy property and farming skills to for the vineyard and business skills to sell her craft

Entrepreneur skills to pursue her business But for what?

Purpose to what end does she do those things beloved to what end it is for the primary?

purpose and end of blessing her own home her husband and her children

Primarily and by extension her Nate her friends and her neighbors the needy therefore

Beloved do not confuse Luke we have to be careful here not to confuse the enterprising diligence of The excellent woman in Proverbs 31 for what feminism teaches and advocates for Because everything that she does is not primarily for herself or just for herself

But rather for others Her husband her home her neighbors

Amen this is what the godly woman of virtue and mother does

This is where her heart is You may have heard the phrase home is where the heart is and her heart

It's really the other way around her heart is in her home. It's for her home

Primarily John The the reformed theologian

John Robbins has some helpful words here commentary on Proverbs 31

He says the woman of Proverbs 31 must negotiate with other merchants

Again, however in this day of women's liberation Feminism and so on there is a danger of reading too much into Proverbs 31 all the woman's activities were home centered centered around the home

For the purpose of her home and it was her husband who sat in the gates of the city

The husband sat in the gates of the city Not the woman she wasn't

Constantly outside her home she sought things outside the home to bring them back to her home and Develop it make her home

Amen Let's turn over now to the gospel of John chapter 16.

This is a very beautiful passage From the words of Christ our Lord and the gospel of John chapter chapter 16 verse 20

John chapter 16 verse 20 our Christ our Lord says Truly truly

I say to you That you will cry and lament But the world will rejoice

You will be sorrowful, but your sorrow will be turned into joy Whenever a woman is in labor.

She has sorrow Because her hour has come Birth birth pains and so on But when she gives birth to the child, she no longer remembers the suffering because of the joy

That a child has been born into the world Amen Therefore you to have sorrow now, but I will see you again and your heart will rejoice and No one will take your joy away from you

What an amazing passage from Christ our Lord how he uses the illustration of a woman giving birth as a beautiful transition of sorrow and pain into utter joy

Because she has brought a child into the world Christ our

Lord celebrates and Because he is

God and God himself celebrates motherhood godly motherhood as a good thing a joyous blessing

Yes, it has its pain. It has its sorrows its difficulties

But it is a blessing a joyous blessing for everyone for everyone

Beloved that's the important thing to recognize here Godly motherhood is a joyous blessing for everyone for the children

Who are raised up according to her godly instruction? For the husband who is whom she is good to all the days of her life and not evil the family the society for the entire world

Godly motherhood blesses everyone including her needy neighbors and so on It is a blessing to everyone

But the world the flesh the devil Feminism and so on Despises motherhood it despises precisely what

Jesus celebrates as joyous Because it advocates murdering your child if you choose to abort

Rather than celebrate it as a good thing They teach women to hate themselves and their own seed their own children

Because it despises motherhood at its very core at its very essence and nature as if it were a bad thing

But that is what Jesus illustrates it highlights in this passage one of the very core

Essences the nature of being a woman and a mother is to give birth to children by definition to have children

Yet Feminism influences both men and women both men and women and children to despise motherhood

Because it is self -centered because it makes you your own God above everything else like I've preached on the fast the past few weeks

Whereas Godly motherhood is the exact opposite Godly motherhood submits to her husband to her head to her to God her father to his word and Godly motherhood is selfless and sacrificial godly motherhood is selfless and Sacrificial because it is

Christ like that's what Christ did for us. It is Christ like a

Godly because a godly mother once again, who does she prioritize? She prioritizes others.

She prioritizes her husband her children her family her home

She doesn't neglect herself, but she focuses on her home and makes everything beautiful She makes it a home for her her for her household including her young maidens and so on and And at the same time

She slams the door shut against all the influence all the noise and All the nonsense of the outside world that tells her to do otherwise that is godly motherhood beloved and Godly motherhood is not the only purpose of a woman

It's not the only purpose some women are not mothers and May not be able to be mothers but that nurturing instinct that God has given all women is something that should be exercised as Older women that's why the

Bible says instruct the younger women instruct the younger women Because of that motherly impulse that God has given to every woman

See that's why a lot of women sometimes they get they preoccupies themselves with a bunch of cats, you know the cat lady

They get all these pets and cats because they have a mothering instinct And but that instinct needs to be nurtured and fostered with godly direction in the church

Right in the church towards the godly Instructing young women to love their house their husbands and their home their children as godly wives and mothers

That's what needs to be the focus that's what is the focus of the godly mother and So It's not the only purpose of a woman to be a mother, but it should be and is one of the principal ones beloved

Especially when her children are still living in her home especially then

And even when she gets older and the children move out her focus in can be more towards the women in her church and her grandchildren also by extension as the

Lord blesses the family now

This this brings me to a very public important public service announcement

Okay, in case you didn't know It should be obvious, but the world

Goes goes directly against this and opposes this with every fiber of their wicked being but on a very obvious and basic level

If women stop becoming mothers Humanity declines and falls into extinction

Humanity ceases to exist when women stop becoming mothers. It is foundational to society

Motherhood is foundational to society to humanity and yet sadly feminism

Despises motherhood It is anti -human It is Antichrist, I have a excellent quote here from a

W pink He says any any teaching that leads men and women to think of the marriage bond as the sign of bondage or slavery and the sacrifice of all independence to construe wifehood and motherhood as drudgery and interference with woman's higher destiny and higher purpose

Any public sentiment to cultivate celibacy as more desirable and honorable or to substitute anything else for marriage and home

Not only invades God's ordinance But opens the door to nameless crimes and threatens the very foundations of society

Amen brilliantly said and this Feminism first wave feminism wasn't even around in his in his time and that was spirit was already there

It's always been there From Jezebel and even with Eve it took a hold of Eve and she was deceived by the serpent that spirit of deception

That took hold of Eve if there is that is why the woman has to be in subjection and must be covered

Spiritually by her covering her man, whether it's her father or her husband or God her father if she has none

But that is the important thing to recognize Just at a basic foundational societal level so then in the words of the preacher

In Ecclesiastes the conclusion of the matter after all that has been heard is this

A godly mother is not just a mother. She is a godly daughter

She is a godly wife a godly woman a godly Christian Who fears

God and keeps his commandments in all her God ordained roles and identities?

For this is her all This is her all what God has designed her to be a beautiful virtuous and Excellent thing to be a godly mother that loves and Builds up her home rather than tear it down Like the

Jezebel spirit and the feminist spirit. She builds up her home. She is good to her husband and her children and to those around her

Amen, I want to quote Close out with this excellent quote from John Angel James.

He was a Congregationalist minister He says and now to sum up all consider a woman's a mother's charge an immortal creature her children a mother's duty to train her children up for God for heaven and eternity a mother's dignity to educate the family of the almighty creator of the universe a

Mother's difficulty to raise a fallen sinful creature to holiness and virtue a mother's encouragement the promise of divine grace amen to assist her in her momentous duties a mother's relief to bear the burden of her cares to God in prayer and A mother's hope to meet her child in glory everlasting and spanned eternal ages of delight with him before the throne of God and the

Lamb and God's people said amen, I love that summary of law and gospel the duties of the mother and the blessing and hope and and Glory and encouragement of the mother

It's both there and God provides us everything that we need for life and godliness Amen, including you sisters you mothers you women you wives all of those things are given to you by God through his means his word of truth and through lived living it out in the local church beloved in Jesus name.

Amen. Let's go ahead and close out with a word of prayer our precious

Heavenly Father we thank you so much Lord for This word of truth.

We thank you for This awesome these awesome passages that very clearly instruct us in the ways of godly

Motherhood and daughterhood and wife hood and Christianhood Lord of how to be godly in all of these identities and roles

Thank you father for showing us your ways and your manners and how they are not the ways of this world

Lord help us to be salt and light as Your children father your sons and daughters as and and give this

Help the mothers in our Church Lord and our churches

The women and the mothers and the aspiring mothers with these charges to understand these charges and duties

The dignity of motherhood the difficulty and encouragement relief and hope of motherhood father God help them with all of those things

Lord bless them and help the older women also Lord the older women to encourage and model

Christ likeness and godly motherhood to our younger women as well father help us to be a church that reflects these things

All of these aspects traits and characteristics of godliness Lord in all of our lives and all of our distinct genders and roles and God ordained duties and responsibilities that you have laid on us all

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