How Do I Become Cancel-Proof? | An Interview with C.R. Wiley

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We're your hosts, Harrison Kerrig and Pastor Tim Mullett, and today we seek to answer the age -old question, how do I

become cancel -proof?

Now, in order to answer this question, we'll be joined by author, writer, public speaker, and academic

board member, C .R. Wiley.

He's been happily married for over 30 years, has three grown children, and lives in the state of Washington.

He's written for Touchstone Magazine, Modern Reformation, Sacred Architecture, The Imaginative

Conservative, Front Porch Republic, National Review Online, and First Things, among others.

His most recent book is In the House of Tom Bombadil.

He's also the author of The Household and the War for the Cosmos, published by Canon Press

in 2019.

He's a board member for the Academy of Philosophy and Letters, as well as New St. Andrews College.

So, Chris, we want to start off by saying welcome to the show, welcome to Bible Bash, and thanks for coming on.

Yeah, well, I'm honored to be with you guys.

Thanks for asking.

Yeah, I know that personally I've listened to the podcast over the years and

been edified and blessed by that, and so we're excited to have you on and have a chance to.

Talk about cancel culture.

Great, well, I'm glad to be here.

Thanks for listening.

Yes, sir.

Well, maybe you could start out with just giving us a definition of cancel culture and.

Maybe tell us why you think it's a problem.

Well, I mean, cancel culture basically is an environment, kind of a social environment

in which because of kind of the, I guess, the cultural

moment that we find ourselves in, you can find yourself essentially cut off

in a variety of ways because of something you may have said, that you may have said

by accident or, you know, because you really intended to say it.

But because of the kind of strictures regarding speech

and kind of the high sensitivity that we see in lots of places, you could find yourself without a job, you could find yourself

kind of without a platform any longer if you've kind of, you know, had a

platform on one of the social media sites or even, you know,

out of a job at your church, that kind of thing.

So I guess that's what I mean by cancel culture.

I'm not the person who coined the term.

Maybe people who've, you know, been working with the term more would fill it out in ways that I have not thought of, but

that's usually, you know, what comes to mind, at least for me when I hear about cancel culture.

Sure.

So maybe you could distinguish it.

From something like church discipline or something along those lines.

Yeah.

Well, there's no process.

It's just kangaroo court and you're just suddenly cut off without any even

ability to defend yourself in many cases.

So I have a friend who was just recently canceled at Gordon College in North Shore, Boston.

Great guy.

We've known each other for over 30 years.

And he made the mistake of actually, I guess,

promoting biblical sexual ethics at a Christian college and found himself after

his first address disinvited.

So he was supposed to be there for a week.

The first address led to his disinvitation.

And it was just simply one of these, you know, things that kind of came up from below, you know, just a bunch

of people who, you know, took offense at some things that he said and

made the administration there uncomfortable enough for them to say, thanks, but no thanks.

You can go now.

Wow.

So predominantly in terms of trying to distinguish it from other, you know, biblical, maybe

forms of cancellation or something along those lines, you would primarily ground the distinction there between

the two in terms of some sort of due process or some sort of not bowing down to the court of

public pressure, that kind of thing.

Yeah.

It's the difference between the mob and the court.

Now court, you can be condemned in a court and you can be disciplined, but also with regard to the

church courts anyway, the purpose is restoration, whereas, you know, public cancel

culture, it's obliteration.

It's just, they just want you to go away and never come back, have nothing to do

anymore in the spheres that they, you know, sort of cast you out of.

So part of the reason then why it would be a problem.

Would be that it has no redemptive purpose behind it.

It just is an exercise in raw punishment, justice, punishment or destruction

where you're just trying to essentially destroy.

A person.

Yeah.

And then when we're talking about standards of justice and, you know, what are we referring to?

So I made an observation

about what occurred at Gordon College.

So Gordon College is a school that is self -consciously

and identifies itself as a Christian institution, an evangelical college

in the Christian College Coalition.

And as far as I can tell, the, you know, the standards of the school

in terms of biblical sexual ethics have unaltered.

So there's nothing that Marvin said, that my friend's name is Marvin Daniels, nothing

that Marvin said that would be out of keeping with those standards, yet he found himself

disinvited.

Wow.

So fundamentally cancel culture is imposing upon us alien standard, essentially a standard

that's coming from the outside as to just keeping the pagans happy, something along those lines.

Yeah, I think that that's correct.

I mean, there's a kind of interest in, well, you often hear

this apologized for in terms of, you know, tone.

We don't want people to, you know, have their feelings hurt or

think that we're speaking strictly from some kind of a

vitriolic and narrow -minded outlook.

So, you know, that's usually the way, at least within Christian circles or maybe in even

academic circles that are self, I guess, you know, self

-proclaimed, you know, bastions of liberal thought or liberal kind of standards.

And then little is done in terms of actually trying to

explore the basis of the accusations, whether they're founded or they're

justified or not.

There have been just a lot of examples, a lot of, you know, situations that we could point to and say,

this was just sort of a lynch mob, virtual lynch mob.

And people were punished

for things that they should not have been punished for.

They weren't even wrong.

Just a lot of people took offense.

And so, consequently, we've got a situation in which the offense is giving offense.

That's the offense.

It's not whether or not that, you know, what was said was right or wrong.

There really are situations in which giving an offense is the right thing to do.

So.

It does seem like we're living in a time.

Right now where essentially right and wrong are determined by how people emotionally respond to

that information.

More, you know, over and against just typically what we would understand right and wrong to be defined

as to their correlation to reality, essentially.

And so now, yep.

Yeah, that's right.

Now, before we started the show, Chris, you mentioned that you were excited to talk about this topic

because it's something that you think about a lot yourself.

And so, I guess I would just ask you, you know, what, what caused you to really

think so much about cancel culture to begin with?

Well, I suppose it's because I could see it coming, you know, years ago.

I lived, you know, in Cambridge, Massachusetts, for about a decade, right between

Harvard and MIT.

And I was I spent some time at Harvard.

And so I was involved in it, or I was kind of sort of situated in a milieu

in which many of the, I guess, many of the trends that we see that

have come to fruition, and have spread throughout popular culture and

not just academia, but, you know, entertainment and beyond.

I could see them in an early embryonic stage.

And I didn't take a lot of work to extrapolate to kind of imagine where things would go.

I did.

I did think that much of the evangelical world was vulnerable to kind of what we now call woke

-ism.

And I consequently began to structure my own life to

become cancel -proof.

And so I'm far enough along in that now that I'm fairly

cancel -proof.

And so I'm happy to talk about how I went about that.

But that's the reason why, because I could see it coming.

And I felt like, you know, the first place to

begin in terms of thinking this out is how do I, as an individual who at that time had, you know, small children,

how do I, you know, sort of set myself up so that I'm not going to,

well, find myself in a situation where I'm not able to take care of my family the.

Way I'd like.

So what kind of, you know, being someone who has a pretty big platform overall, I'm sure you

get a lot of people who are, you know, pretty angry about some of the things you say.

I remember, I don't remember when I saw the video, but I watched your, I

guess, the lecture you gave.

I think it was, you know, when the same night Doug Wilson gave his, I

think, sexual by design speech the same night.

Well, actually, they were different events.

Okay.

Yeah.

Yeah.

But same hostility.

Yeah.

Yeah.

So I'm sure you face stuff like that pretty often.

So, you know, do you, so could you just kind of, you know, spell out one of those experiences where you've had

people kind of coming after you for some of the things that you believe and that you've

said before?

Sure.

I mean, I've written things that have gone viral.

And I've gotten hate mail from around the world.

So, you know, I could say that I'm, I'm infamous in the minds of some people.

Notorious Sierra Wally.

That's right.

That's right.

I try to, I try to help, I try to convince people that I'm a really nice guy, but you know, some people just don't want to accept that.

But yeah, so, you know, I've had those kinds of, those kinds of experiences.

In fact, you know, my, it was interesting that my, my years in Cambridge were

very helpful in this regard.

I was in an environment where initially just kind of give you a little bit of background.

I mean, I was involved in what could be described as a kind of earlier woke -ism.

It was mostly oriented toward kind of economic issues and things related to ethnic

relationships between groups and race relations and so forth.

So I was, I was kind of on the cool side of the table at one time, you know, people, I traveled the country and

spoke about all those kinds of things.

My friend, Marvin Daniels, that I just told you about, it was canceled at Gordon College, is Black.

And we actually were involved in urban ministry for about a decade together.

So, and he's from, you know, New York City and worked in some of the toughest

neighborhoods in Chicago.

I mean, so when it comes to, you know, his pedigree and my background,

we've had plenty of, I guess, exposure, and I should focus more on myself, plenty of exposure to

the, sort of the mindsets that we're dealing with here.

When I went to Harvard initially, there was a kind of a fun story behind that, and it has to do with what we're talking about.

So I had a friend who was the chairman of the Republican city committee for the city of Cambridge.

He actually went on to work in the Bush and Obama administrations in trade.

But at that time he was there in Cambridge and he got a call from Harvey Cox.

That name probably doesn't mean anything to you, but he was a big deal back in the 60s and 70s, kind of death of God theology, stuff like

that.

He wrote a book called Secular City that sold like 2 million copies.

Anyway, he was a big deal at Harvard Divinity, kind of public intellectual, you know, got into New York times and

the Atlantic all the time.

Anyway, so he's having, he has this class on kind of evangelicalism for

students at, you know, Harvard Divinity to kind of like, you know, learn about those strange creatures,

you know, yeah, conservative Christians.

And so he called my friend David Trumbull and David said, I'm

an Anglican, I don't fit the, you know, the bill, but I know some guys.

And so he called me.

And so I went into this classroom environment where, you know, there were three of us

and there were 30 of them.

And we just kind of had it out for like an hour and a half.

It was just like complete kind of free for all kind of bar brawl.

And Harvey Cox was overseeing it, kind of like the referee.

He's a cool guy.

He's still alive.

But afterward, he actually asked me, he said, hey, I'd like you to come to Harvard Divinity.

And so that's how I ended up there.

He became my sponsor.

But every class was like this.

So, you know, the situation I faced at, you know, University of Idaho, they were really junior

league.

I mean, they were like the junior varsity of the liberal world.

I mean, they were actually kind of laughable in terms of just, they had, they had really had nothing

that.

Been there, done that, got the t -shirt.

Well, yeah.

I mean, I've, I've got, I fought their big brother, you know, so it was, it was kind

of amusing for me.

I was kind of, I was just enjoying the experience and I, and I had plenty of police protection.

Yeah.

How many death threats do you get a year?

Well, you know, one of the things this, this kind of gets back to can't, you know, how do you become counsel proof?

I really do think that there are certain ways that you can like make yourself more vulnerable

and you can kind of work at trying to make sure that those, those means by which people can get at you

are removed or at least hard to find.

And so I used to get more than I do now.

And it's because I've kind of systematically figured out, okay, these are the things that I can do to make sure that I don't get,

you know, you know, sort of hate mail in the middle of the night, wake me up at two in the.

Morning, that kind of thing.

Fair enough.

Well, one of the questions I wanted to get to before we maybe dive right into the,

the method that you're withholding from us, but you know, I think there is a sense in which there's

obviously nothing new under the sun and maybe that applies to cancel culture to some degree.

I mean, in some sense, I think cancel culture might be as.

Old as Cain with his rock as far as that's concerned.

Yeah.

Yeah.

The apostle Paul had a lot of cancellation issues.

Yeah, he did.

Yeah.

I mean, same with trials.

I mean, there's.

Plenty of, I think, historical examples of this kind of phenomenon, but you know, what, what do you make

of the current trend towards cancel culture and how do you distinguish it from historical manifestations?

It seems like there, there's something a little bit different going on today than maybe before, but maybe that

reflects a historical naivety on my part,.

But what do you think?

No, I do think, you know, technology plays a big role.

Things can happen really fast and because everything is kind of

funneled through the internet now, there are these choke points with regard to

even your financial, you know, means to make a living or to even conduct business.

So, you know, businesses can be deplatformed, that happens, debanked, you know,

that kind of stuff.

So I think that that, that technological aspect of the, of the situation

does distinguish it.

It also gives it a more, I guess, sanitary sort of character.

So like when the Apostle Paul was canceled, they actually had to pick up stones, get their hands dirty and try to

harm him physically, you know, and that can do something to, you know, your conscience.

You might feel a little bad when you see some blood, that kind of thing.

Whereas this is kind of a bloodless depersonalized kind of, even anonymous at times,

right?

Yeah.

Yeah.

Virtual experience and anonymous.

So people, and so I guess we figured out a way to do this humanely, you know, nobody's

dying in the street.

You just cut off their means of livelihood and let them kind of figure out how to take care of themselves after that.

Out of sight, out of mind.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Something like that.

Well, how would you rate it, you know, as a historical problem as it relates to that?

I mean, in terms of there, there are some things that distinguish it, the technology aspect of it.

I think, you know, the fact that there's so many people now who can basically

have access to that.

Information too, the ease of spread of information.

Yeah.

I think those things are certainly unique to our time.

I do think that, you know, we can't, we shouldn't over sort of like

state the problem in the sense that, you know, Christians in the Soviet union had it a lot harder

than we have it.

And so there's not much basis for comparison in terms of hardship.

You know, I'm not consented to gulag, you know.

Sure.

But in terms of, you know, being sort of aware

that at any moment, something could be thrown at you that, that I do think is

kind of new, you know, for example, here I am speaking to you on a

computer.

I've got my cell phone or my smartphone.

So the means of kind of access to me and my means of access to kind of this larger

world instantaneous, you know, speed of light, that's different.

Isn't it sort of weird that, I mean,.

You know, you could have said something 15, 20 years ago, and it could be resurrected today through technology in a way that

they wouldn't have that same kind of access to information.

In different times in history to be able to do that.

I've had it happen to me.

I've had it happen to me.

And I've been in situations where people are bringing up stuff from years ago and I'm like, what did I say?

I've said a lot of things, you know, can you give me a little context here?

Where'd you find this?

You know, that kind of thing.

And so anyway, yeah, that's very true.

So I guess the follow -up would be, you know, how do we get here to where we are at this point where

essentially you say one thing that someone doesn't like, and you're at a place where,

you know, you lose your job, you lose your livelihood, go bankrupt, get sued.

Right.

How do we get here?

What are some of the factors that have led to this kind of moment for us?

Well, I think there have been trends in, you know, political life and also

academic sort of thought that have coalesced with

the technology that we now possess.

So these things have kind of come together in such a way to create a kind of perfect storm for this.

So, you know, if we think about kind of the leftward, the kind of strong

egalitarian kind of undercurrent that we see in the modern world that

has kind of spread throughout society and kind of leveled many

things, including our ability to make legitimate distinctions between just,

you know, even biological realities, like men and women are different.

This stuff, you know, it goes back a long way, at least to the French Revolution.

But I think that there are antecedents even to that.

And it's been kind of working its way through the

West for some time now.

So, you know, things like what we saw in the 1960s with, you know, a lot of

what occurred with the rise of the new left, people who've been influenced by the

Frankfurt School, people who've been influenced more recently by

developments in sort of literary interpretation with Foucault and Derrida and so forth.

All this stuff is kind of working its way out to kind of the ground level.

I mean, I remember back in the 90s, I would talk about intellectual sort of trends and how

I thought they would be eventually sort of felt

in just, you know, popular culture and in just everyday work environments.

And people just thought I was nuts.

People thought that I was overstating the case or I was, you know, an alarmist or something like that.

And I'm afraid that I was right.

Everything that I said was going to happen has happened.

And so, I can go back and look at stuff that I was writing in my journal back in like 1995.

And I can say, yep, yep, yep.

All those.

Things happened.

So, partly you're mentioning critical theory and then postmodernism, the absence

of any kind of objective notion of truth.

And then so you mix those two things together.

And then kind of the egalitarian impulse, you're putting that in there as well.

Right, correct.

Combine that with the technology and, you know, we're in a situation where

feelings matter more than facts, essentially.

Yeah, certainly.

You know, many people live very kind of constant buffered lives, you know, because they don't

actually have to deal directly with the physical world.

I think that's another thing to kind of consider in all this.

There are certain professions that are much more kind of susceptible to the woke -ism that we see around us

than others.

As far as I guess -.

Like math is not, math and science aren't, but then when you're in the realm of literature, is that what you mean?

Well, you do see there, but math and science are starting to feel the pressure now in the way that no one

anticipated they would.

There are a lot of crazy things going on in those environments that a lot of people that I -.

Math is racist and two plus two equals five kind of stuff.

Yeah, almost that bad.

But I was thinking more in this in terms of, you know, guys who work with their hands, they either can do the job or

they can't.

You know, as I'm driving down the street and I'm looking at all the guys who are working on like a lot of the

large construction projects, you know, in very liberal places like Portland and Seattle, they're all guys.

You know, they're all guys.

Isn't that amazing how that works, that feminism doesn't want to advocate for equality on the construction

jobs, but only in the CEO kind of jobs.

Well, actually they try, but they fail.

You see, this is like the story that no one wants to kind of get into.

There has been a push for at least 30 years, because I can remember it, to get girls into the

trades and they just simply wash out because it's too physically demanding.

And the work has got to be done.

This is not about making you feel good.

In fact, one of the things that you see in sort of, I have a background in the trades and I've

been a contractor.

One of the things you see is you got to make money and you are in a competitive environment.

And if you're not fast enough or competent enough, we just can't wait around for you.

You know, so why don't you just go hold a sign on the side of the road that says, you know, stop and

drive slow.

And that's where you see a lot of the ladies, you know, end up is doing that kind of stuff.

If they have any kind of, you know, direct experience with the trades or sometimes you'll get some,

say, you know, home improvement company that's, you know, founded by a bunch of lesbians.

And they, unless they've got like this strong community of lesbians and feminists who keep them

busy, they're out of business before you know it.

It's a tough way to make a living.

And there's a lot of physical, there's a lot of physically demanding aspects to it.

You know, just picking up a worm drive saw is too much for most

people outside of.

The trades.

Yeah.

That kind of reminds me of, you know, when I first got out of seminary, I did an appliance delivery job for a little bit.

And, you know, we were working from, you know, four in the morning to seven at night and

delivering 600 pound refrigerators and all that kind of stuff.

But there were some ladies who worked that job with us, but, you know, they

largely, you know, as a guy in that kind of job, you know, if you had a lady that was, you're supposed to help you,

you knew that you were doing, you're taking that refrigerator in there by yourself essentially.

Well, and often what they'll have is, there are kind of these awkward moments where the

weakness of the gentle sex or the fair sex is

unavoidable.

We can't pretend that this is not true.

This refrigerator is on a landing two flights up and it needs to go up three more.

Either get out of the way, gal, or, you know, help.

And if you can't help, then why did you.

Ask for this job?

That kind of stuff.

Yeah.

A big part of cancel culture is obviously the idea that whenever the mob,

you know, the general group of people don't agree with something, they typically just want to

take whatever dissenting voices are there and just totally remove them by whatever

means are available to them.

And certainly for Christians, there's plenty of views and takes in the world that

I think any person who reads their Bible and believes that it's true and wants to commit

their lives to following what God has said is righteous.

There's plenty of things that the world believes that we would look at and say, Hey, I really

wish that this idea would go away.

I really wish that anyone who's pushing for abortion would just totally stop

advocating for it.

And so there's a sense in which I'm sure there are plenty of Christians who might be tempted to

say, man, I really want to cancel this person who keeps pushing for

homosexuality, who keeps pushing for abortion, whatever it is.

So Chris, do you think that there's ever an appropriate time for the

Christian to partake themselves in cancel culture when it comes to

talking about unbiblical views?

Yeah, I think there is.

I mean, what we were referring to earlier as church discipline,

when civil law has been informed by scripture, then the civil

authorities find themselves in situations where they're enforcing

a set of laws that has some kind of Christian input in their

development.

So in a situation like that, Christians who are

thinking as Christians and involved in sort of the political and legal process

and doing so self -consciously as Christians are looking to secure the public

good, enforce justice, these things.

It's not necessarily about whether or not something that was said hurt your feelings.

Like, for example, just a few moments ago, I said some things about the differences between men and women that some people today would find deeply

offensive.

But that doesn't matter.

They're just real.

And I'm not going to pretend that they're not.

Now, they might try to craft laws to make it illegal for me to say things like that.

And, you know, they would have some kind of philosophical

and kind of political outlook that's informing their approach to

what matters relating to law and justice and so forth.

And so they're pursuing that vision.

I simply disagree.

And I would argue that their understanding of

justice is incorrect and that, you know, an understanding of justice that's

informed by the natural law and by scripture is what we ought to be looking to

if we want to order society in ways I described.

In other words, securing the public good and securing justice.

But I guess that gets at what you're saying here, Harrison, and that is

I think there's a sometimes there's an assumption that people have that if

there are matters that I believe to be true because I'm a Christian, that means I can't call for

their recognition in the public square.

And there's kind of a self -censorship that sometimes goes on because it seems like we're just kind

of foisting our views on other people.

The Christian faith is not based on our personal predilections or, you know, desires.

The Christian faith is based on objective realities.

And so because those realities are simply true, the Christian faith should be presented as

public truth.

And so my argument would be that if we don't present the Christian faith as public truth, then in some

sense we're implying that it's not true for you.

It's just true for me.

So it's not about whether we're going to impose a certain morality on our country.

It's what morality are we going to impose, essentially?

Yeah, not whether or not, but which.

That's the thing that I think is absolutely right.

So there's no neutral ground to kind of retreat to where we all can be.

Play, you know, play it safe and be nice.

I think that we need to be civil with the people that we disagree with.

But I don't think that, I think that the days of self -censorship are over.

And I think we just need to get used to a future for the foreseeable future in which

we need to, we're called to present our convictions

as public truth.

You said that obviously one of the, one thing we do need to do is

we need to be civil in our disagreement and in our pushing for,

you know, righteousness in our nation.

I'm assuming when you say that, you mean that we shouldn't be,

I guess, essentially going after individuals who would disagree with us in the same way that it seems like,

you know, the cancel culture mob typically does today, right?

Yeah.

I think that Peter is pretty clear, you know, be prepared to make a defense for the hope that lies within you, but do so with

respect.

And the reason why we do it with respect is because of our convictions that human beings are made in the

image of God.

So it's not just that we're trying to be nice or we're trying to win friends and influence people in a kind of Dale Carnegie

way.

We're not being manipulative.

It's just simply, we're recognizing some facts, some realities.

And one of those realities is that the people that we disagree with are made in the image of God.

And we need to, even as we've disagreed with them strongly and argue

vigorously, recognize those realities and limit ourselves in

terms of what we resort to.

Okay.

All right.

One more question before we get to the title question, Chris.

I mean, the right essentially believes that cancel culture is largely a problem of the left.

And then the left will in turn, look at the right and essentially say, you know, you guys are being hypocrites.

You, you cancel just as much as we do.

Where would you fall on that kind of argument?

Well, I think we got at it a little bit already.

And that is if we have standards, then there are going to be applied.

And then the question just has to do with, are we going about it in a, in a just way?

Are we.

Due process.

Yeah.

Those, that kind of stuff.

And are the things that we're trying to enforce, things that ought to be enforced.

So I do think that there is a kind of a range of, of

matters in which we just kind of have to accept that,

you know, short of the Parousia, we kind of, kind of have to live

with, with people who disagree with us in a range of things.

And then the question is, is, you know, what, what goes in those categories,

you know, or that sort of area in which we're unlikely to get any kind of

useful, a set of standards applied.

So an example would be say prohibition.

So I'm sitting here enjoying a beer right now, as I'm talking with you guys, but there are a lot of Christians out there who think that that's,

that's a problem.

And there's a range of opinions about the status of alcohol, even in the church.

So, you know, that would, that would be something that I would categorize as a matter

that we're going to have to have generous, just, you know, sort of generous

regard for the people who disagree.

With us about.

Sure.

So would you say then that cancellation that the left is engaging in is largely based on just the standard of, you know,

hurt feelings, essentially, then what the right should be based on is more matters of,

you know, objective truth with some sort of tolerance for.

Disagreements at those levels?

Yeah, I think on the left, what's, what we're seeing today is, can be described the way you just, you just

described Tim, but I also think that there's a pretty significant difference between

groups of people in our society about the nature of language and how it's, it's used.

So if a person has come under the influence of say, you know, critical theory,

then language is just another tool or weapon to kind of get your way in the world.

It's not necessarily a means by which we convey the truth or sort of reflect reality.

It's, it's just sort of an extension of a particular group's interests.

So if a person maybe feels like, you know, something that you've said

is in some way harming their interest, you know, then

those things should not ever be permitted to be said.

Whereas a more, I think, traditional understanding of language is that language,

it has a capacity to, to express realities that are,

that are true and not just simply the interests of any particular group.

Sure.

Well, you've been kind of, we've been kind of beating around the bush with this, you know,

cancel proof.

You spent years, you know, crafting your life in a way that you've sort, you've sort of protected yourself

from all of the death threats.

So now you actually get less of them.

So, so it seems like whatever you're doing is, is working in some capacity.

So could you go ahead and, and explain to us what you meant earlier when you were talking about, Hey,

I've crafted my life.

I've sort of, you know, set up my life in this specific way that has.

Allowed me to become cancel proof.

Yeah.

I think that what I've done could be described as

bringing sort of the, the, the, the things that I need to control

closer to me in a, in other words, so that I can have a greater,

I guess, autonomy and agency.

So for example, when I had a sense that I

was going to find myself kind of outside the mainstream, when it came to certain

convictions that I had, I realized that I needed to have a greater measure of control over

my income and my wealth.

Particularly since I had, you know, small children to provide for my wife was, you know, a mom

who was homeschooling the kids.

And, and so I got involved in investment real estate.

And over the years I built a portfolio that allowed me to have this kind of

set of assets that kind of ensured my, my livelihood in

case my other means of livelihood suddenly evaporated.

So that was, that was a pretty important thing.

Later on, when I got into, you know, kind of the world of, of,

you know, publishing for, you know, wide range of public, you know, publications and was,

you know, sort of exposed in those ways.

I, I, I made sure that, you know, I had a set

of alliances or connections with publications that were

sympathetic to the kind of the core concerns I have.

So let's say, you know, the things that I write for say Canon Press or for Touchstone Magazine were published

in the New York Times.

I'd probably lose my job at the New York Times, you know?

So, you know, that's, that's a thing.

Now, those, those publications that I write for, they don't have the kind of the, obviously the reach

or the, the status of the New York Times.

But they are places where, you know, the things that I want to write about are the things they want to

publish.

A third area in which I've gotten, you know, greater degree of control is making

certain that when I'm serving an institution, including the church I serve, I'm working with

people who have a high degree of conflict tolerance.

Not, they're not conflict avoidance people, but they're people who are actually capable of dealing with,

you know, sort of hostile parties.

So the church I serve right now is definitely that way.

And it had a lot to do with why I'm here.

I've served other churches that have great people, but they weren't people who

were capable of dealing with that kind of negative.

So for, let me give you an example.

So when I was on Cape Cod, I, I pastored a church on Cape Cod back in the days when there was just a lot of talk about, you

know, gay marriage.

This was a few years back.

So this was still a matter of live, you know, controversial debate.

And I wrote a letter to the Cape Cod Times defending traditional marriage and calling

into question the legitimacy of something, you know, like gay marriage.

And it led to a hate mail campaign that went on for a month at the Cape Cod Times.

Every, every day there were letters attacking me in the Cape Cod Times.

And I remember going to my church board and saying, you know, are you guys ready for what this could mean?

Are you ready for maybe a picket line outside church on Sunday morning?

And I could see their eyes pop wide open.

They were scared to death.

I said, you know, I get it.

You know, you guys, you know, your idea of making a risky decision is maybe

moving to a new house.

And, you know, you just not, you just, it's just sort of this, this kind of thing is just

so far beyond the realm of your ability to imagine or sort of reconcile yourself to

that.

It's just unrealistic for me to accept or to believe that you could kind of step up to that.

So I think that if you're, particularly if you're a pastor, you, you need to be,

you know, you know, situated in a, in a, in a leadership environment in which

conflict is not, it's not sort of like the, the ultimate problem or the thing that needs

to be avoided at all costs.

You need to have a measure of comfort with it.

And so that was important for me as well.

I didn't want to find myself someday, you know, defending myself to my own session

or.

My own board.

Yeah.

Would you say, would you go ahead, Harrison?

You got it.

I was just going to ask, I'm assuming that means.

If, if you need to situate yourself in a sort of environment where you're surrounded by

brothers and sisters who are capable of, of facing, you know, the,

the negative feedback that you're inevitably going to get for believing that the Bible is true,

then there's a sense in which you certainly would personally need to be that way.

As well.

Right.

Yeah, that's right.

I think you need to have a, that, and this is one of the things that Aaron Wren was addressing here recently.

Are you guys familiar with Aaron and his work?

I am.

Yeah.

So Aaron, he wrote something that appeared at first things here about a month ago, published

on the website.

And it had to do with the fact that we now live in a world, which he refers to as negative world

in which conflict is inevitable.

It's just inevitable.

No matter what you do, there's going to be conflict if you are a leader in the church.

So just get used to it.

And we, we need to start vetting candidates for the ministry on mental toughness.

Can you take the pressure?

You know, think about the apostle Paul, the dude was mentally tough and physically tough.

You know, you don't take that kind of physical punishment and be as a wimp.

So this is a guy who could take it.

It doesn't mean you go out looking for it, but it's, it's, it's, it's just reality.

You are going to face it.

And so we need to start vetting candidates for the ministry, not on their likability, but which just

seems to me.

What we do.

Well, it's all dynamic personality that kind of stuff.

And it seems like we don't have, we don't want the kind of resume that Paul has.

Like we don't want that kind of, I mean, beaten and shipwrecked.

And I mean, man, like you've, I mean.

We don't want this guy as our pastor.

He's a troublemaker.

He got people mad at him, you know?

That's right.

Yeah.

I do think that in certain church environments, it really is the unforgivable sin

to, to, to, to kind of precipitate conflict.

In other words, not just simply to be the person who is receiving a pushback, but actually doing the pushing,

you know, that's, that's grounds.

And I think some church environments were defrocking.

Well, there, there is this strong and powerful unspoken agreement in churches today that

essentially I won't talk about your sin if you don't talk about mine.

That's kind of a part of it.

Now, would you, I had a question.

So you, you mentioned in terms of part of the cancel proof strategy is to essentially

arrange your affairs financially in such a way that you're not, that you have some kind of security.

And so you're thinking primarily in terms of, you know, some of the things that the Proverbs are saying at that point, and

then surround yourself with like -minded ministry leaders who have fortitude and toughness and

ability to handle conflict.

Would that mean then you would discourage individuals from doing, to

use one of those trendy words, church revitalization?

Meaning going into a church that's in trouble and trying to revitalize it?

Yeah, going into a church that's an absolute mess theologically and trying to turn the ship.

Well, I think that that's probably the place where we need, you know, the tough -minded most, you know, that's

where you're likely to find the need to maybe confront some situations.

Now, when it comes to healing, you know, it's not like you keep the volume turned up all the

time.

There are certain situations where you, I think, you know, wisdom and discretion say, okay, I need to provide a little bit of space for grace right now.

And that's where some, you know, kind of on the ground savvy is important.

But I think in all of this probably, you know, I've dealt with some very practical kinds of matters or sort

of strategies, but I think the most important thing is a kind of mindset and really a kind of

confidence in God's care that allows you to cancel yourself first.

So, I think that's really where you have to begin.

So, the first step to becoming cancel -proof is to cancel yourself.

What I mean by that is that every person has, you know,

aspires to maybe develop in leadership and maybe

acquire greater, I guess, status or maybe

enjoy a wider sphere of ministry, that kind of stuff.

And so, a lot of times you'll have guys who have kind of career aspirations who

say, well, I can't go there.

I can't talk about that because there's this sort of nagging sort of fear in the back of the mind that this

may limit my prospects down the road, right?

So, I'm just going to try to manage this so that, you know, I can kind of get out of this

alive.

But I think really what you need to do is just say, okay, I don't need the cool table.

I don't need the other job.

I'm just going to accept the fact that I may be the most unpopular person in the room wherever I go for the rest of my life.

And I'm canceling myself right now.

I'm just canceling myself.

And there's a kind of freedom that can follow when you do that.

Now, of course, you know, this ought to be accompanied by a strong conviction that, you know, you're

called to do this and that God is, you know, going to care for you throughout all of this, even if it

means, you know, living under a bridge in a cardboard box, that kind of thing.

But I really do think you kind of have to think through these things, sort of worst case scenarios and say, okay, I can live with that.

So, with the idea of canceling yourself, is that essentially the idea of ridding yourself from the.

Fear of man?

Yeah, I think that's a way to put it.

Yep, I think it.

Now, with the fear of man, what we mean by that is not just that I'm afraid to make this guy unhappy.

It can mean I'm afraid of what this may cost me with that group of people over there

if they decide that I'm persona non grata now.

Not caring about the 11th commandment?

Yeah, right.

I think that, you know, I wrote something years ago entitled, How to Be a Happy Pariah or

Cheerful Pariah.

And I think that's the thing that you should strive for.

What I mean by pariah is sort of like a person who's, you know, not

maybe welcome in certain settings because of the associations that are made.

So, you know, you're like, ah, here comes that guy.

He always brings up that issue, you know, whatever.

Trouble.

He always has something bad to say about me.

Yeah, he's just as always bringing up stuff about, I don't know, revoice or something, you know, some kind of sexual whatever

or, you know, and, you know, if you can just say, okay, I can

accept this pariah status and not revel in it or like get some kind of strange

pleasure from it, but just enjoy the

sort of the adventure of being a minister of the gospel, you know, and just kind

of passing through all of this.

I mean, you know, think about great pariahs in the past, Athanasius, Christostom,

the Apostle Paul.

There are some pretty significant pariahs in the past who were often, you know,

unwelcome.

Is part of that, you know, developing that.

Kind of mindset then just having a commitment to the truth that supersedes basically

everything else, a commitment to speak what's right and what's accurate?

Yeah, I think that's right.

There needs to be a measure of humility in so far as, you know, none of us are the final word on anything.

You know, there's always the potential that maybe there is some sort of dimension to

the truth that we are not, you know, informed about, but so long

as there's that sense of, okay, I'm a vessel, I'm doing the best I can,

and I may not be able to say everything that needs to be said, but this particular thing is definitely right no matter what anybody says,

and I'm going to stick to that, then that's what.

I'm getting at.

Sure.

Now, what would be the difference between this kind of mindset that you're

encouraging individuals to strive towards and just being kind of pugnacious or, you know,

basically just developing a martyr complex or something along those

lines where you just go into a situation like example of, you know, maybe you go into a

Muslim country into the public square and just get ready to be beheaded kind of thing.

How would that relate?

Yeah, I think there.

Are a couple of things that I'm hearing you say there, Tim, that I think kind of moves in different directions.

So, like a martyr complex, you know, what can, you know, be going on

underneath the surface in a situation like that is some really bad theology,

you know, and also kind of a failure to

recognize that there may be other alternatives to pursue, you know, in

your desire to promote the truth.

Sure.

So, now you may find yourself in the square someday, and you may find yourself in one of those either -or situations where it's, you know, either

deny Christ or die, and in those situations, then you die.

But I think that's one thing, but then with regard to sort of like kind of a

personality that kind of delights in being provocative or

Yeah, giving offense, or maybe it's trying to build some kind of following, and the way to do that is

just by saying crazy things all the time, you know, and sort of getting the thrill of a lot of

people kind of jumping on your bandwagon and cheering you on.

You know, I think that, you know, pride can be a real, you know,

pitfall for those folks.

And then the question is, what are you trying to build?

You know, are you trying to just build your ego?

Is this some kind of strange, you know, sort of project that

doesn't really have any real, you know, relationship to the truth?

In other words, are you using the truth just simply to feed your ego needs, or are you actually out to promote the

truth?

And I think that's an important thing to consider when we talk about what we're saying here.

So, there's kind of two different things there that came to mind with the comments you made.

Maybe I could just take it in a total.

Random direction, but maybe you could tell us what, you know, Trump did wrong.

I mean, he certainly, you know, made himself into a cancel -proof kind of person in a certain sense, but then,

you know, how would, you know, the way that he went about, I mean, certainly whatever you say about him, he had a

certain measure of courage, and it was significantly contagious, it seems to me.

But then there, you know, how would you distinguish just the Christian

version of that, if there is such a thing?

Well, I think that with Trump, you had a person, and, you know, I didn't spend a tremendous amount of

time analyzing that guy.

There were things about him that I found sort of refreshing, like a lot of people, you know,

kind of refreshing that refreshment that you feel when you can say, well, finally, somebody

said it in public, you know, that kind of thing.

And then, you know, the responses that people, you know,

engaged in, my personal conviction is, I thought about him a little bit, is that he was fairly artful in

a way, and I mean, in a constructive way, in the sense that he would

distract you with some provocative statement, and then while you are completely flipping out

over that, he's doing something over here that you're not watching.

So, he got a lot of things done, because he was a real artist when it came to that.

So, I also think that because he had a kind of reputation for being

brash, he didn't need to prove anything on the battlefield, so to speak.

So, you know, when we look back upon his presidency, he's, I think, the first president in a long time that didn't get us

into some war.

That's something that I think is lost in a lot of people, because it seemed like Twitter was just a war zone

all the time.

But it's one thing to say something that people don't like to hear, it's another thing to blow up cities.

And so, he seemed to work really hard at trying to keep us out of

actual bloody conflicts.

But getting, I think, to the heart of what you're saying is, what drove Trump?

Well, I'm sure a lot of it's Trump and his ego, ego needs, and that kind of stuff.

I also kind of detected a kind of a pleasure that he

derived from irritating his adversaries, and I think that some of that

goes back a long way to his days in New York, and certain

communities that he was kind of blackballed and kept out of because of

his kind of gruff queen's kind of manner, approach to things.

Anyway, those are some speculations.

Now, how does this relate to people in the church?

I think there are some people who are tempted in different

ways.

You know, people who are tempted to cowardice in the name of

some kind of misunderstanding of what the peace of the church means.

So, they're avoiding conflict all the time.

But I think that there's a problem on the other end of the spectrum where a person can just find the thrill

of the kind of the pugnacious, you know, sort of

struggle in the public square to be almost intoxicating and it's a source of pleasure.

And if that's the case, then, you know, you're not keeping things in proper perspective.

You're doing something that doesn't.

Serve the interests of the gospel.

Talking about those in the church who are typically more wary

of getting themselves into any kind of conflict or negative pushback for

things, it seems like a big problem in the evangelical church right now

is this idea that we need to be, you know, like you hear the

SBC, for example, their big mantra over the last few years has been the world is

watching, right?

And you hear words like winsome being thrown around all the time where we need to try to win the

world over for Christ.

And so, it seems like you end up because of

these kinds of ideas are the result of people who typically

view any sort of, you know, negative press or pushback from the

unbelieving world.

They view that as a really bad thing and maybe almost even

unfaithful to Christ when we experience those things.

And so, how do you think that that issue has come about and become so

popular in the evangelical church?

I think it has something to do with a kind of marketing strategy that was adopted

in the name of evangelism.

So, with the rise of the, you know, sort of the church growth movement in the

late 70s and mid 80s and how that kind of led to the

seeker -sensitive phenomenon in the 90s, what we ended up creating is this ethos in

which we're trying to create a public image that can be readily

kind of, well, seen as benign.

You know, these are all just really good people over there and that kind of thing, and they don't do anything that makes

anybody uncomfortable.

I think that that is not in keeping with what we see in the New

Testament.

It seems like in the New Testament what we have is the message leads,

and that message is good news, but it also has some rather demanding

implications for those who hear it.

Obviously, it means, you know, that there's a call to repentance.

It means that there's some appropriate response in faith, giving ourselves in faith

to God because He's given His Son to us as a sacrifice for our sins.

All of that can be deeply offensive, and then to say Jesus is

Lord was a political statement.

It wasn't just, He's Lord in my heart or something like that.

He's Lord in fact, and Caesar is not, and so that

challenged people and offended them, and so I think that what we need is to

recover our apostolic confidence.

What I mean by apostolic confidence is that we know something the world doesn't know, and it's not

just, it just simply is the case.

So, let's take a look at the rise left in the early 70s

and how it's successfully kind of marched through the institutions.

Let me tell you something.

They didn't give one thought to being winsome.

They cared about winning.

There's a huge difference.

They did the things they needed to do to win, and if they hurt your feelings along the way, too bad

for you.

That's something that I think that I'm not advocating a complete

embrace of everything Saul Alinsky said or.

Anything crazy like that.

They had a plan at least, right?

They had a plan, and the message was the thing that led,

not whether or not people liked what.

They heard.

Isn't that.

What's so funny about it is that the left is on a mission, and then even our soft evangelical

leaders, it seems like there's an asymmetrical standard in how these things are

being applied.

And so, when it comes to any kind of push with the left, the left is obviously treated with kid gloves, and then

you punch right, and that's the way it works.

Yeah, and what kind of friends do we have in the evangelical elite?

The kind that will throw us to the wolves is what we're friends with.

They do.

They do it all the time.

And so, what I think is we shouldn't just, first of all, we should not get our hopes up about those

folks at all, and we need to just simply say, okay, we're going to need to take care of some of these

matters on our own without your help, and just push forward.

And I've been in environments many times, many times, where someone who

was, say, kind of a spokesperson for the new left, kind of

what we might call woke or whatever, didn't give one thought to my feelings,

put the finger in my face, accused me of wrong,

and gave me no quarter at all, not even a means by which I

was supposed to redeem myself.

If you defend yourself, it's just evidence against you, right?

Yeah, pretty much.

I was just supposed to stop existing.

That's it.

So, if that's the way the game is played, well, we don't play by all those rules, but

I think we need to sort of find a way to

accept that we're not going to win those people over with

these philosophies of winsomeness.

They're not working.

I mean, at least we should.

Be able to say that.

They're not working.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Pragmatism isn't going to win the day over, I guess, huh?

Yeah.

All right.

Well, I guess maybe we'll just ask a few more questions.

I know you have to go.

I'll just ask one more.

Maybe Harrison will get one more, and then we'll thank you for your time.

Yeah, Tim. Glad to do it.

Yes, sir.

Well, I know with so, essentially, what you have

in mainstream, I guess, reform, evangelicalism, you have a lot of individuals who are pushing the winsome,

nuanced, gentle Jesus, that sort of thing at every point.

And then, I think with the guys who are basically aware of how this game works,

there's this realization that there's a lot of hard words that are to be found in Scripture.

So, John the Baptist or Jesus, you brood of vipers who warned you to flee from the wrath to come.

I mean, essentially, you have Jesus, the Sermon on the Mount, making a polemic against the Pharisees

at different points in his ministries.

You have the lawyer who comes up to him and says, if you're saying these harsh words to

the Pharisees, that also implicates us.

And then, that doesn't deter him.

He goes right into the lawyers, too.

And so, there's some place, it seems, in the Bible for this

war mentality where you are waging war.

We're not battling according to flesh, but everything else.

And so, there's that kind of thing.

When I hear, essentially, the guys who are up on

the game in the circles that I would say you run in and I listen to,

there might be a kind of dismissal to the notion of gentleness at all, or meekness at all, or

winsomeness at all.

Is there any way to harmonize those two kinds of passages, the kind of passage with 2

Timothy 2 .24, Lord's servant must not be quarrelsome, but kind to everyone, able to teach patiently, enduring evil

with the brood of vipers who warned you to flee from the wrath to come.

How do we do both at the same time?

Well, the old -time preachers would talk about afflicting the comfortable and comforting the afflicted.

I think that's a good way to kind of think about this.

And I think that sometimes, we look at people that we might think of as

kind of bombastic or kind of a little too, I guess,

prone to pugilism.

And we only see them in the clip.

We don't see the rest of their lives.

We're not aware of what else is going on.

I know some of these guys and I know that in many other facets of their lives, there is

kind of humble and meek as you could possibly want.

And so, how does it get out that they're that way?

Well, they don't have PR departments that spend all their time following around and trying to make them look good.

They just kind of, we only see them in the crisis moment or the conflict moment.

And I guess, you know -.

When you're in the battle, it doesn't look very pretty, right?

Yeah.

Yeah, that's right.

You know, when you walk into a situation, you may find yourself sympathetic to the wrong party

just because you've kind of walked in at a particular moment where that's the person who seems to be getting beaten up.

You just missed the earlier, you know, sort of episode where the guy pulled out a gun

and was trying to kill that.

Other guy.

Well, isn't that what's funny about it too?

That with a lot of those kinds of situations that you're describing, I think, and you're talking about

people were sheltered from the harsh realities of the world in certain ways that there are certain

situations you might find yourself in like that kind of situation.

That is, it's never going to look pretty to restrain an adult man with man strength who

doesn't want to be restrained, that kind of thing.

Right, right.

So, I think that we need to be, I guess, prudent in the judgments that we make about a

particular situation.

But, you know, I think to the heart of what you're asking, Tim, I think the audience to whom we are, you know,

to perform our ministry is the, you know, you know, the

Christ who's seated at the right hand.

He's the one that we should be most conscious of with regard to the connect of our

lives.

There are going to be plenty of, you know, there are going to be plenty of times in our lives where

we're misunderstood.

Sure.

And it doesn't matter how much we work to try to make ourselves look good.

It's just not going to look good in the eyes of some people.

Go ahead and continue.

No, well, I think you know where I was going on.

You know, keeping our eyes focused on the one to whom we're accountable.

So, would you say just rejecting kind of a one -size -fits -all approach to every encounter would be part of what

you're saying.

Then in terms of afflicting the—how did you put that?

Afflicting.

The comfortable?

Yeah, comforting the afflicted and afflicting the comfortable.

And sometimes, well, I think I've said

what I intended to say concerning how that may look to outsiders or to

people who are not familiar with the situation on the ground and have seen it,.

You know, over a span of time.

Okay.

Well, I guess the last question that we'll ask you in closing is, you know,

a lot of the people that listen to our podcast, they're going to be the kind of people who are holding a

very unpopular worldview in today's day and age.

So, yourself being someone who has faced a lot of

negative pushback all the way up to death threats, what would you say as an

encouragement to the person who feels like, hey, I've got all of these things.

I'm looking at the Bible.

I'm reading what it says.

I totally, I trust that God is not lying to me.

I trust that when He says something is good, He means it's good no matter what the world says.

But then the problem is everyone I know around me, they don't agree.

And normally, they're very vocal about their disagreement with me in a way that I don't always feel like I

can necessarily be as vocal in my disagreement as they are.

So, what would you say as an encouragement to that kind of person

who's facing a lot of opposition because of their belief and what

God has revealed to us?

Yeah, I think the thing that I turn to is that reality always wins.

So, we live in a world that is ordered the way it is

because of the Creator, and that Creator governs it in an ongoing

basis.

And when God argues, it's not just a verbal exchange.

When God argues, things happen.

In other words, there's judgment and things are shaken that

can be shaken and things that can't be shaken remain.

So, we may, you know, we're at a particular point in history

where we see a lot of things that are concerning,

but they really don't have a future.

Even if we were just to kind of think about them dispassionately and just pondered how

can these things possibly carry forward over the generations?

How can these things generally or even be reconciled to any kind of healthy development of a

culture?

They can't be.

So, you know, we're thinking, you know, when we think about the nuttiness with regard to marriage or sexual

ethics and that kind of thing in our society, we're in a situation where

there's no way we can actually reconcile the nuttiness that we see around us with the kind of health that I think we know

is required in order for our culture to, you know, move forward in a good way.

So, what I'm getting at is that the consequences of the actions that people are

engaged in and also just, you know, the fact that God

is sovereign and is overseeing the course of human history,

there will be correctives.

So, we can warn and we can pray,

but we don't necessarily need to think that it's all up to us to make everything

change, you know, in a way that we think it should change or are convinced it has to

change.

Sometimes we kind of just kind of watch and wait and things

occur that people can't argue with.

They're just realities.

So, let me give an example.

We live in a world where fewer women are having children.

Yeah.

Give it 20 years.

You know, if you go around today and ask a lot of these gals why they are, you know,

you know, living the way that they're living, you'll find a range of

justifications.

Everything from, you know, I want to reduce my carbon footprint to,

you know, we need fewer white people in the world or something like that.

And that's what they say today.

But when they're all alone and they're pushing 50 and the

prospects for having children are completely gone, and, you know,

they just maybe not even in a realistic situation to even adopt children.

And if they even were to adopt children, they would be in for a big surprise in terms of how difficult it

can be to raise an adopted child.

I think you'll find that a lot of these gals have some pretty significant regrets.

And we might, I think, be well served to think about how are we going to minister

20 years from now to all these disillusioned and bitter women, rather

than spend all of our time today thinking about how can we tell them, oh, it's okay, you don't need to get married.

You know, maybe we need to think about where this all leads.

We need a longer timeline.

Yeah.

I think something Doug frequently says, and I don't know exactly the way he says it, but something along the lines of

crazy never works long term.

Yeah. Right. I think that's right.

But it does make you want to go hug your wife and your kids thinking about some of those things and just

be moved to more compassion for those who are caught up in these kinds of delusions for sure, because, I mean, it is a

bleak future that they don't understand really.

Yeah.

And then oftentimes there are other kinds of painful episodes in their lives that, you know,

contributed to the embrace that they've, you know, made with some of this craziness.

So, you know, I'm with you.

I mean, my kids are grown.

I've got a couple of granddaughters now.

My wife and I have a great marriage, got great, all of our kids are believers.

I'm in a very good spot.

You know, I'm living the dream.

So, I don't have any, it's not like I'm mad at anybody because they've kept something from me.

I'm more just kind of like exasperated that, you know, people can't see

just how good it is when you do things the right way.

Sure.

Well, Chris, you've answered all our questions.

We're really thankful that you've come on.

It's been great talking to you.

Tell us, where can people go to find more of you?

Well, I mean, I've got a website, crwiley .com, and go there.

I don't spend a lot of time there.

It's just basically a bulletin board.

So, I just published a book.

And every once in a while, I put up some interview that, you know, I was involved in.

But then there's the Theology Podcast, which comes out every week.

We've got about 10 ,000 listeners worldwide.

It just blows our mind.

So, we did a show on Ukraine and Russia here recently.

And so, just, you know, because the podcasting software allows us to kind of explore where our listeners

are, I discovered that we do have listeners in Russia in three different cities and in Ukraine in four different

cities.

Oh, wow.

Yeah.

So, it's pretty wild that that's the case.

But that's, you know, you see it there.

And then, of course, there are the books.

And if you ever find yourself here in, you know, the Pacific Northwest, come by and say hello.

I'm at the Westminster Presbyterian Church in Vancouver.

Yeah, I wish we would have interviewed you on Tom Bombadil, too.

Yeah, yeah.

Yeah, that was a fun book to do.

All right.

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We really appreciate it a lot.

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