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What is laziness? What does the Bible have to say about it?
So let's go ahead and do our, do our game and let's go ahead and get me winning as normal and then we'll move on to scripture.
All right. So this game is called autocorrect. I was listening to a podcast last week and it just made me laugh and I was like, this would be really fun to do with everybody else. So we took the last week to think of some words that we commonly misspell and we have to rely on autocorrect to determine the correct spelling.
Okay. Okay. So what we're going to do is each person will read a word off of their list and then the rest of us, and do you want to include the behind the scenes or do you just want it to be? Cause I'm sure we're all bad spellers, we're not going to get it.
Let's throw a couple of them in there. And so we'll each take a word, see which one of us can spell the word correctly and then tally up the points. Seth, can you keep tally of the points for each person?
Okay. So the first word on my list is restaurant. Ding. How are we doing this? Just whoever wants to go first.
R-E-S-T-A-U-R-A-N-T. Yes.
I always mix up. I put the A-U at the end instead of in the middle. Is that correct? Yes, that's correct.
Okay. So the person who can't spell it is verifying the correctness of the one who just got it. No, I haven't read it on time.
She has it on my phone. Okay. All right. Fine. Someone's going to have to look up my word because my autocorrect didn't even know what I was trying to say. What is your word? Croissant. Oh, I actually know how to spell.
Hold on. You had your hand first. I wish I had a pen and paper because I have to write things down because I buy these at Costco all the time. Hey, Cheater!
Cheater! Stop! C-R-O-I-S-S-A-I-N-T. Nope. Ooh, ooh, ooh. Me, me, me, me.
C... I have to write it in my hand. C-R-O-I-S-S-A-I-N-T. That's what I said! Yes! Yes! No, you mean you added an I! Did I really? Yes, you did. We have it on video. You said croussaint. All right.
Well, it's a holy croissant. It's set apart. It's a saved one. I love croissants. That was one that I had to learn because I read it on my grocery list so often for Costco. All right. One to one. Okay.
Which one of your words? Oh. Well, I have three.
Definitely. Okay. Who wants to take a crack at that? I'll let you do it. D-E-F-F... Hold on. I-N... Wait. D... Def... A-T... L-Y. No.
There's not two Fs. Yes! Boo! There should be. Me next. Again, there's... I'm just writing it in my hand. Verify that. D-E-F-F... ...I-N-I-T-E-L-Y. Yes. I always do A-T-E.
I get it wrong every time. All right. So it's one to one to one. No! I got two. I got croissant. And definitely. Don't try to short me out. All right. All right. Okay. Okay. Excuse me. Okay. So I have one.
Yes. Okay. Did you have another one? I had licensed. Okay. That was one of mine. All right. I get this wrong every time. Go for it. Season s isn't all right. License. No one look at me. No one look at me.
L i c e n s e.
Yes yes congratulations. Oh he has one. Oh good that was on my list so i was gonna let you spell it. Congratulations. Okay. Do you have another one. Um you said definitely in. Oh different.
Different. I got it really okay. Go. E i f f e r e n t. Yes. Is that right. Yeah that's right.
I can spell it. D i f f e r e n t. Good job. Yeah. Because she just did it. I'm just. That's okay. Okay. Oh vacuum. Oh that was my next one. Oh was it. Yes. I'll try. Okay. Go vacuum. Yeah. V a c c v.
No no no it's no no no. Let me try. You started over let me try again v don't look at any of them.
C amy don't make eye contact stop cheating come on v a c u it's like a kid had a spelling i can do it can you use it as u e m no. You're so close. I got it i got it i got it v a c c u u no v a c u u m yes.
Hold on. One c two u's i always do two c's one u.
You were so close. I have two. I didn't get a point there. I have two you have.
Three. You have two. Three. I think. Uh what was your second one. I have you as one and three.
Okay i only got one but i just said two and tried to say it fast so that i could get another point.
Okay i know how to spell this one. Honest. No c it was v a c. Okay so this one i know how to spell. But i really it's kind of like wednesday like we talked about. I really have to think about it. Convenience ding.
Okay c o n v e n i e n c e. Yes i always like the the last part i have to get.
I need my mother to watch this because spelling was never my strong suit. Tell her hey i need you to watch this one on um because i won. I won not yet but it's coming okay. Um do you have another.
One i was like i have more on my list. Okay you go again because i honestly i don't. I use this one a lot in like verbiage like i'm a liaison between the patients and our doctors liaison.
I had two. There's an alternate spelling. Okay the first one is l i l i a z o n the second one no is l e a s i o n no. The third one. Liaison l yeah. Either it's either an a or an i i i l i a. Anyone here seen billy.
Madison s what did you say. Especially a um anyone else. L i a i s special s oh my goodness. O n yes yes. We're not counting that.
You totally did the billy madison.
This is exactly why i didn't want the volume turned up in our mics because i was like l i a i s o n. Okay. Next one. And this is the one that i couldn't like if i think about it too hard i can't pronounce.
Conscientious. Oh gosh. Go ahead elena. Conscientious. We're not even pronouncing it right yeah.
It's gonna be one of those words like the more you say it the more you're like. Oh conscientious conscientious con c o n c i o n c o n.
No you need a liaison here. I got you c o n s c i e n s c i o u s.
You're you got like the first step anyone else. Want to take a crack at. Conscientious. She looked it up. Okay. It's c o n s c i e n t i o u wasn't close. That wasn't close. There's a t in there. Yes.
Okay um oh seth's got one too by the way. Seth what's your word.
Apparently apparently i spell that one all the time apparently. Um we have a situation and a p p a r e n t l y that's it yes.
Apparently apparently apparently i didn't have that one. I'm just gonna tell the truth okay.
My next one maintenance ding donovan told me about this one and he's like i spell this one.
If it's m a i t a i n or if it's m a n t a n so let me try just try. Best guess it's not maintain main the state is m a i n e but maintenance is m a. In case you were wondering there is an i there m a i n t a i n no m a i n t m a i n t e n.
Nope elena maintenance right. Yep. M a i n t e n a n c e yes my last one i did say t e.
Well you you just you got too many too many.
Okay we're tied at four and she has like six. You do not have four. I have like three.
I do not have four. No he does not seth. Wow. I should have kept the score. His job was to keep scoring the camera done before you walked in. You guys at home keep track of the score. We're re-watching this.
You lose by the way you lose. It's not over elena's winning. Okay last word.
Tiebreaker. Oh got it t i e. Oh i really did i really did think. Connoisseur.
Oh i'm gonna go ahead and pass. You want to try to spell it for the win. Yes i t seth. No i said it. Hold on. Give him give him his mic. I want to see.
I'll go first you said. Spell it for the win. I t spell it. You're so funny. Okay so you get one.
Okay seth is. Seth is going all right. You first in me. Okay. C o n n e s o u i r. All right. Yeah. Uh not. Connoisseur. He used it last week. C o n. Oh my goodness. What is next. I give up. C o n n o i s s e u r.
It's like i'm sure it's french or something. Yeah. I wouldn't even get close. But this is the one that i tried to do the talk to text and it spelled it c or no. It was. K a n n a space s e w e r. So what's the phone.
Connoisseur. Score. Um elena won. You had like two. I had three. I think. No. I thought. You meant elena won. I had that private school education one. I'm gonna give you at least two. Okay. But one of them.
He. I like the phrase. At least i like the.
Phrase at least. How did i cheat he has my phone. Okay. But you did spell it multiple times before you could actually get it right. Like multiple times i was thinking through. She was writing.
Hey that's what i do to help me. You see that in spelling bees the little whiz kids they'll just uh oh do you guys know that meme iridocyclitis. No it's a little little kid he's like very nerdy and he's doing a spelling bee and they're like okay your word is iridocyclitis and he goes iridocyclitis and he starts spelling it.
And then they made like a whole meme with it like katie perry's i kissed a girl and i liked it. It goes i kissed a girl and i liked it. The taste of your and the little kids get subbed and he goes the taste of your iridocyclitis.
It's funnier on the meme. Oh yeah. No it's so funny. What are we gonna do with her. Oh y 'all. Suck. My husband would appreciate that very much. You got it. Amy. Okay thank you. Like i'll have to show it to you after.
It's just funnier. He had to be there. It's the ladies with a names two syllables the amy and it's their own world. Yeah all right. So there's a game we'll call it we'll call it a tie we'll.
Call it a tie. No no you lost you came in last place. Yes. And jesus said the first will be last.
And the last will be first so you can contradict jesus. Moving on. Pretty sure he wasn't talking about spelling. I said jesus. For anyone watching this that is not how you read the bible. Just to clear.
Thank you. Just making sure that that's clear. All right. Fine. I'll i will i will seed concede i will i lost. It's concede concede. I think it's either way right.
Definitely not succeed. You did suck.
Wow i mean i can tell i can feel it. Yeah. I feel like nobody else would talk to their. That's for sure. All right. I lost fine. Hey you're doing better. Proud of you. I'm proud of you for admitting it.
Good job. Proud of you. Oh he's growing the tone. You just spoke to me and don't ever talk to me. That's fun again. Just kidding. I love elena. No promises. Yeah i can tell. All right. Fine. According to seth's scorekeeping which is um question one i lose fine.
All right. Under par. You know. There's a phrase there's a phrase right there. Under par. When we say that we mean not good. But under par is a good thing in golf. It's good. Yeah right. We say that backwards.
I'll give you another one that irks me so bad. Subpar. Subpar is a great thing. Maybe that's what i meant. If you're subpar that's a great thing. That means you're under engulfed then. Okay. Because right.
Birdies eagles those are like if you have negative five right. So you actually want to be subpar in.
Golf right. It's a bad term yeah but outside of golf in that context it's not you're stealing.
The word from golf to make a point that's the kind of when people say i could care less. When they mean i could not care less. Yeah that one bothers me me too. I've got a lot that bother me. I think we talked we should do pet peeves.
I think we did that one. I would feel i would fill the room with pet peeves that bother me more than should by the way. But i've got plenty of them. Same just.
Don't ever say you have one pet peeve it's like my one pet peeve and then you just give a list.
Because that's a pet peeve of mine. I'll give you i'll give you one. Women last one. This one's a no no this one's a woman one only. There are some that are male dominated. This one's a female dominated one.
I think even you guys will agree. Women will say first of all with no intention.
Having a second or third thing. Oh yeah. Yeah. I'll do it in writing. I'll do it in writing if i'm like writing a paper or something. First of all speaking i won't know. Yeah i make a list in my head.
You go.
First of all and then you have nothing else to say. Second after that then you don't say. First of all yeah no i totally. And another thing all right. So look. Laziness. Laziness. Um this is one if we're being honest we joke about often.
But when we are actually talking about laziness some of us forget that it's an actual sin it is abhorrent to god. Um laziness what is it. Uh what are what does it look like. And how do we overcome that.
So um for our scriptural index today it's basically all from proverbs. Proverbs talks about this a lot. By the way if you ever need a book that is practical application for your life it's the book of proverbs.
And for those of you who have asked before how do you read the bible. Proverbs is one of the easiest books in the bible to understand. Here's what i mean by that. There is each verse most of the time is its own individual proverb most of the time.
Therefore you normally need virtually zero context in order to understand the proverb. In other words if you pick a verse out of a letter say galatians you're probably not going to understand it because.
There's a larger context of an entire letter. You're probably coming in the middle of a sentence.
Proverbs most of the time if you just read a single verse it is a complete thought in and of itself so it's kind of cool to think about anyway as we read these. Keep in mind a proverb is a general truth.
It's not a statement of things that are true all the time everywhere in every case but it's a general truth and the book of proverbs is a divine is a divinely inspired general truths. In other words unlike those proverbs all throughout all cultures all times etc this collection of proverbs is a divinely inspired collection.
So uh anna what we got. What's first on our list. Uh can you not see that. Yes i can. I was about to.
Say i asked you before we started. Yeah you're right i'm wrong again. Proverb six nine i can.
Read that one i can read that one. How long will you lie there sluggard. When will you arise from your sleep. A little sleep a little slumber a little folding hands to rest. And poverty will come upon you like a robber and want like an armed man.
A little sleep a little folding of the hands. It goes on to say in chapter 10 verse 26 and 27. Like vinegar to a teeth and smoke to the eyes. So is the sluggard or some translations may say a slothful man.
So is the slugger to those who send him. The fear of Yahweh prolongs life. But the years of the wicked will be short. Uh one more and then we'll just stop and talk about it. This is chapter 20 and i'm just gonna do.
I went too far. This is chapter 20 i'm gonna do. Verse 4. The sloth or the sluggard does not plow in the autumn. He will seek at harvest and have nothing. All right. So what are these scriptures telling us about.
Laziness slothfulness sluggerness apathy. What are they telling us about it ladies.
They're gonna starve. Yeah poor you know won't be able to afford your needs necessities. It's it's.
It's funny to think the primary reason these people do not have what they need in these verses is not due to famine or war or someone else's fault or some uh circumstance outside their control but they themselves they themselves.
And if you from chapter 12 other people suffer because of it it says um like vinegar to the teeth is a slothful person to those who send him. In other words they send him to do a job. He doesn't do it they have to pick up the slack.
Yep so it's affecting their harvest and as well as other people's. Yep um we'll get to this more in a minute. But talk for a moment about our society and our culture. Is laziness rewarded yes or no if so.
How. Um. Yes and this isn't necessarily a like jab or anything to people who not i don't want to use this as like an umbrella or an umbrella term. No yeah like a blanket term umbrella term whatever. Um some people that i have seen on um like government assistance like medicaid and like food stamps and things like that they are capable of using um their abilities and strengths and what have you um in order to provide for their families.
But they see that it's easier to not do those things and they can still you know reap the rewards. And now we have more than ever um people on government assistance and again it's like it was intended for people like an in-between spot like oh i lost my job like i just need help like getting by the next couple of months and then you get off of it.
People don't get off of it they stay on it for the rest of their lives. And so that's. That's one area in our society especially in america um where i see that. But again it's like i'm not saying that everyone who's on it is a fraud or you know what have you like i work for a medical clinic and we have fmla paperwork that we do all the time.
So like people who have surgeries need a certain amount of time off of work that's covered under short-term disability versus long-term. Um and we'll have people try to get like extended amounts of leave like during covid whenever we had i don't know if you can say that word on here but whatever um during covid when we had the fmla every time you were sick you would get like three months of work off.
Well this one person had covid three times and she got three months off each time even though she tested negative for it. So she found a way to cheat the system. And so it's just out of laziness like i if i can just like you shouldn't even have to prove that she had it she could just say that she had it i don't have to work for three months and i get my full pay.
It's frustrating but that's how i see it in our world to answer your question.
Several examples i see it in entitlement um what everyone owes me instead of what i need to work for and you know feel accomplished in something um i think that's a lot of our generation and the younger generation is i deserve this so you should give it to me i shouldn't have to work for it.
Well.
It's like yeah like pay there's pay for i mean like i should be making you know sixty thousand dollars a year when you're an assistant right. And you just graduated college. No you don't deserve that much money like you can you know do this job for whatever they are entitled to a higher salary right.
Because they think they deserve that not because they've earned it like you said right.
And um you know just even opportunities like i deserve this opportunity. Well why. Because i think i should have it. Well that's not a reason that you have that opportunity. Like every what i tell my boys all the time is equal opportunity does not mean equal outcome.
Yeah it's the light. It's every time. Um but it reminds me of proverbs 26. Is it 16. Yeah the sluggard is wiser in his own eyes than seven men who could answer sensibly. Because you cannot even talk to these people about okay.
Well why don't you go get a job and work your way up. Or because to them no i should start here. Because this is my educational level. And this is well yeah. But you have no work experience in that field.
You have nothing to lead up to it. Go in at an entry position learn something. Because you don't know everything. Yeah you don't know everything. My oldest is very very smart and he knows it. People tell him all the time.
Yeah you know how smart he is. And i tell him all the time. Doesn't matter how smart you is are you is it doesn't matter how smart you are. You can still learn from the dumbest person in the room. Oh for sure there is always something you can learn from somebody that you didn't know before.
Because there are so many people that have this idea of i'm smarter. So i don't have to listen to this person. I'm smarter. So i know better than this person. It's dangerous place. And it's very dangerous.
Because if i say don't do something and he says well i thought it was a good idea to go ahead and do it anyway. How'd it turn out for. And well it could be something like i tell him to do something in a very specific way that i want it done.
And he said oh well i got it done. But i did it in my way. It's like okay then you still did it wrong. Because i told yeah. Because i told you to do it in a specific way for a reason. You don't have to know the reason i know the reason i wanted it done that way.
And it's the same with entitlement. When it comes to a boss telling a subordinate you know this is how i want it done. It doesn't matter how you want to do it at that point it's how they want you to do it.
You do it right and get it done. And then not only are you learning even if it's a tedious task you are learning patience. And you're also learning that there's more than one way to do something in.
My way is not always the only way right. You know it's amazing that scripture the sluggard is wiser in his own eyes than seven men who can answer him sensibly. I've told this story 100 times but i'll tell it again 101 thank you.
I was in an accountability group a group of like-minded brothers probably at this point 10 years ago and they brought something to my attention that i didn't think i was guilty of that. I didn't think i was doing wrong.
There were eight of them and they all unanimously agreed that i was doing x even though i didn't think i was it had to do with the way i was speaking to certain people and i didn't think it was. But we argued about for like 30 minutes and i just stopped in my brain.
I said all right josiah here's what we're gonna have to do. Because like i'm serious like lie detector tests i did not believe i was doing that. I said josiah if you're right that means all eight of them are individually wrong.
What is more likely that you are wrong or that all eight of them is filled with the same spirit you are wrong. So i decided that was one of the hardest things i've ever had to do. I decided to change a behavior that i didn't think needed to be changed of which i didn't think i was committing because i trusted.
But it took eight different opinions for me to come to that conclusion. You know the scripture says he's wiser in his own eyes than seven people that can speak to him sensibly this idea of entitlement.
And we can look at it at a bunch of different angles. We can look at it from. I have a right to decide whether or not to murder a child. I have a right to decide uh um whether or not i have to pay x or obey this law or do this.
We're so entitled. We're actually having elected officials. Some of you get ready for this. I'm elected officials talking about whether we should pay money for sins committed 150 years ago by people who are not just on this planet anymore but whose children are not on this planet anymore whose grandchildren are not on this planet anymore.
And not only is that insane but there's so few people willing to say that out loud. That's ludicrous that that that's ludicrous. And here's here's the next thing. It's beyond that in the church it's easy to pick on the world.
It's easy to pick on a cnn clip in the church. We have people joining churches based on what programs they can offer how they can be fed how they can be made feel a certain way. We have people who view church as a social club or a way to get a feeling a way to get a check mark on a box to go and work you that is absent from the new testament.
You won't find that anywhere to the point we'll even say stuff like this. If i praise god he owes me blessings. There's a very popular song very popular song. It says when the praises of god go up his blessings come down.
Do you know the name of that song that uh i think it's called his blessings come down. When the praises of god go up his blessings come down i'll have to look down on it. And i'm sure some of you have heard this song.
Just listen to me for a minute. The entire corpus of the scripture speaks about you praise god no matter what circumstance you're in. And it's his prerogative when to or to not bless. That's god's prerogative.
And by the way blessings are not always financial or money or or physical. That's god's prerogative. He's not a genie in the bottle that if you praise him enough he owes you some type of physical blessing.
We got to get out that out of our heads. Um this sense of entitlement i think boils down to a word that is lacking. And that is the word submission. We teach that children are to obey. But that word should be absent from the lexicons of adults.
Anyone listening to this myself included. If you cannot think of an area in your life where you submit and obey you are not obeying the bible. At least not in that at least not in that aspect. Submission is a biblical word.
And every one of us every one of us have a realm in which we are to submit and obey every one of us. And we've got to wake up in that you'll have some people in their brain think okay well i'll just submit and obey god.
I agree with that. But god has created realms in which you are submit and obey to human beings that are in that realm that the bible says he has placed an authority over you so that when you disobey them you are disobeying god.
I think and let you two speak to this. I think one of our biggest problems with entitlement is we really believe in our hearts. And i'm speaking of people that are in the church we really think in our hearts that we have no obligation to submit and obey.
And i think that's where our sense of entitlement comes.
From what do y 'all think about that when it comes to the church i think that would be a lot of it. Because how many times have you heard somebody say well i submit to god. But i'm not going to submit to my husband because what's there to submit to.
I've heard that a million times. Or how many people have you heard to that you know want to go against the government in some way even though the bible makes it clear that god has put authority given them authority over us.
And if it's not a biblical reason behind why you don't want to support what they're doing then you have no ground to stand on when it comes to comes to it um but i think it is an arrogance of trying to fit into the culture and the church at the same time.
That's those don't go together. You can't. Yeah you can't. Because it's such a contrast and when you have something that contrasting you it will not fit. No matter how many times you try it won't fit.
So you cannot say oh i'm submitting to god but i'm not doing the things he says to do it it just you just can't do that. No. And i mean yeah submission is hard. Yeah. But with that submission comes so much growth in your spiritual walk like i mean i can't even explain it how much it is how much it has affected me and my walk with christ personally.
Amen. Um just and not only that but seeing submission as service. Because when you start to serve and submit yourself to god then you see the submission in everything you do. Because when you go to work for any part of the church whether it's children's ministry or anything like that you are going to be submitting under somebody's authority saying okay well what do you want me to teach on.
What is this. Okay. Yeah. Because even when i taught sunday school for i don't know the first couple months we would submit what we me and my husband had written down to. I think it was you. I think it was pastor josiah.
Uh it might have been pastor jeff. But for y 'all to go over and make sure that everything we were saying was of sound doctrine and making sure we knew what we were talking about which is very important.
But there's so much that i could have been like oh well that's fine and get all offended that you were checking up on my work instead of submitting to you and saying you know more than i do you can make sure that what i'm saying is correct and i mean especially when it comes to children's department or anything like that you have got to make sure that you can submit yes.
And but with that comes service because you you have to be able to work under people and serve them no matter in spite of them or in spite of yourself i'll tell you a story.
I just got back from a mission trip to freeport bahamas um hi if any of you guys are listening. And we did a pastor's conference with i think it was 95 pastors had a good time had some good responses.
However however when i um mentioned to some of them that the pastors of this church don't count the money nor even know who gives what. Someone looked at me puzzled and they were like why not. I said well we let uh rebecca and charquita do that.
That's not up to me and i don't need to know that. And it wouldn't be good if i did. Um they had never heard of that. And i'm not saying every church has to do it the way we do but i think it's a pretty healthy boundary to have in place.
There was a young man who i hope will be here in memphis soon. Um if you listen what's up buddy you know who you are. He was working with us uh laying the brick at the church. And i said hey man what's your name.
And he told me i said are you a christian. That was my next sentence. He said no. And i said well you know what. You're in a better spot than some who think they are and actually aren't. So at least at least you're in that spot.
We worked with him for a couple days. The conference we did there was no registration fee this year because the speakers that would us didn't take any money. And he asked us about coming there. And i said yeah we all paid our own way.
He says like y 'all's church in bay fort said no we all individually paid our own way to come here. How much y 'all getting to do the thing. I said we're not getting a dollar. And so he said so you came here of your own money.
Two of the people had to take off work by the way and use for it came here of your own money and gave a service and got no money in return. And i said yeah. He said i've never heard of a pastor doing that.
I said well the bible says that jesus came to serve not to be served. That's the model i have. And let's keep that in mind. In john 13 jesus washes his disciples feet. By the way judas was in that room.
You have no excuse no one's ever wronged you that bad. He washes their feet. He gets them washing each of their feet. And then says you call me teacher and lord. Which is right. Because i am and i've washed your feet and so you are to do to each other.
And you know it's an argument from greater to lesser. There's not going to be anyone on planet earth that i am of a such a different stratosphere than jesus with his disciples. And he was able to do that.
That's a pretty um when i say humiliating i mean in a humble sense not making fun of humiliating way to serve somebody. Because some of y 'all got some nasty feet. Okay. And did you put your shoes on.
Okay. Good. I have my one shoe on. I just you know. Okay. Good. Thanks. Uh scrubbed off the calluses. Yeah. I know. Now look we have the sovereign lord who created the universe washing the feet of creatures he created out of dirt.
Okay. What scenarios are going to be. Where i have any right to refuse to serve someone. Okay. Now with that being said that's the kind of stuff i've got to keep in my head because it's so easy to get in the i am owed x.
But when you put things in perspective of how god puts it i am owed nothing. I'm owed not not a darn thing that helps me not to feel any type of entitlement. I mean i get in a fit if my air is out for two days.
Which by the way i think everyone in this city has had that happen at least at least twice in the past in the past two months. Um but you know the this is how the mindset we should have the mindset we should have instead is um i am on the same plane as everybody else.
How can i help somebody else.
Yeah i think the sense of entitlement's a big problem. I think that it came from um instead i think it came from misusing the word selfless because if you think about instead of looking at it as thinking of yourself less or others first then people take that and say well i put myself on the back burner and everyone took and took and took from me.
And one you allowed it. Absolutely. Boundaries are very important. But it causes this idea of well i'm not going to do that anymore. Instead i am going to do whatever i can for me and what helps me. It's like a pendulum.
Right. Like from one. There's there's no happy medium of i don't deserve this either. So why would i you know condemn someone else or say they're not worth it when i'm not worth it. Right. And to me when i when i think of like what if i'm gonna help someone or not.
And that whole idea of like you know making sure that i'm not going to put my family time in jeopardy and making sometimes that happens. I mean it just does but it doesn't need to be consistent thing.
But when it comes to making sure i am doing it for the right reasons and making sure that i am not just saying no out of laziness i have to really check that perspective on it or that whole oh i really just don't want to.
Right. Yeah that's like there's a lot of times and it yeah. And i have to get myself out of it because i have to get my kids out of it.
Yeah right. If i'm doing it when you're leading other people's like oh if i don't then the other.
Yeah people. Right. Hey go clean your room. Well i don't want to. Well you know what i don't feel.
Like doing your laundry but here we are looking at your ugly face. You know what. Who asked you anna to your point earlier. Let's. I'm going to read this scripture and i don't care if you're an atheist i don't care if you're a believer.
I want everyone to hear this. And just ask yourself does our society obey this verse. Just everybody does our society obey this. This passage i should say. This is second thessalonians chapter three. For even when we were with you we would give you this command if anyone is not willing to work let him not eat.
For we hear that some among you walk in idleness not busy at work but busy bodies. Now such persons we command and encourage them to do their work quietly and earn their own living. So again we give this command if anyone is not willing to work let him not eat.
Does our society obey that scripture. Yes or no. No all i.
Think of is we have the right to light life liberty and the pursuit of happiness. Yeah. And then i think about how everybody takes that out of context to mean just like everything. Instead of i have the food it's i have the right and you have to feed me because it's a right of mine.
Instead of i have a right to go out and have a garden and provide for myself or hunt. Right. Yeah. Yeah. Um i think.
That's what that makes i think parents are. Are we talked about this earlier. You have a right you can complain if you want about the public school system but it's not the church's fault your kids don't know about god.
It's not the school's fault that your kids don't know how to read. It's your fault. And i know that's harsh for some of you to hear but i'm sorry you know saying true things out loud. That's right. You always say it starts in the home.
Yeah. Sunday school is a tool yep that a parent uses to help train their child. It's not the be all end all of it. Memphis city schools is a tool a parent can use to teach their children. It's not the be all end all of it.
Also you might want to keep in mind what is being taught there but that's a separate subject for a different time. My point in saying that is at the end of a day the bible says that is a mother and father's responsibility to raise their child in the way they should go.
Anyone. It's not your pastor's job or your deacon's job or your son's will teach a daughter or nursery worker's job. It's amazing. I'm having to use church example because those are some people that complain the most.
It's your job. It's what the bible says. Well actually if you read the.
Scripture. Yeah. Do you ever just like pull out your bible. Actually let me show you actually let me show you where this this is. Well and that's all a point of deflecting. Yeah they don't want to take the responsibility.
It's better if they can pass that responsibility. And you know what it's real.
Easy as a husband to blame it on my wife or as a woman to blame it on her husband. Absolutely. It's this the scripture in matthew 7. We we all know it but i don't know that many of us know it. It wasn't till a year or so ago that i actually understood what the scripture was saying.
Matthew 7 he says what. Um you hypocrite first take the log the beam out of your eye before you can take the speck or the splinter out of your brother's eye. Everyone remember this one. What's amazing.
The scripture is not speaking of the fact that your sin is greater than theirs. It's that you should see your sin as a log. And theirs is a speck. I'm guilty of this one. I am guilty of this one. I'll tell you right now.
The bible says i should see my sin as a log as a beam. We were reading in sunday school this morning about the cedar that uh solomon used to build his palace and then the temple. And so i should see my sin as a beam a log and my sisters or my brothers as a splinter.
That needs to be removed. But first mine removed. First that that's that's one that i'm guilty of myself. I i tend to not see mine as the beam as the log as the pillar. I think one more scripture and we could talk about this the rest of time.
We'll call this good. This is colossians 3 ladies verse 23. And it says this. Whatever you do work heartily as for the lord and not for men. Whatever you do work heartily as for the lord and not for men.
Whatever you do work heartily. That's an interesting word isn't it. What does that mean to work heartily. Sorry i can't pronounce that very.
Good heart h h e a r t like heart. Hold on. I actually have the definition. Give me a second.
Okay it means from your soul. There it is there it is. Yeah. So in other words i think what's being said there you're working your heart for your treasure is there will be your heart also your. Your heart is the location of your deepest desires.
For where your treasure is there'll be your heart also. So whatever you do work heartily from the heart as something done for the lord not for men we tend to think of the heart as passive. And in other words i can't control who i'll fall in love with.
I can't control what. Uh. Yes you can. Yes you can. Yep yeah you can. The reason the bible can say work heartily from the heart is because you set your heart on what you're going to love most. Okay. So what it's saying is whatever you do work from the heart as something done for god and not for men.
I have to remind myself of this one often um everything i do whether it's this whether it's uh in my office whether it's cleaning a toilet whether it's working concrete whether it's playing phone tag with my daughter it's um basically she steals my phone.
She runs away. I beat the snot out of her. I take it back. She comes and tries to punch me and steal a phone literal phone she doesn't mean this face timer at work. Yeah. That's what she means this um that's funny.
I do it for the lord and not for men. That's a hard one to remember. I've got to keep that one ingrained right here. I forget that one. Yeah. So any areas where you've struggled to do something from the heart as opposed to just do it just get it over with or a check mark or a or a.
I guess i need to any areas like.
That for you or just me. Parenting i was about to say being a mom. Waking up talk about selflessness.
Yeah i don't think i've slept this past week. Rachel often says uh becoming a mother is an.
Opportunity to double down on your selfishness or it can be an incredibly sanctifying thing.
And yep it is the most sanctifying experience for sure. Yeah yes because you learn to serve.
Very quickly in spite of them. But you know like this morning for example my son woke up tried to let him sleep in a little bit. He woke up at like 6 15. I'm like god like he wakes up at six. So that's like sleeping in for us.
I wake up at five. So i'm like just i don't want to get up and like he's just whining. I'm like okay you know like i'll go to the bathroom you know go get him and then i go in there and open up his curtains and he's just smiling at me.
And then it's just like my selfishness just like washes away. Doesn't always happen like that like in the middle of the night when he was a newborn. And i'm just like sometimes i wake up with a present.
No he doesn't. Usually his or during the day which i'm thankful for and he hasn't figured out how to take it off yet. So you know that'll be. You should tell that story one day on the podcast. Yeah sure that's great.
Thank you. No but i mean just the whole like you said just being a parent of like you know i never get to do anything for myself anymore. And it's like it's because you don't prioritize that time you let people suck you dry you don't have boundaries you know whatever.
Um and then there are times when i'm just like i just want to be lazy because i've earned it i've done enough today. I've you know run around the house i've like done all of our laundry but then like like you know your husband and my husband helped cut down the tree yesterday and they worked hard and did it completely for free saved us like 1400 bucks which i was incredibly thankful for but i'm just like you know my husband is out there doing all of that work and we had all of these dishes and stuff.
I'm like the least i can do is that i'm like i have the quote unquote right to be lazy and just enjoy my saturday. But i'm like he's working i want to one up him. I don't want to because we're competitive but i'm like i want him to be able to come home i have a clean kitchen you know.
But i'm like i just i laziness is probably one of the biggest things. And my husband and i actually talked about this um and i hope he doesn't. I don't even really know if he listens to the podcast i tell him he should and he's like oh yeah i'll get to it and he just like never does um but i hope he doesn't mind me sharing this is like one of his big things has been working out and just being he like last year and the year before he was like in the gym almost every day he loved it.
He was like telling me about his rdls and his maxes and like he was just so proud and i was very proud of him. And then we had our son and we're both like just trying to survive and it's like we don't have any energy to do anything else besides what is absolutely necessary just like survival mode.
And um so i sent him that desiring god article that you sent us because i was just like i listened to it and i'm just like sitting at my desk at like 7 30 in the morning. I'm just like man conviction and i'm like dang it's like eight o 'clock yet and i'm already like getting convicted and i sent it to my husband and i had to talk with him and i'm like you keep saying you want to work out and i said i'm gonna pull pastor jose on you and i was like technically he gets this from scripture but it's like let your yes be yes and your no be no.
I'm like why do you keep saying that you want to do this and you don't follow through with it because he's all like he's gung-ho. And then he you know like and i'm not saying this to like and he replied new number who's this.
No no i was about to say we're in person so i can't do that. But anyway so he you know we just talked about that and he's like honestly i've just been like i've just been lazy. He admitted that and i'm like no i get that but we can't do that.
I'm like push through the laziness. I'm like you know you being lazy affects other areas of the i said it doesn't your laziness doesn't just affect you. It affects our son it affects us and.
That's like what people just don't really understand. I i think 90 of a time and i'm gonna use that percentage. I'm pretty confident and i'm not saying that like again i'm sorry.
I'm just i'm prefacing this again. I'm not saying this to like throw my husband under the bus. I've had literally right now sitting at our house i have like three weeks worth of laundry that has folded and just have not put up yet.
It's in different baskets. You've already folded it and you just haven't put it away. That's not even the hard part. So elena what is that. Elena and her family came over last night and i literally moved all of the like hampers and everything just in our room.
I was like i'm hiding it. They told me i want to put it away for you. Oh my gosh.
Seth's not married yet. I know he don't even he just puts him into a right or wrong.
Basket. But that's me saying i am just as lazy or worse like i'm not saying that's.
The i'm just just as bad. This is the difference between me and you and this is how i know that your boy don't walk too fast yet. Yeah he can't walk. There's no such thing as folding the clothes not putting away unless you want naomi playing with the folded clothes.
I don't know if i put.
Him on the coffee table he'll just pull his shirt off and do this and i'm like so. That's why i ended up moving it but then i still chose violence today. Yes i didn't even put it away. You can put.
Away her own clothes now. Naomi yeah the boys can put away their clothes too but they don't. They're still not folded when they do it so now who guess who folds their own laundry right. Elijah. All of.
Them. Good. How did. How do the twins. Do they roll them. Yeah. Hey you know what. That's okay. I don't care if i don't have to do it and i'm sure roll them and thing fits more in the drawer. Um what.
Was i saying amy amy. I'm sorry no i totally interrupted you. We're talking about laziness.
And oh perspective. Yes ninety percent of time. And i'm going to challenge some of you on this one because i'm challenging myself here ninety percent of time. You're not actually that tired. It's perspective.
I'll prove it to you. It's the same thing i talk about with people who say they just can't be on time. You know what's funny when those people are paid by the hour they show up to.
Work on time but they can't show up to sunday sunday school at 9 30 in the morning when their.
Salary no but why is it when people are paid by the hour they can show up to work on time.
Someone explain that to me because they get paid for the whole hour. That's interesting.
That's insurance. That's amazing. Hi. My name is elena. Yeah it's amazing. So there's no excuse. It's a matter of perspective. It is a matter of working from the heart. It is amazing that sometimes we give more effort for the almighty dollar than we do the almighty god.
But moving on from that we'll do this. That'll be on the quote game. Yeah um tiredness. Especially. Especially some of these dudes. Um you can stay up till 2 a .m playing freaking video games okay and not be tired the next day.
But you can't stay till 6 p .m or whatever on a sunday afternoon to help somebody or to do a event. You know what i mean. Like the consistency just doesn't make sense. And you know why. Here's why when you do something from the heart your physical fatigue is secondary.
I'm not talking about. You don't need rest or sabbath or anything. That's not what i'm getting at. In other words what i am saying is it's a matter of perspective. It really is. And i've noticed this with me.
It is amazing that sometimes i'm too tired to stay up and talk to my wife about her day. But if the titans were on monday night football i'd be up to 11 even if it went to overtime that that's a matter of perspective.
That's a matter of perspective. You will prioritize the things that are important. And i know it's a matter of perspective because as i'm saying that i'm feeling guilty about it and my feet are sweaty.
So i know i'm feeling.
I mean it's a little hot in here like i'm sweating too. Oh good. Okay i'm not.
Okay so that's i i really think do something done for the lord and not for men well i'm a man so not even for myself do something as done for the lord if we can keep that in our center focus of even like what we're doing right this second of what we're going to do after this has something done for the lord that will give us the right perspective to be able to.
Have the right attitude what needs to be done. That reminds me of i mean i went on the mission trip last year and i think that's a perfect example. Is one of the witten mission trips because you are pushed so hard way past your limit like i don't think i've ever worked that hard before in my life.
And the hotel we were staying at you had there was no elevator so it's.
Just stairs. Lots of. How many store. How many stories. We were up on the third it was like.
Two or three it depended on which side you were on whatever but i think we were on the third at the end of day two when you're hurting your worst and you're covered in gunk. No it was not just sweat it was i don't even know but those banana trees that snotty nastiness from those banana trees.
Oh the ants oh those were awful. Um but just the you're coated.
You're disgusting. My feet were so big i almost needed a bigger shoe size like that's how big.
Of the bum they were bad and he had he had on like boot boots and shaw and i had just tennis shoes on and oh my gosh our legs were eaten up. But neither here or there anyway. No it is there. It's definitely there.
They have an issue. But when you get back and you're just past the point of physical exhaustion but then you still find that time and that joy and that regeneration of going to the pool afterwards and hanging out with the people of god.
And actually getting that time together and hanging out and you don't even realize you forget about how tired you were the rest of the day because you have the joy of the lord as your strength and as you keep going.
And when i got home i i looked at my husband. I said i have zero excuse for sitting around the house and not doing anything now because i just spent a week picking up boulders and throwing them into the back of a truck.
Yeah i can do it. I'm like i i can do it. I'm fine. But that pushing of your limits not only does it not only does it open you up to opportunities like mission trips and serving and getting outside yourself but it opens you up to well i did that.
So i can do this. No.
Problem. Yeah it's all about perspective it's all about. I mean i don't have time to go help this person. I don't have time to talk to this person. Call this person. I have time to scroll in the shorts for 30 minutes.
There is pastor omar calling me right now. All right. Tell him hi. I will tell where's my phone. Is it right there. Can you answer and record at the same time. Will it cut the camera off. I think it will.
Hey pastor i'll call you right back. All right. That didn't go through. Did it. Okay. Thanks. Were you gonna make me think it did. I thought you answered it all right. Oh no. Oh man no. Megamind. Oh i love that.
You used a nordic a nordic accent to imitate pastor omar's.
Like when you scrolled or whatever or like swipe to say hello.
Oh i thought you were imitating pastor omar's.
Yes i was doing megamind but whatever that's frozen.
Now this is one of the negatives of having an all-women cast. This is what's going to happen all-woman cast. You stay for the family movie night tonight at 5 p .m to find out we're doing.
What is a woman. You know. I will tell you what a woman is. Amy put the camera on me. Oh is that one on me. No but i want that one on me. I want the only i want right here. Amy's like i don't know how to do this.
Tell her it is tell her.
It is. And then keep keep it the exact same keep it the exact same. That's me i see me there we go.
Okay a woman is someone who has x. Is it x x chromosomes as woman. Yes that is what it is. It is scientifically proven. They have different organs they have different hormones. We have different hormones.
Women have different hormones. We can birth children. So it's an adult human female. Yes it is a female a female. It's amazing. Isn't that so hard. Hey we're gonna do the video.
Tonight i mean the movie tonight. It's amazing. I've said this before i've just got to say this because anna's exactly right as always except keeping score when i win a game besides that she's always right.
But you didn't. Um so it is amazing. We can dig up a bone box in israel from 2 000 years ago and determine the gender of that person. We don't know what the favorite color was. We don't know what color their hair.
We don't know how they identified. We don't know we don't know anything about them. We don't know what their favorite food was. We don't know where they worked. We don't know anything but we can tell you what gender they were.
You know why. Because it's that embedded into our dna. It's that embedded into your bone structure. It's like the female and.
Male pelvis is completely different i have to say that's why they call them birthing hips.
Pretty amazing. All right. Very good guys. Well that's uh that's our take on laziness. We gave it our best shot. We really did. We we didn't. Just half-hearted they do. We gave it our best shot. Thank you.
Lol. I can't remember what the topic is next week but the good news is anna can go ahead.
Anna so there's the topic for next week with me and then something else i didn't pull it up on.
Our schedule all right. So as always guys uh we love doing these but we love to do what you want us to talk about. So send in uh whatever topics you'd like us to cover we'll get to them like share subscribe do all that stuff.
Uh what are we doing next week. What was me. And and if god does.
Not give us a spirit of fear but of power and love and self-control. Then why am i as a believer.
Still struggling to overcome fear. Dang all right. Yeah we got some serious ones. Very good. Well.
That's good for me. Until next time. Deuces shia labeouf. Just do it. And when you don't want to.
Do something just do it. Make your dreams come true. Hold up five fingers.
