November 23, 2020 Show with Bob Amundsen on “Mentoring At-Risk Children in Perilous Times”

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November 24, 2020

November 23, 2020 BUD AMUNDSEN, Executive Director of Youth 71Five Ministries, who will discuss: “MENTORING AT-RISK CHILDREN in PERILOUS TIMES”

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01:20: This is Chris Arnzen, your host at Iron Sharpens Iron Radio, wishing you all a happy Monday, on this 23rd day of November, 2020, and I'm thrilled to have a first -time guest today.
01:33: His name is Bud Amundson, and he's the executive director of Youth 715
01:39: Ministries, and today we are going to be addressing the theme, Mentoring at -Risk
01:45: Children in Perilous Times, and it's my honor and privilege to welcome you for the very first time ever to Iron Sharpens Iron Radio, Bud Amundson.
01:56: Thank you, Chris. Great to be here, and thanks so much for the invite. It's great to have you here, and in fact,
02:03: I'm right away going to give our listeners our email address if you have a question that you'd like to ask Bud. Our email address is chrisarnzen at gmail .com,
02:13: chrisarnzen at gmail .com, C -H -R -I -S -A -R -N -Z -E -N at gmail .com,
02:20: and please, as always, give us your first name, your city and state of residence, and your country of residence.
02:26: If you live outside the USA, please only remain anonymous if your question involves a personal and private matter, and I could understand that there might be some questions, since we're dealing with the subject of at -risk children, there may be some questions that do involve personal and private matters that would compel you not to identify yourself, and we understand that, but if it's just a general question, please give us your first name, city and state, and country of residence.
02:55: Well, first of all, give us a summary of Youth 715
03:01: Ministries. Sure, and not to correct you, but to let folks know kind of the background of the name.
03:12: It's 71 -5, and so Youth 715 Ministries, and it comes from Psalm 71 -5, and that verse in the
03:22: International Children's Bible, which is the shortest, most concise translation of that verse.
03:30: It says, "'Lord God, you are my hope. I've trusted you since I was young.'" And we hold to, really, the hidden promise in that verse that talks about, you know, we have a lifetime of hope when we place our trust in the
03:48: Lord at a young age, and so that's really what we're about. So our mission statement, we exist to share
03:55: God's story with young people through trusting relationships in any relevant way, and we're a mission organization that focuses on the unchurched youth.
04:06: We work with youth of any age, and that is actually one of the reasons why, in 2018, we became an independent organization.
04:19: We were formerly a chapter of Youth for Christ, and Youth for Christ made a decision to focus on kids age 11 to 19 only, and we've been working with young people in the elementary age range and here more recently, and we can talk about this a little bit more, but, you know, adolescence is extending, and so we work with young people through their 20s now in our parenting ministry and also in our vocational training program.
04:54: And that's really, you know, that relevant way comment in our mission statement really shapes our focus to reach out to young people in any way that is going to be effective in reaching them, and so we have clubs and we have, you know, parent ministry, mentoring ministry, vocational training.
05:16: We work with young people in the detention system in our area, and we also not only have campus clubs, but work with families and young people in the neighborhoods, several neighborhoods in the communities that we're based in.
05:35: So, yeah, that kind of gives you a thumbnail sketch of what we're about and what we do.
05:41: And if anybody wants to find out more about Youth 71 .5
05:47: Ministries, their website is 71 spelled out in numbers, 71, and then the word 5five .org,
06:00: so it's the numbers 71 and then the name or the word 5five .org.
06:09: Well, before we go into the major theme, mentoring at -risk children in a perilous age, we typically on this program, when we have a first -time guest, we like to have that guest give a summary of their salvation testimony, what kind of religious atmosphere they were raised in, and what providential circumstances our
06:39: Sovereign Lord raised up in their lives that drew them to Himself and saved them.
06:46: And I happen to be a friend of your dad, so that's not a typical occurrence on this program, where I know my guest's dad very well,
06:58: Art Amundsen, who is a pillar member of Grace Baptist Church of Carlisle, Pennsylvania, where I also happen to be a member.
07:07: But if you could, tell us something about your own salvation testimony in a summary form.
07:14: Yeah, well, the closeness of relationship between you and my father makes me want to plead the fifth a little bit here.
07:26: Anyway, you know, I grew up in a Christ -centered home, and my father has always, you know, has often been in church leadership.
07:39: He, during the early years of my childhood, was a teacher and then headmaster of small
07:47: Christian schools, and we grew up in Christian schools, and if the church doors were open, we were there and participating, whether it was in after -school clubs or, you know,
08:03: Sunday school and Sunday service and evening service and Wednesday prayer meetings.
08:10: So, and coming from the Reformed Baptist tradition, there's a high value placed on theological and doctrinal education, and so I benefited from a zealous teacher that really wanted to make sure that his kids were well -trained in a variety of theological and doctrinal information, and now
08:44: I obviously appreciate that. I didn't appreciate it as a young person, and really, as I grew up,
08:54: I learned the form and function of Christianity. I learned...
08:59: I didn't question the existence of God, but I really struggled with, yeah, just the rules, and, you know, we all have a self -centered human nature, and mine wanted to fight for control, and so that's where, through...
09:26: So, in that, there was, at one point in time, I was 12 years old, actually traveled with my father to a church where he was giving...he
09:38: was preaching as a guest, and afterwards, he asked me what I thought and asked if I had given my life to the
09:48: Lord, and in that context, I didn't think much about it and really thought, well, you know, no,
09:58: I hadn't, and honestly, and this is not a bad reflection on him, but internally,
10:05: I was like, well, he's probably not going to let me off the hook here if I don't pray, so I prayed a prayer, but really, that didn't change anything in regards to my heart and my relationship with Christ.
10:24: Yeah, unfortunately, a lot of well -meaning but misinformed evangelicals treat what they call the sinner's prayer almost like a magical spell, don't they?
10:36: Sure, and, you know, to his credit, I don't think that's what my dad was shooting for, but I knew that if I assented and kind of worked this out, then
10:50: I would get off the hook in that context, and I wouldn't get pressured further.
10:59: So, all that to say, I went to church and youth group all through high school and did probably as much as I could to create hassles for the youth leaders that I was involved with.
11:16: As soon as I got out of the house, went to church sporadically, mostly because I just knew it was something
11:22: I should do, but, yeah, did my own thing, spent a lot of time, and, yeah, you know, this might be news to my parents, but I did a lot of partying in the latter part of my college years, and so just kind of went my way, and it really wasn't until I was 25 and had gotten married and was working as an investment broker at the time.
11:55: I love history, love archaeology, was reading an archaeology book, and there was a story in there that I shared about where the
12:05: British were fighting the Turks in the First World War, and one of the soldiers realized that they were in the same spot where Jonathan and his armor bearer kind of chased the
12:16: Philistines out of this valley and into the jaws of the rest of the army, and historically and archaeologically and geologically or geographically, that place exists, and in that moment,
12:31: I was like, wow, that's real, and that's when the Lord really opened up my eyes, and my prayer of salvation was, you know,
12:40: God, I don't know if I'm a Christian or not, but I know I want to be, and that's really where the Lord took control of my life, and, you know, the
12:51: Spirit entered, and I wasn't running my own show any longer. So how did you finally wind up providentially at Youth 715
13:04: Ministries? Yeah, another interesting story.
13:10: So I was an investment broker, and I've lived most of my life kind of outdoors, and I love adventure sports and that sort of thing, and I really just felt like this was not what
13:25: I was built for, kind of living for the weekend, not feeling fulfilled in that line of work, and, you know,
13:34: I actually commented to my father when he was out in Oregon visiting at one point in time that, you know,
13:40: I didn't really feel like this was the thing I was supposed to be doing, and he gave me a bit of good advice, and he said, well, you've got to make something clear to do next, and I said no, and he said, well, then wait, and so, anyway,
13:55: I put that on the shelf a little bit and continued, and anyway, three months later, I was improperly sued for wrongful termination, and I learned that the organization was, you know, more interested in kind of the quickest, easy way out of the problem, and in that setting, it really,
14:19: I just was like, I was discouraged. I mentioned it to a friend, and the friend said, oh, hey, Rose Valley Youth for Christ is looking for a ministry coordinator, you ought to check into that.
14:31: Well, my wife, she is an amazing woman, but when we were dating, she was always a little bit afraid that I was going to turn her into some sort of pastor's wife.
14:48: And why was she afraid of that? Well, she came from a culturally
14:54: Catholic background, and, you know, just, yeah,
15:00: I think she was born and bred to be kind of a corporate woman, and, you know, strong, self -made, very independent, and she just never saw pastor's wives in that realm.
15:20: So, anyway, and, you know, that's obviously changed with her maturity, but, yeah, she had this picture of a pastor's wife, you know, not really being out there and accomplishing much in the world.
15:35: So, that's where she literally, as I talked to her,
15:40: I was like, hey, I was thinking I might pursue this line of work, and she literally put her finger in my face and said,
15:48: I knew you were going to do this to me, I knew you were going to do this to me. And I didn't say another word, and I literally internally said, well,
15:59: Lord, if this is your plan, you're going to have to deal with that. And to her credit and to her ability to hear the
16:06: Lord, she came back literally three days later. I hadn't mentioned another word, and she said,
16:14: I know, or I hate that I'm going to say this, but I know that's what
16:20: God wants you to be doing. So, that's where I, interestingly enough, sometimes we have,
16:31: God gives us great situations of faith and trust that kind of mark, and I tell my staff, always have a memorial to your calling.
16:46: And, anyway, my memorial to my calling is actually a key ring that has
16:52: Edward Jones on it, and it's just a reminder, because in that situation, I had this suit going on, and I realized if I didn't stay employed by Jones, then
17:08: I would be personally responsible for that whole legal process. And so, very clearly, the
17:17: Lord's like, you know, I want you to trust me. So, I call my supervisor, and as I call and he picks up the phone, he's like, oh, hey,
17:29: I was just getting ready to call you. And I was like, oh, what's up? And he's like, well, we just settled that lawsuit, everything's all rigged out, cleared up, no problem.
17:41: And I was like, well, I was just calling to resign. But what was interesting is, you know,
17:48: God wouldn't give me that answer until I trusted Him and made that phone call, kind of stepped out in faith and willingness to go, all right,
17:58: I'll leave the consequences up to the Lord. And then in an instant, I mean, literally in an instant, it was solved.
18:05: It was completely out of the way, and I was really freed up to resign and go into the ministry.
18:16: Great. Well, that was pretty fascinating. And, well, let's start with our theme today now, mentoring at -risk youths or at -risk children in perilous times.
18:32: What exactly are the different kinds of children that would be under the category of at -risk children?
18:43: Well, it's a very broad term, and it really depends on, you know, what context you're discussing.
18:51: And I would even go so far as to say that any child is at risk in some way or another.
19:01: But typically in social services, an at -risk child is determined to be someone that now, when they're talking of risk in a child's life, they normally are talking about ACEs or what are called adverse childhood experiences.
19:17: And what is that child facing in their life that creates or keeps them from thriving and moving into adulthood to live a productive, healthy life?
19:38: So, you know, when you look at adverse childhood experiences, that can be abuse or divorce or, you know, a parent dying.
19:51: It can also be where there's, in the family structure, a lack of care, so neglect is involved.
20:04: We may have situations where the kids' basic physical needs are being met, but, you know, highly damaging emotional abuse going on within the home.
20:21: You know, beyond that, you know, abuse that's outside the home, whether that's at school or sexual abuse that takes place in neighborhoods and extended families and in schools.
20:38: You know, all of those situations, obviously, create adverse reactions in young people.
20:50: And what I've seen over the years, the best way I describe that is when a child has been abused, neglected, you know, their emotional well -being gets twisted and they begin to protect themselves and, you know, self -medicate through inappropriate emotional feelings and beliefs, and that moves into all manner of different addictions and issues that we see in the lives of adults.
21:32: And now, under the heading of mentoring, another key word in our discussion today, what does it exactly mean to mentor?
21:45: Well, so, yeah, I framed that with coming out of the at -risk situation, and when we're dealing with young people, really, in any scenario, but particularly in the at -risk area, most, if not all, come from some level of relational poverty.
22:15: And that's a term that we use internally, and really that's where those young people are missing the relationships that are necessary to thrive.
22:24: And so, how do we meet that need?
22:30: Well, it comes through, and what can actually completely rewire the brain is a trusting relationship with a caring adult that walks through life with that young person.
22:46: And so, obviously, mentoring in a cultural sense can be defined in so many different ways, and whether it is just reading stories for young people at a school or, you know, even monitoring a cafeteria or, you know, spending time in your youth group with young people, but with mentoring specifically, we talk about a formalized relationship that a caring adult gets involved and spends the time to build a trusting relationship that this young person can hang on to and walk alongside, you know, for many years.
23:35: Now, how does Youth 715 Ministries get in contact with the specific at -risk youths with which they work and for whom they mentor?
23:48: So, and that's where, again, our ministries are pretty broad, and so we have school -based and those young people come and, you know, play games and activities and interact with staff, and we present the gospel in that context.
24:10: Usually, in that setting, we see very quickly and easily that there are certain young people in that group that are missing that relational capital, the people that care about that kid in their life.
24:28: And so, whether we suggest a mentor or whether the kid says, oh, hey, you know,
24:33: I know my friend Johnny has a mentor. How do I get a mentor? And so, really, there's kind of a funnel effect to the top of our ministries.
24:44: Everybody's welcome and anybody can get involved, and really, we truly believe at our core that every kid could use a mentor, but obviously, we don't have the resources and volunteers to provide that.
25:01: So, what do we do? Well, that's where we work with our staff and identify young people and try and provide those formalized relationships for those kids that are in desperate need.
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35:56: Bud Amundson, and we are discussing mentoring at -risk children in perilous times.
36:05: Bud Amundson is Executive Director of Youth 715 Ministries, and if you have a question, our email address is chrisarnsen at gmail .com,
36:15: c -h -r -i -s -a -r -n -z -e -n at gmail .com. As always, give us your first name at least, your city and state of residence, and your country of residence, if you live outside the
36:24: USA, and only remain anonymous if your question involves a personal and private matter.
36:31: In fact, we have a question that does very much so involve a personal and private matter from an anonymous listener,
36:39: Bud. We have an anonymous listener who asks, We have adopted a child from a foreign country, and unfortunately the child, who came to us in pre -teen ages, has demonstrated a large degree of mental illness and violent behavior.
37:02: He has actually threatened us and our children with serious violence, although he has never actually done the physical acts.
37:13: Does your organization, Youth 715, work with such children, and how do we get a hold of you to have him enrolled in a program with you?
37:27: Great question. And, wow, that's a challenge, and I just want to, one, say,
37:39: I just compliment your willingness to adopt, and, you know, there's so many young people in this country and around the world that are dealing with trauma and are in desperate need of care.
37:58: And so, I just want to start off by saying thank you for caring about someone else's child.
38:06: And, you know, the challenge that you're facing, I mean, obviously, you probably don't know the full extent, but that young person is following a track often followed by adoptive children, and because they've experienced trauma and they're dealing with post -traumatic stress, they've got some stuff that they're not able to handle and aren't dealing with it appropriately.
38:35: And so, do we work with those young people? We work with them in a broad sense. You know, our ministry right now, even though I have hopes, desires, and dreams to take the mission beyond Southern Oregon, but that's where we are currently located, but I would certainly be willing to do all we can to find another organization.
39:00: And, you know, I'm not sure where this individual is located, but, yeah, I would certainly do all we can to provide resources wherever they are, because I, you know, we haven't adopted any children, but we have done a lot of parenting of other people's young...of
39:24: other people's children, and we know the challenges that arise in that situation.
39:32: It can feel just incredibly hopeless. So, yeah, kind of a roundabout answer.
39:39: Obviously, if they're in Southern Oregon, we could help in a much more practical way.
39:45: Beyond that, we certainly would do all we can to provide resources for this person, this family.
39:54: Now, I happen to personally know several different families who all adopted children from the same foreign country.
40:04: And more than half of those families experienced the same problem that our anonymous listener is dealing with.
40:16: I can remember one specific couple who adopted a child...in
40:25: fact, they adopted at least three children in that one household from the same country, and only one of them had this violent behavior, where they would be awakened in the middle of the night with him standing in the bedroom with a butcher knife that he had taken from the kitchen, threatening to kill them and their other children, and things like that.
40:53: And so, the other families, as I said, over half of them were having similar problems with adopted children from the same country.
41:05: And yet, there are other, as I said, other families that I know personally who adopted children from the same country, and they never had anything remotely even close to a situation like that.
41:18: So, I know that the orphanages that these children came from, that my friends had adopted their children from, were abysmal.
41:31: They were really horrible, wretched places where the children were not cared for properly, and they weren't tended to, they weren't nurtured in a loving and tender way.
41:43: Is that a common root of this kind of a situation?
41:50: It might not even be an adopted child, but is there a thread that is fairly typical connected to a child, especially when it's a child that's not even a teenager yet, who's demonstrating this frightening behavior?
42:07: Yeah, and there's a whole lot that is in this conversation right now.
42:15: There's so many different variables and elements to it. But, you know, one, and I didn't mention it earlier, but adoption itself is being seen as an adverse childhood experience.
42:28: So, just the fact that, you know, a child is put up for adoption and even gets that, so it happens in infancy, maybe, it just creates an adverse situation right from the start.
42:49: Well, all of those adverse experiences are some level of trauma.
42:56: And when trauma is unresolved, it comes out in really inappropriate ways, and that, whether it's violence or whether it is some other form of antisocial behavior, it is traumatic and critical.
43:22: So, how do you work through that? Well, it's a lot of different things.
43:30: And obviously, you know, and I don't say this as a trite, you know,
43:39: Christian answer. You know, prayer is critical in that situation, because, you know, unless you're different than me, none of us have the ability to change a heart.
43:51: Even, you know, with the best counseling and with all the different elements that we might be able to bring to help a young person, it still requires the
44:02: Holy Spirit to work and to change their heart. And so, beyond that, then, you know, trying to get to some of the challenges that this young person has experienced and try and get them to unpack that.
44:18: And oftentimes, you know, they don't even necessarily have a memory of it.
44:27: And so, how do you get to that? Well, it takes some love and care.
44:33: And oftentimes, I think, probably, primarily, you know, some professional guidance in that situation is critical.
44:48: The end result of all... I mean, every young person, whether they're natural or coming from adoption, you know, life is full of hardship.
45:02: And whether a child experiences trauma outside the home, you know, or whether it's something that takes place, bullying at school, all of that, those have deep -seated impacts into the life of the child.
45:19: And, you know, we're in a time within our society and culture where we don't have the supports that used to be there.
45:36: Our families aren't as close as they once were. We don't have aunts and uncles and people mentoring, you know, their nephews and nieces and cousins.
45:51: More families are spread out and more distant. And so, that...
45:56: And oftentimes, there's, you know, a lack of either both parents in the home or that, you know, there's been divorce and step -parents are involved in all that.
46:09: So, young people, I think, have, you know, in the past, experienced trauma, but had maybe a better network to support them.
46:21: And now, I think there's even more trauma that we see. I see that in our ministry here.
46:30: The stuff that we used to see maybe once a month, now we see on a weekly basis. And so, how does that get dealt with when one, you know, in the post -modern world, we should probably talk a little...
46:45: We're going to talk about kids. We should talk about post -modernism. But in a post -modern society with family structure that's broken down, how does that kid get, you know, the love, care, and support that is necessary?
47:05: And some trauma, I truly believe, needs some professional assistance. So, that's a long -winded answer and probably not a very concise answer, but the best one
47:15: I have. Well, you don't have to worry about long -winded answers here since we have a two -hour show, and I always want my guests to be as thorough as possible when they're giving an answer.
47:27: Iron Sharp and Zion Radio is not known for its soundbite interviews, so you don't have to...
47:33: I appreciate that. And we do have another listener.
47:39: We have Harrison in Mechanicsburg, Pennsylvania, who asks, I know that you are a
47:44: Christian organization. When you are dealing with children that actually have parents and families from which they come, do they have to sign some kind of permission or release form, knowing that you may be teaching these children something different than they are being taught at home?
48:04: So, our formalized mentoring relationships, yes, there's a parent's permission slip is assigned for that, and yes, it's very much voluntary in terms of the kids or the parents' involvement.
48:24: And then, our other program, we just make it very clear that we're coming from a Christ -centered perspective, and none of our programs are mandated in any way.
48:38: Also, a young person has the opportunity, if they are involved with the activities, we don't force them to stay through the
48:48: Bible discussion. But one thing we have found is, through these trusting relationships, that's where, you know, it's really built the best bridge for the
49:02: Gospel, and that's where kids are like, yeah, I'll hang around because this person that cares about me is involved as well.
49:13: So, yeah, it's all voluntary, and for the formalized mentoring relationships, we do get a permission slip.
49:21: And we have Arnie in Perry County, Pennsylvania, who asks,
49:28: Is a family required by law to call the police if a young child threatens violence upon anyone in the family, like the child described in an earlier question from an anonymous listener?
49:42: Especially, I was wondering if this was the case with minors who are threatening violence, not necessarily teenagers or older children.
49:54: That's a great question, and you'll have to make sure that the laws in Pennsylvania or whatever state you live in are the same.
50:06: I believe they're the same across the nation. There are mandatory reporters, and there are folks that are not.
50:16: And so, as a parent or family member, it doesn't qualify you as a mandatory reporter.
50:24: Now, if I heard that as an employee of Youth 715
50:30: Ministries, if I heard that that was taking place, then, you know,
50:38: I'd have to consider. Usually, threats by minors are not seen as something that is needed to be reported, unless you're in the school situation.
50:52: But, you know, obviously, if there's abuse or dangerous, you know, threats being made to other kids in the family, then we would see ourselves, because each of our employees are mandatory reporters, we would want to report that.
51:16: In fact, I want to pick up on that when we return from our midway break with a follow -up question.
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01:13:16: I just have a couple of important announcements to make. Tomorrow on this program we should be having a really fascinating and vitally important interview that involves the
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01:15:26: Chaos of a Relativistic World. And since we're talking about mentoring children
01:15:32: I wanted to ask my listeners for prayer on December 3rd, which is a
01:15:39: Thursday we have scheduled to be on this program some dear, dear friends of mine going back to the 1980s
01:15:46: Jerry and Fern Hill the founder of the Timothy Hill Children's Ranch which is a home for homeless children they have a facility for boys that has been in operation for the entirety of its existence going back to the 1970s,
01:16:08: I believe but they also have a more recent facility for girls the
01:16:14: Timothy Hill Children's Ranch is a wonderful ministry for at -risk children and my friend
01:16:22: Jerry who, as I said, I've known for many years he, I believe, he's 90 years old although if you've met him you'd never know that he was 90 years old not only because of his youthful appearance but his physical fitness his mental fitness and awareness and alertness well,
01:16:45: Jerry just had a stroke and from what I understand it is not too severe
01:16:53: I may get another update on that that contradicts what I just said but from what
01:16:58: I understand he is responding but he's just a little fuzzy in the way that he responds but hopefully
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01:22:12: Bud Amundson on mentoring at risk children in perilous times that's chrisarnson at gmail .com
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01:22:27: I believe it was Arnie in Perry County Pennsylvania asked about the legal requirements for parents when a child especially when you are talking about a preteen makes violent threats may even be as this listener was the listener before Arnie Arnie the anonymous listener was asking about a child that they adopted that was carrying a butcher knife and Arnie was asking about the legal requirements to report such an incident to the police especially if it involves a minor
01:23:08: I was wondering if you knew about the same situation where you have minors and it may be innocent and I have to be careful with the way
01:23:19: I phrase this but you have minors that may be doing something that appears to be sexual molestation of their siblings or another child or what have you but it may be innocent maybe curiosity playing doctor as the old phrase goes do you know what the legal requirements of that kind of a situation are so yeah again there is classifications in terms of reporting requirements so there is no law that requires a parent to report their child and it might be a situation where an older minor is creating such a situation that it needs to be reported by the parent they obviously need to use their wisdom in that regard and for me personally
01:24:28: I don't know that there is ever a situation and I appreciate your willingness to say you have to word things carefully but yeah those sexual exploration elements really are almost always a problem and so that's where something needs to be done and whether people outside the home should report that sort of thing people inside the home should get some help for the kids that are dealing with it and mostly because where did this child learn that behavior is something that really needs to be addressed and I'm not saying that every situation is a carry over from a child being molested but a vast majority of the time when they are pushing that kind of behavior on a sibling or another child that they know it comes from the fact that they've had that behavior done to them when you're volunteering in the church or in a ministry or a child or a children's program almost
01:25:56: I think in every situation you are a mandatory reporter the only time that that is maybe withdrawn is in a situation where in a
01:26:08: Catholic church where a confession is held as a non -mandatory reporting scenario but otherwise if we hear about those things we need to report outside the family
01:26:23: Okay and we do have let's see here
01:26:29: CJ from Lyndonhurst Long Island New York who asks what is a typical problem going on in households that would require your involvement in mentoring children
01:26:45: I understand that they may be an impossible question to answer in the limited time that we have but I was just curious if there was a more routine issue and you could please compare and contrast those problems that are involving secular households where the
01:27:05: Christian faith is not present and even problems that exist in Christian households where the parents are members in good standing of biblically sound churches and the
01:27:17: Bible is being taught in the home but the problem still persists Wow How much time do we have and probably would need
01:27:29: Well you have right now before we go to the final break somewhere in the neighborhood of 15 minutes
01:27:35: Yeah so I mean that is a deep multifaceted question again we work with any kid we truly believe that every child even coming from a healthy family needs kind of a what we call a third voice in their life so there's mom and there's dad and then often times particularly in adolescence they need that third voice someone that comes alongside them and you know confirms the right and good and appropriate messages that are coming out of their family and also you know challenges the young person to you know hold on to those things and then it's also there's many situations where inappropriate dynamics are being taught to young people and hopefully there's a godly person a third voice again that can say well you know here's what scripture says about that or here's what we know is right and proper in that situation so every
01:28:50: I mean every every person needs someone that walks alongside them you know as adults we generally have friends but we have mentoring relationships that are peers or I'm pretty strong on having historic mentors so people that have lived before me that you know
01:29:17: I read their books and learn from their life and we all need that so you know every person needs that scenario for me it was a farmer that when
01:29:34: I was about 11 years old he invited me out to help him bale hay and then he just connected with me in regards to you know he'd listen to what was going on he'd share his life and I'd share my life
01:29:51: I'd spend a lot of time riding on the fender of a tractor he took me hunting something that I enjoyed that my father wasn't particularly interested in and I learned a lot of skills and things related to farming but the biggest thing is he loved me cared for me
01:30:12: I trusted him and he taught me an outside perspective of you know my family you know
01:30:24: Christianity he walked through really difficult times when
01:30:29: I was there with him and he was relying on the Lord so even though I didn't really grab hold of that till later in life
01:30:36: I saw that example he was somebody that I knew I trusted and I knew he cared about me and I knew he loved
01:30:45: Jesus and so that really stuck with me throughout the years and then you know going beyond that scenario and our society today is deadly you know mixed into that the fact that we have gotten to a situation where you know you hear the term post -modern and you might you know throw around the term post -Christian but our culture it trains our children to determine truth through their feelings and you know you see every
01:31:35: Disney museum movie in the last you know 30 years how do you figure out what to do when you look inside yourself and you seek to you know find out who you are and what you're about by looking inside yourself and those of us that come from a traditional historic
01:32:01: Christian perspective realize that inside ourselves left alone without the work of the
01:32:09: Holy Spirit there's nothing good there and so when we are allowing or training our young people to determine what is true and right by how they feel it's a deadly scenario so again that situation
01:32:33: I don't know that any household in our country escapes that so my guess is and I was grateful for other adults pouring into my kids because as much as I work to train them to follow the ways of Christ there's this huge secular culture that is grabbing a hold of them and teaching them very different principles and having another trusted voice or having actually better many other trusted voices in their life is crucial so there's probably another element of that question that I'm not touching on but that's what
01:33:23: I could remember sure that was very adequate the issue of there are organizations
01:33:36: I don't want to mention them by name because if you have something negative to say I don't want to necessarily disparage specific organizations unless you have something of urgent need that needs to be publicized about a certain organization but there are organizations that invite anybody of course
01:34:03: I'm sure they screen these people somehow when they respond to the commercials but they invite anybody to be a mentor to children are these kinds of organizations really recommended by somebody like you it almost seems especially in this day and age we might not have even thought twice about something like this 20 or 30 years ago but things have gotten so insane with the level of evil and depravity that has been reported in the media very frequently about the abuse of children in all kinds of monstrous ways are these kinds of organizations trustworthy for the most part or what can you say about that kind of model where you might even be advertising to the general public hey join us and mentor a child right yeah and you know by and large particularly the national organizations that offer that are you know they do a good job of screening and those are you know good things for young people but you know you gotta really be involved and so I can say that you know secular relationships you know people that don't have a relationship with Christ still offer you know good things to young people in need they're not the best you know thing they're not going to help them eternally but I can say
01:35:49: I've had coaches I've had friends parents I've had you know other people that don't know
01:35:55: Christ that have been helpful and supportive in my role or in my life and that role allows them to you know influence me to be productive and upstanding and you know develop into a solid adult again what are they motivated out of what's going on as a parent you gotta stay close and monitor those relationships because trust brings influence and so if your child trusts this person they will have influence in their life just gotta be involved we're going to go to our final break it's going to be a much shorter break than the last breaks so if you do have a question we strongly advise that you send in the questions quickly before we run out of time our email address is chrisarnson at gmail .com
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01:47:01: We have another anonymous listener with a question for Bud Amundsen. What do you think churches should do to be more involved in having children mentored that are perhaps the children in one -parent households, either due to divorce or to a widow -widower situation, or perhaps a mother has had a child out of wedlock?
01:47:26: Should more men and women be stepping up to the plate in congregations, at the direction of their elders, of course, in order to be involved in such ministries?
01:47:38: Well, I would like to pay that person for teeing me up here for a minute.
01:47:47: I really want to talk about that, because, you know, that is the best possible question to ask, and it's really, you know, crucial for the
01:48:04: Church to understand that trusting relationships is really where the focal point of youth ministry needs to be.
01:48:16: We have been program -based for numerous decades, and basically, the
01:48:27: Church as a whole has farmed out the relational segment to paid staff and, you know, the youth workers and, you know,
01:48:41: Sunday school teachers. Those are the folks that reach our kids. Well, it's not nearly enough.
01:48:49: The situation of young people has, you know... There's so much underneath this, but we talk about there's no longer strong meta -narratives in our culture.
01:49:03: So, we don't function off of the same value system and same greater stories.
01:49:10: And so, young people are more and more isolated. So, even in the
01:49:16: Church, those young people that we're working with are coming from a much more varied value system.
01:49:25: And so, without connecting at a deep level and building trust, with us just communicating information, it just doesn't go far enough.
01:49:42: And so, as I talked about earlier, trust brings influence. And, you know, you think of the average youth pastor, and if they're really extremely gifted, they have the ability to build relationships with maybe 15 young people.
01:50:08: And most are dealing with groups that are greater and sometimes far greater than that.
01:50:15: Well, how does that pastor influence? Well, you can teach and preach and talk to kids, but with a greater post -modern perspective, again, where a kid is able to determine their own set of truths, that's the culture that they're coming from.
01:50:41: Even though their family may be saying, that's completely hogwash and not true, that post -modern perspective comes in, and it's so much more difficult for a pastor to communicate to those young people in an effective way the truth of God's Word.
01:51:05: Also, you know, again, there's so much behind this, but young people are determining truth through their feelings.
01:51:18: Well, you know, God's not surprised by that, because, you know, can you think of a book that teaches truth through story?
01:51:27: Well, the Bible, right? Well, so story is incredibly important in communicating with young people.
01:51:35: Facts, figures, information, that spoke to the modern mind. Post -modern mind, you have to tap on their feelings, and to do that, information has to come in the form of story.
01:51:47: And so, story, how do you communicate story? Well, obviously, truths out of Scripture come in story form, but a young person oftentimes needs a stepping stone, and for me, it was that farmer that got involved, that connected, and he shared his life, he shared his story, he shared what was going on on a day -to -day basis, and, you know,
01:52:10: I'm less post -modern than these kids are today, but that is what resonated, that connection, that story, that true, real -life, how he trusted in Jesus spoke volumes.
01:52:27: So, also, I would say, you know, many churches are doing youth church, and so the youth group becomes this, like, distanced arm of the body, and statistically, only 20 % of young people that participate in youth group actually go on to be a part of the adult church.
01:52:53: That's a horrible statistic. Why? Well, because there aren't enough relationships that draw young people into the church body.
01:53:04: If, in a typical church situation, if you look at the congregation and you see young people, teenagers, walking into the sanctuary or to another event at the church, they're like cats.
01:53:16: They walk along the outside of the room, unless they've grown up and they have many relationships in that church, and those young people, they'll walk through the center of the room.
01:53:29: They'll feel like, hey, this is where I belong. I'm a part of this body. Well, a youth pastor and youth staff, they're just not enough bodies to draw those kids in and make them feel like this is their home, to draw them in and teach them about how church functions, and to engage them where their gifts are.
01:53:54: You know, we, as individuals, because we have no comparison point, we can't determine what our giftings are.
01:54:00: And obviously, God can speak to us in some respects, but it's through other people. It's outside perspectives.
01:54:08: When somebody says, wow, that's a gift. You're good at that. That's something that I can't do, but you can do.
01:54:14: Well, that comparison allows a young person to go, hey, this is where I fit into my church context.
01:54:24: So, yeah, man, if there's one thing I could communicate, it's the fact that all of us, as God -loving, you know, adults that care about the future of His Church and the future of our young people, we have to get up and out of the pews and connect on an intimate level with young people that are in the
01:54:54: Church, outside the Church, and a part of this next generation. Great.
01:55:02: We have Susan Margaret in Dauphin County, Pennsylvania, who asks, how can a person volunteer for such a group that might not be a part of their local congregation, but is more of a para -church organization like yours?
01:55:21: Well, I would say, find them and give them a call. Get online. You know, we're constantly asking folks to get involved, and that's where, if you live in Southern Oregon, I encourage you to go to 715 .org,
01:55:37: and there's a tab there that says, Involved, and hit that and get involved in one of our ministries or another.
01:55:47: Other areas, you know, if you're interested in working with young people, you know, if you have a youth pastor or someone involved in your
01:55:56: Church that is connected with youth in the community, ask them. They know who the players are, and go get involved.
01:56:05: And the website, again, is 715 .org.
01:56:18: And I'd like you to have about three minutes or so to summarize what you most want etched in the hearts and minds of our listeners today before we go off the air.
01:56:29: Wow. I would just reiterate, really, it's all hands on deck.
01:56:38: If we're going to impact this next generation, it really takes God's people getting involved, building trust in a relationship with a young person.
01:56:50: They're not like we were or are. They come at life in a very different way.
01:57:00: Don't lecture. Listen. You know, find out.
01:57:07: So, we talk about three stories. So, find out their story, and then you have a story.
01:57:14: You get to share somewhere those two stories overlap. And then, God's story.
01:57:20: Somehow, God impacted your life. And so, God's story has made changes in your life.
01:57:28: And so, where their life and your life and God's story intersect, that's the most fruitful place for evangelism.
01:57:36: That's where it's a natural thing, because, you know, they're dealing with stuff in life, and they're wanting to know, and you've dealt with it or are dealing with something similar.
01:57:46: And how has God moved in your life and answered those questions and brought peace into those challenges?
01:57:55: That's the most powerful message that we have. So, what does
01:58:01: God call us to be? Witnesses, right? And so, we're not all preachers.
01:58:06: We're not all teachers, but we are all witnesses. And we all... If you have an authentic relationship with Jesus Christ, then you know enough to lead someone else to have an authentic relationship with Jesus Christ.
01:58:22: And so, that's where it just takes a little bit of patience to build that relationship, to find out who they are, you know, to not be critical, not be judgmental in terms of what's going on.
01:58:33: They're functioning in life off of their best answers. So, you be patient with that, and then when they ask you, well, what do you think?
01:58:41: Then you have opportunity to share your story and what's going on. If they're sit back, you know, kind of like the proverbial borrowed dog, then you've got to let them off the hook and say, okay,
01:58:52: I'll come back to that. But then, if they ask you and engage your experience, boy, that's where you have, again, opportunity to give glory to God, to show what
01:59:06: He's accomplished in your life. And don't go for a decision. Look for a transformed life.
01:59:13: That's critical as we work in the lives of young people today.
01:59:18: Amen. Well, I want to repeat your website. It is 715 .org.
01:59:24: And once again, the numbers 7 -1 are in number form, and the word 5 is spelled out in letters,
01:59:31: F -I -V -E. And that's .org. So, we want to thank you so much,
01:59:37: Bud Amundsen, for being our guest today. And I want to thank everybody who listened, especially those who took the time to write.
01:59:44: And I want you all to always remember for the rest of your lives that Jesus Christ is a far greater