Married Couples — George Verwer

And to consider some of the truths of your word. We're glad that in this area of marriage you've not let us down a blind alley. You've not left us without knowledge, without wisdom, and without a word from yourself.

Lord, if there's any areas where Christian leaders and older Christians make the mistakes, it seems to be in the home. Oh, we think of all of our children, and all the responsibility you're putting upon us in this area.

Lord, we need your help. Desperately, we need your help. Guide us now, and bring good questions to our mind, and make this little meeting really count, on which hinges in many ways the evangelization of India.

In Jesus' name, Amen. Amen. Well, praise the Lord. Maybe I'll speak at least for a while on my knees, because I need lots of prayer when I speak to the married couples. I didn't request this session. If I say something too heavy one way, then the men get in trouble.

If I say the other way, the women get in trouble. And we've actually had fights that started as a result of these married couples' meetings. Not fights, but arguments. Because maybe when I was speaking about some of the mistakes men are making, the wife was taking notes.

And when she got home, see? And then when I was saying something about some of the weak areas the women have, then the husbands are taking notes. And then when they get home, see what George Berber says.

Taking Personal Responsibility in Marriage

I think we should each, in this session, pay more attention to our own personal needs, and not feel threatened if you have some of the weak points that we mentioned, any more than you should get big-headed if you are doing well in some of the good points.

And all of us must acknowledge that we are learners. If we are really a part of this work, we are learners. I think most of us are relatively new in marriage, and certainly we have much that we can learn.

Some of that which I'm going to share with you really is what couples have shared with me, or expressed to me. And I trust it will be of some value. I'd like to read my favorite scripture for married couples, known to all of you, but it never hurts to review the Word of God.

Because within these verses, in Ephesians chapter 5, we find the secret to marital happiness and success. Often when we get to 5, we have exposition up to verse 17, maybe even to verse 21, and then we end.

Or, if we're in a married couple session, we start at verse 22. But actually it all comes together, and it shouldn't be separated. Though I'm not going back right to the beginning, I want to start at verse 15.

See then ye walk carefully, or circumspectly, not as fools, but as wise, redeeming the time, because the days are evil. Therefore be ye not unwise, but understanding what the will of the Lord is. And be not drunk with wine, in which is excess, but be filled with the Spirit, speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord, giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church. He is the savior of the body. Therefore, as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives speak to their own husbands in everything.

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for it, that he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of the water by the word, that he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that it should be holy and without blemish.

So want men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself, for no man ever yet hated his own flesh, but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church. Truly marriage is the greatest challenge in life, next to our relationship with God himself.

Relationship with the Lord is the great challenge, and perhaps this is the second greatest challenge. It is our most intimate relationship, next to our relationship with God himself, and on a physical level it is the most intimate relationship.

And so it is an enormous challenge, and it is a way of life that I believe most of us know is filled with richness, terrific dimensions, and yet it is also a way of life filled with dangers and pitfalls.

And the greatest problems in church, I believe, in India today, are centered around the home, not the church. If the homes got right, the churches would be able to function. They are now, and this is also true in many, many other countries.

Marriage, Leadership, and the Health of the Home

I remember speaking in Bangalore some time ago, years ago now, at a church one of the deacons came up to me after the meeting crying under conviction of sin. He said to me, I'm an angel here in the church, I minister the word of God, but I'm a devil in my home.

I beat my children and I scream at my wife. Is there any hope for me? And I said, the first hope is to resign from your leadership in this church. He didn't like that. The fact is that if our home is not functioning properly, we are disqualified from Christian leadership, and in O .N., it is one of the main reasons we have removed men from leadership.

Without any questions, when we found the home was deteriorating, and Christ was not honored, and things were going on, that were sinful, we have had to ask them to leave the work. I remember one particular case when I asked a brother to leave the work, because his marriage was so, so serious.

Not just a few problems, it was serious. And another leader opposed me on this, thought I was being unmerciful. But unfortunately he didn't know what I knew, and it was a difficult thing because I don't want to go around announcing all that I know.

But I had to make that decision, of course, in unity with other leaders. And lo and behold, shortly after we made this decision, this man left his wife. He had now left the British Isles. He was British, divorced his wife, remarried the girl that he met when he was on O .N.

Both of them now live in another country. And his wife has gone through terrific agony back there in Britain. So we had a few experiences. Fortunately, not too many. We had 21 ,000 people through Operation Mobilization, so it did give us a wide range of exposure.

More than 21 ,000, someone once said. Now in this passage we have really the key, and it's beautiful. The two key words are one, submit, and two, love. And they both must come together. A husband loses his credentials for being submitted to when he is not demonstrating the love of Christ.

That doesn't mean the woman should stop submitting when he is not loving, because that will just increase the difficulty. That's like saying one mistake added to another mistake will make everything right.

It's when the husband is not loving the way he should that the wife needs more patience, more of the Lord Jesus, to sustain her in the midst of that kind of a trial, more of the Word of God, more of everything.

And the same is vice versa. If the husband is not loving, it's one thing. If the wife is not submitting, that is not the time for him to turn off his love. That is the time for him to turn on his love in every possible way, even if she be stubborn and unsubmissive or whatever else.

The Permanence of Christian Marriage

And I think the thing that will help us right from the beginning when we think about marriage is that with God it is permanent. It is once and for all. Now, you may think that's not necessary to say, but in this age and day it is necessary to say.

In some places, even within churches, they're changing the marriage oath so that we don't have to say in marriage, till death do us part. We can add some other phrase. And someone said, till divorce do us part.

But it's incredible. We have two sides of this problem when it comes to divorces. I don't want to get on that too much. On one side, we have those who are going into divorce so quickly or into marriage separations.

And this is a great sin against God. But on the other hand, we have people on the other side of the pendulum who decide to stay together, but who live in total hypocrisy all their life or for many, many years.

In pretension, for the sake of social pressure, they live together. I was sharing with me that they had a house specially built where the husband and the wife could walk in the front door and all the neighbors thought they were happily married.

But behind the front door there were two doors, his and hers. She went into her apartment and lived totally private. He went into his apartment. They telephoned each other and arranged to meet at the front door and walked out together and people thought they had a happy marriage.

I don't think in India most people can afford such a range of doors. But hypocrisy in marriage is a common thing. That is extremely sad. As we look at these verses, I think we should link them with verse 18.

That in many ways the secret, which is no secret to happy married life, is to be filled with the Spirit. I think this means most of all, or first of all, we have to acknowledge as couples, we have to acknowledge as couples that we can't do it.

It's too much for us. It's too big a challenge. And therefore cast ourselves upon the Lord. Sometimes this is hard on our pride. But I trust that most of you have bypassed that stage and together as a husband and wife you have acknowledged that without God's help, without the reality of the Holy Spirit, you just can't really do it.

Even though you may be blossoming in love with one another. You need God's help. You need the fullness of the Holy Spirit. I believe I need the fullness of the Spirit in my home more than I need it in the pulpit.

Dependence on the Holy Spirit in Family Life

Because to be quite honest, it's easier to preach than it is to be a father of three children. I preach 600 times a year. I preach to crowds of 9 ,000 people. I preach on radio and television. I find it rather easy, somewhat enjoyable.

Though even that gets hard at times now. But sometimes just sitting down for 20 minutes listening to my little free ring circus back at Hayes Road really drains me. I just eventually walk upstairs and cop out by falling asleep.

So we need the fullness of the Spirit in our home as much as we need it in the pulpit. The wives need to be filled with the Spirit as much as the men. We tend to think the man is the key figure when it comes to the ministry.

We've got more cockeyed ideas than this than anyone would ever know. He's going to go out and preach. Let's pray that the Lord will anoint him and fill him. Let's pray the Lord will humble him and use him mightily.

What about the wife? She needs as much that kind of reality just to stay home one day. Especially when the full team is there. All the children. And if you think leading an O .N. team is hard you wait till you get your own little personal band.

You're in for surprises that are going to blow your mind. And I found that the single life was a Sunday school picnic if you know any American terminology next to getting married. And why is it that some people find it more difficult when they leave O .N.?

Because most of them when they were in O .N. were single. When they leave O .N. they soon get married and so then they think why is it that it's so much more difficult? It isn't because they're in the States or England now instead of India.

It's because when they were with O .N. they were free, they were single, they did their own thing. Then they leave O .N. and they get married. So you can't make that comparison. Or they may have been on O .N. as a couple without any children.

And in many ways, well that also has plenty of challenge. Most couples have admitted that the deeper problems came when the children came into the picture with all the pressure that brings. Not many, relatively speaking have been in O .N. with children.

So no matter what training program we give you in O .N. when you get married and when you have a family especially if there are also economic problems you are in for big, big tests. In O .N. we can only give you the foundation.

We can only set you in the right direction. The bigger tests will come. And sometimes people, after they leave O .N. they have some difficulties and they have some problems and they think, well why didn't

Then we hear about people that have difficulties and problems and we think, well didn't O .N.'s training prepare them for that? Listen. No training program guarantees anything for the future. If you don't day by day lay hold of God.

William McDonald, I'll never forget it, speaking in London I think back in 1964 or 65 he said that Christian life is a life of constant dependence upon God. Many of our younger brothers, do you know what they want?

They want a spiritual pet pill. I hope there's none of you selling them cheap. They want some spiritual experience that's going to really take care of all the struggles and battles they have in their life and all the surprises they get.

Because none of these experiences or blessings, even the O .N. blessing is going to make it easy in the future. We have more people around India with spiritual experiences who are totally dead in their faith now than we can ever count.

We could match the number, perhaps in England or America. But Christian life is a life of continual dependence. I think he may have said, or someone else said it a life of continual crisis of dependence on God.

The Lord seems to allow one crisis after another to keep us dependent upon himself. This is why God has allowed us to be on this planet in the first place. This planet seemingly is some kind of a glorious testing ground.

Have you ever realized or thought of the fact that this is the only place in the universe where you can be tested? Millions of galaxies, millions of stars, all that God has created. This is the only place where anyone gets sick.

The only place where anyone can get punched in the nose. The only place where you can fall off your bicycle and cut your lip as I did as a child, as you can see. The only place where your wife can hit you on the head with a lamppost.

The only place where you can get hepatitis. The only place where your truck can even go off a mountain cliff. It's only the earth. So it may seem pretty big for us, all this suffering. And it is a mind exploding thing.

But as far as the universe and as far as God this is the only time in all of history, in all of eternity that he has allowed this little suffering experiment. Because the earth is an experiment in suffering.

And marriage will involve suffering. Some of you may have children who die. Not so many die anymore with modern medicine. But up to 50 years ago you could figure out 75 of all babies born would be dead within a year.

50 years ago! Now the problem is the opposite. There are so many babies born and most of them are living. The lifespan in North America now for women is 70 years of age. The average lifespan is 70, I believe, around 70 years of age.

And the biggest problem they're faced with in America today is old people. They don't know what to do with tens of millions of old people. And believe me, I just came from a ship. The QE2 between Africa and Singapore.

80 all old people. 91 year old ladies here on this world cruise going around with these special kind of crutches. And there they are in the gambling casinos, in the bars. And all dressed in their evening gowns.

You know, you wouldn't believe it. One lady said to me, this is an old people's home, this ship, isn't it? Quite a change after being on log-offs. But the days are changing. Our culture is changing. And we're going to have to face some big shocks in the process.

Coming back to this passage. After it says, be filled with the spirit. It gives some of the reality that this will bring. Speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs. Now isn't that a wonderful way, women, to make your house a little more pleasant?

Your husband goes away and there you are all alone. And perhaps sometimes you could scream. But this is what you're supposed to do when your husband's gone away. If he worked in a secular job, he would also have to go away.

I thank God many, many, many times for the privilege of being his servant in this kind of work. I am willing to go back to a secular job. Some aspects of my work are very secular. But when I see these men running for the railway station in Bromley at 7 o 'clock in the morning, and I see them coming back at 7 o 'clock at night, I just thank God for my particular kind of work.

It's easy for us to think that we're enduring a lot of hardship in the Lord's work. But the Bible says the way of the transgressor is hard. And the Bible also says that when we come into the yoke with Jesus Christ, the yoke is easy and the burden is light.

It's true that we'll be suffering. But we've got something that the world knows nothing about. And those of us, especially, who are privileged to give our day to, to that which counts every minute. Every minute of our work counts.

I don't have to spend part of my day earning money for Joe Blow's ball bearing factory. Now, if the Lord wants me to do that, hallelujah, I'll do it. And I'm sure glad He hasn't asked me, at least for the present.

I met a lady sometime in America. I couldn't believe it. All day. You know what she did? She was on a factory line putting the inside into golf balls. All day. How would you like that job? Stuffing the inside into a golf ball.

You know what a golf ball is? You know, you play golf, hit that little ball. Billy Graham plays golf. That's supposed to be the evangelist sport. I can't stand it myself. But I wouldn't want to spend the rest of my life putting the inside into golf balls.

What a privilege we have. Giving out tracts. Preaching. Distributing books. And, you know, when I meet people who have this privilege and then don't do it wholeheartedly, it's on to God, you know. I just want to weep.

I just want to weep. Well, there's the answer when things get dull and boring. Speaking to yourselves in psalms, hymns, and spiritual songs. Singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord. The reason the ministry at home with the babies and with the kitchen and with the clothing and the washing is just as important as going out in the distribution is because God is concerned with your character first.

Not your actions. He's concerned about your heart relationship. And that's why we have this first being filled with the Spirit. This is what comes. In Colossians it says, Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly.

And then it gives almost an identical verse with verse 19. That's interesting, isn't it? And I would recommend to you women, to everyone, but to the women who have, sometimes are more often in the same location, you know, in front of your dish basin or in front of something else you're working on, I would really challenge you to memorize Scripture.

In fact, I believe if you're not memorizing Scripture, you're jeopardizing your spiritual life. I think this is so important. And it will be a great blessing to you. I was in a man's home recently. He's a man, a businessman who he and his wife accompany, my wife and I, on this trip.

And I went into his place where he shaves. And there on the wall, there on the wall, were all texts, whole chapters from the word of God. Right in front of the shaving club. So every time he shaved, every time these texts were right there, and he had it in a way you could change it.

And what a terrific time. Opportunity to redeem the time. I sometimes memorize when I'm doing those kind of things. Other times I listen to cassettes, tapes. Notice the next verse. Giving thanks always for all things unto God, and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.

I believe the spirit of thanksgiving can be one of the most revolutionary factors in the whole. How easy it is to be negative. We don't have enough money. Our home isn't big enough. I want to tell you, you'll never get over some of these particular desires.

I meet people who live in ten room homes. Each room is the size of this. They're still moaning. They're still complaining. You cannot understand how unhappy most wealthy people are. Let us not be deceived to think that happiness comes through having a bigger home or more money.

These are the women that are cracking up. There have been more nervous breakdowns than any other group. The rich in the upper middle class. They're bored stiff. They don't know what to do. And I think that we have to learn the truth of that verse whatever state we're in.

We must learn to be content. There will be the hard times and there will be the good times. Now Paul said he was abounding when he was in prison. You know that verse where he says we're learning how to abate and how to abound?

And then he said I'm abounding in this situation. He was in prison. So I don't know what abasing is. I guess that means being beaten. And yet some of the things that we call hardnesses, I'm not sure Paul would put them into his particular category.

Well, that's not so important. Giving thanks always for all things. My wife and I have discovered that both of us can become negative. One minute she's saying that I'm being negative. The next minute I accuse her of being negative.

The fact is we both have our negative moments. And if we both happen to hit a negative moment at the same time, you better pray we're not discussing you. But it's amazing. It's amazing how we can become negative.

Especially in life after we've had many, many, many difficulties. Or after we've been hurt many times. If you didn't want to ever be hurt by your wife, I don't mean physically, but by something she said or something she did.

If you didn't want to ever get hurt, you shouldn't have got married. You must have missed quite a good chump out of the good book. Because any deep relationship will involve a close, deep interaction in which there is the possibility of being hurt.

The one that we love the most, we can hurt the most. Marriage has the greatest sliding dimension. Total ecstasy on the one hand, and the most incredible situations in which we can get hurt and want to jump out the window.

I don't know if your wife has ever wanted to jump out the window. If she does, live on a ground floor flat. But the dimension of feeling we can have within marriage is truly life. I've had the experience of learning that I can go from one end to the other not only in one day, I have the ability to do it in one hour.

From total ecstasy to depression in one hour. You can all be thankful you're not married to me and pray for my wife. Now some people have maybe a shorter, you know, shorter range. But our emotions are rather unpredictable.

And I believe this is especially true when we are in the spiritual warfare. And one of the cures for this is Thanksgiving. You see, cynicism will try to make its way into our marriage. Firstly, we may become cynical of others.

As a couple, we'll turn against other people. All of us have struggles within, animosity, different feelings, different emotions. And we can, if we're not totally resting in the Lord and appropriating the victory, we can blame everything on other people.

This becomes even greater within a community or within an organization. Those of you who belong to OM, OM can become your escape goal. If you're careful and you're clever, you can blame OM for everything.

OM is that something out there that's causing all my problems. This is why for some people we say very clearly, some fields are stronger than others during your first year of marriage, we don't want you on OM.

Because we know that during the first year of marriage, if the couple has trouble, they'll blame OM. It's natural. You don't want to blame yourself. And so, it's good for couples. We don't have a fixed rule on this.

Let the man have one or two years out of OM. Let the man have some good roaring fights and some good bust-up outside of OM, and then they will realize when they come into OM that their problems are not part of the movement.

They're their own. Listen. No matter what environment you live in, now you're in the OM environment. Join the gospel recordings environment. Join your independent church environment. Join the heavenly environment.

Whatever environment you're in,.

That environment will create difficulties.

So our problems aren't really OM problems, most of them. They are environmental. We have chosen a particular environment, a particular group of people to work with. You go work for the Mercedes-Benz company.

Your husband becomes an executive. He will have pressure from every side. Going to cocktail parties.

Pleasing this person. Every environment has their set of problems.

So when you're in OM, you're going to have some of OM's problems, of course. But it's interesting, when the time comes for an OM wife to have a baby, if she's 6 ,000 miles from her mother, she's got a problem.

Because usually, in most of our cultures, when we're going to have a baby, mom comes along or one of the relatives. You know, one helps during that interesting time. And so, of course, in OM, we've found different ways to get around that, and that's mainly helping one another.

I'm getting a little bit on a tangent. Let me go back to the verse. Practice thanksgiving and avoid cynicism. Here's my favorite quote on cynicism. Let me tie up what I was saying. I was talking about how we can take things out against those around us.

Then, after that has sort of worked its way out, we can take it out against one another within the marriage.

So beware. The cynicism you're having toward OM.

Or toward other people or toward anything, eventually can creep right into your own home and be self-destructive. So it's better to stop cynicism, you know, way out there. No cynicism. I repent of any cynicism I have toward anybody, anywhere, because though I know tomorrow it's way out there, my attitude toward this or my attitude toward that, in a few weeks, a few months, it could be in my home, eating away at my marriage like cancer and gangrene working on the same arm.

Here's my favorite quote from Tozer on cynicism. In this world of corruption, there is real danger that the earnest Christian may overreact in his resistance to evil and become a victim of religious occupational disease, cynicism.

The constant need to go counter to popular trends may easily develop in him a sour habit of fault-finding and turn him into a sulky critic of other men's matters, without charity and without love. What makes the cynical spirit particularly dangerous is that the cynic is usually right.

His analyses are accurate. His judgments sound. Yet for all that, he is wrong, frightfully, pathetically wrong. As a cure for the sour fault-finding attitude, I recommend the cultivation of the habit of thanksgiving.

Thanksgiving has great curative powers. A thankful heart cannot beware of cynicism. Practice at all times in your home. Thanksgiving. Sometimes when we thought we had a problem, in just a few minutes, thinking and praying, we realize that our problems were nothing compared to what some other people had.

And I tell you, I've been involved with families for some of the problems they have. I don't know anyone here has problems like some of the people I have had to deal with. In terms of illnesses, in terms of outward problems, inward problems.

The devil wants to make you a mountain climber over a molehill. And you wives especially. You can specialize in getting very, very, very tense about little, little things. I tell you, if overnight this country goes communist, then you'll have some real problems.

Suffering, Persecution, and Faithfulness

Think of some of these people in places like Burundi. You know what happened in Burundi a couple of years ago, don't you? They took most of the pastors and they sliced them up.

They literally cut pastors in bits.

And stuffed them into cans in front of their wives. Now, any problem you have right now that can pair with that, women? Seeing your own husband cut up in pieces like a piece of goat meat and put into a can?

They butchered 100 ,000 people. One lakh of people were butchered up in a way that you wouldn't cut meat. And they were carried off. And there were a few little lines in our newspapers about it. The next time we think we have problems, maybe we ought to open the pages of a history book and remember people like Hitler, Genghis Khan, and other butchers who slaughtered thousands of people.

One man took 24 ,000 Yugoslavians and burned out all their eyes. He left one man with one eye and he had the one man lead 20 ,000 Yugoslavians from Istanbul to Belgrade. Next time you think you're on a difficult trek with an OM gospel pack, remember that crowd.

Most of us don't know what real suffering is.

But the devil is still alive and he wants to get us mountain climbing over molehills. He gets people to deny the basic the basic doctrines of their faith for the sake of a few hundred rupees, for the sake of a job, for the sake of going off to a foreign country.

People lie about ages. They turn against their savior. For what? Most of them end up very sad. What will happen when the real problems come? How many of us will really stand when real persecution comes in?

I tell you, it's a great challenge to me. It's a message to myself more than to you. I don't point any fingers. But I think of some of the little things I have complained about to my wife. My wife, every once in a while, says I'm fussy.

That's the last thing I want to be. It's totally against my doctrinal belief. But deep down within me, I think maybe partly due to my dear precious mother, I don't know. But I am a fussy. About food, about this, about that.

And I tell you, if it wasn't for the message of this movement, I'd be hopeless. I'd be hopeless. I am indebted to those men like Alan Redpath, whose ministry I sat under and who just devastated me. And then a few others.

I'm the kind of stubborn guy that needs strong ministry. These little Bible sermonettes, you know, I can sit there. But when I get somebody like Alan Redpath, Stephen Olbert, or Billy Graham, when he preaches to believers, I'm finished.

Well, I know you're probably not like me, and you can be thankful to God for that. But I need strong message. Break it. And this is why whenever I am fussy or foolish, or some other thing that's not of God, thanks to messages like Calvary Road, I repent.

The salvation of our marriage, 17 years, tremendous married life, has been repentance. That's the only thing. You can start to cave in, the cross will always be there. When everything else begins to go wrong, and sickness moves in, the cross is still there.

And that's where married couples should live, at the foot of the cross. Then it says, submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of the Lord, in the fear of God. This, of course, is referring to the whole church.

It's not referring just to couples. A husband that doesn't know anything about submission to the leaders over him in the Lord, and to other brothers in the work, why does he demand so much submission from his wife?

It's not just the women who have to submit. We are all called to submit. I have to submit to the board of directors in England, and in a couple of other countries. I have to give account. I give account for every penny I spend in this work.

I don't want any freedom to just do my own thing, because I know the devil's first program to cut a man down is get him isolated, get him out on his own. Where he's responsible to no one. No one to check on him.

No one to see that he's doing all right. The amazing thing is, sometimes the moment a man comes under God's protection, the devil leaves him alone. He knows he hasn't got a chance, because he knows that man is responsible to other godly people who will be concerned for his soul, and who will exhort him in danger.

And so, in fact, in the very earliest days of this work, I appointed, I asked for a board of directors and leaders, all older men, all mostly married men, that I could be responsible to. And they, all financial issues, were turned over to them.

Because in Christian work, one of the greatest problems centers around money. And in our own, one of the greatest problems centers around money. You may think the less money, the more problems. No. The more money, the more problems.

The suicide cases aren't generally from the poverty stricken villages. The suicide cases are more from people who've got money, or at least they had it for a while. They got a taste of it. Maybe wrongly or rightly so.

So, submission is not just a doctrine for women, huh? All of God's people have the privilege of submitting. Everybody has someone to submit to. And when you know something about that in your own life, then maybe you'll be able to encourage your wife to follow God's pattern.

Submission, Equality, and Sexual Morality

God's pattern is revealed in verse 22. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands as unto the Lord. Not because the husband is better than the wife. That is a foolish line of the devil. And I think, I think, at least, still in evangelical circles, in some places, there is this,.

Without saying it, that the man is a little better than the woman.