January 10, 2018 Show with Marc Grimaldi on “Let Your Gentleness Be Known to All: Rethinking Biblical Polemics”

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We're listening via live streaming at IronSharpensIronRadio .com. This is Chris Arntzen, your host of Iron Sharpens Iron Radio, wishing you all a happy Wednesday on this 10th day of January 2017.

And I'm delighted to have back on the program my most recent ex - pastor.

It's a bizarre way of saying it. My latest pastor that is not currently my pastor.

Pastor Mark Rimaldi, who is one of the two pastors at Grace Reform Baptist Church of Long Island located in Merrick, New York.

And before relocating to Pennsylvania, he was my pastor along with Pastor Doug Totter.

And today we are going to be addressing a very important theme, a theme that I wish we did not have to address because it's really a timely theme that unfortunately those professing to be

Reformed and even more specifically professing to be Reformed Baptists have gotten involved in something that I believe warrants this discussion today because of public rhetoric and polemics that have gone beyond the biblical approach to polemics, gone beyond Christian demeanor and have entered into just pure nastiness and slander.

And it's time for us to rethink biblical polemics I believe. So today we are going to be addressing the theme,

Let Your Gentleness Be Known to All, Rethinking Biblical Polemics.

And it's my honor and privilege to welcome you back to Iron Trip and Zion Radio, Pastor Mark Rimaldi. Thanks Chris, always a pleasure brother, appreciate it.

And if anybody wants to join us on the air with a question of your own, our email address is

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Especially we don't want you to name names during this program because we don't want to be guilty of the very thing that we're trying to oppose today.

So we would love to hear from you with your questions and your input at ChrisArnzen at gmail .com.

But first of all, Pastor Mark, since there are many people joining the

Iron Trip and Zion Radio audience since you were last on, in fact I'm getting emails nearly every single day and sometimes for long stretches every day from people who are new additions to the

Iron Trip and Zion Radio audience, I'm really delighted to see that God is actually using something that I'm doing in a worthy fashion and the guests and topics that I'm having on this program seem to be of interest to a lot of people.

So for their sake especially, if you could tell our listeners who might not be familiar with you or Grace Reformed Baptist Church of Long Island, tell us about that church.

Yeah, Grace Reformed Baptist Church of Long Island in New York. We are a Reformed Baptist Church.

We would hold to the London Baptist Confession of Faith of 1689, would be the confession that our church stands upon.

That's not what I heard. Just kidding, just kidding.

And the the Doctrines of Grace, of course, and the Five Solas of the

Reformation would probably be the most, the five pillars that we would stand upon, and you can reach us at www .gracereformedbaptistchurch

.com, Reformed with an E -D there, church .com, if you'd like to access our website.

We're also on Sermon Audio. Certainly if you have any questions or anything like that, you can reach us through our website.

Great, and just for those of our listeners who are unfamiliar with the 1689

London Baptist Confession, there are some of our Christian brethren who immediately scratch their heads when they hear something like that.

Wait a minute, I thought you were Bible -believing Christians. Why do you adhere to some old, outdated, antiquated document that was written by men?

Well, it's really the 1689 London Baptist Confession, also known as the Second London Baptist Confession, is really just a summary of teachings that Reformed Baptists believe that are in the

Scriptures. These aren't man -made rules that they are listing in this document.

These are things that we believe to be biblically true, and the formers of the

Second London Baptist Confession of Faith, since they already had their own confession, the First London Confession, before even the

Westminster came into being, they purposely nearly duplicated the

Westminster because they wanted to show camaraderie and brotherhood and fellowship with the

Presbyterians. They wanted to make it clear that they were not some weird cult. Am I off -base on anything

I said? No, yeah, the Baptists no longer wanted to be drowned by the Presbyterians for being accused of being a cult.

So they aligned themselves pretty well to show that, look, we're pretty much on the same page.

Basically everything is identical except for some little things, and of course the issues relating to baptism and the

Church government. So very important, yeah, Confession of Faith is like a condensed version, a meaty and weighty condensed version of a systematic theology of what the

Scriptures teach, and Church history shows very well how much we need that. We need something like that in the

Church. And it would be also including some things that were in existence in the

Savoy Declaration, which is the the Creed or the Confession of the Congregationalists.

People hear that word and they immediately might think of the very liberal or even apostate church down the road called

First Congregational Church or something. Not that all Congregationalists Church are liberal, but the

United Church of Christ, which is the predominant denomination where local churches call themselves

Congregationalists, they're predominantly from that denomination, which is for the most part totally apostate with some remnant of believing churches in there.

But the old -style biblically faithful Congregationalists of the

Savoy Declaration that the drafters of the 1689 borrowed from, and there would be a lot in harmony also with the three forms of unity that the

Dutch Reformed folks adhere to. And why don't you tell our listeners before we get into our topic about some of the books you have written, just so that in fact that they can that they can look those things up, those resources up afterwards, and perhaps make use of them.

Sure, the two that are out right now that are actually in print is one that's out of print temporarily because the publisher had tanked unfortunately in the whole story.

But the one that's in print is one that's called Evil and Suffering in a Sovereign God's World, and we've actually done two interviews on that topic on our own shop in Zion United Christianity.

That's one which can be you can find at amazon .com or probably a lot of the Barnes and Nobles and so on.

And the other one has to do with obsessive -compulsive disorder, which also we've done interviews about at least two or three on that, and it's called

OCD, Finding Hope on the Edge of Insanity. Yeah, we had to do at least three interviews to get it right.

It had to be perfect. Yeah, we have we have 175 scheduled in the future.

But now how do our listeners get a hold of that material? Yeah, they can get either one of those books at Amazon, certainly also through the, if they wanted to, they could look go to Amazon, look at the publishers, and I'm not sure what the price difference would be.

Amazon is usually pretty fairly priced, but they probably have them at Barnes and Nobles and those kinds of places too, so you can find them there.

And if you want to hear our former, or previous, I should say, interviews with Mark Grimaldi, just go to the search engine of the

Iron Sharpens Iron Radio archive at ironsharpensironradio .com and where it says past programs podcast, you can type in the search engine

Grimaldi, G -R -I -M -A -L -D -I, and I'm almost certain you're the only Grimaldi I've ever interviewed.

So all of those interviews would come up. I do know a pastor, Dominic Grimaldi, who's a Reformed Baptist. I don't think

I've interviewed him though. He'd be a good interviewer, he's a nice guy. Well, I wish

I could have you on the program under better circumstances. One of the reasons why I think you even wrote the article we're going to be discussing is because on the internet lately, especially

Facebook and Twitter, there has been unfortunately a group of Christians who profess to be

Reformed, and I think most of them profess to be Reformed Baptists, who are attacking other

Reformed Baptists in a manner that is, I think, clearly unbiblical, in fact wicked to some level, when the posts or the tweets go beyond brotherly critique and enter into slander and mockery for mockery's sake, where the intention is clearly not even to, in love, correct a brother if you think that brother needs correcting.

I'm not even saying that the corrections were warranted, but if you think that you have a problem with your brother or your brother is doing something inappropriate that might even be sinful, you're supposed to go to them privately first, and then a couple of witnesses, and then take it to the church.

But there is a lot of immediate steps being taken by so -called

Christians to immediately take things public in order to immediately bring into question the character and motives of other

Christians, because of, in this case, what we've been seeing lately, it's more involving procedures and strategies than it is actual theological content or doctrinal content.

So if you could pick up where I just left off, and tell us about the article that you have written, which has the title,

Let Your Gentleness Be Known to All Rethinking Biblical Polemics. Yeah, yeah, Chris, I'll tell you, it's definitely been a journey of just observing a lot of things, as you said, online, especially on Facebook, there's different groups and things.

I've actually withdrawn from most groups at this point. I might be in one, just because it's just sickening to see the way people treat each other as alleged brothers in Christ, and just observing the way people address even an error, or potential error, or alleged error in others, and like you said, it may be true, and there may even be a place to address it publicly if something has been said publicly, and it's a serious doctrinal issue in some way that would contend with some of the things we believe or whatever, but really it comes down to the way it's done.

When you're dealing with polemics, and by the way, let me just say real quick that polemics, in case people say, well, what the heck is polemics?

It sounds almost like a robotic, you know, something in the robotic industry, but really it's similar to apologetics in a lot of ways, right?

Apologetics, we think of as the defense of the faith, and generally with apologetics, we deal with unbelievers, right?

We're defending why Christianity is true, and who the one true God is, the divinity of Christ, etc. Polemics is similar in a certain sense that you're dealing with debate, though, and confronting error, but it's more often than not, polemics is addressing those who are within the realm of Christianity, or within your own realm of your common faith, in that sense, and so it is by its very nature confrontational, and that's understandable because you're seeking to point out, you know, errors and so on that are out there, and trying to protect the truth.

The question that I address in the paper is, is there a way to do that with Christian dignity, with humility?

Is there an attitude that ought to accompany how you address the concerns that you have with others, and their teachings, and their doctrines, and so on, especially when dealing with brothers, but even when people on the outside, there's a way to address people as well on the outside that the

Scriptures address also. So I think that that's really where I'm coming from, especially as you see the arrows turned to each other within the realm of Christianity, even with form brethren turning arrows against each other, and just attacking, and the way it's done, it's not, again, just proving the point or showing exegetically what the

Scriptures teach, but really just arrogant behavior, mocking, just language that is very inappropriate and offensive, and doesn't do anything to restore or to correct, but really just tears down and separates brethren.

I mean, I've seen many brethren just offended and divided, and back and forth, just on the way that things have been handled with trying to correct one another, and so on.

So that's the big issue to me, is how do we utilize biblical polemics?

How do we exercise, you know, a careful watchfulness over what people are teaching, and mutual edification and correction?

How do we do that with the right attitude, with the right heart? Does the Bible address that? And I believe that it does very clearly.

I find it interesting the way that the Apostle Paul phrased this in Galatians chapter 5, when he's writing to the church at Galatia, and Galatians 5, starting in verse 11,

Brothers and sisters, if I am still preaching circumcision, why am I still being persecuted?

In that case, the offense of the cross has been abolished. Actually, I went to the wrong verse,

I'm sorry, chapter 5, verse 5,

For though the Spirit, through the Spirit, we eagerly await by faith the righteousness for which we hope.

For in Christ Jesus, neither circumcision nor uncircumcision has any value. The only thing that counts in faith is expressing itself through love.

And here it is, this is what I was really going for, in verse 13,

You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free, but do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh.

Rather, serve one another humbly in love, for the entire law is fulfilled in keeping this one commandment.

Love your neighbor as yourself. If you bite and devour each other, watch out, or you will be destroyed by each other.

That's what I was looking for, I don't know why I was wandering around there. But those are pretty strong words about those who profess to be brothers in Christ, devouring one another and destroying one another.

Yeah, yeah it is, Chris, and you'll find that kind of language all throughout, especially in the epistles and the teaching scriptures about attitude.

If you look at much, in fact, you could say a great majority of what is addressed toward Christians, to those who are in the faith, through the letters written to different churches, through even the

Lord Jesus Christ addressing his apostles in the end of John's Gospel and his farewell discourse, there's so much of an emphasis on maintaining unity, on keeping the body together, on not being divided, on how they treat one another.

You see, even the disciples, sometimes they scuffle a bit, or they argue about who's better and things like that, and the Lord is always rebuking them about that, and he's getting back to, look, you know, he's washing their feet.

I'm showing you this as an example. Be one, you know, he's praying to the Father that the church would be one, even as he and the

Father are one, so that the world will believe that he sent, God has sent his Son, and you go through all the letters and you see this constant emphasis on treating one another in love, fulfilling the law, the love commandments, loving

God and loving and able to fulfill all, but the law hangs on those two commands. Again, the emphasis on unity, that's the way

Christ's Church prevails, that's the way Christ is revealed, is in that kind of attitude, and so when you have

Christians firing at one another, in a way, and attacking one another, even over disagreements, which are going to be valid, there's going to be valid things to address, but just attacking and going back and forth in this division, the world looks at that and sees and says, well, that's

Christianity, you know, what kind of a Christ is this, because we represent him, and it even, from a

Reformed standpoint, there are those who are Arminian, or who are not of the Reformed faith, who would say, well, look, there they go, look at what doctrine does, right, and I'm not saying

Arminians don't like doctrine, but there is that sense of where some will say, hey, doctrine divides, and look at where it's getting them, these guys are just fighting over every little thing, even over the color of their toothbrushes, you know, these guys can't get along on anything, look at them, and it really, unfortunately, doctrine is what takes the bullet in all this, it's not us, we deserve it for fighting the way we are, and not loving one another, and not having humility and grace, not being gentle, not having the proper tone, we're the ones at fault, but doctrine is the one that takes the hit, and doctrine is what changes lives, doctrine is what matters, so it really is serious with the dividing one another, as you said,

Corinthians, Paul's rebuking them because they're talking about, I'm with Paul, I'm with Apollos, all this division and attack, and how they're handling things, and it's so destructive, and that's what's going on amongst reformed people who are

Calvinists, you know, that they're killing each other out there from a doctrinal standpoint, just shooting arrows, you know.

And we have to make it clear that if you were to take the broader picture of modern -day evangelicalism as a whole, one of the most serious problems is the lack of polemics.

I mean, the softening of what false teaching actually is, and the consequences of it, and the ecumenism, the rampant ecumenism with churches, so -called, that deny the gospel, and just the softening of a lot of things.

Even the sin of homosexuality seems to have become a unique category that would make the people who are practicing that damnable behavior, and not only damnable, but even physically deadly behavior, that puts them in some kind of a category where they are to be treated with more respect than just your average person who is sinning in some other capacity.

There is a lot more tiptoeing around that sin than anything else, it seems, in the

Christian Church these days. Well, there's a lot of reasons why polemics is certainly necessary, and in fact, for instance, perhaps you could respond to this,

I have Roman Catholic friends who get upset with me when I will say things even in public, such as,

I love you, you are a great friend, you're a wonderful person, you are probably superior to me in many areas of life, you may be a better person in many spheres of living than I am, much to my shame, but I cannot call you my brother in Christ because you deny the gospel that I believe in.

You deny the one thing that I believe will enable sinners to enter into heaven for eternity with Christ, and for that reason

I cannot call you my brother. And people have said to me that that is an improper use of polemics, that's nastiness, that's mean -spiritedness, that's bigotry.

How do you respond to something like that, what I just said? Yeah, yeah, Chris, I think you're hitting an element.

There are two extremes, right, and as you said, one is we can say that polemics should be thrown out the window, it's contentious, it's confrontational, let's just all get together and hold hands and sing

We Are the World, you know, and let's just be accepting and loving because that's what God is and Christ is and He came to die for everyone and so on and all that, which is not true, right?

And so there's that danger of diminishing the importance of holiness, diminishing the importance of truth, and we want to be careful not to go to that extreme.

As you said, there are people out there who many people in many compromises and in soft evangelicalism where they're allowing things that are just a reproach for God, that are an attack on God's holy character, and so we should fervently be against that, but at the same time, as we seek to be polemicists or to address error and especially those kinds of significant, you know, salvific -type issues that are dealing with errors, the way we do that all the more is important as well.

It's how we do it. If you didn't, you know, go to those Catholics and say, you know, you're a bunch of, you know, dirtbag, moron, idiots...

Oh, you read that post. Yeah, you know, you're slime and, you know, the heck with you, you're all going to hell, you know.

You know, there's a way to address it, and I think that that's why the Ephesians 4 passage, when Paul talks about how the

Church grows and every part doing its share, he talks about how the Church grows by the body speaking the truth to one another in love, and so you have that balance there.

Yes, we must speak the truth and we cannot compromise the truth, and even with dealing with other Christians, even over issues that we may debate about, it's okay to have some wrestling with even peripheral things to an extent.

You know, again, we don't want to go too crazy, but there's a place to wrestle over peripheral issues, let alone issues that are really, you know, extremely important to the faith.

But it needs to be done in love. There needs to be a motive in us as we do that to seek the welfare and the betterment of those who we're addressing, to seek to edify, to seek to build up, to sink, to see the

Church built up, and especially when dealing with brethren, you know, brethren all the more, there has to be a spirit of love in bringing that truth.

So both come together. There is speaking the truth, we're not going to throw that out the window, that's for sure, that's God's truth, representative of His character,

His nature, His revelation, and it's speaking that truth in love. And when we don't speak the truth in love, in reality, there's a sense in which we're speaking falsehood, because we're misrepresenting the truth by presenting it with the wrong attitude.

We're presenting grace in an ungracious way, you know, it's just compromising the very truth that we're teaching if it's not being lived out of us or how we present that truth.

So both of those are important in what we do and how we deal with others. So with, like you said, in that situation, you're a hundred percent right to say that.

They need to know, look, on the no uncertain terms, I want you to know I love you, I care about you, but you're on dangerous ground, you know, you don't have the gospel, you're trusting in your works, and the

Bible very clearly says that it's through Christ alone and by His shed blood that we are saved and we can't trust in ourselves, and I tell you this because I care, you know, there's a big gap in the bridge that you're trying to crawl across and you don't see it, but if you don't, you know, make that change of course now and come to Christ, you're gonna go the way of those who are damned, and I care about you, and that's why

I can't call you brother. So there's a loving way of presenting that, and a loving way of presenting truth in general, and I think that's the big issue is dealing with how we present the truth.

And like you said, Chris, even with the slander, it's not only the attitude and the arrogance, but sometimes it gets so heated that, you know, the natural man, we can go too far in what we say, and because we're angry, because we're now motivated by, not by love, but by our own pride and our own arrogance, and we wind up saying things that aren't even true against the other person.

Now we're dealing with slander, that's added to as well, and we've seen a lot of that on, you know, some of these websites and, you know, these

Facebook pages and even on radio programs and everything. I'm gonna read a question to you, and then we're gonna go to a break, and you can answer it when we come back.

CJ from Lindenhurst, Long Island, New York says, wouldn't a perfect example of what you're talking about be the

God -hates -fags cult? How they will publicly carrying signs and mocking homosexuals or those supporting them, just saying

God -hates -fags over and over again and condemning them to hell, and yet offering no hope to them if they repent and flee to Christ.

There is no gospel presented, there is no message that is given in love, hoping for the person involved in that sin to repent and turn around by God's grace.

They are merely opening, openly mocking them and condemning them. And we'll have you respond to that.

Obviously the listener is talking about Westboro Baptist Church where Fred Phelps, the late

Fred Phelps, was the pastor, and it's ironic that his own congregation, which are all members of his family, excommunicated him before he died, because he was too nice apparently.

But we will return on that note when we come back from our commercial break.

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CJ from Lindenhurst, Long Island, New York brought up the God Hates Fags cult, also known as Westboro Baptist Church, where it seems that the only motive that they have is to publicly declare that homosexuals in anybody, in any way that they think are supporting them or making life more easy for them in any shape, any way, shape, or form they think are going to hell.

And of course, unrepentant homosexuality is a sin where people will certainly be damned if they do not repent of that sin, but they don't even offer the hope of the gospel to these people.

They just want to, with much delight, tell the world that these people are going to hell, and it seems to be for the only purpose of publicly condemning them and mocking them, and they take much joy in it, even violating what

God himself, how

God himself views the death of the wicked. He does not delight in it, yet these people delight in it.

But if you could comment. Yeah, Chris, the God Hates Fags, the movement and the cult, like you said, it's a very small minority of alleged professing believers, but not even near on the radar of anything remotely close to what true

Christianity is all about. They run under the assumption that homosexuality basically is an irrepentable, you can't repent of that sin, so that's why they don't offer the gospel.

They would see it as that they're condemned. They would see that they would say that that's their judgment. They would apply

Romans 1 in a very wrong and misinterpreted way and say that because they've been given over to that extent that there's no hope for them, and so they go and they proudly shout out what they shout out and really do much more damage than anything.

They ignore 1 Corinthians chapter 6, 9 and following, which says that even though homosexuals and so on will not enter the kingdom of God, Paul goes on to say such were some of you, but you were washed, you were cleansed.

And so there were people, even though Paul was writing to a Corinth, who used to be homosexuals, who had repented, who had found grace in Christ, just like thieves and murderers and fornicators and everything else.

They found the same grace and were forgiven, and they were washed. And so they're definitely not representative in any sense of Christianity, and they're very hateful, and I would agree with the person who sent you that email.

And they're the ones who also stand out there, I believe, right when soldiers have a funeral for a soldier, they're out there protesting.

Yes, because the United States does not legally penalize homosexuals for their activities, so therefore if you are fighting for a country that has devolved to that state of wickedness, you too are someone who

God hates, and they rejoice at the death of soldiers for enlisting.

And much to our, I don't know what the word

I'm looking for is, much to our anger, I guess is the best way of saying it, they claim to be

Calvinist, in fact they claim to be adherents to the 1689 Latin Baptist Confession. And one thing that they would have in common with some of the unhinged polemics that is going around today on the

Facebook and Internet is they too believe God hates Arminians, and they believe that all

Arminians are damned as well as probably everybody outside the walls of their church.

Yeah, that's a disgrace, yeah. And that is the tendency, Chris, with some of the people who are, it's not surprising that a lot of the people who are out there, you know, are just harsh in their polemics and ungracious and arrogant, tend to be hyper -Calvinistic in the way, at least their leanings, even though they wouldn't say that, it's inevitable.

And who would, like you said, who would condemn Arminians, call them heretics and all that, and just I've seen that, you know, the debates or debate recently done that was just horrific in the way things were done with these

Calvinists, debated these Arminians, and it was just absolutely just completely a disgrace.

It was anything but anything that would be, anything but productive or beneficial or edifying, because these guys think that, you know, the way they act, you know, they're just very arrogant and high -handed, you know, against those who we should be trying to wrestle with, but again, in the right way.

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So, when we do have disagreements with our brothers, first of all, let's start with our brothers now, because in this case that we are responding to, it's ironic that there is such bitterness and nastiness and ad hominem being used against people, by people, who claim to share the same confession of faith and the same soteriological doctrines and the same, you could probably almost go doctrine by doctrine, line upon line, precept upon precept, and you would find very much agreement, almost symmetrical agreement, but it's the approach that is being disagreed on for the most part, and also what is viewed as an inappropriate extension of the embrace of brotherhood to people who disagree and deny

Calvinism. How do you respond to that level of hostility when you are talking about brothers in Christ for whom

Christ died? Yeah, it's completely unjustifiable to ever address a brother in Christ in the way that I've seen some of the things, and you've seen,

Chris, things written and spoken. Again, very mean -spirited slander there, just arrogance, and then when you see people trying to correct these individuals, to say, look, and to correct them in a gentle way, to say, look, you know, it's not that what you're saying, there may be some validity to that, maybe it's something to consider, but you've got to back up and consider the way you're saying this, just the kinds of things you're saying, the way that you're insulting the individual and attacking them in a very personal way, and what they'll respond is, oh no, here's the tone police, here's the tone police, that's their thing, and then they'll have other people who will jump in and, you know, up the tone police here, and they would say that like as if tone doesn't have any relevance to anything, like it doesn't matter, and they see themselves in some ways as martyrs, like they're the

John the Baptist of the day, and they're out there spreading the truth, and they would equate people who would question them and say, look, just you're not doing this in the right way, they would equate that with, like what you said before,

Chris, like the extreme of like liberalism or allowing, you know, things to go on in the church that are an abomination, because, you know, it's this soft, you know, snowflake, that term that's out there, snowflake, you know, millennial type behavior, they would lump all that together and find no sense of, well, wait a second, yeah, we don't want to be, you know, we want to have a sense of dignity and a sense of saying, yeah, we need to be men and, you know, gird up our loins and all that, but there's still a way to respect each other and to treat each other with love and respect, not only for the benefit of the person that you're dealing with in trying to bring correction, but also for others, you know, the leaders among these groups, there are men who are obviously who are more in a leadership position, what they don't, probably don't realize, and you see this is that they're creating a cheerleader atmosphere and they're actually, they're training others to see that as a viable way of addressing people, and so they're sending out others to do the very same thing or have the very same tone and attitude toward other people they would address, and you can see it happening, like you can see other people doing that, even on the internet, and they're following these people who they look up to as their leaders, so it's just spreading like cancer, and it really is going to be destructive, to be honest, to the whole

Calvinistic Reform movement, it really is, because there's just a large grouping of people who are coming up and they're being reared in this kind of way, and they're thinking that these guys, they're thinking that they're the

Puritans, and they're the Reformers, and the great martyrs, and the John the Baptist, and they're going to deal with all the people who are, you know, get rid of all these, you know, these wafer, you know, soft, you know, tone sensitive people who are

Calvinists, who are moderate Calvinists, they're not real Calvinists, and in reality, what they're going to do is just create a great division, a great schism, and it's going to be something that's going to come back to bite us as a whole down the road, because there is a growing number of people who are finding that to be the right, the right attitude, and the right means, and are justifying it falsely by a false understanding of Scripture, because they're following these people who have great influence, and so the guys who are leading this pack, who are leading this, who have 12 ,000 followers, and likes, and all this on Twitter, and whatever, 15 ,000 or more, these guys, you know, are going to be greatly responsible for what they're doing, and will find themselves, hopefully, under the shoe of God in this lifetime, so that they don't have to give account for it in the next,

I would hope. Now, the theme that you developed for your article, obviously, comes from Philippians chapter 4, verse 5, let your gentle spirit be known to all men, the

Lord is near. If you could explain why is it important that our gentle spirit be known to all men?

Obviously, I believe that this is addressing all people, even outside of the faith.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, and what I did, Chris, and what I wrote in the paper that I wrote, is

I have about four sections in there, other than the introduction. The first section, I address the whole concept of what would

Jesus do, because a lot of them would say, and we'll get into that, I'm sure, at some point in the interview, about just, well, he'd look at how

Jesus responded to the Pharisees, and how he wasn't gentle, and they would say things like that, so I deal with that whole issue of Jesus, and then

I get into the mark of the true Christian, which is a gentle spirit, where we deal with specific teaching, didactic texts, not looking just at historical narrative, and saying, look, well,

Jesus did this on this occasion, and saying that we necessarily should be doing that, but I always to do what Jesus did, or John the

Baptist, we're not always to do that, we're not the same, we're not in the same position, there's uniqueness to their ministry and circumstances, and also, we don't want to say that that's all they did, but there were reasons for why they did what they did, and so on, at different times, but there are very clear teaching texts, in the teaching, didactic portions of Scripture, that would tell us what the mark of a true

Christian is, and one of those texts is Philippians 4, when Paul says, in Philippians 4, 5, as you said,

Chris, let your gentleness be known to all men, the Lord is at hand, and there's two parts to that text, one is that, it's not just to just say that we are humble, because anybody can say, look,

I'm humble, and so on, but it should be perceived in those who are around us, and amongst all people, like you said,

Chris, unbelievers and believers alike, should get the general perception from us, that we are a people who are gentle, that we are people who are humble, that we are people who have a self -control, who have a tone that's respectful, again, not compromising the truth, not, you know, going against the truth, there's a big difference, but being able to proclaim the truth, stand upon the truth, be uncompromising with the truth, while speaking in a tone, and living in a way that presents ourselves as gentle, and the

Lord is at hand, is kind of the motivation of that verse, it's kind of the drive to say, look, be gentle, let it be known to all people, let all people see that, and perceive that in you, and recognize you as a gentle person when they identify you, and see your demeanor, and what should drive us is to know that, look, even though we don't see the

Lord, and there's two ways you can look at this second part of the verse, there's two ways of interpreting this, but one is, even though we don't see him, we have to consciously remind ourselves, in all of our, you know, contexts and conversations, and all that we do, that Christ is right here, he is present with us, and as we address people, our

Lord and our Savior is there with us, and among us, and sees what we're doing, we need to have that, that reality of his presence needs to be forever in our hearts, and then secondly, we can also think of it as the

Lord's return at hand, right, his coming, and his return again, we're soon going to see that he's going to gather his people, right, and bring us to the final judgment, so in light of that final end, in light of the fact that all this that we're living now is temporal, and it's going to be wrapped up one day, and we're going to stand before him, let's ensure that we are seen as gentle to all people, that they perceive a genuine gentleness in us, so really is a sobering text, given that Philippians 4 -5.

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Pastor Mark, you had brought up the fact that some of these folks who are crossing the line from responsible polemics over into wickedness, they are using the

Lord Jesus Christ himself as allegedly their example because he has called the

Pharisees brood of vipers, hypocrites, whitewashed sepulchers filled with dead men's bones.

And the Apostle Paul has called the Galatians fools because they were being seduced by the

Judaizers, and so on. How do you respond to these folks when they use men, and of course

Jesus Christ being the God -man, when they use these figures as their examples for what they're doing?

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I was involved in an interaction with one of these men on a

Facebook post, and there was a thread and people going back and forth and just dealing with the issue of tone, and that became an issue too, whether or not it's appropriate.

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I'm concerned about your calling to the ministry, and in 1 Timothy it says that those who are ministers all sort of have to be gentle.

You know, that was one of the qualifications for a minister. And the person then responded to that individual by saying, you know,

Jesus was not gentle. And I don't think he realized at the time, and I commented, and he wound up deleting the whole section right after I commented on it.

As the church lady used to say, how convenient. Yeah. Well, I said to him,

I don't know if you realize, but you just disqualified Jesus from the ministry. You know, by saying, you know, the guy quoted scripture from 1

Timothy saying, look, one of the qualifications is gentleness. And then his response was, well, Jesus was not gentle.

And I'm like, why? You're contending with 1 Timothy and using Jesus as an example to contend with 1

Timothy. Do you realize that you just disqualified Jesus from the ministry? And then after that, like I said, somehow it just got lost in cyberspace, that issue.

But it just shows you the extent to where these guys are in many ways, just how hardened they can be in their view of this.

And one of the claims is that you'll see coming back and forth is, well, look, Jesus Christ, you know, look at him.

He wasn't always gentle. And there were times when he, you know, let them have it, the Pharisees and so on, or John the

Baptist. And then they'll maybe talk about Martin Luther or people from the Reformation and so on. And one of the things

I say with Jesus is say, well, look, you know, first in responding to that, I say, look, you can't look at the historical narrative of all of Jesus's actions and words and think that we are to copy everything that he does and emulate everything that Christ does.

Right. One of the problems that we have with the What Would Jesus Do movement, right, there's a lot of good things that we should follow. Of course,

Christ is his morality and so on, and definitely as a great example. But there are certain things that we should not do that Jesus did.

Certain things that were a priority and a privilege that belonged to him as the God man. And so I prefaced my response to the whole issue of whether we should follow

Jesus and how he handled the Pharisees by saying, look, you need to consider, first of all, that Jesus is unique.

Jesus is God, the Son in flesh. Jesus spoke in a way that we ought not to speak.

There were times when he said, you know, you have heard it said this way, but I say to you, you know, speaking as God in flesh and as one who had the authority as God and as a prophet, we don't have the right to do that.

Also, Jesus knew the hearts of people in a way that we don't. In John chapter 2 verses 23 to 25, you read that text and it's actually quite sobering because it says there that there were people who believed in Jesus, who were professing that they believed, and Jesus didn't give his time to them, it says.

He basically walked away from them, and the reason was that he knew the heart of man, he knew what was in their hearts, and so he knew that their profession was not sincere because he knew their hearts.

We don't have that ability to know the heart. And so we're going to give our attention to people like that who make a profession because we don't have the ability to discern the heart when it's not revealed in a more evident way that Jesus does.

And so he could factor that in to how he responds to certain people at different times. But also, we need to be careful that we don't, again, use historical narratives and those kinds of unique events in looking at the history of Jesus as the priority in defining how we ought to live.

Especially when it would disagree with what we see in the very clear didactic teachings of Scripture.

We ought to ask, are there didactic teachings, are there clear teachings in the epistles and in other areas that tell us that we ought to have such and such an attitude?

If that's the case, that ought to be first what affects how we live, and then we ought to interpret what

Jesus did and so on in that light to see if, A, he is fulfilling that directly, or B, he is acting in a unique way, dealing with a unique circumstance.

So people tend to go right to the historical narrative and they violate their hermeneutics, their reformed hermeneutics, which we would do in any other case.

We would say, no, let the didactic teachings interpret how you interpret historical narrative, how you understand historical narrative.

Didactic teachings take the priority, but for some reason these guys look at the historical narrative and think that that takes the cake.

But also noting with Jesus as well, again, we're not Jesus, secondly, we have to understand that Jesus' harshest words were spoken not to his brethren, not to even the disciples.

Oftentimes the disciples woe you of little faith, things like that. Of course he was God in flesh, but it was to the self -righteous, unregenerate, pride -filled, money -loving,

Holy Spirit -blaspheming, maliciously evil

Pharisees and Sadducees who were steering people away from the grace of God, who were not promoting any avenue of forgiveness or hope for sinners, who were condemning everyone and were self -righteous.

That's who Jesus is speaking to when he calls them whitewashed tombs and hypocrites and so on.

So we've got to consider his audience. He wasn't speaking to his brothers and to others who were even professing

Christians. He's speaking to the Pharisees. And then thirdly, lastly, with the issue of Jesus as well, with considering his example,

Jesus, his overall attitude, I would say, was the example par excellence of gentleness.

To say that he was not gentle to me is blasphemy. It's slander. Because we look at how he treated the

Pharisees and try to take that and now label that as the entire way that he was in his whole ministry, that that's the kind of way that he spoke to everyone, is absolutely absurd.

To broad brush what he did in those circumstances when he's dealing with those hypocrites and those people who were anti -Christ and say that that's how his general demeanor was is absolutely, to me, is an offense.

Jesus is the one who said, Come to me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle,

I am meek, and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls, for my yoke is easy and my burden is light.

Sinners felt comfortable going to Jesus. He ate with them. Prostitutes, tax collectors, were welcomed by Jesus.

He treated them with love and grace. Women who had defiled themselves in the most atrocious of ways with all kinds of men, yes, he spoke the truth to them, but he did so in a gentle and restorative and loving way.

Never mocking, never with arrogance. Even toward the Pharisees, there was never mocking or arrogance.

It was always with the right and genuine intent of preserving and edifying his people.

Again, the woman by the well, right? Jesus tells that woman, tells it like it is. You know, you've had several husbands, right?

But he gently leads her to himself, and she goes and tells others and so on.

And so to accuse him of not being gentle and to parade Christ as ungentle, because of the way he responded to the

Pharisees, to me, is the equivalent of any kind of false doctrine that we can name out there.

It's a harsh and wrong view of Scripture. In fact, I think that these are very sobering words regarding what we're talking about in 1

Corinthians 6, starting with verse 9. Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God?

Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.

Such were some of you, but you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the

Lord Jesus Christ and in the Spirit of God. A reviler is someone who assails others with contemptuous language, and they speak of them abusively, and that is listed among some pretty horrific and grotesque sins.

And it seems that there are many Christians, or professing Christians, who wink at this.

They don't really view this as something that's wrong, it's not really a sin. Oh, come on, give me a break, you're exaggerating when you rebuke me for doing this kind of a thing.

This is listed among some pretty hideous things, isn't it? Yeah, and that's because,

Chris, that's because it's divisive. It splits up the church. It does a lot of harm, a lot more harm than people realize.

Some of the greatest sins, or the greatest sins that affect, that cause the most damage, believe it or not, are not adultery as serious as adultery is.

It's terrible and murder, all those things are horrible. But some of the sins that affect the church in the worst of ways are sins that are done with the tongue.

Gossip, reviling, mocking, those kinds of things cause more damage to the church in many ways than even some of the more personal, deeper, and more serious sins that we know of in Scripture.

And it's so easy, as you said, Chris, to take those things lightly and to brush it aside and to try to see it as something that's not really that big of a deal.

It really is. And I've seen it. Like I said, I see people going back and forth and just angrily yelling back and forth at each other and it's just creating animosity and really just causing problems amongst the people of God.

So it is very serious. And of course, slander is a big part of this problem.

There are people who are publicly accusing their brethren in Christ for believing certain things that they don't believe and for having motives for certain things that they don't have.

I even was being accused of being a sycophant of Dr. James R.

White, my dear friend, going back to 1995. Someone was accusing me of sucking up to him because I get personal gain out of it in some way.

And this individual must not have known that I knew Dr. White for decades.

In fact, before he was really all that well -known at all. I mean, he was relatively unknown outside of Reformed Baptist circles at one point when

I first became a friend of his. So slander is never okay.

In fact, I have to admit it, I found it humorous, even though it's pretty horrific, when

I rebuked someone who was defending saying anything negative about Muslims, for instance, that you could come up with.

Any kind of nasty rhetoric was completely fine as far as this person was concerned, because they're

Muslims after all. And I said, well, what about the command that we're not supposed to bear false witness against our neighbor?

And the person actually said, Muslims are not my neighbors. So basically, he was saying it's okay to bear false witness about them because they're not his neighbors.

Now, as I've used this illustration before, but if you are a witness for the prosecution in a courtroom, somebody is on trial for murder, and you know for a fact because you saw the person kill one person, he murdered someone, one individual, it is still slander and bearing false witness if you say even about this murderer that you know is a murderer that he killed two people.

Right. I mean, the command against bearing false witness, that's not just referring to kind and wonderful and lovable people.

It's regarding anybody, isn't it? Yeah, in fact, Chris, that's the very logic that the popes of old used to go back on their word when dealing with some of the reformers, in fact, and with John Hus.

When John Hus was called to the council, the pope had guaranteed and the king had guaranteed that he would be safe, he would be able to return back home if he went.

He gave himself up and went because they guaranteed him safe return. And when he went there and they immediately locked him and threw him in a dungeon and people began to question the pope and it led to a great uprising with the

Hussites and so on. But the pope said, well, look, I don't have to give my word, giving my word to a heretic.

I don't have to do that. I can be dishonest because he's a heretic. And so they used that kind of excuse as well to do the damage that they did.

Well, look, if he's a heretic, it doesn't matter. And Islam, right, and some of the people within Islam would say, wait, you have the right to lie, you know, within a society if you're in a minority.

You know, so that kind of logic is not Christian. It's wrong. And I think one of the things, just to commend

Dr. White on, by the way, in my listening to some of his material, he's always trying to present a fair case, even for those who are against him pretty severely.

Like, he's very careful to ensure that even those who he opposes, who have terrible doctrines or heretics, that if they're in the right about something, he's very anal and I say that in a positive sense about ensuring that he does not misrepresent them and if they are misrepresented, he'll be the first one to defend them and say, look, that's not true.

We've got to be careful where we go. And I think that's a very important thing to maintain the integrity of somebody who is a Christian.

Yeah, I mean, people are viewing this as if there is no hope for any

Muslim to become saved. They're treating the situation as if, who cares, these people are reprobates, as if they could know not only the hearts and minds of men, but as if they could know who

God's elect are before they are regenerate and who are the reprobate.

So, you know, for us to besmirch the body of Christ in the

Christian church by lying and being careless about facts, why would anybody other than a miracle of God believe in anything else you have to say?

I mean, when I hear someone starting to bring

Calvinism, for instance, or describe Calvinism as a caricature and slander it and twist it and say all kinds of nonsensical things about it, and even laughably nonsensical things about Calvinism and the doctrines of grace, my mind shuts off as far as anything else they have to say.

I'm not hanging on their every word anymore when I know that they don't even know what they're talking about.

So if you are evangelizing lost people and you're misrepresenting the teachings of their religion or even perhaps the beliefs of the individual that you're evangelizing, they're not going to take you seriously.

Yeah, I agree 100%, Chris. And even from the other sense, from within our own camp, when

Calvinists go after Arminians, and again, I'm not talking about, you know, critiquing or even wrestling with them about things and showing the truth, because I think that our doctrines are beyond precious, you know,

I wouldn't trade them for the world. But sometimes these hyper -Calvinists, just the things that they say and the conclusions that they draw about Arminians and the blanket statements that they use to describe them, those guys too,

I shut off and I say, you know, that's not what they believe. Yeah, there's inconsistency within Arminianism, there's no question, there's an inconsistency there.

But that inconsistency is the very thing that keeps them into a place where they're safe, you know.

But they go beyond that, some Calvinists, hyper -Calvinists, and attack and just assume the worst. Assume that there is no inconsistency and play it to the worst case scenario, and they accuse them of all kinds of things.

That's why they're heretics and they're not brothers. So from both ends, you're right, I just, those kinds of people,

I just have little tolerance to listen to. I don't, you know, you can't even get anything from them. Real quick, one other thing along these lines,

Chris, as we're thinking about this, I just wanted to make a distinction too. When these guys claim to be of the ilk of a

John the Baptist, because I've heard that, well, this brother is, you know, you're called to this calling and people are called to this, and this brother is called to be of a ministry similar to, like, a

John the Baptist, to kind of go out there and kind of, like, you know, let people have it, so to speak, which John the Baptist didn't do.

And John the Baptist happened to be one of the humblest people that lived in the entire face of the earth at the time. But yes, he did confront the sin of the king, he did confront the

Pharisees, but they throw out the rest of his entire life and his general demeanor. But I think there's a difference between somebody who speaks the truth sobering, in a sobering sense, even fervently, someone like,

I think of like a modern -day Paul Washer. I could listen to Paul Washer, and he'll preach a message, and it can be real heavy, and it can be, it will hit you between the eyes.

I mean, it will hit you hard. But I can tell by how he says what he's saying, this man loves you.

This man is speaking fervently. He's speaking very strongly. He's speaking in a fiery way, but it's done in love.

Like Al Martin, people like that. It's done in love. They're not arrogant. They're not mocking.

There's such a difference between, because they would say that they're being like, they're the equivalent of a fiery preacher by doing what they do.

And I'm saying, no, don't put yourself on that ilk. Don't put yourself with a Paul Washer or an Al Martin or guys who speak, you know, with that real fiery passion and severity.

Those men are not mocking or arrogant, nor was Christ, nor was John the Baptist. It's a completely different ballgame the way these guys are, flippantly arrogant, mocking just the things that they say.

Even just, I've seen people even inquiring on a thread, just asking a question and just interacting a little bit and saying, well, what about this?

Just trying to make sense of it all and just getting beat down. I mean, just the door slammed in their face, like basically to the extent of like, well, what's wrong with you?

Like if you understood anything about theology or if you had any kind of an understanding of anything, you would, you know, like just not even working with people and reasoning with people.

It's across the board. You know, these guys are just, will just throw bobs, and it's wrong.

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We're speaking about Let Your Gentleness Be Known to All Rethinking Biblical Polemics.

We have Arnie in Perry County, Pennsylvania who says,

Are we to be devoid of humor whenever we address people with opposing views?

Some of them are so bizarre and nonsensical and laughable I cannot prevent myself from at times being sarcastic or humorous when describing what they believe.

Is this never to be practiced by faithful Christians? Yeah, I would say that to this brother that I would think in general that it's not a good idea.

And believe me, you're talking to somebody who loves humor. In fact, Chris, you too. You're well known as a man of humor too.

We love to enjoy humor. But I think when you're dealing with people who are responding to people even if they say something that's kind of outlandish or out in left field you've got to ask the question

What can I do? What's the best response to give this person that would be unto the glory of God?

God says in His Word Whatever you do, even if you eat or drink, do it in His glory. If I respond to this guy in a mocking way or even if it's ridiculous or this person is that going to bring edification to those around me?

Is that going to train them to know how to respond to others even if they come up with these ridiculous things? What's it going to do for that person's soul?

Is it going to make them want to see Christ or to turn away from their errors? So you do better to invest your time in trying to invest on bringing restoration, correction those kinds of things as opposed to mocking.

So I would say that humor really should have as little part as possible. I don't know, maybe there's some place for it but I don't see much of a place for it.

I don't see it really in the ministry of Christ at all. Let me give you an example of what maybe

Arnie is talking about. Let's say there is a Christian who has a radio show or a

TV show and he says that he has a New Testament that is being added to the

Old and New Testaments. A new word of God that was brought to him by Martians. A spacecraft landed in his backyard and the

Martians gave him this scroll that has new teachings from God. Now, if something is that insane are we not to be able to say anything in a humorous light about it?

Well, Chris, if it's you saying that we should definitely say some real humorous and crazy things against you.

That I would have no problem advocating that. No, I agree. Again, I think there's also a difference between you're listening to the radio and you hear something like that and you're with a couple of friends who are of the same mindset and you kind of crack a couple of jokes.

We all do that about certain things. I'm not saying throw that all out the window. I'm thinking more along the lines of again, if you're on the

Internet or you're on Facebook and somebody puts a comment on there and there's obviously some ignorance to the comment and then you respond to that person in a way that might embarrass them in front of everyone else and so on.

I think that the context is important. Yeah, if somebody came on the radio and again, you have even these guys like these

Benny Hinns these guys who are just evident false prophets who are malicious there's a place to say some things about these guys that's strong.

So I think there is a place for that and that's where maybe the application of Christ speaking to the Pharisees and so on would come into play as well.

But I just think we need to be cautious that we don't carry that over into dealing with individuals who may be ignorant, who may be young in the faith who may say things at times that are just really off the wall and just try to lead them in the right way.

So yeah, I think this could be a place. And of course, that has nothing to do with the circumstances that led to our discussing this topic today.

There's nothing that is outlandishly comical about those who are being slandered and belittled and having their characters assassinated in public that would involve this.

In fact, some of those who have been, for instance, belittling

Dr. James R. White, my dear friend they have made use of his ministry in the past.

They've invited him to speak at their churches. They've had conferences where he was on the roster. So you're talking about people who recognize that he is doctrinally faithful who really have a personal bone to pick or they are taking a disagreement over strategy into a whole different sphere and level of disagreement where it becomes wickedness.

Yeah, I mean, more than likely James White has probably not said anything that's outlandish in the last 40 years of his life or whatever.

But I would say that I think, again, without getting too specific I think with the issues surrounding

James White and I know people have different opinions and so on but there's been an ongoing observation of his ministry and that's gone on all the way back to certain things that have happened and that people questioned in the past and I think that some of these guys they're just constantly on the watch to observe everything he does and looking for anything and everything they can to justify themselves by attacking him.

I don't agree with everything 100 % that James White does or anyone does. I don't agree with a lot of things that I do.

I mean, the reality is still how would I handle that and I certainly have a lot of respect for Dr. White in many ways and probably most ways of what he does and I use his ministry often.

I listen to all of his church history, his lectures and so on. But there are people who are just looking for anything they can to jump on him because they have gripes from the past and so now that's their pet peeve and to me they're losing valuable time on being able to do anything productive.

Also, it creates a problem where he loses valuable time where he could be doing a lot of things he's doing and he has to spend time now addressing these things and it's just the

Reform Baptists are in cockpits against each other and there's so much that can be done for the kingdom of God.

So yeah, I think that what's going on is wrong.

They need to just step back and start pointing their guns in the right direction. Well, I want to make sure that we didn't leave any stones unturned and I want you to address some things that I might have overlooked to ask you today.

Yeah, sure. One other thing I'd mention, Chris, too, is because some people would say as well, some of these guys would say that, okay, well, as a polemicist or as an apologist or as a minister, there's a little more liberality to be able to respond in ways that are more harsh and so on.

And I want to respond to that as well because I think there's many great texts that we can go over that I've skipped just for the sake of time.

But I think one of the texts that really stands out to me is in 1 Timothy 5. And if you remember in the context of 1

Timothy, which in God's grace I just preached through recently, Paul is, throughout that book, one of his main goals is to encourage

Timothy to deal with some of the falsehoods that have been intruding the church at Ephesus. So Timothy is at Ephesus.

He's there and Paul is trying to embolden him and encourage him and exhort him to stand firm and to not be shy and not to let anybody look down upon his youth and et cetera.

And so Paul is encouraging him to clean house while he's there to deal with these errors that are in there and these fables and misuses of the law.

But it's interesting in all of that, when Paul talks to Timothy and orders him to do those things, he says in 1

Timothy 5, 1 and 2, critical instructions that really I think we need to see as applicable across the board.

And if they're applicable for Timothy as a leader in the church, as a leader above leaders, they're certainly applicable to all of us.

And it says here, he gives us the general way, a general pattern that we ought to look to in our treatment of all brothers and sisters in the faith.

And he says this, Do not rebuke an older man, but exhort him as a father. Younger men as brothers, older women as mothers, younger women as sisters, with all purity.

And so when Paul says this to Timothy, first of all, the word rebuke there, let me just say right from the outset, is not the same word for rebuke that we see, that's what we're to do positively.

We're all called to rebuke one another in love and so on. That word there means harshly rebuke. It's a different word.

It's actually a different word in the Greek, and it means don't sharply rebuke an older man. And Paul gives

Timothy general instructions on how he's to deal with the whole family of God. And he's saying, look, when you're dealing with older men,

Timothy, even as you're in charge, as you're a leader there, and you have to clean house and deal with these issues and deal with them fervently, he says don't harshly rebuke those who are older than you, like older men in the church, but exhort him as a father.

So exhort him, correct him, but treat him as you would a father. So there's a respect there in the attitude and the tone that you use.

And then the younger men, he doesn't say, okay, younger men, you can be harsh toward them. He says younger men as brothers.

Treat them as you would brothers. Older women as mothers, younger women as sisters with all purity.

And so in there we have a general demeanor across the board. How do I treat all of the people who are with me in this walk of faith?

Well, I need to ensure that those who I know who are older in their years, that I have a certain level of respect for them, and I treat them like a father, even when correcting them, even when exhorting them, even when leading them.

When I deal with older women, that I treat them like mothers. And when I deal with those who are younger or equal to my age in that area,

I treat them as brothers and sisters. And I think that gives us a general picture of how we ought to present ourselves to those who are in the church.

This is dealing specifically with brethren. How we ought to show a gentle attitude, even when correcting.

Because again, Timothy has to clean house in Ephesus. He's got a lot of garbage he has to weed out, and it's doctrinal.

It's all doctrinal stuff. So if we're going to be polemicists and we're going to address people, we have to have that mindset that's familial in our correction, that treats others as brothers and sisters and fathers and mothers, and corrects them with a tone that's appropriate to how

I would treat or I should treat a father or a mother or brother or sister. So I think that that's a great text. The qualifications for the elders in 1

Timothy, Paul says that they're to be gentle. He goes on to talk about Timothy over and over.

He says that a servant of the Lord is not to be quarrelsome, or the person who is to be qualified in ministry, but gentle.

He says, but you, O man of God, flee pursuing riches and so on. He says, flee these things and pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, patience, gentleness.

So again, Timothy, a leader in the church, is to pursue actively, consciously, consciously pursue gentleness.

And so I think that that would speak pretty strongly to the issue of polemics, how we ought to handle those we disagree with, and even when we find error.

Because the reality is, Chris, as you know, in the best of cases, in people, the smartest of people, in the most theologically astute people in this world, if we stick around them long enough, especially if they're in the public eye, they're going to have faults.

We all have faults, and they have faults too. And they're going to be seen. They're going to have tendencies. They're going to have pride.

Should it shock me when I see somebody in the public arena actually show some kind of pride?

Why am I shocked at that? What do I think, that they're already sanctified to the fullest extent? You do a debate, and debate somebody else publicly, and see if no pride comes out of you.

I mean, it's in all of us. So we have to be gracious and respond to these things in a way that's edifying, that's building up, that's speaking the truth in love.

So that's kind of a... You want me to repeat that, Chris? I may not... We have...

Let's see. We have B .B. in Cumberland County, Pennsylvania, who says,

Can you give some counsel on a wise way of retracting some unnecessary, harsh, or sinful things that someone may have said in public while not giving the appearance that you are caving in to the opinions or practices or beliefs of the one being criticized?

That is... Let me just say that that is an excellent question, and the person who did that, I really appreciate that question.

That's B .B. in Cumberland County. Okay. What do you do now when you've spoken in a way, or you've put a comment on Facebook and now everybody sees it, right?

Hundreds and hundreds of friends, and their friends and their... Without... When you want to deal with that, realizing the way you did that was with an inappropriate tone, how do you deal with that without compromising on whatever it is you're addressing?

Excellent, excellent question. What I would say is, you can... I would put out a general comment if it's on a

Facebook thread, or whatever way you can speak to the audience or the potential audience that could have been affected by it as best as you can.

I would say after praying, I would just express and say, look, I might even contact the individual if it was directed toward an individual.

Let me just say that. I might contact them privately first and say, look, I want to let you know that while we disagree on this issue and while I still think these are some things we should discuss, the way that I had addressed this with you was wrong.

It was not in a Christ -like manner. It was not in keeping with what the Scriptures say about the attitude I ought to have.

And I'm asking you for forgiveness for sinning against you because it was wrong. And I'm going to, publicly,

I'm going to put out a post that expresses, again, I'm not saying that we're in agreement, but that my attitude and the way that I addressed you was wrong and that I'm asking for forgiveness from you in a public setting.

I had to do that in a public setting in a church years ago. There was a time when

I had said something that was offensive to someone and that I actually stood before the whole church and I said, look,

I want to let you know that when I spoke to so -and -so, and again, I didn't agree with the issue necessarily,

I was still in disagreement, perhaps, over the issue, but I said, I want to let you know that the way that I addressed that person was inappropriate.

It was wrong and I ask that individual for forgiveness and I want to ask you for forgiveness. And that goes a long way.

I mean, people, that in itself is a ministry, not that you want to intentionally do wrong so that it leads to that, but that's a great ministry because people see that and say, wow, that's not natural, that's not normal.

How could I, I would never have done that. You know, this person just basically humiliated themselves in doing that. It goes a long way and I think it also having that practice will lead us more to a place where we learn how to put on humility and we learn the next time, because I don't want to embarrass myself like that again, to be careful with my words.

So I think that's what I would do. I would address it personally and if it's something that was done publicly, if it was in a public setting,

I would definitely seek to address it at least in a public sentence and say, look, we may not agree on all these things, but I want to let you know that some of the things that I said to so -and -so were definitely inappropriate, were wrong, were sinful just in the attitude and I've asked for forgiveness for him and I ask you for forgiveness.

Nothing wrong with putting that out as a post. And for those of our listeners who are using

Martin Luther and his mockery of his opponents as an example that they claim to be following, it is interesting that at the

Diet of Worms or Worms, when Johann von

Eck was cross -examining Martin Luther on the second day of the trial and von

Eck asked Luther if he defended all of his books,

Luther did admit that the books against his popish opponents were too vitriolic.

He did admit that. So that's one thing that we should remember that he did not even stand by his own actions all the time in every word that he spoke.

He was honest enough to say that he went overboard in his language at times. And we have to keep in mind again too with Martin Luther, two things.

One, unique time, unique circumstances. So I would be slow to criticize him to an extent and recognize what he's dealing with.

But also I personally would not see him as the greatest example of the particular issue we're addressing.

There were times, you know, and again the Lord used him in great ways in spite of that. And if I were in his shoes, who knows, maybe

I would have done worse. There were some things that he said especially toward the end of his life that I cringe even to read that were horrible and offensive.

And so I would say you have to take even Martin Luther with the great things how God has used him. He still is a man and even the best of men are men at best.

I would say you still have to hold him up to Scripture and say, okay, I'm not going to let... That, my ultimate guide, is not

Martin Luther except for insofar as he is following what I see taught in the didactic clear teachings of Scripture.

And so, you know, that's where I would look at with Martin Luther. I would have to look at the very clear teachings of Scripture and see and assess that.

I wouldn't look to him as the greatest example, let's say, in that vein. But at the same time,

I would also say that we have to appreciate the time that he's coming from and what he was dealing with is a completely different thing.

Even the Apostle Paul, real quick, in Acts, you remember when he stood before the council, the

Sanhedrin, and he at one point called the high priest. He didn't know it was the high priest, but he called him a whitewashed tomb.

And they said, hey, do you not know you're speaking to the high priest? And Paul kind of pulled back and said, oh, I didn't realize that was the high priest.

You know, even he, the Apostle Paul, dealing with the Pharisees, dealing with the high priest who was an ungodly man who was corrupt in every sense.

Even Paul pulled back and said, wait a second, I realized that that was not appropriate, you know, the way it is.

I didn't realize that it was him and I need to honor him because of his position. Well, you have about 90 seconds if you could summarize what you most want etched in the hearts and minds of our listeners today.

Yeah, let me just say this. You know, biblical polemics is important, as we said, as Chris said earlier.

We don't want to go to the other extreme and throw it out because it is confrontational because it does take hard work and it does deal with debate and so on.

It's important. We need those who love truth, love polemics. And so we want to protect the truth and wrestle with each other through the truth.

However, we want to adorn our polemics with a gentle heart that is in keeping with those who would seek to truly represent

Christ in any effective ministry that will bear the mark of the Holy Spirit. And so harsh, arrogant, careless polemics, even if it's accompanying biblical truth, is of the flesh.

And we need to examine ourselves and seek to ensure that we're adorning ourselves with gentleness. So we want to make sure we are men and women of truth and men and women who are gentle and gracious in presenting that truth.

Amen. Well, I want to make sure that our listeners have all the information that they need to know about you and Grace Reformed Baptist Church of Long Island in Merrick, New York.

First of all, the website for Grace Reformed Baptist Church of Long Island is gracereformedbaptistchurch .com.

gracereformedbaptistchurch .com. Is there any contact information or resource where someone can read your article that you wrote on this subject?

Yeah, that's a good question. Certainly, I have access to it. I have it on Facebook.

I've sent it to people. I have a copy of it. So if anybody would like a copy of the article, they can either...

You can contact me through our church website. Go to the email, email the church, and just say that you would like to get a copy of the article spoken about on Orange Harp and Zion from Pastor Mark Romoldi.

Just whatever. Say something like that, and I'll gladly send it to you. You could also call our church, 516 -379 -2408.

516 -379 -2408. I'd be glad to provide you with the information on how to get that article or any other questions you might have.

And, Chris, you have a copy of it, too, on hand. I think you have it. I sent it to you as an e -file. Yes, I did. I'll get it to you.

So anyway, any of those avenues would be sufficient. Well, I want to thank you so much,

Pastor Mark Romoldi. Please extend my warm greetings to my brothers and sisters at Grace Reformed Baptist Church of Long Island in Merrick, New York, whom

I love and miss dearly. And I look forward to you coming back on the program.

If you could hold on just for a minute so I can give you a proper goodbye before we go, or should

I say after we go off the air. And I want to thank everybody who listened today, especially those who took the time to write in.

I want you all to always remember for the rest of your lives that Jesus Christ is a far greater Savior than you are a sinner.