A Biblical Home - Colossians 3:18-21

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December 18, 2022

"Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them. Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.”

00:01: This morning if you have your Bibles will be in Colossians chapter 3 as you're turning there.
00:09: I do want to again Say how much I appreciate the church and brother quattro for Allowing me the opportunity to get to preach
00:20: I don't get to do this as much as a as I used to when I when I was pastoring but any opportunity
00:28: I'm so thankful for and I'm so humbled by Him allowing me to I'm so thankful for the calling to preach
00:36: It's not one that I'm worthy of but I am very thankful of and so This morning if you if you've already turned in your
00:43: Bibles to Colossians chapter 3 I would ask that you please stand as we reverence the reading of God's Holy Word Colossians chapter 3 we're going to begin in verse 1
01:01: If then you have been raised with Christ seek the things that are above where Christ is
01:07: Seated at the right hand of God set your mind on things that are above not things that are on the earth
01:14: For you have died and your life is hidden with Christ in God When Christ who is your life appears then you also will appear with him in glory
01:24: Put to death therefore What is earthly in you? Sexual immorality impurity passion evil desire and covetousness
01:37: Which is idolatry on Account of these the wrath of God is coming in these you to once walked when you were living in them but now you must put put them all away anger wrath malice slander and Obscene talk from your mouth
01:54: Do not lie to one another seeing that you have put off the old self with its practices and have put on the new self
02:01: Which is being renewed in knowledge after the image of its creator Here there is not
02:06: Greek and Jew circumcised nor uncircumcised Barbarian sent the enslaved free but Christ is all and in all
02:16: Put on then as God's chosen ones holy and beloved compassionate hearts
02:21: Kindness humility meekness and patience bearing with one another and if one has complained against another
02:28: Forgiving each other has the Lord has forgiven you So you also must forgive and above all these things put on love which binds everything together in perfect harmony and let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts to which indeed you were called in one body and Be thankful let the
02:48: Word of Christ dwell in you richly Teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs
02:56: With thankfulness in your hearts to God and whatever you do in word or deed
03:02: Do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus giving thanks to the God the Father through him wives submit to your husbands as Is fitting in the
03:12: Lord husbands love your wives and do not be harsh with them children obey your parents in everything for this pleases the
03:20: Lord and Fathers do not provoke your children lest They become discouraged.
03:28: Let us go to the Lord in prayer Father God as we Gather here in your house.
03:35: I Pray that everything that we do would be to your glory I pray father
03:41: God that you would Physically strengthen my voice this morning to be able to proclaim your word.
03:48: I Pray Lord God that I would not stray from your truth That I would preach nothing but your word that I would not preach my thoughts or or the things that I want to say
04:02: But would completely hold to the truth of your word and that you would be pleased when you look down upon us
04:08: That we would glorify you that I would be nothing more than an instrument for your use.
04:14: I pray for holy unction. I Pray father God that the word would go out and would pierce hearts
04:21: That we would desire Lord God to be obedient to your word Help me father.
04:28: I cannot do this without you. I'm not capable Pray that you would guide us or that you would knit us closer together as a family
04:37: We just love you we praise you and give you all the glory In your son's precious name.
04:43: Amen. You may be seated To repeat something that we hear very often from brother
04:51: Quatro that I could not Agree with more is that none of this that we've read this morning can be understood outside of the local church
05:01: When we read verses there's a reason that I read our text is going to come from verses 18 through 21
05:08: But the reason that I wanted to read the preceding verses is because as we read these most would agree especially with verses 12 through 17
05:18: That they cannot be understood Outside of the local church how most would agree with that Especially with verse 16 let the word of Christ dwell in you richly teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs with thankfulness in your hearts to God most would say that that That cannot be understood outside of the local church that is talking to the local church
05:46: But where we are in error, I believe is most would then like to unlink
05:52: The following verses verses 18 through 21 when it talks about wives husband and children
05:59: And it talks about the father's most would like To to unlink that with the rest of the chapter and not think that that applies to the local church
06:08: And I believe this to be done in error I believe that he is addressing every wife husband and child within the church or every
06:17: Christian wife Husband and child Paul expected every
06:25: Christian fan every Christian family to be a part of the local church body
06:31: I think every Christian family should be a part of a local church body
06:36: He links here the family the Christian home in the church
06:42: And so that is what we are going to speak for a few minutes this morning I'm gonna speak to you on those things the family the home and the church
06:51: Yeah I want to start by highlighting that there has never been a time That I believe the family has been more under attack than it is today
07:00: And I want to take we're gonna take a look at Scripture But but I want to first make clear that this is not going to be an all -encompassing
07:09: Sermon on this topic that would be nearly impossible to do in one of 40 30 to 45 minutes sermon
07:16: It would take very it takes several weeks To go through this topic and do it a biblical justice, but oh, we're gonna we're gonna look at the key
07:26: Components a few of the key components to a healthy biblical family within the local church
07:32: I want to start with a few troubling statistics Regarding the family of the percent of marriages that end in divorce is somewhere between 40 to 45 percent
07:44: That's the lowest it has been in a very long time They go great news.
07:50: That's that's wonderful. The divorce rate is the lowest. It's been in years
07:56: In a sense, okay, that is great. That's wonderful that less people are getting divorced
08:01: But let's look at more numbers to see where the truth is The current marriage rate in the
08:08: United States is five point one marriages per 1 ,000 of the population That is the lowest it has been since gut the government began taking marriage statistics in the late 19th century
08:21: To kind of give you an idea 70 years ago 80 % of households were made up of married couples in 2020 that number has fallen to 47 percent of households consisting of married couples 25 % of children in America grow up in a fatherless home
08:42: There are roughly 1 .1 million homes in America that are headed by same -sex couples
08:49: Close to 71 percent of Americans are in support of homosexual relationships
08:55: Depending on which poll you use anywhere between 40 and 60 percent of professing
09:00: Christians believe Homosexuality is acceptable the sanctity the
09:06: Structure and the purity of the home is under attack today more than it has ever been
09:13: It is absolutely under attack There has never been a more important time in regards to the home that there is within there is today in church
09:22: We are in a battle for the home We are in the battle for the biblical home that is structured and designed the way that God intended it to be and so This morning a few key components to a biblically healthy home.
09:39: The first one is that it is structured Biblically that it is structured biblically
09:45: Christ is the head of the church and the head of the biblical home first Corinthians 11 3 says but I want you to understand that the head of every man is
09:54: Christ and the head of every of The of a wife is her husband and the head of Christ is God.
10:03: I Talk about you know, the husband serves as the pastor of the home in a sense
10:09: I don't think this applies to necessarily anyone in this room, but somebody may be watching and you
10:15: You say that well, I'm a single mother I'm a single mother and so I want to say that none of this is intended to Alienate a home with a single mother in that situation
10:25: Sometimes the Christian mother where there is no father around must assume Both of these biblical roles at home and men of the church
10:34: Must step up and fill the gaps for those children of their church. And so hopefully
10:40: My hope is that if there was a single mother to listen to the sermon that she would it would give them traits and qualifications of the man that might join their family in the future
10:53: But in our text we find again, I'm going to read it once again Colossians 3 18 through 21
11:00: Wives submit to your husbands as is fitting in the Lord husbands Love your wives and do not be harsh with them children.
11:07: Obey your parents and everything for this pleases the Lord Fathers do not provoke your children less they become discouraged
11:17: We have a structure that is given here in Colossians for a home for not just a
11:23: Christian home But a home in general, but in this sense for the Christian home
11:28: We have a structure. We have a structure that is under attack today We have a structure that the
11:35: Bible tells us is one man and one woman It is not popular to stand for marriage between a man and a woman the godless culture of today
11:45: Tells you that it is hate to stand on the Word of God and say that homosexuality Transgenderism and other things in those regards are sin as With many things in our backwards world
11:57: This is backwards as well It is hate not to call these things sin
12:03: Votie Bauckham says don't let anyone tell you it is not loving to stand flat -footed and speak the truth about this issue of Homosexuality that what's not loving is to look someone in the eye when
12:16: God says they are in jeopardy of an eternity in hell And merely wink and nod at their sin because you're afraid of being called names
12:24: Speak the truth Saints speak the truth The structure of the
12:31: Christian home the structure of the home is under attack today This world has a really mixed up view of what it is like to be loving
12:40: Or what being loving is and I'm afraid that's crept in to so many churches
12:46: That exist in this world and even maybe in this community That's why you don't see
12:53: Many preachers preaching against sin today. You don't see many churches that practice biblical church discipline today
13:02: Because it's not popular It's not popular to preach against sin It's not popular to stand up and say that marriage should be structured biblically between one man and one woman
13:17: Different roles there are different roles for that man and the one we're gonna get into that shortly But men and women are different.
13:25: They were made by God to be different It doesn't mean that it's bad that that the man is it?
13:31: You know is so much better than the woman of the woman is so much better than the man They were structured differently differently by God for a purpose
13:40: So Christian homes there to be structured biblically on top of being structured biblically there to be led strongly
13:48: Strong biblical leadership is crucial for every family leadership determines the direction of the family if you have strong leadership in a family that will greatly influence the
14:03: Direction of that family in the same way that if you have weak leadership in your family, it is going to have a monumental negative effect on the direction of that family
14:15: What path the family is going in is determined by the leadership where they're headed is determined by the leadership of that family
14:24: Families are supposed to be the leadership of the family is supposed to be strong in the word We're going we'll go into more detail of that later.
14:32: We need more strong unashamed Christian leadership in homes today
14:39: They don't worried about Being the cool parent or the latest trend but lead solely based on the
14:47: Word of God Cool parents are sending their kids to hell today Cool parents are sending their kids to hell
14:55: Compromising parents are sending their kids to hell today discipline your children biblically
15:02: Those of you that have children Discipline them biblically at times. That means that you will not be the cool parent and that's okay
15:12: At times your children will not like you there are going to be times in my life that my boys
15:17: Think I'm the meanest dad in the world There are gonna be times in my life as a father where they think he's not very cool.
15:25: He's outdated Why do my friends get to do this, but I don't what why is he so worried about my soul?
15:32: Why is he so worried about the things that we do lining with Scripture? I? Won't be the popular parent.
15:39: You won't be the popular parent. You won't always be the cool parent But that's okay because their future depends on it
15:46: Their future depends on that discipline love their your children enough to discipline them and lead them
15:55: So many families today you see this all the time where the children they run the family they run the show
16:02: Brothers sisters that is not biblical for your children to run the show You lead
16:09: They follow But lead strongly upon the Word of God Brothers and sisters we need grace in this we need grace in this area.
16:21: I'm not gonna act like that. We don't need grace You cannot be a biblical husband and father or wife and mother without the guiding and Sanctifying hand of the
16:33: Holy Spirit. It is impossible I fail more often in this area than I would like to admit you and I have failed in these areas that I've Discussed so far in the areas that we're going to cover throughout this sermon you have failed in these
16:46: I have failed in these We will fail again We need grace Titus 2 11 through 12 for the grace of God hath appeared bringing salvation to all people
16:56: Training us to renounce ungodliness and worldly passions and to live self -controlled upright and godly lives in this present age
17:04: It is sanctifying grace Whenever I was going over my sermon notes with brother
17:12: Quatro He was so gracious to spend time with me going over my my sermon notes He made this statement
17:19: He says as dads and moms take up this difficult task difficult task There was no one there is no one more for their success than God Mothers fathers husbands wives
17:35: As Christians, there is no one who wants to see you succeed As a biblical husband as a biblical father as a biblical mother as a biblical wife than God He is for this he is for a biblical home and we must
17:52: Have grace in this area must show each other grace in this area But not only is a
17:58: Christian home led strongly It operates cooperatively So to get to really first get into our text this morning verse 18 it says wives
18:10: Submit to your husbands as is fitting to the Lord Ephesians 5 22 through 24, which watcher we will cover in more detail in a later date
18:20: But Ephesians 5 22 through 24 says wives submit to your own husbands as to the
18:26: Lord For the husband is head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church
18:34: His body and his is himself its Savior now as the church submits to Christ So also wives should submit in everything to their husbands
18:45: We hear this a lot. We hear this This scripture given a lot of you know wives submit to your husbands.
18:52: What does that mean? What does it mean for a wife to submit to their husband? And if you look up the word submit, it simply means to yield to or to come up under It does not mean less than There are people that will use this as a term for meaning that the wife is less than that's not what is being implied here
19:12: It means to yield to to come up under we know that it is not less than why? Because in Galatians 3 28, it says that there is equality for all in Christ Galatians 3 28 there is neither
19:24: Jew nor Greek. There's neither slave nor free There is no male or feet and female for you're all one in Christ Jesus all that is meaning what that is saying is that if you're in Christ, there's no
19:38: Big Christians and little Christians, there's no Christians that are esteemed more in the eyes of God than other
19:43: Christians There is equality for all who are in Christ but yet first Corinthians says
19:49: I Want you to understand that the head of every man is
19:54: Christ and the head of a wife is her husband and The head of Christ is
20:00: God So if there is equality in Christ It says to submit but it says here to some husband wives submit to your husband's
20:10: And it says that the head of every wife is her husband What does that mean? I believe that the answer is found there in first Corinthians where it says
20:19: Just as the head of Christ is God. I want you to see that relationship I want to talk just very shortly about that relationship see the relationship
20:27: There between Christ and God that will help us understand the submission Martin Lloyd -jones
20:34: Had this quote had this to say about it But a still greater argument is found in first Corinthians 11
20:42: We are told that the man the husband is the head of the wife and that Christ is the head of the man
20:47: And that God is the head of Christ. This is an argument that cannot be disputed in What sense is
20:55: God the head of Christ? The answer is what we sometimes call the economic Trinity the
21:01: Father Son and Holy Spirit are So are co -equal and co -eternal How then can the
21:08: Father God be the head of Christ? For the purpose of salvation the
21:13: Son has subordinated himself Himself to the Father and the
21:18: Spirit has subordinated himself to the Son and to the Father. It is a voluntary subordination in Order that salvation may be carried out
21:28: It is essential in the work carrying out of the work. The Son said here I am send me he
21:34: Volunteered he lays aside this aspect of equality He becomes a servant to his father and the father sends him the head of Christ is
21:44: God So, how does that help us? How does that help us in seeing the relationship of?
21:51: Husband being the head of the wife as the son Christ submits to the
21:57: Father God the wife. She'll submit to her husband God does not force or browbeat the son into submission as Martin Lloyd -Jones
22:09: So plainly put he didn't browbeat the son the husband or he didn't browbeat of the son into submission and say you must be submissive to me but rather the son
22:22: Volunteered God did not demand for Jesus to submit to his will or to come to earth and be the perfect sacrifice
22:29: The son loves the father and submits to his will because the father loves the son and is worthy of his submission
22:39: The son loves the father and submits to his will because the father loves the son and is worthy of his submission
22:47: The submission that is being referred to Here when it talks about the father and the son, but also the husband of the in the wife
22:56: The submission is voluntary and does not imply inferiority
23:01: It is to yield to Yield to the leadership of the husband the
23:07: God -ordained structure of the biblical family But it doesn't stop there in Colossians Chapter 3 verse 19.
23:17: It says husbands. So it says wives submits your husbands as is fitting in the Lord Husbands love your wives and do not be harsh with them
23:28: Ephesians 5 25 to 33 says it like this husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her that he might sanctify her
23:39: Having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word so that he might present the church to himself in splendor
23:46: Without spot or wrinkle or any such thing that she might be holy and without blemish in the same way
23:52: Husbands should love their wives as their own bodies He who loves his wife loves himself for no one ever hated his own flesh
24:00: But nourishes and cherishes it just as Christ does the church because we are members of this body
24:06: Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife and the two shall become one flesh
24:12: This mystery is profound and I'm saying that it refers to Christ in the church However, let each one of you love his wife as himself and let the wife see that she respects her husband
24:27: Husbands love your wives as Christ has loved the church
24:33: Colossians says love your wives and do not be harsh with him three things.
24:38: I want to point out about the love of a husband Towards their wife.
24:44: The first one is that love is unconditional the husband loves the wife Unconditionally first Peter 4 8 says above all
24:53: Keep loving one another earnestly Since love covers a multitude of sins
24:59: Now I know that is referring to the local church But how much should if we are to love and we are to if love covers a multitude of sins within the church
25:11: Love covers a multitude of sins and a multitude of failures inside the home as well
25:17: We're to love husbands are to love their wives unconditionally husbands. You must show your wife grace
25:26: Wives you must show your husband grace You will both fail and are far from perfect if my wife wanted to I'm thankful that she wouldn't but if I want life wanted to she could you she could give you a list of all my failures
25:42: She could give me a list of every time that I've probably lost my temper every time that I haven't treated her, you know with as much patience as I should and She's forgiven me
25:56: She's loved me unconditionally And I pray and I hope I have loved her unconditionally and been forgiving to her as husbands and wives
26:05: We must show one another grace You will fail husbands. You will fail your wives wives.
26:11: You will fail your husband's you won't Do everything perfectly right the way they want it to be done We must show one another grace in this area forgiveness is a huge part of A marriage for it to operate cooperatively
26:25: If you have no forgiveness in your marriage, your marriage is not going to operate operate cooperatively
26:33: We love Sacra we love unconditionally husbands must love their wives
26:41: Sacrificially is a role of service not superiority Husbands you have the role of service love in Leadership not dictatorship
26:53: Husbands under the obedience to the Lord your wife
26:58: Submits to your headship of the home But be a husband who your wife can respect and who is worthy of her respect and submission
27:08: One that she knows strives to love and serve her Love her unconditionally love her sacrificially this headship
27:19: Implies responsibility Husbands fathers you have a great responsibility To care for and support all the needs of the family
27:29: You're to be there to support the spiritual needs the emotional needs and the physical needs
27:35: Bodie bockham says The church does not meet as often as the home.
27:40: That's this if Christ is to be worshipped daily is Incumbent upon the home to play an important spiritual role
27:47: Consequently consequently fathers as the heads of households are thrust into a pastoral role
27:55: Fathers you're the pastor of your home. You have that role you have that role of service to your home
28:02: So wives submit to your husbands as is fitting in the Lord Husbands love your wives
28:08: It did not be harsh with them Your children need to see this modeled
28:15: They need to see wives who love their husbands and voluntarily submit to the leadership of their husband and support him
28:22: They need to see husbands who love their wives and serve their wives as Christ loves and serves the church
28:29: They don't need to see a brow -beating husband But a man of God who sees that his the spiritual emotional and physical needs of his family are met
28:38: They need to see a husband and a wife Who love each other and their children immensely
28:47: That's what your children need to see Because verse 20 says children Obey your parents and everything for this pleases the
28:55: Lord Exodus. This is a common theme throughout the word Exodus 20 12 says honor your father and your mother
29:02: And your days may be long that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your
29:08: God has given you Ephesians 6 1 through 4 echoes this saying children obey your parents in the
29:13: Lord for this is right Honor your father and mother for this is the first commandment with a promise that it may go well with you and that you may live
29:20: Long in the land fathers. Do not provoke your children to anger but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the
29:28: Lord You know, there are a lot of parents out there That require obedience from their children and as Christians you should require obedience from your children
29:39: But a lot of parents require obedience from their children, but they don't have a biblical model
29:44: Set up at home in any other area fathers require
29:50: Biblical they require biblical obedience from their children, but they aren't biblical fathers mothers require biblical obedience from their children, but they aren't biblical mothers
30:02: They wouldn't must this obedience of children Must be in response to the biblical model set up of a father and a mother in a home
30:14: And when that biblical model is set up this obedience won't be perfect. I Don't have perfect children.
30:20: I love my children. I believe I have wonderful children, but I don't have perfect children But I hope and I pray
30:29: If you set this biblical model up that this obedience, although it won't be perfect Will come from a respect and a love that your children have for you which leads to Joe Holmes They must
30:45: Operate cooperatively. They must be led strongly and they must be evangelized and discipled intently
30:55: Turn your Bibles to Titus Chapter 1 Titus chapter 1 in Titus chapter 2 we see two different roles
31:10: That the church plays in the home. I Think a lot of people would say hey, we know what role that the family plays in the church and at the church
31:21: But what role does the church play? for the home Here in Titus there are two critical components to link
31:30: Between the church and a biblically functioning home. He is addressing here in Titus We're going to talk about very quickly two different groups of people that that are in the church that are directly linked to the home
31:45: When we talk about the home So often we address husbands we address wives and we address children and we leave it at that Biblically, I believe that to be an error
31:56: For the two groups mentioned in Titus play a crucial role in the
32:02: Christian family and home The first one we find here in Titus Chapter 1 verses 5 through 9.
32:10: It says Paul writes to Titus. This is why I left you in Crete so that you might put what?
32:18: Remained in order and appoint elders in every town as I directed you if anyone is above reproach the husband of one wife and his children are believers and not open to the charge of Debauchery or insubordination for an overseer as God Stewart must be above reproach
32:35: He must not be arrogant or quick -tempered for a drunkard or a drunkard or violent or greedy for gain
32:43: But hospitable a lover of good self -controlled upright Holy and disciplined he must hold firm to the trustworthy word as taught so that he might be able to in Give instruction and sound doctrine and also to rebuke those who contradict it
33:00: So the first group of people the first group that I want to talk about for just briefly this morning is qualified men
33:07: Called by God and confirmed by the church as biblical elders Men of God appointed to elders in the church
33:16: This list I do want to say if you're a man in here and you're not an elder Or you're a man in here and you have you don't think you'll ever be an elder
33:25: That doesn't mean that this list should not be your goal this list that we've went through here in verses
33:33: Six through nine should be the goal of every man in the church, even if they will not be an elder one day
33:41: It starts with talking about the man's home and then his character a Man cannot be an elder if he is not first to Colossians 3 or Ephesians 5 husband and father
33:54: If you have aspirations one day if I want to be an elder I want to serve in the office of an elder in the church
34:01: I want to glorify God as an elder as a servant of the church But you are not a
34:07: Colossians 3 a father and husband as we talked about we're in Ephesians 5 husband and father
34:13: Then you're not qualified to be an elder or a deacon So what does this have to do with the family in verse 9?
34:24: It says he must hold firm to the trustworthy word as taught so that he may be able to give
34:30: Instruction in sound doctrine able to instruct in sound doctrine families today
34:37: Christian families They need they don't need Events, they don't need somebody to come in here and give them a seminar about how to be a better husband
34:46: I ought to be a better better father They don't need 12 steps to a happier family or 12 steps to being a better husband or 12 steps to being a better wife 12 steps to being a better Father or mother what they need families of the church need godly men at the church who will instruct their families in sound doctrine
35:06: They need godly men who will at church who instruct their families in sound doctrine who won't compromise or be cool
35:13: But will be men of God Bodhi Bachum calls these men says they're to be godly and manly elders
35:23: Not trendy men who dress like teenagers and try to stay in the in crowd men who set themselves aside
35:31: For from this world for God in his word because in verses 9 through 11 if you'll keep reading
35:37: It says that they're to protect families These men must be hold firm to the trustworthy word is taught so that he may be able to give instruction in sound
35:47: Doctrine and also to rebuke those who contradicted for there are many who are insubordinate empty talkers and deceivers
35:54: Especially those of the circumcision party. They must be silenced since they are upsetting whole families by teaching for shameful gain
36:05: What they ought not to teach These men these elders these godly men who are called to be elders.
36:13: They not just come in They don't just come in and instruct in sound doctrine. They do families need that but also they protect families within the church
36:21: At times they get out the sword and they drive away the wolves that are hurting the families within their flock
36:28: Churches need these families need these husbands wives children. They need godly men
36:35: Who will drive away the wolves who will instruct them in sound doctrine and will drive away the wolves And one of the biggest problems of the church in the last 50 to 70 years is age segregated church
36:50: This is not a popular opinion But I believe it to be a biblical one based upon the Word of God when
36:55: I see in the Word of God One of the biggest problems of the church
37:00: I think has been the youth pastor and youth group error And I'm not saying this to diminish anybody who
37:09: Knows somebody that is a youth pastor has been a youth pastor But here's the problem with what we've done
37:17: Where you we've taken a cool young man or couple and we've put them in charge of the youth and we've turned them loose
37:25: Very little thought is given to whether these men fit the first Timothy three of the Titus one qualifications
37:32: The children are put with these men or couples in a separate room or building than the rest of the church where they
37:39: Participate in sometimes idolatrous worship and are taught paper -thin Bible stories
37:45: The problem at many churches in regard to the youth is that they gave in to the lie that teenagers or young adults need something different than everybody else in the church a teenager can and Should either be in Bible study with adults or studying the same level of biblical doctrine as adults
38:08: If our teenagers get bored Or the study of the word can't keep their attention or they get nothing out of it.
38:16: That's a failure on two parts That's a failure of the home in the church It is evidenced it is evidence that scripture is not regularly opened or discussed at home as a family
38:31: It is evidence is not only has the home failed that teenager But the church as well
38:38: Because too often we've been guilty. We've elevated entertainment Relevance or the dumbing down of scripture versus the opening and digging through the heart of the scriptures
38:50: Too often that is result of this era of youth groups You think about the things that children are being taught in second through fifth grade at school
39:00: But at churches they could just hear Bible stories color pictures or watch VeggieTales That's a problem
39:08: They need to be evangelized and Discipled in the Word of God. They need the gospel just like you need the gospel.
39:16: We have to quit killing our kids Parents you were sold a bill of goods
39:23: With a lot of the modern practices of the church today as Well as the non habits of devotion and study in the homes
39:32: Parents have expected the church and the youth group to do their job The church thought that they had to change things up for kids
39:43: They thought they had to dumb it down or make it more exciting We've got it. We've got to keep our kids.
39:48: Our kids are getting bored. We've got to dumb the scripture down We're just gonna talk to them about David and Goliath how they're just like David They can go out there in the world as their
39:57: Goliath They're gonna go out there with their sword and they're gonna cut its head off and they're gonna stand victorious. Boom There you go, and we send them off Our kids they don't need to learn about doctrine
40:09: They don't even learn about theology. That's boring Kids are never gonna want to hear that We're not gonna keep their attention.
40:17: We're not gonna be the cool church We're not gonna have the biggest youth group if we're studying
40:23: Doctrine and theology all those boring words if we keep studying those we're gonna run all the kids we have off With that's a lie
40:32: That's a lie that too many churches Have bought into and they've dumbed it down. They've made it more exciting
40:38: That's why you see these mega churches or even small churches that they strive to entertain above preach the word
40:45: That's because they are grown children With a paper thin doctrine and theology because they grew up with youth groups and got used to being entertained
40:56: Entertainment trickled up not down You want to invest in our youth?
41:01: I don't think there's anybody in here that doesn't want to invest in the youth. I Would agree with that.
41:06: We didn't invest in our youth. Absolutely Absolutely, we need to invest in our youth You want to invest in your youth open the
41:15: Word of God at home and study the Word with them daily Bring them into Bible study with the adults or at least teach them
41:24: Doctrine sound doctrine if you separate them put their phones away
41:30: And study the Word of God with them Treat them like adults with the word and maybe they will act like it
41:39: Your generation after generation We've slowly came to this But it needs to stop with this one
41:47: Let this be the generation that we realize that our kids they don't need entertainment
41:52: They don't need us to dumb down scripture. They need the Word of God from front to back
41:57: They need theology. They need doctrine We must be the ones who changes it and gets back to the
42:06: Word of God and the Word of God alone You know, we don't take a 50 year old new convert and put him in the little kid class
42:14: Because he's a new convert. He's a he's a baby in Christ. We don't do that Do it with our kids We must reform this our kids especially our teens and above they need godly men in the church who will instruct them
42:29: They don't need the cool young teacher They need to be saturated in the
42:34: Word of God Not only do we see biblical elders helping shape the
42:41: Christian home but also in Titus 2 godly mature men and women in the church
42:47: Titus 2 it says but as for you Teach what accords with sound doctrine older men are to be sober minded dignified self -controlled
42:57: Sounded faith in love and in steadfastness older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior
43:03: Not slanders or slaves too much wine. They are to teach what is good and so train the young women to love their husbands and children to be self -controlled pure working at home kind and submissive to their own husbands and The Word of God may not be reviled likewise
43:22: Urge the younger men to be self -controlled It's not only do we see Godly qualified men who are called by God and are confirmed by the church to be elders
43:32: But in Titus 2 we see godly mature men and women in the church Not mature in years necessarily can be but Mature in the
43:45: Word and the sanctification of God Being an old person isn't all of what's being talked about here
43:52: Talked about being mature Men and women of Christ that bear fruit of that Who are able to teach young men and young women?
44:02: sound doctrine Another voddie bockham quote. There are two types of older people who aren't sinning like they used to There's one older person who doesn't like to sin like they used to because they've been born again
44:16: God has absolutely transformed their lives He is working in them to will and to to his will and to do his good pleasure
44:24: They are not what they used to be by the glory of God Almighty. That's one type of person There's another type of other person.
44:31: They don't sin and do it anymore because they got too old Are they more godly?
44:37: No, they're not more godly. They're just tired. They just can't get out there like they used to Being older is not what makes you a mature
44:47: Christian And I'm not going to go into everything that is addressed here But I will hit on the sound faith
44:55: It says older men are to be sober minded dignified self -controlled sound in faith
45:02: That's a requirement for every mature Christian believer to be serious about the things of God and the
45:10: Word That is not just reserved for Elders or deacons or older ladies.
45:18: Those are those are the only ones who have to know doctrine. It's all believers All believers to be able to disciple less mature believers
45:29: This is not saying for you know It's not saying like women need to have a separate Bible study where women are teaching other women
45:36: That's not what this is saying here This is relational rather than formal as most discipleship is
45:45: There is a distinct a destructive belief in too many churches that the pastor or elders are the only ones who should be
45:53: Concerned with theology only teachers of the word go deep in the word that there is this group of Christians over here
46:01: That's really holy and study things like the theology and Christology and things like that But then there's this other group of Christians over here who can stay paper -thin in their theology and their knowledge of the
46:12: Bible and continue there The Bible speaks nothing of a follower who does not study the
46:19: Word of God You say well, I'm not a teacher I'm not a preacher of the word.
46:25: I'm a 70 year old woman and I have no kids at home Why must I study the
46:30: Word of God deeply? Well among many reasons One From our text or from Titus here.
46:39: How can you fulfill? Titus Chapter 2 verses 2 3 through 4 without knowing the
46:44: Word of God How? Can you train young women to love their husbands and children and be self -controlled pure working at home kind?
46:54: Submissive to their own husbands that the Word of God may not be reviled if you don't know the Word of God How How can you this is a key part of the church in the home?
47:06: The church in the home. I hope that you will see your meshed and not separated
47:11: There is a huge link in relationship of the church in the home Those of you that have children in your home big or small and you say
47:21: I've never I've never discipled my children at home It's never too late to start biblical elders and Godly mature men and women in the church will help to produce and strengthen godly biblically functioning homes biblically functioning homes where family worship is practiced routinely
47:47: The biggest failure of Christian families in regards to their children. I wrote down three things failure of praying with your children daily
47:57: Failure to study the word with your children multiple times a week failure to evangelize and disciple your children in every aspect
48:06: Ephesians 6 forces fathers do not provoke your children to anger but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the
48:12: Lord Husbands your biggest need for evangelizing and discipling
48:21: Is sitting right next to you and your spouse Paul Washer said this and it stuck with me ever since I heard it
48:29: My wife does not need women's conferences or women's podcasts to help her walk with Jesus She needs a biblical husband to study the
48:36: Word of God with her to help God and instruct her in theology and doctrine To study and learn the
48:43: Word of God with a man that God has put in place to lead their family the number one person as a husband your number one goal of Discipleship is sitting right next to you.
48:58: And then the next evangelizing and discipling comes in the form of your children a lot of people want to go evangelize
49:05: Out in the street want to go evangelize At rallies, I want to go evangelize at gay pride parades and wonderful.
49:12: They need to that's awesome But they don't evangelize their own home This ought not be this next generation
49:23: Your children they need this They need to see where husband and wife sit down and pray and study the
49:30: Word of God with their children Teaching them the gospel and instructing them in the way of righteousness
49:36: If you're not doing this, then you're failing your family your wife and your children my sons
49:44: Could grow up to be professional athletes doctors Lawyers, but if I have not prepared them to meet
49:52: God I have failed them It's hard though You say well, we're so busy and who has time for that But the question would say you've got time
50:05: Is God worthy? Is your family worth it or your children worth it? You say mine are getting old and we've never done this start now if the world and the enemy
50:21: Was knocking on that door right now If the world was knocking at the door if the devil himself was at that door knocking and said, hey,
50:29: I want your family. I Want your family? I want your wife and I want your children bring them to me right now
50:39: If our government was at that door Knocking and say hey, I want your family.
50:46: I want your children Bring them to me right now. What would your response be? Husbands wives fathers mothers, what would your response be?
50:57: over my dead body Over my dead body. You're not getting my wife
51:03: You're not getting my kids. You're gonna have to kill me If you want my wife and kids
51:09: Would we give them to him? Say no But why have we?
51:16: Why have we in so many areas why have we given our families to the world?
51:22: Why have we given our families over? Husbands pick up your sword
51:28: Pick up the Word of God and instruct your family in it. Teach them about the word
51:33: The teach them about God teach them about the gospel Mothers instruct your children teach them about the word teach them about God teach them about the gospel
51:44: Teach them how a lot of pray If you have to pick up a baseball bat and take it to the
51:50: TV in your living room Do it and then if we are okay with our kids being exposed to all kinds of worldly junk at home on on the
51:59: TV On phones or whatever. Maybe we need to take the bat and use it on ourselves and then use it on the TV This is serious
52:08: This is serious, we're losing our homes There is no one
52:14: That should have our attention As far as people more than our families you can be the greatest theologian in the world
52:22: But if you haven't Discipled your family It's all for nothing you failed
52:29: I'm not asking you to admit To me or to Quatro come up and say hey,
52:35: I failed in these areas you can You're welcome to we'll pray with you and we'll search the scriptures together
52:42: To be honest, I failed in these areas. I'm telling you the same thing.
52:52: I'm telling myself husband father wife mother
53:00: Child church member you say I failed in these areas There's grace
53:07: There is grace There is marvelous and wonderful grace and that grace can be found in Christ We must not hang our heads and defeat when we see our failure because there is hope for your family in the
53:21: Lord But we must repent of that failure and live as thus saith the
53:28: Lord in his word be obedient to the word in these areas and every other area in command
53:35: And here's my prayer. Here's my hope Some I hope that you come up here and you tell me that I failed
53:43: I'll pray with you. If you if you want to pray we'll search the scriptures Here's my prayer. My prayer is let there be change
53:51: When you walk back into your homes this afternoon When you go back into your homes this week and you say
53:57: I haven't I haven't been Discipling my family. I haven't been doing family worship with my family.
54:03: I've failed My Wisdom advice to you is repent of that Trusting Christ and then go and disciple and evangelize your family spend the time
54:17: To instruct him in the Word of God Let us go to Lord in prayer father.
54:27: God. We're so thankful For your grace and for your mercy We need your grace in these areas this morning for we all have failed
54:39: As being the husband and father mother and wife child As being the church member who is to instruct those less mature in your word
54:51: We have failed in these areas and we need your grace and your mercy Father God is my prayer that we would all repent from the of these things
54:59: Trust in you father God and live obedient to your word. I Pray father
55:05: God that families would be strengthened that husbands and fathers Would lie on the strength of you and your word to evangelize and decipher the family
55:17: Pray that wives would yield to would come up under would submit to their husbands and the leadership of their husbands
55:25: But it's also my prayer that husbands would love and serve their wives As Christ has loved and served the church.
55:32: I pray that you would help me to love and serve my wife As you have loved and served the church. I Pray father
55:38: God for each child that is listening. They would be obedient to the leadership of their parents that every man and woman in this church
55:48: And those who may be listening would desire to be a mature believer who are able
55:54: To God those that are less mature in the faith We love you. We praise you and we thank you