Mourning — Anton Bosch

The Beatitudes and the Meaning of Spiritual Mourning

Let's go to Matthew chapter 5 and we've been speaking about the Beatitudes, we dealt with the first one last week, Blessed are the poor in spirit, not last week but a few weeks ago and we spent a couple of weeks on that and this morning we come to the second one which is Blessed are those who mourn for they shall be comforted but let's just read the context again in Matthew chapter 5.

And seeing the multitude, he went up on a mountain, and when he was seated, his disciples came to him. Then he opened his mouth and taught them, saying, Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.

Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted. Blessed are the meek, for they shall inherit the earth. Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they shall be filled. Blessed are the merciful, for they shall obtain mercy.

Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God. Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God. Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness' sake, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.

Blessed are you when they revile and persecute you and say all kinds of evil against you falsely for my sake. Rejoice and be exceedingly glad, for great is your reward in heaven. For so they persecuted the prophets that were before you.

So the second one in verse 4, Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted. And again, this tends to be applied in the human sense, in terms of those who mourn because of bereavement, or who mourn because of some loss or some other difficulty.

But in the context of what Jesus is teaching, the principles that really underlie the attitude of those who are part of the kingdom. This attitude of mourning is not over those who mourn over bereavement.

Obviously those who mourn, and when it says blessed are those who mourn for they will be comforted, that he does comfort us when we mourn. And we will speak about comfort this morning as well. But he's dealing specifically here with spiritual mourning.

And we're going to look this morning at the reasons why Christians should be in an attitude of mourning. Now remember we said that these principles are diametrically opposed to many of the teachings that we get today, in terms of the fact that we should be celebrating, we should be rejoicing, that we should be in this euphoric state, because we are in the kingdom.

But it's very important for us to understand where we are, and the timing. And Ecclesiastes says there is a time to mourn and there is a time to dance. You can't mourn and dance at the same time. And there is an appropriate time to mourn and there is an appropriate time to dance.

And so when the time for mourning is there, it's not appropriate to be celebrating at that time. Hi, welcome. We're in Matthew chapter 5, and we're dealing with the Beatitudes, and we're dealing with the second one this morning, which is blessed are those who mourn for they shall be comforted.

And so there is an appropriate time for mourning and there is an appropriate time for celebration. That's what Ecclesiastes tells us. And it's important for us to understand when the time of mourning is there, and when the time of celebration is there, that we act in an appropriate time.

And as we've said, many people feel that today is a time of celebration. And in fact, many services or many meetings of churches are called celebration meetings. And the basis of that celebration is because we are now in the kingdom, and therefore we need to celebrate.

Fasting, Mourning, and the Absence of the Bridegroom

But now, let's have a look at what Jesus teaches about this. And if we go to Matthew chapter 9, a few chapters on, and it's interesting that when Jesus says here, blessed are those who mourn, that word mourn, in Greek, there are nine words, nine different words for mourning.

Remember when we spoke about poverty, there were, I think, seven different words for poverty. And the word for poverty, blessed are those who are poor in spirit, that word poor there is the most poor of all of the states of poverty.

And when he speaks about mourning, when he said, blessed are those who mourn, this is the deepest form of mourning that the Greek language can express. It is the most deep sense of sorrow. It's not just feeling a little bit bad.

It's not just feeling a little bit blue. But in fact, this is mourning at its deepest and its most intense form. Now, in Matthew chapter 9, the disciples of John the Baptist come to Jesus, and they say to him, why don't your disciples fast?

And this is what happens, verse 14, the disciples of John came to him and said, why do we and the Pharisees fast often, but your disciples do not fast? And Jesus said to them, can the friends of the bridegroom mourn as long as the bridegroom is with them?

But the days will come when the bridegroom will be taken away from them, and then they will fast. But no one puts a piece of unshrunk cloth on an old garment, for the patch pulls away from the garment, and the tear is made worse.

Nor do people put new wine into old wineskins, for else the wineskins break, and wine is spilt, and the wineskins are ruined. But they put new wine into new wineskins, and both are preserved. Now, I'm not going to deal with verses 16 and 17, but there's a tremendous amount of very important information there, and these verses are also often misapplied.

What Jesus is saying is there is an appropriate time for certain things, and there are appropriate ways of doing things. And so he says it's inappropriate to put new wine in old wineskins. It just doesn't work that way.

It's inappropriate to put a new patch on an old garment. That just doesn't work. There are problems with doing that. And so what he is saying is there is an appropriate time for mourning, and an appropriate time for celebration.

And they were saying, well, why do the disciples not fast? And you'll see he's using interchangeably the concept of fasting and mourning. These two things are interchangeable, and when people fasted, particularly in the Old Testament, it was a time of mourning.

And when they mourned, often they would abstain from food. And we know that often this is a natural response. Sometimes when people are in very deep mourning, they have no appetite for food. And so these two concepts are synonymous in this passage.

And what they were saying is your disciples must be fasting. They must be mourning. And Jesus says they don't have to mourn because they have the bridegroom with them. Obviously, here's the bridegroom.

But he says the time will come when the bridegroom will be taken away. That is now. The last 2 ,000 years, the bridegroom has been taken from us. And he says then they will mourn. Then they will mourn.

In other words, Jesus is saying that the time in which we find ourselves now in the absence of our bridegroom is not a time of celebration. It's a time of mourning. Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.

Now, we're going to look in a moment why we should be mourning. When will we celebrate? When we are united with our bridegroom again? When we see him face to face and we enter into the marriage feast of the Lamb, that will be a great time of celebration.

Now, we're not saying that we mustn't be happy. We're not saying that the fruit of the Spirit being joy, amongst other things, mustn't be present in our lives. But at the same time, the emphasis on hilarity is not an emphasis that Jesus brings to the New Testament.

And many people say, well, you know, Jesus had a sense of humor. He may have had a sense of humor, but you know, it's interesting that the Scripture doesn't tell us about it. I'm not saying he didn't have.

But what does the Scripture, how does the Scripture reveal Jesus to us? As a man who walks down the road with his 12 disciples, telling jokes and making light comments about this and that, and really just, you know, being frivolous?

At no stage is Jesus revealed as such. But what he is revealed as, in Isaiah 53, as a man of sorrows and acquainted with grief. A man of sorrows and acquainted with grief. And that is how Jesus reveals himself to us.

And so we find that there is a call upon us in the New Testament, over and over in Paul's writings, for us to be sober. Now, that word sober is not the opposite of being drunk, but sober in the sense of being level-headed, in terms of having our mind under control.

Not being carried away by all sorts of light-hearted things. But being weighty, that word sober and weighty, in a sense. Now, again, we're not advocating that we must be walking around with long faces, and we must be walking around unhappy.

Of course we have much to rejoice about, because the Lord is good and he is gracious. But at the same time, underlying all of that, needs to be an awareness of the fact that there is much reason for mourning.

Mourning for the Spiritually Dead and Unrepentant

And let's have a look at some of those reasons. First of all, we go to the Old Testament, and in 1 Samuel chapter 15, the author here deals with Saul, who had failed as king of Israel. Samuel now withdraws from Saul, and the Lord withdraws from Saul.

Remember, he comes back from the battle against the Amalekites, having been disobedient to the Lord. Saul, Samuel then confronts him, and Samuel turns away from him. And verse 34 of 1 Samuel 15 says,.

Then Samuel went to Ramah, and Saul went up to his house at Gibeah of Saul. And Samuel went no more to see Saul until the day of his death. Nevertheless, Samuel mourned for Saul, and the Lord regretted that he had made Saul king of Israel.

Then the Lord said to Samuel, How long will you mourn for Saul, seeing I have rejected him from reigning over Israel? And then he instructs him to go and anoint David as king over Israel. And so, the first reason for mourning is over those who are spiritually dead and unrepentant.

Those who are spiritually dead and unrepentant. Now folk, there is not one of us who do not know people who have turned from the Lord, who are unrepentant in their sin. And again, this week I had confrontation with the man I mentioned earlier who has fallen into grievous sin.

And again, just being aware of the absolute hardness of heart and the unwillingness to repent, the unwillingness to show any form of remorse for this terrible sin that he is living in. And you know, that's a reason for mourning.

And you know, again I was challenged concerning Samuel's attitude. You know, Samuel doesn't turn away from Saul and he is not angry. He doesn't seek revenge over Saul. He doesn't seek to say, Yeah, well I told you so.

But there is a deep mourning within Samuel because of Saul's failure. And folks, sometimes when we see people fail, when we see people turn away from the Lord, when we see people fall into sin, sometimes there can be a sense of justification.

Of saying, well I always thought he was suspect. I always thought that he wasn't this or that or the other thing. But notice that Samuel mourns for Saul. Even though Saul had turned terribly from his calling and had failed miserably in the anointing for which God had called him over King of Israel.

Mourning over Jerusalem's Rejection of Salvation

And so the first reason for mourning is over those who are spiritually dead and unrepentant. And then in Matthew chapter 23, and we're going to look at many scriptures this morning because I feel the need to prove this point of the fact that this is a thought that is somewhat radical to some people.

Matthew chapter 23 and verse 37, Jesus comes over the brow of the hill on what we call Palm Sunday. And it says, He says, Sorry verse 37, Matthew 23 verse 37. And so Jesus weeps over Jerusalem. Twice it speaks about Jesus weeping.

This is one of the occasions as he looks over Jerusalem, as he sees the city lie before him. And he says, How often had I stretched out my arms to you? How often have I sent messengers to you? How often did I not send prophets desiring to draw you to myself?

And yet you would not. You resisted me all the time. He wasn't weeping as some say because he knew they were going to turn against him and they were going to crucify him. This was not a personal thing about him being rejected.

It was because they had rejected God's salvation. It was because God had drawn them into a relationship with himself. And you remember that even at Mount Sinai, he says, I brought you on eagles wings out of Egypt to bring you to myself.

God had brought Israel out of Egypt because he wanted a relationship with him for himself. And yet Israel rejected God for year after year, thousands of years until finally they rejected his son as they crucified him.

They cried as a mob crucify him away with him. And so Jesus weeps over a rebellious people who were unresist or resisting his desire to enter into a relationship with him. In fact, even today, I believe that the Lord Jesus is weeping over those that he is drawing to himself.

And yet they resist him and they continue to go their own way. And so there should be mourning in our own hearts over those whom God is drawing and those whom God is calling. And yet they are in their own rebellion and the hardness of heart continue to go in their own way.

And we all know people like that. There are friends, you know, we have friends, we have members of our family, some have children who are rebellious and who are not coming to the Lord, who are not entering into that relationship with the Lord Jesus.

And in the book of Lamentations, and I won't turn you there because maybe you'll battle to find it, but Lamentations chapter 5 and from verse 15 to 18, Jeremiah, who I believe wrote Lamentations, speaks about the mourning over the desolation of Jerusalem, the desolation of Jerusalem, Jerusalem being in ruins.

And so there should be mourning in our hearts even today over the state of Israel, over the fact that Jerusalem is being trodden underfoot by the Gentiles, over the war and the lack of peace that is in the promised land.

Mourning over Sin and Spiritual Decline in the Church

But more than just Jerusalem, over the church and the state of the church in many, many cases. And in 1 Corinthians chapter 5, and it's interesting that this concept of mourning appears in the book of Corinthians a number of times.

And remember that one of the hallmarks of the Corinthian church was the tremendous amount of celebration and ecstatic forms of worship that existed in their meetings. And yet Paul calls them to mourning.

And in 1 Corinthians chapter 5, and he's dealing with this issue of sin that had crept into the church, a kind of sin which was very grievous. And he says in verse 1 of 1 Corinthians 5, it is actually purported there is sexual immorality among you.

Such sexual immorality is not even named among the Gentiles that a man has his father's wife. And you are puffed up and have not rather mourned that he who has done this deed might be taken away from among you.

And so he says instead of mourning over the sin that has come into the church, what you were doing is they were rejoicing. And I can only assume that what he was referring to is that they were saying, look how open-minded we are.

Look how liberal we are. And this is something which is coming into the church at large very much today. People are saying we can tolerate all kinds of sin. We're open-minded. We're not restricted to the letter of the law.

We've been set free from these things. And folk rejoice. And there are people who rejoice in their liberality and rejoice in their excesses. And Paul says you shouldn't be rejoicing. You should be mourning.

Because these are not things to feel good about. These are things to be felt bad about. And so there should be mourning over the sin which enters into the church. And when we see the kind of things that are happening in churches today where ministers are ordained as homosexuals and all of this sort of thing, we should be mourning.

And again, we shouldn't be pointing the finger, folk. It's easy to say, oh, I thank God that I'm not like that, that this church is not like that church. But no, we should be mourning over the state of the church.

We should be mourning over sin. Whenever sin comes into the church, whatever shape and form that sin takes, whether it's sexual sin or whether it's bitterness and anger and strife and envy and division and all of these sorts of things, whatever form of sin, when it comes into the church, it should be a reason for us to be mourning before God, to be weeping before Him that by His Spirit He may bring repentance and that He might bring change.

In 2 Corinthians chapter 12, again, Paul is writing to the Corinthians. This is now his second letter. And we'll come back to Corinthians just now, but you'll find that they did, in fact, repent and there was mourning amongst them.

But there were still those who were persisting in their hardness of heart. And verse 20 of 2 Corinthians 12, verse 20 says, For I fear lest when I come, I shall not find you such as I wish and that I should be found by you such as you do not wish, lest there be contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, backbiting, whisperings, hate, conceits and tumults.

And lest when I come again, my God will humble me among you and I shall mourn for many who have sinned before and have not repented of the uncleanness, fornication and licentiousness which you have practiced.

And so Paul says, when I come, he says, I trust that I won't have to mourn, that I won't have to be weeping before God, not just because of the sexual immorality which he lists at the end of verse 21, but also because of the other things, the contentions, the jealousies, the outbursts of wrath, the selfish ambitions, backbiting, whisperings, conceits, tumults.

Remember one of the things, he opens the first letter of the book of Corinthians and he says, there is division among you because some say I'm of Paul and I'm of Apollos. And he says, if I come and I find that amongst you, he says that I would have to mourn.

Mourning over Unbelief

There would be reason for weeping when I come into the church. And so the presence of sin in the church is a cause for mourning. And in John chapter 11, John's gospel chapter 11, we find the shortest verse in the Bible.

I'm sure you know what it is. John chapter 11 and let's read from verse 33. Therefore, when Jesus saw her weeping and the Jews who came with her weeping, he groaned in the spirit and was troubled and said, where have you laid him?

And they said to him, Lord, come and see. Jesus wept. That's the shortest verse. And so this is Lazarus's tomb. And again, I've been horrified to hear preachers preach about the fact that Jesus wept because he loved Lazarus so much and Lazarus was now dead.

That's not what it was about. Why did Jesus weep about Lazarus being dead? Jesus knew he was going to raise him from the dead. Jesus had told Mary and Martha that he was going to raise him from the dead.

Why would he mourn over someone who was just sleeping? By his own confession, he said, he's just sleeping and he was going to come to wake him up. So Jesus was not mourning about the loss of Lazarus. What Jesus was mourning about was over the unbelief that he was seeing amongst those who were his friends and amongst the scribes.

So even Mary and Martha did not believe in Jesus, did not believe that he was able to raise Lazarus from the dead. And so Jesus's mourning is not over Lazarus's death. Jesus's mourning is over the unbelief which he sees amongst those who were gathered at the tomb, weeping as though there was never going to be a resurrection, weeping as though there was no life after death.

And so when we exhibit unbelief, the Lord mourns. And I believe that as a church, we should be mourning over unbelief in our own hearts, unbelief in the church and unbelief amongst those who claim to be the friends of God.

Mourning over the World's Condition

Now we've spoken about some of the things in the church and some of the things that happen amongst believers that we should be mourning about. But we should also be mourning about what happens in the world.

And again, we tend to have the attitude about when we read the newspapers and we listen to the radio, we see the television, we see all the things that happens out in the world, we tend to have a feeling of superiority.

And we tend to feel, well, you know, I thank God that I'm not in that situation. Well, of course, we should thank God for that. But when we do that in an attitude of feeling well, we're better than anybody else.

Yet Lot, it says, and it speaks about Lot in the book of Peter 2, Peter chapter 2, verse 7, it says in the old King James that he vexed his soul daily over the things that were happening in the city. Now he was compromised because he should never have been living in that city.

And yet God commends him for this, that in spite of the fact that he was where he shouldn't have been, his soul was vexed daily. He mourned daily over what was happening in the world. And folks, that should be something that should be breaking our hearts as much as it breaks the heart of God.

We know that we can't change the world unless folk come to the Lord Jesus and not born again and their lives are changed as a result of the power of the gospel. But at the same time, we cannot walk away and say, well, that's just the way it is.

There needs to be a weeping going up before God. There needs to be a crying for God for the city. Remember Abraham concerning the cities of Sodom and Gomorrah. He comes before the Lord and he cries for the salvation of those cities.

He weeps before God and he says, Lord, if there'd just be 50, won't you just save those cities? God give us grace that we may not just be so concerned about our own little affairs, that we forget that there are those outside who need salvation, that the world is in a desperate state, needs a savior, and yet seems to be going from bad to worse.

Mourning over Famine of the Word

And so mourning over the state of the world. In Amos chapter 8, and again, I won't turn you there in case you battle to find it, but in Amos chapter 8, Amos speaks about a famine which is coming. And he says that famine is not one of bread, but one of the word.

A lack of proper teaching of the word of God. And he says there needs to be mourning over the lack of proper teaching. There will be a mourning over the famine for the word that has come. And folks, our souls should be broken before God over the kind of teaching when you watch some of the stuff that goes on, when you see some of the stuff that comes on television and the books that are available and the kind of absolute rubbish that is being taught by some preachers today.

You know, again, it shouldn't lead us to a situation of pride, but it should bring us to a situation where there's a weeping for God. And even as we traveled up to the Transvaal and Ken went with us and we listened to a tape, someone gave us the tape and they said, you must listen to this.

This is a wonderful tape. This is wonderful teaching. And we listened to this man going on and on and on, and he had absolutely nothing to say. You know, the conclusion we came to was that there is such a famine that when somebody just brings anything, folks think that's wonderful because, you know, when you're hungry, you'll eat anything.

When you're hungry, you'll eat anything. And so the little tidbits which are handed out, folk are just grabbing and they're saying that's wonderful and yet they're starving and they're going away hungry.

And I don't say that in any sense of pride or anything, but as I listened to the tape, desperately wanting to hear what did this man have that was so good to share? And he had absolutely nothing except words and words and words.

And so we live in a time of a famine of the Word and it shouldn't lead us to pride. It shouldn't lead us to a point where we say, well, we thank you God that we are this or we are that, but to a situation of mourning and saying, Lord, won't you send us the rains of your Spirit that there may be a harvest, that the famine may be broken, that people may be fed by a true teaching of your Word and that there may be a great harvest of souls.

Mourning over Double-Mindedness

And then in James chapter 4, probably one of the hardest verses or harshest verses in the Scriptures, in the book of James, just after Hebrews, before Revelation, James chapter 4, or a section of Scripture which we've come back to a few times in the last month or so.

Therefore, verse 7, Submit to God, resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded.

Lament and mourn and weep. Let your laughter be turned into mourning and your joy to gloom. Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he will lift you up. And so, mourning over double-mindedness, double-mindedness, remember that's the message of the book of James, that from the same fountain comes both sweet and salty water, that from the same mouth comes both blessing and cursing, that we say yes in the presence of God and yet we find ourselves in the world, we say no, that our yes is not yes, our no is not no, so there's a double-mindedness right through the book that deals with this.

And so, he says we need to weep and to mourn over double-mindedness, not just double-mindedness in other people, but double-mindedness in our own hearts. How often do we not come into the presence of God?

How often do we not read the scriptures and we say, yes, Lord, I must do this, and yet when we find ourselves in the world, we find ourselves in business or in another environment, suddenly our yes turns to no.

How often do we not from the same mouth bring forth blessing of God and yet we curse men with that same mouth? God, give us grace that we may not be double-minded, that we may be single-minded in our devotion to the Lord, that what we say in private and what we say in public may be the same thing.

What happens in our hearts and what happens outside may be the same thing. What happens in the meetings and what happens in the world may be the same thing, that we may be people who are single, who are not double-minded, and that we may weep over our own double-mindedness.

Mourning That Leads to Repentance

And then in 2 Corinthians, and then I'm going to turn to the issue of comfort, but in 2 Corinthians chapter 7, you remember we spoke about the sin which had come into the church of Corinth and 2 Corinthians 7, as you may remember, deals with the issue of repentance.

I'm not going to read the whole passage because we're going to run out of time, but you can, if you go home, please read from verse 8 through to verse 12. And you'll find that he speaks about the need for mourning, not just remorse, not just feeling sorry about our sin, but the need to come to repentance.

And this is the problem is that we often feel sorry about some of the things that we've spoken about earlier. We feel sorry about our double-mindedness. We feel sorry about our unbelief. And yet that sorrow is not deep enough.

It is not true mourning that brings us to a point of repentance. And so we just feel bad, but we don't come to repentance. And so Paul says to the Corinthians, he says he rejoices because he had to write a hard letter to them.

And this letter made them feel bad. This letter brought them to a place of mourning rather than rejoicing over the liberal approach they had to sin. This letter had brought them to a point where they were sorrowing over their sin to the degree that they had repented.

And this is the problem is that oftentimes we read the word of God or we hear the word of God preached and we recognize that there is something that I need and I feel bad about it. There's remorse. But in fact, I'm not feeling bad enough about it if I can put it that way.

I'm just feeling bad that I've failed. But in fact, I've not come to mourn to the degree that I say I must turn away. I must turn away from this thing. I must change my life. I must turn to God. And so the remorse needs to be deeper.

God as the Source of Comfort

It needs to come to true sorrow of our sin to the degree that there would be true repentance. And that's what he deals with there in 2 Corinthians chapter 7. Now while we're in Corinthians, let's go to 2 Corinthians chapter 1 and let's talk about the comfort.

Blessed are those who mourn for they shall be comforted. And that's the joy and that's the good news. The Lord Jesus never just gives us bad news, but he always gives us the good news as well. And so he pours in the oil and the wine.

The wine burns. The wine is a disinfectant and it kills the germs and when you pour wine into a wound, it stings. But the oil soothes and the oil brings healing. And so both are necessary. If you just put on the oil, well, the germs are still going to be there and the thing is not going to heal.

If you just put in the wine, well, it will kill the germs, but there's still going to be a lot of pain in the wine. And so the reasons and the need for mourning. But blessed are those who mourn for they will be comforted.

And where does this comfort come from? 2 Corinthians chapter 1. And we've looked at where the mourning comes from. The reasons for mourning. Let's look at the reasons for comfort. In 2 Corinthians chapter 1 verse 3.

Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and the God of all comfort. The God of all comfort. So he reveals himself amongst other things as the God of comfort. The God of all comfort.

That's within the nature of God is to comfort those who mourn, to comfort those who sorrow, to comfort those who find themselves downtrodden and down cost. That's the very nature of God. Remember that one of the names of the Holy Spirit is that he is called the Comforter.

The Comforter. And so we are in a time when we are without our bridegroom. We are in a time of mourning. And in fact, he says, not only do we mourn, but the whole of creation prevails together until the manifestation of the sons of God in Romans chapter 8.

So not only is the church mourning, but in fact, all of creation is mourning, waiting to be set free from the restrictions and the consequences of sin which has come upon the world. And so the whole world and creation is decaying and going backwards all the time because of sin which has come in because of Adam.

And so even creation, he says, is mourning and crying out for deliverance for the manifestation for the coming of the Lord Jesus. But the Holy Spirit has come and his function is to comfort us. And God is the God of all comfort.

All comfort. And you know, real comfort can only come from him. We try and comfort one another and we'll see in a moment that one of the sources of comfort is other Christians. We should be comforting one another.

But you know, sometimes our comfort for one another is very shallow. You know, we stand next to someone at a graveside and we say, well, you know, my condolences. What does that mean? It means absolutely nothing.

Because I'm not really in that person's position. I cannot take his sorrow and put it upon myself. I can't take some of his grief away. We're helpless in that situation. But God is the God of all comfort.

He is the one who's able to truly comfort us. He is the only one who truly understands how we feel in times of discouragement and particularly in times of mourning. And when we mourn over the things that we have spoken about, he mourns with us.