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I'm Dylan Hamilton, and with me are.
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Michael Durham, Chris Giesler, and Andrew Hudson.
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Today we will be answering a two -part question on flattery that was sent back in 2023.
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The question reads, part one, how are we to rightly or biblically encourage someone in such a way that we are not pouring
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flattery upon them, but rather expressing that we are truly grateful for how they are using the talents or
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abilities or position that God has given them to bless the church and further the kingdom?
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Part two reads, how are we to respond and react when we are the one being encouraged and appreciated?
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And I think we've discussed that it'd probably be good to go ahead and go to the definition or the strong's concordance on
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the word flattery in the Bible.
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You got that for us, Andrew?
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So in, let's take the text from 1 Thessalonians 2 .5.
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As you know, we never used words of flattery or any pretext for greed, God being our witness.
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That word there is translated as flattery, but it's with a view to gain
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over another or to have an advantage over another.
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When you think about flattery, there is a manipulation there.
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There's something false there.
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If you're trying to encourage someone, if you're trying to express your thankfulness
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concerning someone's giftings and how they have been used by God as a blessing in your life, what would the difference between that be
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Well, are you trying to gain something from them?
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It could be something as minimal an exchange as I'm going to compliment them about
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something that I do appreciate, but I hope that they'll know that I'm in the same category and that they'll say something
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Yes, and it may not even be as calculated as that.
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It could be that I just roll with an expectation that when I say something nice to someone and
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compliment them and say, you know, I'm so thankful for you, what you do, X, Y, Z, and that I'm just kind of expecting
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that they're gonna say something like that back to me.
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And if it doesn't happen, then I might end up thinking ill of the person or I might start
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thinking ill of myself because I didn't get complimented back.
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That's when you're looking at, why did you say that?
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Was there something about it where you were seeking for an exchange or a gain of something?
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That's when you're getting into flattery.
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Right, so it's like it's expecting some sort of a trade -off or a trade between one another rather than just a
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free gift where the compliment seems more like a free gift rather as flattery is an assumed
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exchange that's gonna happen between two people?
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Yeah, I think that's a good idea.
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What are we trying to accomplish here?
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Have you thanked God already for this person?
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Have you already thanked God for the gift that has blessed you?
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Have you already done that?
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Because if you go to somebody and you've not given the thanks to God first and you go to them and
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you're telling them directly, and I was just so thankful for, you know, and who are you giving the praise to?
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Now we know as Christians, we ought to give the praise and the glory to God and we recognize that other people in their
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giftings, God uses them as blessings for us.
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But we wanna give the glory to God even while we want them to know that, hey, keep it up, you're doing great.
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I want you to know that God is using you.
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And you're trying to encourage them, but have you actually thanked God for them or are you just saying that you are?
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Because sometimes we can slip into spiritual speak.
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Right, you know, praying for you.
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Praying for you, you know, and that kind of thing.
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Right, and we want to be honest in that.
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Okay, so here's a clear example, I think.
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When we read in Acts 12 about how Herod dies,
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okay, eaten by worms, right?
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But the occasion for his death was that he was dealing with some people that he was
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upset with and so they decided to flatter him to gain advantage in their situation.
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And so they began, as he was speaking to them, they began to cry out and chant, the voice of a God and not of a man.
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And he did not give glory to God in this situation and say, no, no, no, not me, not me.
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You know, like, hey, yeah, these guys, I like that.
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As was a custom in the day for rulers to welcome the
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mantle of divinity that helped them rule.
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Right, so he's receiving that, but he ends up being eaten by worms.
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Now, they, the people, were flattering him because they were seeking to gain
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And obviously, if you're trying to encourage somebody in the church, that's not what you should be trying to do.
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There can be a culture that is developed in a church or in some sort of
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Christian sector of a culture where everyone is expected to walk around and only ever say positive
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things to one another, like some sort of 11th commandment or something.
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So would you say that this principle of going to God first and giving him the praise first, is that a mediating
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that compliment or mediating that praise for that person to God first and then to that person,
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rather than having it be a direct exchange without God being a part of the picture at all?
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Yeah, I think that's a good diagram.
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And it's one where we see Paul very often, he will compliment.
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But he also says, you know, I thank my God upon every remembrance of you.
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And he'll have some positive things to say about people.
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But you also know from the context, that he's recognizing, hey, this is all of God.
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And Paul would say of himself, I am what I am by the grace of God and that's all that I am.
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But he also recognizes there is that personal element of sacrifice and effort.
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And so he will encourage people and he will, in a sense, praise people
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But we know the praise is actually to God and the thanks is to God.
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If that's clear and you're not trying to flatter people, but you're trying to exhort them on to God, hey, God's really using
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That's the desire to have there, I think.
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I had a passage come to mind, or a verse, Romans 12, 10.
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Love one another with brotherly affection.
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Outdo one another in showing honor.
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How would that look as far as showing honor?
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I can see that easily slipping into flattery.
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I'm showing honor to this person and that's what I'm doing.
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And here it says to outdo one another in showing honor.
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Well, we also are told in the same idea to give honor to whom honor is
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So in trying to outdo one another in honor, only give honor to those to whom it is
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So if you're trying to, it's not saying outdo one another in giving honor to those who it's
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That would be where you're moving into flattery.
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If you give honor to somebody to whom it is not due, why are you doing that?
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That's not accurate, that's not truthful.
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If they haven't done something that you could look at and say, that's a good thing, that is what God wants us to do,
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you're being faithful, but you're just bolstering them without any direction of, yeah, that
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was a good thing, just way to go on being you.
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What are you honoring at that point?
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What version were you using for that?
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Let's see, I think that was ESV.
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Okay, King James Version has be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love and
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honor giving preference to one another.
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So that's just a little bit of different.
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Yeah, like a service to one another.
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This reminds me of the beginning of Philippians chapter two, consider one another's interests as
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more important than your own.
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Now, that humble attitude is a proper approach.
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And by this, you're not saying, I don't have my role.
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You're not lying about something to the father and thinking about the interest of his wife and children ahead
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of his own is not there by also saying to his wife and children, you're way
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more important to this family than I ever will be.
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Honestly, toddler, you're the most creative here.
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You ought to take the lead.
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We're not saying anything absurd.
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That would be an absurd thing, right?
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In the same way, when we're giving preference to one another,
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we're not also thereby changing up the actual situation.
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We're not saying things that are not true.
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In the Philippians two, three, it's interesting that it gives the negative and the positive.
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Do nothing out of selfish ambition or empty pride, but in humility, consider others more
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important than yourselves.
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That goes back to that flattery.
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If there's something to it, if there's an ulterior motive, that with flattery being greed or seeking to gain an advantage,
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same thing here with selfish ambition or empty pride, you're puffing yourself up.
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Put those off, but in humility, consider others more important than yourself.
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Not so that you look good.
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Oh, look, I'm giving you a compliment because that's the kind of person that I am.
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I'm an encourager, but it's in humility.
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Consider others more important than yourselves.
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And so I think that pretty much covers it, but when you're saying something to someone, is it
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because I want them to like me?
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I want, is it because I'm trying to gain the favor of somebody that a lot of people like?
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Am I, or am I really just thankful to God and I'm trying to encourage them and exhort them unto love and good works to
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Wasn't there another part to that on how someone should respond?
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There is, but before we go there, I was gonna ask, are there any, I mean, the Herod example is a pretty clear -cut example.
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What other clear -cut examples of flattery can you think of off the top of your head from the Bible?
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And maybe I'm just creating dead air time by asking, but.
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Well, you have, okay, so we know that the devil is the father of lies.
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And so when we see devilish speak behind flattery, so there can
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be some examples wherein some of Jesus's opponents will say something
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nice at the front end, hoping to catch him off guard.
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Good teacher or something like that.
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You know, it's like, we know you're from God, we know that you're true, but we're gonna catch you here, you know.
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Those kinds of approaches where there's a nice buttering up at the beginning brings to mind a
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little portion of a book called Antagonists in the Church.
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It was something I read a long time ago.
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And the thesis of the book is, the reason why some people are antagonistic in the church is because they're
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This is just who they are.
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Yeah, and his main metaphor running through the book was, you know, red flags sticking out of
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And if you see one or two, you know, don't be too alarmed.
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If you see three or four or five of these, be really alarmed.
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And one of them is when someone first comes and they just gush all over you, you know, oh,
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this is amazing, this is the best place ever, you know, and they just really, really butter you up and say all these
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Hey, oh, hey, hang on a second.
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That might be a red flag.
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Why are they saying all of this?
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They want perhaps immediate acceptance.
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There's an idea of an exchange going on here.
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There can be some very subtle types of flattery, of putting people into position
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to make decisions and judgment calls that they're not meant for.
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For instance, the way that Satan approached Adam and Eve, where he, by subtle
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flattery, puts Eve into a position of making a decision and doing something that she was never designed for.
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But he didn't say to her, he didn't come out and say to her, you're smart enough to figure this out on your own.
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But he essentially put her in that position by the way he was approaching.
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And that's a subtle form of flattery.
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Do we have subtle form of flattery in the way that Satan tempts Christ as well?
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Or is that, or am I reading into that a little bit too much?
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Well, it's like, hey, I know you can do this.
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Yeah, you're the Messiah, right?
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If you can turn the stones into bread, you can throw yourself off the temple.
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You won't even have a foot hit the ground.
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There's an idea of, you know, I know who you are, you know, but it's the idea of,
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even if you're saying something that is true, you could be saying it for a nefarious or deceptive aim.
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And so it's worth asking when I'm complimenting someone, am I flattering them or am I encouraging
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Well, is it based in some sort of manipulation and deception or is it
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based in truth and your design to serve this person by encouraging them, right?
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I think that's where you're gonna see a distinction.
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Yeah, my mind went to the, we have no king but Caesar because they were wanting something, they were wanting him to
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And he was like, you're just, and he's like, well, we have no king but Caesar, he's not our king.
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But you guys, because you're on our side, you'll do what we want.
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And for a Roman pro -council whose job.
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Is to keep these Jews in line, that's music to his ears.
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You know, it's like, oh yes,.
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I can be the keeper of the empire here.
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Yeah, promotion in the headlights probably.
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All right, part two of the question, how are we to respond and react when we are the one being encouraged and
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So basically trying to sniff out whether something is flattering or a genuine compliment and then how to react.
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Yeah, even in the reaction, try not to over -spiritualize it or sound
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Like I know for me, because I do music.
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So there's, anytime there's someone up front, like maybe a pastor or someone leading music, you know,
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people might be drawn to say something either genuinely or to gain attention.
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And my kind of standard thing is to say, praise the Lord and then just move on.
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Like just kind of in the, because genuinely praise the Lord.
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If it was beneficial to you, then good.
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But it's all praise to him.
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And then after that, I'm like, I don't really need to say anything else about it.
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And anytime we see Christ taking on any sort of manipulative rhetoric from anybody like Satan or Peter in
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certain cases, his answers are usually just quoting scripture to what
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the flattery or what the manipulative language is.
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Like I can't think of any other response that I usually get from him.
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Yeah, when Herod died, it was because he did not give glory to God.
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So let's say you can't tell the difference if it's flattery or encouragement, but the response
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should still in either case give glory to God.
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So praise the Lord is a great standard response.
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Because if it's genuine, then praise the Lord. And if it's not, still praise the Lord.
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Or like the classic reform response is only by the grace of God.
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You know, like that's usually what I get from guys in reform circles or older reform guys is only by the grace of
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And I mean, like, it sounds like, okay, you don't want to continue that conversation, but I'm just.
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Well, you know, this goes back to abiding in Christ and producing fruit.
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I mean, if you cut me out of the situation, bro, I'm not the one producing this fruit.
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So let's render the fruit of the harvest of the vineyard up to the master.
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So I've heard various ideas on this.
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Some pastors, the pastor who I first sat under other than my dad, said when someone says something
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nice to him, he just says, well, thank you.
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And he doesn't like turn into, and he feels like I'm not in a situation where I need to like, you know,
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discourage them in some fashion by saying, look, you don't need to be telling me that, you know.
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So he just says, thank you, moves on.
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Other people have said, well, what I try to do is like, cause he comes from the pastoral side.
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So he says, they say, that was a great message today.
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Then he says, well, what did you find helpful?
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And then sometimes people just don't know.
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And a lot of times it's like a crush of people moving through or whatever, and you don't have time for that conversation.
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But I will often say, well, I'm glad you found it helpful.
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You know, because obviously something there was encouraging to them, helpful to them.
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I'm recognizing that that's what they're saying.
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And often, sometimes it's about certain people are encouraging people.
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You know, they're a Barnabas.
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They're a son of encouragement or a daughter of encouragement.
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Anyway, some people are just really encouraging.
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And in general, they're the ones who are going to say something almost every time.
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So when you're hearing that you need to give glory to God, I think that's like the most important part of that.
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Beyond that, what happens if you stop getting that encouragement?
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What happens if you don't have people coming up saying thank you?
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Do I go hang around and see if I can get some encouragement?
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Man, being a son, it comes with so much.
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Because the matters of the heart are just so far beyond just cut and dry rules.
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Like we have to do it this way and this way and this way because what we've been talking about is just, it's within us.
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It's the defilement that comes from within.
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That's what we're having to deal with every single time in these situations.
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So we should come into whatever service or gift we have, whatever responsibility we have that
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If we're coming in as a father, we come in as a servant, if we're working hard in
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wherever God has placed us, whatever we're doing, if somebody is gonna say something, we need
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to be ready to give glory to God.
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And if people don't say anything, guess what?
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We still give glory to God.
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Thank you for letting me do this.
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Thank you for letting me work.
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Thank you for giving me the opportunity to do this and to, as Jesus put it in Matthew 6,
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to make the backbone of our piety private.
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He's not against public prayer.
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He's not against doing good.
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He's not against those things.
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But what he warns against is the kind of benevolence and the kind of prayer and the kind of
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fasting that is always looking for somebody to notice and say something nice about it.
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And he says that's a real problem.
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Those are some real red flags.
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If you're serving in the church and you're always expecting a good number of people to notice and to compliment,
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and you go home ticking off a list, well, they didn't say anything, they didn't say anything, and they didn't say anything, then you
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might be doing these things for the wrong reasons.
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Yeah, that makes me think of kind of another area.
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Say you've got younger men and younger women.
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They're being trained by older men and older women, and they're seeking in areas, where am I gifted?
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How am I supposed to serve the church?
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How do I know if I'm doing it right?
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And I think there will be some looking around for, like, can someone tell me if I'm, am I doing this right?
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Should I be serving somewhere else?
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Not seeking for praise, but like an affirmation in ministry.
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Like, I just want to be used.
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And I think of like the elders laying the hands on to affirm, we affirm this person is in
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It's not so much for the praise.
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And how do you transition between someone who's younger and doing that, and then someone maturing and not
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needing that as much as they get older?
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Yeah, I think that in general, you want to encourage folks that are just starting out in some sort of service or some sort of work,
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or even, you know, a young mother, a young father in the home.
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What about somebody who's, you know, just trying to first start get a job, start trying to work,
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and encouraging them that they're in motion, encouraging them that they're heading in these good directions.
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And I always try to drop maybe one or two things, you know, that might be helpful to
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You know, when I was in the same situation, I had to learn this the hard way, or I always found this
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and that to be sometimes a help.
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And sometimes if they're working in some avenue in the church, I might say, if you've got any really good ideas about this, if
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you notice anything, I'd love to hear about it, because I just want to get that conversation going so I have an opportunity to
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And at the end of it, it's just a situation where you're trying to build that relationship for that
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discipleship and encouragement so that you have the opportunity to give some, sometimes some corrective
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direction that's really going to help them, but you're not trying to discourage them at all.
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Would you say in cases like that, where they're kind of growing into something, or they're just trying to feel
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where they're supposed to be ministering, that often, I don't want to say negative comments, but more of
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the, you'll get feedback and get a sense that this is not for me, versus you're looking for
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that positive affirmation of yeah, this is what you're supposed to be doing.
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Yeah, sometimes I'll be asking them, so what drew you to look at serving in
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What drew you to trying this?
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It's like, well, it's the only thing available.
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Or, well, I thought it would be this, but it was this actually.
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And then that helps get to some more specific ideas of how they're gifted and how they might
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do well in different areas.
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In James chapter two, it's not specifically talking about flattery, but one of the responses to flattery, which
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the flatterer is seeking, is favoritism.
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And James rebukes those who show favoritism, being like our
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God, not showing favoritism towards being a respecter of persons is
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a guard against the flattery that comes, whether it's you can see it coming or
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And if, as somebody who is serving, whether in the family or in the church or working, if you're
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somebody who is, and you know that you're somewhat affected by those words
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of encouragement, the praise and thanks from people, you're gonna have to be
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prayerfully watchful that you don't play that favoritism with folks
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who tend to be more verbally appreciative, right?
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Whereas some other people are gonna be probably even more appreciative of what you do, but they don't
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say anything, not because they're being rude, but that's just not their wheelhouse.
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So not to be too affected by it.
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Don't let the praises and the thanks of men as they say all these nice things to you,
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don't let it affect you too much.
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Just like, you don't have to beat yourself up about it, but mainly when people say all those things, you're like, man,
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Or like, I don't know how you got that out of what I did, because that was awful,
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but you seem to be encouraged by it, so you're one of the most easily encouraged people I've ever met, so anyway.
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What about the opposite side of it?
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Because we're talking about people who struggle with buying into the compliment.
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What about people, so for me, when I go to work and I'm not getting yelled at and they're still paying me, I assume it's a good
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Or if everything's still running smoothly and they're just leaving me alone to do what I'm supposed to do, I'm like, okay, great.
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Then they appreciate this, otherwise I'd be getting barked at.
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So on that side, when I hear people come up to me, or in cases that that has ever happened,
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my knee -jerk reaction is that this might be flattery.
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The shield goes up right away, rather than, and it's been a struggle for me too.
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I mean, Mr. McGarry was like a pressure point for me because he was Barnabas on
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me, like just encouragement, encouragement from all sides, and I had no idea how to take it, but
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I realized that this is what this man was.
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So I had to learn to answer him and understand how, and he was one of those guys that was always answering better than I
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deserve, by the grace of God.
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So having to learn how to interact with him actually went a long ways for me in that, but I
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am the one that puts up the wall first whenever somebody starts complimenting me.
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So somebody who does that, what sort of wisdom do they need to take into those interactions?
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I would say that there needs to be a willingness, even a faith,
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a belief, a trust that God can use me to bless others, right?
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And to not discount that, and that not everybody who will be saying
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kind things and encouraging things to me is trying to get something out of me, or so on and so forth.
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But yes, God can actually use me to bless others.
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You know, this is a real thing.
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Grace through my life to others because of Christ, because of the Holy Spirit.
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These are the means that God has decided to use.
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So I'm encouraged, they're encouraged.
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And sometimes we can think, you know, not me.
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You know, that's not who I am.
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Other people do that, not me.
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And there are some people that God puts in our lives who play the role of Barnabas and go
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out of their way to come to us and say, wow, God is using you.
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I'm looking forward to see what God does with their you next.
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Have you ever thought about this?
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You know, and I have known people like that.
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My, you know, Mr. McGarrett, my father -in -law was one of those.
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I'm thinking of another man right now who is exactly that.
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And I'm thinking of a friend of my brother's.
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He talks about him behind his back.
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And he says, he's Barnabas.
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And that's, you know, that's just the way that he is.
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And God uses people like that to stir us up to love and good works.
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Amen, well, I think we got that covered pretty well.
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So why don't we move on to our recommendations, Michael?
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Now, if you like car wrecks, like if you like, you turn on NASCAR, because you, you're waiting.
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They're going round and round and you're just waiting.
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You're waiting for that big pile up, okay?
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You drive on the highway and you're one of the ones that slow down to seven miles an hour.
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As you go by there, oh my, look at that.
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If you like that kind of stuff, let me recommend to you a two -part documentary series on YouTube called The
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If you want to see a 10 ,000 car pile up, that would be the thing to watch.
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Now, the two -part documentary is very interesting to me because as it talks about this mega
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church out on the East Coast that David Platt became CEO of for a little while,
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their polity is so unbiblical that it was easy to
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mess with this church in some major ways and all their campuses and their 36 million annual dollar
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But what happened, the documentary is made to take the side of the church members and to show how all these
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awful things happened when there was a hostile takeover of SBC interest in a church that was not allowed
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to be a part of any denomination.
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So when I'm watching it, though, it's all from the perspective of the church members.
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And they're talking about this, that, and the other, and I'm thinking, oh my, the way you understand church is broken,
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and you're so sincere, and you're very hurt, and you don't know what happened,
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and these people came in and did this, that, and the other, and you're taking offense at things that might have been good for you to learn,
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and you're taking offense at things that really were wrongs done to you, and it was just such a
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mess from the beginning to the end.
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And so I watched it all the way through, and I walked away and I said, wow, you know, that just encourages
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me to practice safe driving.
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You know, I'm gonna check my mirrors, I'm gonna give that extra space
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between me and the next car, a little bit more if it's raining, I'm gonna practice all my defensive driving, my
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safe driving, because I do not wanna see a microcosm of that in my
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Not to be the cause of other brothers stumbling.
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Oh no, yeah, and then to think about, and it reminded me about how some people view church, and
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how deeply meaningful, emotional it is for them, and it just reminded me, it's
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And a lot of people who are in a church are there because they got hurt at their last
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church, and they're, oh, they're so hurt.
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And it reminds me about how people view things and what they go through, and like, how do
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I help them, how do I disciple them, how do I shepherd them, how do I help lead them into something that's
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You know, lead them to Christ, who's the great shepherd.
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Well, for less radical recommendations,.
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My recommendation is not necessarily a resource, but something to
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We all carry around technology with us, whether it's computers or phones or whatever that is,
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and they're like libraries, they're like those old contact, you had a little box
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that had all your contacts in it.
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Rolodexes, and it's got all of those in it, it's got all kinds of stuff in it,
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but we use it so flippantly.
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So my recommendation or challenge is, see if you can find an encouraging
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or a new way to use it to redeem the times, use it to
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intentionally have interactions with people around you who you have lost contact with,
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or you don't normally have contact with, or to fix relationships.
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And because it's always there, and I find either I'm misusing it or I'm not using
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it to its whole capabilities, I could be using it for something good, maybe it's just sitting around, but I could use it to do
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My mind goes to my siblings.
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Some of us have drifted kind of farther apart, just time, we have our families and stuff, but instead of having to send a
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letter and wait several days and then send it back, I can text them and communicate with them at any time
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and start having those conversations, and often I just don't.
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So my recommendation is, see if you can find a way to redeem some of the time used on
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All right, that's an interesting, deliberate communication, what you're talking about.
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Yeah, there's so many people trying to vie for your attention in communication.
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Social media, people that don't know you, bots, or whatever it is, always have something to say.
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And I'm like, well, okay, I can cut out some of the chatter.
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That might be the put off, but what am I putting on?
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How am I using it positively?
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You know, he's talking about off -grid communication.
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And here I am, I'm about to talk about, get us, if you use a smartphone, I think one of the great ways to
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redeem the time on your smartphone is to have a Bible app on your phone.
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So get yourself a Bible app.
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There are many out there.
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I was just talking to the brothers here, and recently I did some surveys for Google and they pay me in Google
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So I got on their Play Store the eSword mobile version.
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There's different versions.
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There's Strong's and Thayer's in it.
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You can do word searches.
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I'm not saying that you need to pick up the eSword that's on mobile, but what I am saying is, be immersed in the word.
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Well, my recommendation this week is Fiat Food by Matthew Leshak.
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And you should read it for the theology.
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Not that it's good theology, but he makes a claim in the book that incentives align between
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government, big farms, big pharma, and the Seventh -day Adventist Church to change the
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American diet for theological and eschatological purposes, and it is absolutely wild.
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So I knew some of this going into it, but the details were actually worse than I thought they were.
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And he actually started this book because he was wanting to disprove a chapter out of the Fiat standard, because he
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thought there's no way this can be true.
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He gets to researching it and fact -checking all of it, and he says, oh wait, it's way worse than he led on in the chapter.
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I need to write a book about this.
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So he sent a letter out to the publisher and said, will you publish the book if I go on a deep dive on Fiat
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He's like, this is something I wanna do, but I don't have time for it, so you go ahead and do it.
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And the lengths to which Ellen White's theology and her followers like John Harvey Kellogg
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went to emanatize their eschatology and to force their theology onto young
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boys and girls in order to get them to be less self -abusive, we shall say, is
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And the things that they did and they teamed up with the government to do in order to change the American
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diet without their consent is mind -boggling.
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So go ahead and try and give a listen or a read to Matthew LeShack's Fiat Food.
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Michael, what are you thankful for this week?
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I am thankful for my wife, thankful for all the extra work she does to help
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our family, and we're coming up on our 20th anniversary, but our anniversary's right in the middle
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of the holiday season, so we decided to take our anniversary trip early.
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So we've already been to Northeast Arkansas and see the changing of the leaves together and
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spend some time together.
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So I'm very thankful for her, and we're reflecting on how we've
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spent half our marriage here at Sunnyside Baptist Church, and what a blessing that is, and it's hard to wrap our heads
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around, but just very thankful for her, for her encouragements and for who she is.
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I'm thankful for game nights.
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Whatever avenue, there's different places that I play games.
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It's kind of a new thing for me.
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I found board games boring as a kid because I thought Monopoly was it, and I was like, this is not fun.
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I can just roll these dice and do whatever.
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So having friends that play games in which you can have interactions and conversations
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while still playing a game, the game tells a story, all those different things, just an intentional time
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with brothers or with brothers and sisters, I'm grateful for those interactions that having a game night
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I'm thankful for the bread which came from heaven who gave himself for us.
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I was talking to some enemies of the gospel earlier today, and I got to
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share with them about the one who offered himself.
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They don't happen to believe the same things about him, but it doesn't stop it from being true.
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So I'm thankful for the one who laid down his life for the sheep.
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I'm thankful for the maturation that the Lord works in his people and that he has them grow
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at the exact rate that he wants them to and not the rate that they want to or they would want others to grow.
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But he produces the best fruit, it's the highest quality, and it's 50, 75, 100 fold.
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So I'm extremely thankful for that maturation, both in my life and in my brothers and sisters in Christ.
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And that wraps it up for today.
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We are very thankful for our listeners and hope you will join us again as we meet to answer common questions and
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objections with Have You Not Read?