Leading Without Lording It Over Others It says right here, you're not supposed to lord it over those allotted to your church, but you need to be examples, and this is the greatest danger, the world produces leaders who lord it over the flock, you lord it over them, and there's nothing wrong with saying, hey, I need you to do this, I need you to do this, but you don't lord it over them, where you push them and you push them, we can't do that, and this is something that the Lord has said to work on in my life, and I know He will work on in your lives, He has to change that attitude in your life, you can't lord it over people, you can't demand things from them and burn them out, we can do that with our children, we can do that with people around us, I know that I've done that in the past, and the result of it is it's brought damage to that person, and so I've had to learn the hard way that there's a right way to do things and a wrong way to do things, and I ask the Lord to cleanse me of that, and you need to ask the Lord to cleanse you of that, especially as a father, especially as a husband, to not lord it over your wives, to not do that, to allow the wives to be themselves, allow the Lord to work in their life, sometimes it's a natural ability as a husband to want to do that, we want to control them, and we have to learn to let that go, we have to learn to give it to the Lord and say, Lord, I need you to work in their life, there is a time where you wash them with the word, there is a time where you correct them and you show them, we can't be afraid to do that, we have to be willing to speak the truth to our wives, to our children, we have to be able to do that, but at the same time, we can't lord it over them, otherwise they're going to grow discouraged, they're going to grow weary, and they won't be able to continue, and we have to be able to discern that in ourselves, and that's why he's talking to the elders here, he's talking to them first because he wants them to look inwardly and to see if they're doing it according to God's will, it says right here, and when the chief shepherd appears, you will receive the unfading crown of glory, the chief shepherd, when he appears, you will receive the unfading crown of glory, I look at the way the Lord has shepherded me, I'll tell you, there's times where I'm discouraged and the Lord encourages me, and then there's times where the Lord builds my faith, and then there's times where the Lord is strong against me because my attitude is not right or I'm not doing things according to his will, especially as somebody who's been given a place of a stewardship, and so I need to respond accordingly to how the Lord is doing it in my life, so he's the chief shepherd, and so I try to shepherd in the exact same way that he does, I try to parent my children the way that he does, but I fall short in many ways, but I ask the Lord to help me, I get back up and I say, Lord, help me to do it, it says right here, you younger men likewise be subject to your elders and all of you clothe yourselves with humility toward one another, for God is opposed to the proud, but he gives his grace to the humble, and this is a true statement for all of us, he's opposed to proud people, but he gives his grace to the humble, and so we need to humble ourselves when we sense the hand of the Lord is against us, there's a true statement from a preacher that I know, and he said, you know, it's one thing when the devil's against you, but the Lord's hand is behind you, and he's pushing you against the devil, you're gonna win, and that's a humble person, he's getting the grace, but when you get proud and strong, and you start to look down on others, it's soon enough that the Lord turns the position, and he's now pushing against you, and you ain't gonna win that battle, and many of us know that we're not gonna win that battle, so we need to humble ourselves, we need to subject ourselves to the leadership, to the people around us, we need to submit our will to them, even if we think that we know better, and the true test of that is sometimes in the workplace, you know, we have to learn to just submit ourselves, you know, and just yield our will, even though we may know better, it's something that the Lord is trying to teach us, it's not because he wants us to do some things a certain way, it's because he's trying to teach us a Christ -like character, we think of Jesus' example where he submitted to his parents for so many years, and he knew that he was the son of God, but yet he still yielded himself to imperfect parents, and that's a great testimony that he can give us the help in those situations, sometimes parents do lord it over their children, and my dad was very tough on me, and you know, the times though that it went well with me was when I humbled myself and I just submitted to him, and it went well, and the Lord was with me, and the times that I resisted, it didn't go as well for me.