John 8:13-30 (How To Go To Hell In 4 Easy Steps)

John 8 and the Theme of Rejection

If you will, turn with me to the Gospel of John 8, verses 13 -30. As we're going to examine a larger section of text today than what we normally look at. Now, why are we looking at a larger section of text?

Because I believe that this has a consistent theme running throughout these passages. And the theme is laid out for us in verse 21, where Jesus says, I go away, and you will seek me, and you will die in your sins.

Where I am, you cannot come. Now, we've heard Jesus speaking this way before in John 7 -34, where he says, you will seek me, and you will not find me. And where I am, you cannot come. And as we discussed in those passages a couple weeks back, that this is Jesus forbidding those people from heaven.

He is looking at them and saying, you're going to seek me, but you're not going to find me. You're going to try hard, but you're not going to see me anymore. You're not going to be able to follow me. You're not going to be able to come where I'm going.

You are locked out of heaven. No matter how hard you try, no matter how hard you look for me, no matter how many books you read, no matter how many seminary courses you go to, no matter how much you pray, he is saying to them, they are forbidden from heaven.

They will knock, but the door will not be opened to them. Where he is going, they cannot come. That's what we spoke about a few weeks ago. Now, where Jesus is going, he's going to die. Six months after the passage in John 7, Jesus is going to be arrested and beaten and crucified.

But ultimately, he's not just going to a crucifixion, he's going to a resurrection. He's going to rise from the dead. And ultimately, even more than that, he's going to rise to heaven, to sit at the right hand of God and reign over his eternal kingdom.

He's going back to the Father. That's where he's going. That's where he says, you will seek for me, but you won't find me. You will try to follow me, but you can't come where I'm going. You can't come to heaven.

He says they will seek him, but they will not find him. There's not even the faintest possibility that Jesus leaves for that option. It's a certainty. Now, there is a difference between John 7, 24 and John 8.

John 7, 24 gives us a lot of details that Jesus is going to die. He's going to rise from the dead. He's going to ascend to heaven. He's going to do all of these things. And there's kind of a sort of a little bit of a subtle undertone in John 7 that the elect, that God's people, are going to be able to seek him.

They're going to be able to find him. And where he goes, they will end up going. So there's this, even under the surface of such a hard passage, there's this idea in John 7 that God's people, because of Christ, will be able to seek him, will be able to follow him, and will be in heaven.

John 8 does not speak about these things. John 8 is not to the elect. John 8 is not to God's people. This is describing the destination of the wicked. It says, I go away and you will seek me and you will die in your sins.

He's talking to the unbeliever. He's talking about those who remain in their sins. Those who are doomed to roam the earth without him and eventually and ultimately doomed to wander the halls of hell for an eternity.

They will not find him in this life. They will not find him in the next. That is what John 8 is saying. And because they're going to die in their sins, they're going to have no redemption. Because if you die in your sins and those sins have not been paid for, those are cosmic acts of treason against God.

That is insurrection against his holiness. And if you die in that state without your sins being paid for, then you die as enemies of a holy God. And if you die as an enemy of a holy God, you will not live with him.

You will live abandoned by him. You will be on a highway to hell with no exit ramp that can get you off of it. You will die in your sins. That's what Jesus is saying. You'll seek me. You will not find me.

And you will die in your sins. They have no choice in the matter. Jesus has already decided it. Now, that's a hard passage. But it's true. It's in his word. Today we're going to talk about it. We're going to talk about verses 13 through 30, and we're going to break it up into three sections.

The first is how to get to hell in four easy steps. If this were a BuzzFeed sermon, this would make perfect sense. Clickbait sermons. First point, how do you go to hell in four easy steps? The second point is what is hell?

We're going to talk about four realities of hell. And then the final thing we're going to talk about, after we've talked about four ways to go to hell and four realities of hell, we're going to talk about the one way to get to heaven, and it's through the way, the truth, the life, and that's Jesus Christ.

So let's turn to John 8 together. Verse 13. So the Pharisee said to him, You are testifying about yourself. Your testimony is not true. Jesus answered and said to them, Even if I testify about myself, my testimony is true.

I know where I came from, and I know where I'm going, but you do not know where I come from or where I'm going. You judge according to the flesh. I'm not judging anyone. But even if I do judge, my judgment is true, for I am not alone in it, but I am the Father who sent me.

Even in your law, it has been written that the testimony of two men is true. I am he who testifies about myself, and the Father who sent me testifies about me too. So they were saying to him, Where's your father?

Jesus answered, You know neither me nor my father. If you knew me, you would know my father also. These words he spoke in the treasury as he taught in the temple, and no one seized him because his hour had not yet come.

Then he said to them again, I go away, and you will seek me, and you will die in your sin. Where I am going, you cannot come. So the Jews were saying, Surely he will not kill himself, will he? Since he says, Where I am going, you cannot come.

And he was saying to them, You are from below, and I am from above. You are of this world, and I am not of this world. Therefore I said to you that you will die in your sins. For unless you believe that I am he, you will die in your sins.

He repeats it three times for certainty. They were saying to him, Who are you? Jesus said to them, What have I been saying to you from the beginning? I have many things to speak in a judge concerning you, but he who sent me is true.

And the things which I heard from him, these I speak to the world. They did not realize that he had been speaking to them about the Father. So Jesus said, When you lift up the Son of Man, then you will know that I am he, and I do nothing on my own initiative.

But I speak these things as the Father taught me, and he who sent me is with me. He has not left me alone, for I always do the things that are pleasing to him. And as he spoke these things, many came to believe.

A Prayer for Boldness and Faithfulness

Let's pray. Lord, under the surface of this passage is eternal realities that will result in not just physical life and death, but eternal life and death. Lord, I pray that we would examine them soberly.

I pray that we would examine them carefully. I pray that we would look at the truths that you have revealed in your word, and that, Lord, you would speak through your word. That, Lord, you would move beyond this shabby instrument, and that your voice would be the loudest, and that your voice would reign supreme, and that your word would echo through the walls of this church, and that, Lord, it would cause us to praise you.

Lord, if there's someone here who does not know you or maybe thinks that they know you, Lord, I pray that you would shake them out of slumber. Lord, I pray that if there's anyone listening to this who's not a Christian, that, Lord, you would save them.

Lord, I pray that salvation would happen even outside these walls as we go out into the world as missionaries, because hell and heaven lie in the balance, and you have appointed us to declare your good news in your word.

Lord, let us never shy away from declaring your word. Let us not cower at the parts of your word that are hard or difficult. Let us be bold instruments that declare the majesty of your gospel today and forever.

In Christ's name, amen. At the heart of John's book is a theme running from beginning to end of rejection. John 1, they came and they rejected Jesus as the light. It said that men love the darkness rather than the light, so they rejected him.

John 2, Jesus rejects them. He says, he knows the heart that's inside of man and he would not entrust himself to man, so therefore Jesus himself is rejecting them. John 8, we get to right here, is the final rejection where it means death in sins.

And we have to understand that that passage, that phrase, doesn't just mean physical death where we become worm food for trees. That is an eternal reality that is hanging over this text. Eternal death in sin.

And as we said, there's four reasons that that's the case. There's four ways that you can go to hell. And if you do any one of these four things, just one of them, then you will end up eternally separated from God.

Rejecting Christ and His Testimony

The first way to go to hell is to have a wrong view of Jesus Christ. It says in verse 13 and 14,. So the Pharisees said to him, you are testifying about yourself. Your testimony is not true. Jesus answered and said to them, even if I testify about myself, my testimony is true.

For I know where I came from and I know where I'm going, but you do not know where I came from or where I am going. They have rejected the testimony of Jesus Christ and not just the testimony at Tabernacles where he says, I am the light of the world.

But if they rejected that, that would be enough. They rejected not just the fact that he's the light, not just the fact that he's the living water that's going to supply them with all their needs. They have totally and utterly rejected the testimony of Jesus Christ.

And what is the testimony of Jesus Christ? It's what he said about himself this whole time. They've rejected what Jesus has said about himself. And in so doing, they have doomed themselves to an eternity separated from him.

They've rejected his testimony that he's the lamb of God who will take away the sins of the world, that he has divine authority in order to flip over temple tables in John 2. They've rejected his divine wisdom in John 3, his mission to the Gentiles and the Samaritans in John 4, his divine power to heal in John 5, his divine kingship in his kingdom in John 6, and in John 7, we introduced the idea of them rejecting his testimony.

They have totally and utterly rejected everything that Jesus has to say about himself. And when they do that, they don't just reject what Jesus says, they reject what Moses says because Moses was pointing to him.

And they reject what the prophets said because the prophets were prophesying about him. And they reject what David said because David was singing and playing music about Jesus. They have rejected the sum total testimony of God's word about his one and only son, and they're damned for it.

That teaches us something. Because when we reject Christ, we're not just rejecting a man. He is the man. The one and only son of God, the God man. But we're rejecting the entire word of God. Everything that God, by the authority of his Holy Spirit, desired that we would know about Jesus, when we reject him, we reject God.

Now for us today, we can take everything that Jesus said about himself and boil it down into 14 essential doctrines about Jesus that if you do not affirm each and every single one of them, you will be separated from God.

These are essential doctrines. 14 of them. And you're like, I can't remember a shopping list that goes above seven. That's okay. You don't have to remember each and every word that I say. It's the concepts that are important.

The first is that Jesus Christ is divine. He is equal with God. He does the works of God. He has the attributes of God. He is loving, perfect, holy, eternal, omnipotent. He has the attributes of God. He makes claims throughout the Gospels to be God.

He even accepts worship from other people showing that he is God. That would have been idolatry if he were anything short of God. When Thomas, at the end of the Gospel of John, cries out, my Lord and my God, Jesus does not rebuke him because he's God.

That's an essential doctrine. If you don't believe Jesus is God, then you'll die in your sins. That's the first. The second essential doctrine that we must understand if we're going to not go to hell is the humanity of Christ.

Jesus is not only divine, meaning that he was powerful enough to save us. He was human. That means he could stand in our place. He was human so that he could be a perfect sacrifice for you and I. And we learn this all throughout the Gospels about the humanity of Jesus Christ.

The prophets prophesied of his divinity, but they also prophesied of his humanity. He had a normal human body. He had weaknesses that are common to the human condition. He was hungry at times. He was thirsty at times.

He had to fall asleep. He fell asleep in the middle of a storm, and they had to wake him up. He was fully God and fully man, truly God, truly man. And on the cross, he died. His lungs stopped breathing.

His heart stopped beating. And they tossed him in a tomb, and he was dead for three days. This is an essential doctrine. And although it is difficult for us because none of us understand what it means to be fully God and fully man at the exact same time, they're both true.

They're both true. And if you don't hold both as true, you don't know the Christ of Scriptures. That's the second doctrine. The third is the virgin birth. If Jesus was not born of a virgin, then Genesis 3 .15 is not true.

And the other prophecies like Isaiah are not true. And if those prophecies are not true, then Jesus' ministry is invalidated. If he's not born of a virgin, then he inherited the sin nature of his father, Adam.

It says that Adam is the head of all who are in sin and all die in Adam because the male seed is what transfers the sinful flesh to each and every single offspring. So when Jesus died without a male father contributing to his birth, he did not inherit the sinful nature of Adam, and he became the father of a new covenant, a new head.

He was born sinless. Had that not happened, he would have been born in sin, and he could not save us. He had to be born of a virgin. If you reject that, you reject everything. The fourth doctrine is the sinlessness of Jesus.

He was born not in sin. He was born perfect, but he still lived perfectly. Every moment of his life, every breath through his lungs, there was not a toddler temper tantrum that set him at odds with God.

He must be God. I have toddlers. Not one impure thought, not one temptation, cave two, not a single lie, not a single half-truth. He did in 33 years, every day, every second, every moment, what we cannot do for a single hour.

He was perfect. To not believe this is to limit his sacrifice. It's to limit his sufficiency, and it's ultimately to throw out the entire gospel. It must be believed, or you do not know Christ. The fifth doctrine is that Christ is the prophet.

You may not have heard this term before, but he's the one who brings the words of God to the people of God. He's the final prophet. He's the one who comes, and he ends the Old Testament covenant era, and he gives us new revelation from God.

Thus saith the Lord, ended with Jesus Christ, and he gave us a good, and sufficient, and final word. He's the prophet, the final prophet. He's the true high priest. Because you and I could not live in relationship with God in the old temple covenant system.

Lambs and bulls and goats were not sufficient to take away our sin. So we needed a better high priest. We needed a man who would be like the Old Testament priest and would bring us and bear us into the presence of God.

In the Old Testament book of Exodus, I think it's chapter 28. I didn't write it down, so maybe it is. Maybe it's not. But in that passage, it talks about the high priest's clothing. And in his clothing, he has two shoulder pads.

It looks like he's going to war because he is a sinner entering into the presence of God. And in those shoulder pads are six stones on this side and six stones on this side. And on those stones are written the names of Israel.

The symbolic representation is that one man is bearing the people into the presence of God. This is who Jesus Christ is. One perfect man who bears his people perfectly and forever into the presence of God.

And he's not a priest of Aaron. He's a priest after the order of Melchizedek, which means he is better, his priesthood is eternal, and it can never end. If we don't believe that he is our mediating priest, then we are locked out of the presence of God with no hope of ever getting in.

He's the true king after the line of David. And as a king, he brought a better kingdom so that you and I could be citizens. If we're not in the kingdom of God and we don't believe that Jesus is a good and great and righteous king, then we're still under the tyranny of Satan.

We're still lost. That's number seven. The eighth essential doctrine is that Christ experienced humiliation. It says in Philippians 2 that even though he was in the form of God, he did not consider equality with God as a thing to be grasped, but he humbled himself and he made himself in the form of a slave so that he could come to earth and rescue us.

You see, God for all of eternity lived in heaven. There was nothing but perfection for Jesus Christ, and yet he wrapped himself with corruptible, broken, limited human flesh. He humbled himself to the point of being born into the story that he himself authored.

And he humbled himself even further than that because he not only lived in this wretched world that we live in, he also allowed the creatures that he created to murder him. He was humiliated on a cross, hung naked, despised, scorned, beaten, pierced, broken for us.

If we don't believe that that's what Jesus went through for us, we're not Christians. We're just not. Along with his humiliation, Jesus Christ, the ninth doctrine, is Jesus Christ experienced an incredible exaltation.

Like I said earlier, he didn't just go to be crucified, he went to be resurrected. And he was exalted in an exalted body in his resurrection. He told Mary, don't touch me right now because I've got to appear before God.

His body experienced a change in his resurrection so that now he had an exalted body, a glorified body. And 40 days after all of his glorified appearances to his apostles, where he was appearing to them as a resurrected Christ, he was exalted by ascending to the right hand of God, sitting on the throne of God, reigning over the kingdom of God until he stands up and he returns as exalted Lord.

The time that Jesus stands is when human history ends. Because ever since the resurrection and ascension, he's been sitting down at the throne, reigning over his kingdom. So when Christ stands, the end is here.

History is over. And it says in Philippians that every knee will bow and every tongue will confess this exalted Lord of glory. Whether we do so willingly and joyfully because we've been saved and we see the author of our faith, we see the one that we've been worshiping for a lifetime, and we bow down before him and we confess with our tongue, and we enter into heaven, or whether in that moment we're made to bow down out of terror.

We're made to bow down because of his holiness. We're made to bow down in our fear and we confess, dear God, what have I done? And we're cast out into the eternal darkness. This Lord is exalted. And how you respond to him, both now and in eternity, matters.

These doctrines are essential. The tenth doctrine that's essential is that Christ is sacrifice. There's five basic doctrines that deal with this, or four basic doctrines that deal with this, that Christ is the sacrifice.

The first is that just in general, he is the sacrifice that we've all been waiting for. He's the one that fulfills every type and every shadow of the Old Testament. The Old Testament sacrificial system was to bring us back into fellowship with God.

But the prophets say that the blood of bulls and goats are not enough. Every time you sin, an animal had to die because it was unlimited sacrifice. And you look around at your flocks and you look around at your herds and you realize that you don't have that many left if you're honest with yourself.

And if you're really doing what God has called you to do, so maybe you fake it a little bit, maybe you fluff through it a little bit. But your sin is so serious to God that it requires death. So Jesus Christ, the perfect, ultimate, holy sacrifice ended all sacrifices.

That's why there is no more temple. It's not just because the Romans decided to burn it to the ground. It's because God himself decided to end the Old Testament system. There's no need for the blood of bulls and goats when the blood of Jesus Christ is authored a better covenant.

He's our true Passover lamb. He's the one. Remember the Passover in the Old Testament where the blood is painted over the doorpost so that the angel of death will pass over. Jesus Christ has painted the blood of the lamb on our hearts so that death itself passes over us and we enter into eternal life.

If you don't believe that, then death is coming for you. And death will not pass over you. And death will grab you and wrestle you like a Louisiana alligator down to the bottom and you will be dead. He's the hope of the burnt offerings.

Do you know in the burnt offerings they burnt the animal whole and then they carried it outside of the city towards the east. Jesus was sacrificed whole on a cross. He was carried out of the city and buried in a garden temple to the east.

He's the hope of the burnt offerings. He's the true grain offering. The grain offering represented provision of God. He's growing our crops. He's giving us food. He's supplying us. Jesus came and said, I am the bread, the living bread.

I am the provision of God. Bread is not enough. You have to live on every word of God. Jesus is the one that God provided for us. He's the hope of the grain offering. Finally, he's the true peace offering, the true sin offering, the true guilt offering because he gives us peace with God.

He forgives our sins that we have as an offense to God. And he doesn't just forgive our sins. He heals our guilt and our shame that we have perpetrated against God. All of that is in that 10th doctrine that he's our perfect sacrifice.

But in that sacrifice, he's also atoned for us. This is number 11. Christ has atoned for his people. If you don't believe that, you're not a Christian. If you don't believe that, you've not got forgiveness of sins.

J .I. Packer said, atonement means making amends. It means blotting out our offense and giving satisfaction for the wrong that has been done, reconciling to oneself the alienated other and restoring the disrupted relationship.

If it were not for his death on the cross, making amends for our sin and reconciling us back into relationship with God, there would be no salvation and our faith would be in vain and we may as well just go home and eat, drink and be merry.

It's not important. Number 12, these are maybe terms you've never heard before. Maybe terms that you are likely to get confused. That's okay. I do too. But Christ is our expiation and our propitiation.

Expiation means that he takes our guilt. Propitiation means he takes God's wrath. So the point is that Jesus stands in between us and God and he takes our sin, the vile, ugly, wretched sin poured out on him from us.

And because of that, he takes God's wrath protecting us like a mighty dam keeping a flood water from landing on a small child. He stands right in between us and he takes our guilt and he takes God's wrath so that we can walk away free.

If we don't believe that, then we're not Christians and there is no hope. The final two, both deal with sacrifice as well, is that Christ is our substitute, meaning that he traded places with us. He died on the cross that bore our name and he let us sit down as princes and princesses, kings and queens, on chairs that we should have never sat down upon.

He took our offense and gave us his good pleasure. He took our perversions and gave us his perfections. Without that great exchange, there is no hope. I hear many, many, many people talking about how Jesus forgave us of our sins.

That's the whole game, right? But if you don't also couple that with he gave us something in return, then we still have no hope. Jesus Christ could have wiped out an infinite debt so that we stumble into heaven with a zero balance.

That's not enough. If he doesn't also deposit in us his righteousness so that the debt is not only paid, but so that our wage that we need to enter into heaven to be with God is also paid, it's both. He takes our sin and cancels our debt and then he deposits in us his righteousness.

He's our substitute, our perfect substitute, and because of that, which all of these doctrines point, all 14 of them, all 13 of them, point to this one, he is our reconciliation. He came, he lived, he died, was sacrificed, rose from the dead, ascended to heaven.

He did all of this so that he could reconcile you and I to God. And again, we don't need to know all of the theological terms. We just need to know the point of all of these doctrines is that he came and did what we could not do and he gave us what we could not earn so that he could reconcile us to a God that we did not deserve to know.

Any other belief than what we've just stated about Christ is an imaginary Jesus. It's a made-up Jesus. It's not a biblical Jesus. And imaginary Jesuses don't save you. How much better to simply believe the biblical Christ?

That's the first way that you can go to heaven or you can go to hell, is reject one of those doctrines, just one. The second way that you can go to hell and it's easy as well to do, the second easy way, is to remain in your flesh.

Think about it. If you reject one of those 14 doctrines and you reject Christ, and if you reject Christ, then the way that you're going to be saved is through perfection. The way that you're going to be saved is through you've rejected Jesus and the 14 doctrines that he did for us, and therefore now you are on the hook and you are responsible for those 14 doctrines all by yourself.

You need to be God in order to be powerful enough to save yourself, but you're not that. So let's move on to the next one. You need to be human. Okay, good. You check that box. So far, so good. You need to be born of a virgin so that you're not born into your sin nature.

Anyone done that? I'd like to meet your mother. I will tell her that she is a liar. Just in case you could do that one, you have to perfectly obey the law from the moment that you were born until the moment that you die.

Again, no toddler temper tantrums. You have to understand Scripture like no one else has understood Scripture and understand God in a way that pleases God. The point is you can't. We've only been through four of them, and you can't.

We have an inability that exists fundamentally down into our nature that we cannot please God. And we not only know that from Scripture. Romans says that there's none righteous, no, not one. There's none that does what pleases God.

We know that from Scripture. Human experience teaches us this as well. There's not a single day that you didn't do something that you're like, why did I do that? There's not a single day that you don't raise your voice or tell some kind of fib or do something shady or act in such a way towards your spouse or toward your loved one or toward someone else or cut someone off and then say, serves them right.

There's not a day where you don't do something where you're like, where did that come from? I'm a Christian. I didn't act like it just then. Maybe you're fudging your golf score. I mean, we, there's not a day that goes by where we don't do something.

Like Paul says, we do the things that we don't want to do and we don't do the things that we do want to do. There's not a day. John says, if you say that you have no sin, you're a liar. We don't have what it takes.

We don't have the power. We don't have the intelligence. We don't have the ability and we don't have the virtue in order to save ourselves and rescue ourselves. So therefore, if you're going to reject Jesus, then you're going to live in your flesh.

And if you're going to live in your flesh, then you are doomed. That's the second easy way to go to hell is to reject Christ and live in your flesh because your flesh is not enough. John 8, 15 through 16 says, you judge according to the flesh.

That's the indictment. Jesus is saying your judgment is perverted and it's fleshly. He says, I'm not judging anyone. But even if I do, my judgments are true. For I'm not alone in it, but I and the Father who sent Me.

His judgments are not fleshly because His judgments are the Father's. You see the juxtaposition. He's saying you are damned because you are judging according to the flesh. My judgments are from God. Now there's so much we could say in this passage.

His testimony is true. His judgments are true. All 14 attributes of Jesus are true. We trust that if we believe in God, but they did not trust that because they could not believe. Jesus said, you will seek Me, but I will not allow you to find Me.

They will attempt to follow Him, but He will not allow them to find Him. They are going to die in their sins because they live in the flesh. And because Jesus is leaving them in their flesh. He's not rescuing them out of their flesh.

How does someone be rescued out of the flesh? By the Spirit of God coming in and dwelling inside of them. And if you don't have the Spirit of God, then your flesh is not pleasing to God. Look at what Paul says in Romans 8.

For the mind set on the flesh is death, but the mind set on the spirit is life and peace because the mind set on the flesh is hostile towards God. It does not subject itself to the law of God for it is not able to do so.

For those who are in the flesh cannot please God. What Paul is saying is that salvation cannot come from the flesh because you cannot on your own please God. John 3, Jesus talks about the Spirit and the sovereignty of the Holy Spirit, that He goes wherever He wills.

If He has not willed to go into a person, then that person remains in the flesh. And if that person remains in the flesh, they cannot please God. But if the Holy Spirit has determined to go inside of a person, then they will live.

That's what He's saying. We don't make a decision for God and then get the Spirit. The Spirit awakens us to make a decision for God. Without that, we can't. It says the flesh cannot please God. How could you choose God in the flesh if you can't please God?

You can't. Only if the Spirit comes inside of you can you choose God. Because your flesh is that toxic and that pervert and that mangled. Sin is so serious. We often don't give it the credit that it deserves.

It's so serious that it renders us dead. Jesus doesn't walk up to a blind person and tells them to open their eyes. He walks up to a corpse. And they can't respond to Him. And they can't choose Him. And He looks at them and He performs a resurrection.

And then when they open their eyes, then they choose Him. Then they run to Him. That is what happened to you and I when we were saved. We were dead in our trespasses and He raised us to life. And when our eyes were opened, then we cried out to Jesus.

Then we cried out to God. Then we ran to our Savior. Before that, we were dead. We were living in the flesh. And again, God is just. Even for those who are never awakened, God is just. God didn't have to save anyone.

He says that in the day that you eat of the fruit of the tree, you will surely die. He didn't have to save a single human person. We chose our sin and it wasn't by accident. You hear politicians all the time saying, oh, it was a mistake that I cheated on my wife.