Biblical Authority and Submission: The Twin Pillars of a Godly Marriage - The Husband's Role, Part 6

It is time to begin, huh?

Ephesians 5 and the Context for Marriage and Submission

All right. Well as we Do that once you open your Bibles, let's start there. Your Bible is open to the fifth chapter of Paul's letter to the church at Ephesus.

Ephesians.

Chapter 5. Ephesians chapter 5. And We'll begin with the word of prayer our father. What a delight to return together again to this marvelous text.

We pray.

For clarity this morning clarity in terms of what I say and clarity in terms of those who hear to be able to receive it. Father, we know that when we Study the scriptures together we in a very real way enter into your presence and it's our desire That your spirit would do his good work in us this morning.

There's something here for all of us father and we know that to be true we know it in faith so we pray that you would help us to unite that faith with a with a receiving.

Spirit.

That we might.

Find that place in our lives where we need to change. They become more like Christ. And so we ask your spirits help in that in Jesus name. Amen. All right. Welcome. Come on all in. We are in the fifth chapter Ephesians chapter 5 and I think what we'll do is Go back and read the whole Section again, just kind of set the context because we're we are at the last Session on.

Marriage.

This morning we finished the marriage section this morning. Next week we come back in chapter 6 and we have two messages with regard to child raising. So Teaching your child to do right in a world that does wrong.

So that's chapter 6 early part and then we have three with regard to Slavery, and of course, we will be making application of that since we don't live in a slave culture. We will make application To employment and I think there is some good application that we can make with regard to that.

So that's the plan. That's the plan. But let's read the text and Get ourselves started here so beginning in verse 15 of the fifth chapter. Therefore Paul says be careful how you walk not as unwise men, but as wise.

Making the most of your time because the days are evil. So then do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is. And do not get drunk with wine for that is dissipation, but be filled by the Spirit.

Speaking to one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs. Singing and making melody with your heart to the Lord and always giving thanks for all things in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ to God even the Father and be subject to one another in the fear of Christ.

Wives to your own husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ also is the head of the church. He himself Being the Savior of the body. But as the church is subject to Christ, so also wives ought to be to their husbands in everything.

Husbands love your wives just as Christ also loved the church and gave himself up for her. So that he might sanctify her having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word. That he might present to himself the church in all her glory.

Having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing. But that she would be holy and blameless. So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it just as Christ also does the church.

Because we are members of his body. For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and shall be joined to his wife and the two shall become one flesh. This mystery is great, but I am speaking with reference to Christ and church nevertheless each individual among you also is to love his own wife even as himself and The wife must see to it that she respects her husband.

So in a bit of a review, let's just kind of Review the bidding here as it were. We looked and not only remember I was gonna check how many weeks ago it was but it was now months. It should be measured in months ago that we looked at the aspects seven of them of a wife's submission seven aspects of a wife's submission and we noted that a wife's Submission is voluntary.

It is voluntary. In other words like all obedience to Christ. It is a it is a voluntary Work on the part of the believer and we noted as well that there is no place where a husband is commanded to make his wife Submit to him because that would be an impossibility.

Secondly, we learned that the wife's submission is specific to your own husband not all men generally one woman to one man. We also learned that the wife's submission is devotional as to the Lord. It is an act of devotion.

It is an act of worship. Fourth we learned that it is comprehensive Comprehensive and we saw that in the end of verse 24 to their husbands in everything. Everything is a comprehensive kind of word. So a wife's submission is comprehensive and then fifth respectful respectful.

We saw that in verse 33 see that she respects her husband. Sixth that it is difficult difficult that a wife's Submission is a difficult Reality that she is called to and in fact, it is an impossibility unless Back to verse 18.

She is being filled by the Spirit. It is the fruit of a spirit-filled life that is true of a wife. It is true a Christian husband as well and seventh and finally that a wife's submission to her husband is beautiful it is an absolutely beautiful act and Then we turn to the husband's and for the husband's we have 14 Characteristics as is only fair because that's the way Paul wrote it.

It's the way Paul wrote it. We have 14 there 14 characteristics of the husband's authority So that we might understand it Appreciate it and exercise it in a Christ honoring fashion in both our homes and our marriages.

There we noted that a husband's authority is Unavoidable it is an unavoidable authority. The husband is the head of the wife. That is an indicative statement. It's a statement of reality. It is an unavoidable authority secondly that the husband's authority is covenantal it is covenantal a particular man assumes the responsibilities of leadership authority over a particular woman when they exchange vows pledging their loyalty and declaring their respective responsibilities to each other in the covenant of marriage.

A husband's authority is covenantal.

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The husband's authority is reflective. It is a reflective authority and the model for the husband's exercise of his authority is Christ Himself and we see that just as Christ We saw forth that the husband's authority is primary.

It is a primary authority because the man is the one who initiates the covenant. He is the one who initiates the covenant and we see that in a wedding ceremony where the husband always makes the first vows and the wife or the Yeah, I guess the wife to be when she finishes she is.

She responds to his vows. So that makes it such that he bears the primary Responsibility for the state of his own marriage because he is primary in the covenant. That doesn't mean that the wife is not responsible before God for her own sin.

Yes, she is. Or that she has no authority in the home. But it does mean in the final analysis. He must take the action to grow and strengthen the state of his marriage and not try to slough off his responsibilities on to his wife.

His authority is primary. Fifth the husband's authority is loving it is loving in other words It is patterned after the relationship. We saw this over in first Corinthians 11 between father and son between son and the church and thus between husband and wife.

Husband's love for his wife must be tender. It must be knowledgeable and it must be effectual as the love of Christ is for his.

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Sixth the husband's authority is Sacrificial sacrificial. A husband uses his authority to serve his wife in the various Spheres of the marriage and the home. It is a sacrificial authority. Seven it is protective.

It is a protective authority. Christian husband uses his authority to protect his wife rather than take advantage of her. And this protection is physical it is spiritual and it is emotional. Husband's authority is a protective authority.

Eight the husband's authority is life-giving. Life-giving as a man naturally cares tenderly for his own body. Paul tells us so he ought to care tenderly for his wife because they are one body. Having become one flesh through the covenant of marriage.

Nine. Husband's authority is convicting. I looked at this last week. The husband's authority is Convicting. The Christian husband contemplates the weightiness of his God assigned authority he becomes convicted of both his sin and his shortcomings in the areas of his marriage and He recognizes that he does not love and does not serve like Christ does.

And that is Convicting. It is convicting. And I'm glad it is not left there, huh? Glad it's not left there. Because 10th the husband's authority is sanctifying sanctifying. Because the Spirit uses his word to convict us as husbands of our shortcomings and our sins.

We are driven back to the gospel of grace whereby we find forgiveness and the courage to try again and. This sanctifying process is designed to make us like Christ. To make us like Christ. We do not become like Christ without adversity and.

Then I gave you a riddle last week. I said if you want to be like Christ don't get married. And if you want to be like Christ get married. You want to be like Christ don't get married if you want to be like Christ get married.

In other words, if you want to be like Christ who was never married then don't get married. But if you want to be like Christ in terms of growing in holiness. There is nothing better than marriage. Because marriage will bring you face-to-face.

With your sin and your shortcomings in a way that no other relationship can. You've heard me say before too many rats in the same cage inevitably produces conflict. Marriage produces conflict. It produces conflict that is Unavoidable.

The question becomes is how is the conflict resolved? Is it resolved in a Christian fashion through confession and forgiveness? Repentance then it is to grow in the likeness of Christ in that way. It provides a tremendous opportunity for Christian growth.

So you want to be like Christ get married. Get married and learn to love and serve learn to love and serve. That takes us to number 11 and we will finish this morning number 11. The husband's authority is illustrative.

Marriage as an Illustration of Christ and the Church

The husband's authority is illustrative verse 30 here in chapter 5. Where he says because we are members of his body. For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and shall be joined to his wife and the two shall become one flesh.

This mystery is great, but I am speaking with reference to Christ in the church. Now these verses here verses 30 to 32 now create a bit of a but I would call it digression for the Apostle Paul. It's not a complete digression like he's not completely off-topic, but he he has moved in these verses.

He does move. And he moves from a discussion. Primarily of the husband's role in a marriage to elaborate upon the mystery of Christ the mystery of Christ in his church. Something that he has been weaving in and out of his teaching going all the way back to verse 22, right?

Be subject to your own husband's as to the Lord so so this mystery of Christ and his church has been has been moving in and out in in and out of the text along the way and. Now in a little more focused fashion.

He he takes this digression. You see for example in verse 32 where he says.

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Am speaking with reference to Christ in the church. So that means I'm not speaking primarily in reference to a husband and his wife. I am speaking in reference to Christ and the church and then notice down to verse 33 where we begin with the word nevertheless.

Which indicates that this digression is ending and he is returning back to the topic which he does. Nevertheless each individual among you also ought to love his own wife as himself. And the wife must see to it that she respects her husband so he rounds it out by returning back directly to the topic at hand, but we have a digression here and.

This digression is really significant actually, it's very significant and there is a profound truth located here for us. Now notice at the end of verse 29. He says just as Christ also does the church because we are members of his body.

In other words, we are members of the body of Christ. And so Christ cares for us. He cares for us and his care for us becomes a perfect example a perfect example for the husband to care for his wife. Christ.

Care for the church is the reality. The husband's care for his wife is the imperfect reflection of that reality. So the reality is lodged in the care of Christ for his church that profound theological truth.

And then the husband for us our care for our wives is simply the imperfect reflection of the reality of Christ's care for his church. For this reason Paul continues verse 31 he's quoting now Genesis 2 24 for this reason and.

There in Genesis 2 24 we see the original reason given for marriage. For this reason, right? So this is a direct quote here for this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and shall be joined to his wife.

And the two shall become one flesh now for what reason. And and for that we really should turn back to Genesis. So go back to Genesis 2 where we see the original text Paul's Quoting here verse 24 for this reason a man shall leave his father's mother.

The obvious question is for what reason? For what reason shall a father leave or excuse me? A man leave his father and his mother and we find that in verse 18 actually here in Genesis. The man's the Lord God said it is not good for a man to be alone.

I will make a helper suitable for him. There's the reason that verse 24 a man leaves his father and his mother and is joined to his wife. That is the reason given back in Genesis chapter 2 shoot back to Ephesians 5 with me now.

And it is it is the logic. It is the logic for Paul's words here in verse 28 about husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies the logic. Behind it is because they are one flesh. They are one flesh.

But there's something more than this there's something more significant to this and. And here in verse 30 What we see is that the Paul is now referring to it if I can call it this way a deeper truth or deeper reality.

Because we are members of his body. Because we are members of his body. Paul calls this look at verse 32 a mystery. He calls it a mystery. This mystery is great. What mystery Paul did a husband and wife become one flesh?

That's a mystery in a sense. I mean it but no that's not the mystery. He's talking about I Am speaking with reference to Christ and the church. That's the mystery. He's talking about. That's the deeper reality that lies behind Genesis 2 24.

Is It not good for a man to be alone should he have a helper suitable to him? Absolutely. Was it a deficiency in the original creation? Yes a temporary one. It was not good God said and then it is very good, but it is not just that Horizontal reality it is not just that there's actually something far deeper than that going on.

And Paul is addressing it here in what he calls the mystery the mystery. Now in the book of Ephesians Paul's talks about the mystery a lot. He speaks of the mystery a lot and what is it? It is the reference to the reconciliation of Jew and Gentile together in one body Bert by virtue of their faith union with Christ.

It's something that was previously unforeseen in the Old Testament, but has now been made manifest in the new. This mystery we learn in chapter 1 and verse 4. Was predestined by the father before the foundation of the world, right?

Just as he chose us in Christ before the foundation of the world that we would be holy and blameless before him. It was something accomplished in time and space through the death burial resurrection and ascension of Christ.

We see that verse 9 he made known to us the mystery of his will according to his kind intention. Which he purposed in him we go over to chapter 3. Verses 3 and 4. By revelation that was made known to me the mystery as I wrote before in brief by referring to this when you read it.

You can understand my insight into the mystery of Christ verse 9. To bring to light. What is the administration of the mystery which for ages has been hidden in God who created all things in chapter 6 and verse 19.

Pray on my behalf that utterance may be given to me in the opening of my mouth to make known with boldness the mystery of the gospel the mystery. The mystery is this that which was Unforeseen in the old and now revealed here in the new is that Jew and Gentile on equal footing by virtue of their faith union.

When Christ now stand perfect in the sight of the Father. Now back to Ephesians 5 I think we can say about verse 31 simply this. Paul is saying that ultimately God instituted marriage. Because the church is Christ's body.

I Want you to think about that? Paul is saying here ultimately the ultimate the deep reason if I were to speak like CS Lewis the deep magic. Behind all of this is the reality that God Instituted marriage not just for human flourishing it does that but that is not a sufficient reason in and of itself.

It is ultimately because the church is Christ's body. Therefore that means God designed marriage to illustrate this deep reality.

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Just like the husband's authority is unavoidable here in verse 23, right? The husband is the head of the wife. So Marriage is unavoidable in that it paints a picture of the gospel. Let me stop there and think about that.

The ultimate reality the deep truth is the relationship of Christ and his church. Marriage marriage illustrates that reality. It illustrates that reality. That is transformational that it's absolutely.

Transformational.

Well in what way? Well, how about this first and foremost? It means marriage is not about our happiness. It is about the glory of God. It is about the glory of God that lifts it completely out of the horizontal plane and elevates it.

It elevates it. My marriage your marriage is about the glory of God. And That changes everything about the way we view marriage. About the way we view it men. By virtue of God's design. By virtue of God's design.

Through our marriage. We cannot refrain from speaking about Christ and his church. That is the the deep reality of which marriage is the reflection. Marriage is the illustration that means. How we conduct ourselves in our marriage is is illustrating what we believe about Christ and his church.

If we are faithfully lovingly and Sacrificially serving our wives gentlemen. Then we are communicating accurately about how Christ faithfully loves and Sacrificially serves his bride the church. But if we are self-absorbed If we are neglectful if we are harsh or Detached then we are communicating that Christ is that way toward his church.

And that's blasphemous. That is blasphemous. Every marriage paints a picture of Christ in his church. Every marriage paints a picture of Christ in his church. It is an unavoidable reality because God designed marriage to be the illustration of the deep truth of Christ in his church.

Now that could be discouraging. It could be discouraging if you've painted a terrible picture. It could be but here's what the gospel comes in. Right. Here's where the gospel intersects this the reality is that through the gospel We can rebuild what the locusts have eaten.

We can rebuild what the locusts have eaten.

Gospel Renewal and the Spirit-Filled Life in Marriage

How.

Romans chapter 12 is how I Don't want to get lost here, but I don't want to leave you either with a boat anchor rather than a life preserver. So go to Romans chapter 12 Verses 1 2 where Paul writes.

Therefore I urge you brethren by the mercies of God to present your bodies a living and holy sacrifice Acceptable to God which is your spiritual service of worship and do not be conformed to this world.

But be transformed by the renewing of your mind So that you may prove what the will of God is that which is good and acceptable and perfect. We are to remember the mercies of God. In other words, we are to remember what God in Christ has done for us.

And you know what if you can't remember anything else remember this chapter 5 in verse 1. What Paul writes. Therefore having been justified by faith we have peace with God Through our Lord Jesus Christ.

In other words. God is at peace with us. It's not about whether we're having we're at peace with him. That's irrelevant. It's a it's a byproduct. It's that through the gospel. We are justified and God is at peace with us.

So we remember that reality. Secondly, we relinquish. We relinquish ourselves to serve God. We relinquish ourselves to serve God and second thirdly We resist the world's attempt to conform us to its Corrupted way of thinking and then forth we renew our minds.

We renew our minds. That is the process of gospel change that is gentlemen and ladies.

The only means.

By which we can repaint the pictures of our marriages and it's something by the way that will repaint many many times Many many times back to Ephesians 5. And as I told you many many months ago now this entire section is dependent upon.

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Indicative this yes this commands imperative to be filled by the Spirit. In other words the Playing out of the wife's roles and the husband's roles are the reality of being a walking by the Spirit. This is what walking by the Spirit looks like.

So what it looks like in a marriage for man? This is what it looks like in a marriage for a woman. Get down to chapter 6. This is what it'll look like for a child. We'll get a little further and this is what it'll look like for a slave.

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Walking by the Spirit. So the husband's authority is illustrative number 12 12. A husband's authority is evangelistic. A husband's authority is evangelistic. Because marriage is designed to communicate deep truth about the relationship of Christ in his church.

It is unavoidably Evangelistic is unavoidably evangelistic. Think about it this way. All other religions in all other religions the worshippers purpose lies in serving the deity. Their purpose lies in serving the deity.

Christianity alone is a relationship between the believer and a loving father that has been Brought about by God taking to himself human flesh and coming to serve and save his people. That it's entirely Revolutionary.

And different than all other religions all other religions Christianity stands apart. And that vision of Christian marriage that Paul's been painting for us here beginning in verse 22 and running all the way To 33 that flips the world on its head.

That flips the world on its head. It is not the normal experience of fallen man For whom marriages is about seeking my needs and giving in order to get it flips it on its complete head. It's now about what can I give?

How can I serve? How can I emulate the one who came and served and gave everything? That I might be a child of God. For many men marriage could be summed up as happy wife happy life.

Right and.

That becomes the focus. That becomes the focus and That focus plays out with either an abdication of authority in order to keep peace in the home Just give her her way which by the way, so is the seed of frustration and discontentment or It's to indulge your wife might materially just just buy your stuff buy her off.

And at the same time you go ahead and indulge yourself while you're at it. Happy wife happy life. Give her what she wants buy her off. But Paul's vision of marriage is so much different, isn't it? It is a visual display of the sacrificial love of Christ for his bride.

And that is so different than people cannot help but notice it. They can't help it and When they notice it, they will ask questions. They will ask questions of you and it's an answering those questions of why we Sacrificially love our wives gentlemen.

It's an answering those questions ladies about why you respectfully submit to your husband's authority in marriage. That we can naturally speak about the change that Christ has brought in us. Why do we live counterculturally?

It's because we're not of this world. Our values are not derived from this world. We're of the world to come. We're citizens of the world to come and we are in the power of the Spirit. Beginning to live out that reality in the here and now.

We can speak about the life-changing power of the gospel of Christ. And we can do it in our homes. Assuming we open our homes and let the world in.

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Assuming we have relationships with those who know not Christ in which there are abundant opportunities for children's school teachers and music teachers and sports coaches and neighbors and Extended family members and co-workers and on and on it goes.

Even fellow believers who are just coming to terms to what it means to be a Christian husband or a wife. There are tremendous opportunity of a gospel growth here. As we live out our faith in our marriage.

As they observe and speak with other believers who are a bit further along in being in their marriages under the sanctifying power of the Holy Spirit they are drawn ever deeper into the gospel husband's authority is Evangelistic it is evangelistic.

The Stabilizing Effect of Godly Husbands on Home and Society

It is preaching all the time all the time. 13 the husband's authority is stabilizing. Stabilizing this is not news to anybody, but the American home is in trouble. The American home is in trouble and with it.

So is our overall societal health. We are in serious trouble. We have generationally broken marriages now. We have an abundance of single mothers. Absentee fathers and That has produced conditions in which poverty and substance abuse and childhood trauma thrive.

Thrive we are watching the dissolution of our culture and in response to these conditions the federal government has stepped into the void and begun to act as a surrogate husband a Surrogate husband Who tries to provide for the vulnerable?

And while this substitution of husbands with regard to single moms may provide a measure of temporary relief in the long run it just further elbows men to the sidelines and reinforces the antisocial behavior.

It is a death spiral. Beloved the antidote to societal destruction caused by broken marriages is the gospel. It is the gospel that is the antidote. It's the only antidote. As men are regenerated by the Holy Spirit and place their faith in the finished work of Christ.

They receive the spiritual power and motivation to change the direction of their lives. Society is transformed. One person at a time marriage is transformed one person at a time one conversion at a time.

Once converted the men are no longer aimless. No longer seeking temporal pleasure. They now begin to emulate a life of Christ their Savior a life of service. And the place where this shows up best is at the very basis of all human society and that is marriage.

That is marriage. Godly husbands who are sacrificially loving and serving their wives provide a stable home environment regardless of income levels. Regardless of income it is the single biggest predictor Of childhood delinquency.

It is not income it is not income and Those who do not provide are vulnerable regardless of the size of the paycheck. Godly fathers teach their sons how to lovingly lead a woman by example by example.

Their sons recognize that a woman is God's wonderful creation and image bearer. Not an object to be used to satisfy their unholy desires and ambitions. Where do men learn how to treat a woman they learn from their father?

They learn from their father.

Men as your sons watch you lovingly serve and lead your wife. They learn what it looks like to be a godly man and a godly husband. Christian fathers teach their daughters by word and deed. What a god what godly male love and affection looks like.

So that those young ladies don't seek substitutes from other men whose motives may be far less pure. People talk a lot about social justice these days, don't they? Talk about social justice. I believe the greatest social justice movement would be for Christian husbands to begin to take seriously their roles their responsibilities in their homes.

To recapture Paul's Gospel vision for marriage and display it in the public.

Arena.

The Attractiveness of Christlike Husbandly Authority

14 a husband's authority is attractive. We'll finish here. A Husband's authority is attractive. It is attractive. Remember we said that a woman's submission is beautiful and it is. And a husband's Authority when exercised in emulation of Christ is Attractive.

It is attractive. God has woven his wisdom into the creation. He has woven it into the creation. Let me. If you don't know this you need to. So take a look at Proverbs chapter 6 as just one example of many.

If you've never thought about this Maybe this is a new thought for you. God has woven his wisdom into the creation. Proverbs chapter 6. Verses 6 through 8. Go to the ant Oh sluggered observe her ways and be wise.

Which having no chief officer or ruler prepares her food in the summer and gathers her provision in the harvest. How long will you lie down Oh sluggered and when will you arise from your sleep? Listen.

Wisdom is been been built into the creation by God and it's there for all to observe and. And that means that wisdom is continually speaking. Continually speaking. Whether a person hears it or not. Whether a person hears it or not.

Chapter 1 verses 20 and 23. Wisdom shouts in the street. She lifts her voice in the square at the head of the noisy street. She cries out at the entrance of the gates in the city. She utters her sayings.

How long old naive ones will you love. Being simple-minded. And Scoffers delight themselves in scoffing. And fools hate knowledge. Turn to my reproof. Behold I will pour out my spirit on you and I will make my words known to you.

Listen. Wisdom is constantly Constantly speaking. The question is is. Anybody listening. Is anybody listening. Back to Ephesians. The marriage relationship is one of the venues in which wisdom speaks.

In which wisdom speaks.

It's where.

Among many but it is where God's wisdom pours forth and when that is received by a heart of faith. It is very attractive. It is very attractive. Just as the heavens declare the glory of God so a Christian marriage declares his glory declares his glory now.

This message runs counter to prevailing culture. We acknowledge that. But guess what? It ran contrary to prevailing culture in Paul's day, too it's always run contrary to prevailing culture ever since the fall and.

And therefore we should not expect it to be immediately greeted with open arms. But that doesn't make it unattractive. That does not make it unattractive. Think about it this way with me the roles and responsibilities of a husband and wife were established by God in the garden and.

Thus they are a bit like watching the sunset over the Grand Canyon. Have you ever seen that? Have you ever been to the Grand Canyon to see the sunset? If you haven't you should. You should but once you go there, there's it crowds all the time and you will undoubtedly hear some Person say that yeah, that's not so really such a big deal.

Not that beautiful. Listen, if you do not find the sunset over the Grand Canyon beautiful and exhilarating the deficiency is yours. Not the sunsets. The same could be said of the Mona Lisa if you look at it and you go it doesn't really do much for me.

Guess what? It's not on trial. You are. The same model could be could be said about the God's model for marriage. Is it the same reality? Those with eyes see it and it is beautiful and attractive and they're drawn to it.

They're drawn to it. One of my favorite childhoods toys. Was introduced in 1960 1960 so for a Third of you. You have no idea what I'm talking about 1960. Did they have a wheel back that yeah, we had a wheel too.

We even had fire. It was called an Etch-A-Sketch. What's called an Etch-A-Sketch. Do you know that it came to be recognized as one of the 100 most memorable and creative toys of the 20th century?

An Etch-A-Sketch.

It allowed a person to draw a picture by turning two knobs which moved the stylus along an XY axis beneath a glass covered a glass screen covered with magnetic dust. Essentially what it was. The tip of the stylus would move up and down and side to side and and it would result in a line and the line Corresponded to the movement of the dials and if you were really good you could get a circle.

You could get a circle.

But here's the cool thing about the Etch-A-Sketch if you made a mistake and you messed up the picture all you have to do is turn it over and shake it and It reapplies the magnetic dust to the glass the backside of that glass screen again, and you start all over.

You can start all over again. There's no limit To how many times you can do that? And that's why I think the Etch-A-Sketch is a is a perfect illustration of marriage. No matter how many times we mess it up We can start again and redraw it and that is the grace of God.

It is the grace of God We have to act. We cannot just sit Motionless. We do need to turn the knobs as it were but it is God's grace. It is God's grace to us That over and over and over and over again until we begin to get it, right.

You can't fail.

Gentlemen.

You cannot fail. Because Christ has accomplished it for you. You are now merely working out what he worked in. You cannot fail but you must begin. You must begin. Ladies, I would say the same the same.