How Do You Leave a Church?

There are times when leaving a church might be necessary, but there's a right and wrong way to do it.

Don't just up and leave. Here are five helpful guidelines you should follow. 1. Pray.

Really, there's no decision you should jump into that you haven't prayed about. 2. Talk to your current pastor.

If you're moving or thinking about moving, perhaps because of a job or because of family, ask for his counsel and to pray with you.

If you're uncomfortable in your current church, it is especially important to talk to your pastor. Don't be vague or cryptic.

Share what's on your heart. 3. Consider your motives. Why do you want to leave? Is the reason doctrinal?

Is it because of sin or a personal conflict? Can it be resolved? Do everything you can to reconcile any broken relationships.

4. Exercise grace and look for how God has been working in that church. If you cannot see grace there, examine your heart again because the problem is probably you.

5. Be humble. And give others the benefit of the doubt. You don't have all the facts, and the same measure of judgment you use will be used against you.

If you still decide you must leave, don't divide the body further, sowing discord in the hearts of those who remain. The Bible is very clear regarding what

God thinks about those who cause division among brothers. Avoid gossip. That includes venting.

Instead, be charitable. Even if there is hurt, you still must forgive, as you have also been forgiven.

Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you have been called in one body and be thankful when we understand the text.