Marriage According to Jesus

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Christ’s Journey Into Judea and the Coming Conflict

Well, this afternoon we're in Mark chapter 10 and we are literally and figuratively turning to a new chapter in the life and ministry of the Lord Jesus Christ leading up to his final days in Jerusalem.

As we already know, for the last nine chapters of Mark, we have been with Christ, as it were, at the edge of the Sea of Galilee and the fertile hills surrounding that scenic lake. We've been on the Mount of Transfiguration with Christ, high above Caesarea Philippi, and now the scene is changing again, and I alluded to this a few weeks ago.

As Christ makes his way now south, he's going to take us into Judea, the very heart of Israel, the corrupt core. He's going to inch us closer and closer to the corrupt core of political and religious power in the nation.

As we might expect, as our Lord nears the very city that he will be put to death in, Jesus is now going to be increasingly confronted with tests and attacks at the hands of the religious leaders. As Christ's divine mission comes to an end, the confrontational nature of his ministry is going to escalate to a crescendo, at which point, as we know, he will go to Calvary where he will be nailed to the cross.

He will be hoisted up. My mind thinks of something like a divine lightning rod high above the temple mount, beneath the dark sky of God's displeasure, and there he will be forsaken by man and forsaken by God alike.

That's where we're headed. That's where Christ is headed. But before we get there, what we're going to find is that Christ is going to be tested repeatedly by his contemporaries. And that brings us to the very point that we're at today in Mark chapter 10 and verse 1.

We're going to find Christ here enduring the first wave of this increasing opposition at the hands of the Jewish religious leaders. And at the very forefront of this attack, we should not at all be surprised that the focal point of this offensive is the family.

The very first attack, as Christ enters into Judea, is this God-ordained relationship between a man and a woman that we call marriage. It's a relationship that's been under attack since Genesis chapter 3, when Satan went to Eve and not Adam in the garden.

It's the very same relationship that is under increasing attack today as Christians, as men and women in the world. And so as Christ makes his way south, the religious leaders and some of their entourage are going to begin to question Christ about some of the most controversial topics of the day.

They're going to bring him marriage. And what else could be as important as children and money? And so for today's purposes, we're going to look at the first two and leave the question of money and wealth to next week.

And what we're going to see is Christ interacts with these leaders in these first 17 or 16 verses of Mark chapter 10 is this. That we're going to get a crash course on what I am calling marriage according to Jesus.

You'll remember a number of years ago, John MacArthur wrote a book, The Gospel According to Jesus, The Gospel According to Paul. Well, today we're going to get marriage according to Jesus. And this is what we're going to see, that in stark contrast to the traditions of men and the opinions of powerful people, what Christ is going to do, even as he teaches on this difficult topic of divorce, is he's going to reveal the beauty of biblical marriage.

Marriage that is informed by and anchored to the precepts of Holy Scripture rather than the changing tides of public opinion. And as we unpack this, you'll see in the bulletin insert, if you'd like taking notes, that we're going to look at five principles that I really want to draw from the text.

Five principles of marriage according to Jesus Christ. And because it's a five-point sermon, we're going to get right into it. I promise the points are shorter. So you know I can preach a two-point sermon for one hour.

I'm not going to keep us for two and a half hours. So we'll begin by reading Mark chapter 10 verses 1 to 6. And he left there and went to the region of Judea, beyond the Jordan, and crowds gathered to him again.

And again, as was his custom, he taught them. And Pharisees came up, and in order to test him, asked, Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife? He answered them, What did Moses command you? They said, Moses allowed a man to write a certificate of divorce and to send her away.

And Jesus said to them, Because of your hardness of heart, he wrote you this commandment. But from the beginning of creation, God made them male and female. Therefore, I'll read verse 7 as well, A man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife.

Marriage Is Defined by God’s Word Alone

From this text, the first principle that I want to draw out is this. It's this. Marriage is a union defined by God's word. Now, where do I get that? I'm going to show you. Marriage is a union. Marriage according to Jesus is no more and no less than marriage according to the Bible.

And I'm going to show you how that is. So let me set the scene. In Mark chapter 10 and verse 1, Jesus enters into Judea, which is essentially Old Testament Judah in the south of Israel. This here was the home of Jerusalem, of the temple of Yahweh, of the city of David, the location of the Old Testament royal palace, which stood opposite the temple across the Tyropean Valley.

And as was his custom, Jesus Christ taught the people. He came to this region to dispense the truth by preaching and teaching from the word of God. It's reminiscent, if we think all the way back to Mark chapter 1 and verse 38, where he says there, Let us go on to the next town that I may preach there also, for that is why I came.

And so as Christ is there in Judea now preaching and teaching, he was approached by members of the Pharisee party, a strict sect of the Jews. We've spoken about them many times before. They prided themselves in being uncompromising adherents to the old covenant law.

And the question that they put to Christ was this. We've read it already. Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife? It sounds pretty basic, doesn't it? Not that controversial. In Matthew 19 and verse 3, he recounts a few more of the details.

He asks the question, is it lawful, or they ask the question, is it lawful to divorce one's wife for any cause? Now, we might not appreciate it today, but the Pharisees here, what they were doing is they were laying a minefield before the Lord Jesus.

The Pharisees knew exactly what they were doing, and Christ knew exactly what they were doing as well. Here the Pharisees were putting before Jesus one of the most controversial and hotly debated topics, not only in the world today, but in Jewish culture, in Jewish society some 2 ,000 years ago.

Think about this. If you're going to oppose Christ as he comes into your region, what's the first question you're going to answer with? You're going to hit with the hardest blow that you can at the very first.

And that's exactly what they do. This was a hotly debated question in Jewish society, the question of divorce. In fact, this was, if we remember all the way back or a little ways back to Mark 6, this was the very reason that John the Baptist was beheaded by Herod and Herodias for this very topic of marriage and divorce.

And so if you were to put yourself in Christ's position as he comes into Judea, and the Pharisees are asking this question, picture yourself in this position. You're at work, maybe, if you're employed.

Maybe, children, if you're at school, you're in the classroom, and someone asks you in front of all of your colleagues, in front of your boss, in front of your classmates, what is your opinion on gay marriage?

Now, what are you going to do? Are you going to stand up and speak for what is good and righteous and true? Or are you going to capitulate and bow to the social pressure that you're under and say, well, maybe I agree with what the mainstream agrees with?

And here what we have is this. Christ is standing before the Pharisees with this question. Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any reason? And he knows, he would have known, that there were two predominant views of marriage and divorce at that time.

One school of thought was led by a rabbi named Rabbi Shammai. And Rabbi Shammai taught that divorce was wrong in every instance except in the instance of adultery. And often the camps that followed Rabbi Shammai would say that in a case where a woman, for instance, was caught in adultery, it demanded divorce.

Divorce was not the last possible recourse, but the only possible recourse. Your wife cheats on you, your husband cheats on you, you must divorce them. The other school of thought was led by Rabbi Hallel, who the Pharisees, they would have subscribed to his particular view.

And he taught that divorce was permissible for almost any infraction within a marriage. In some ways, Rabbi Hallel held a view that's not that different from our views today or the views of the world considering marriage today.

For instance, if a wife were to undercook or to overcook her husband's lamb at dinner, that was a divorceable offense. Be careful, wives, if you live with someone who follows Rabbi Hallel. Under this school, it was permissible for a man to divorce his wife if she did not keep up on her domestic duties.

If she wasn't cleaning the toilet and sweeping and cleaning the kitchen as she ought to do, that itself was a divorceable offense. And then even more egregious, a man could divorce his wife, in the words of one rabbi, if he found another woman who was fairer than his current wife.

And so you're out for a walk and you see a woman who's young and available and attractive. She is fairer than my current wife, and for that reason, I have found something indecent in my current wife, and I will marry her instead.

Now it makes you wonder, in light of this cultural context, who is Jesus Christ going to align himself with? Is he going to align himself with Rabbi Shammai, who makes one opportunity, one instance where a man can divorce his wife?

Or is he going to align himself with Rabbi Hallel, who is very liberal and easygoing and really seeks to serve the men of the Jewish community well? Is he going to agree with Herod and Herodias? In verse 3, Christ gives us the answer.

Christ appeals neither to the school of human opinion, nor does he capitulate to the views held by adulterous and bloodthirsty rulers like Herodias, but instead he appeals to the scriptures alone. When Christ was asked about marriage, he went to the Bible.

In reference to Deuteronomy 24, verses 1 -4, our Lord asks the Pharisees, he says, What did Moses command you? The Pharisees knew that Moses had made a concession for divorce in Deuteronomy. This was actually the text that they relied on to fashion their own corrupted theology of divorce.

But certainly they understood that Moses was not encouraging divorce, but instead insisted on the need for the certificate of divorce to hold parties accountable, and even especially to protect women, so that if a woman was divorced without a justifiable cause, it would be set in the record, and she would be left not to fend for herself as a divorced woman and maybe scrutinized or stigmatized as an adulterer, but that she would be able to preserve her life, preserve her dignity, and seek even to remarry with her certificate of divorce, demonstrating that her husband had in fact abandoned her.

And then in verse 5, Christ condemns the Pharisees, explaining that this concession was put in place not to promote divorce, but because of the Jews' hardness of heart. In verses 6 and 7, Christ again appeals to scripture by quoting from the creation account.

Now Christ is going all the way back to the beginning, to Genesis chapter 2 and verse 24. And I want to draw our attention, I could draw our attention to many things here, but I want to draw our attention to this first of all, that while the Pharisees and while the rabbis and while the rulers of the day insisted on viewing marriage and divorce and issues of family from their own human traditions, from their own opinions, here we see that Christ appeals to what?

Only to God's Word. And isn't that the world that we live in today? There are so many opinions about marriage, so many opinions about sex and gender, so many opinions about divorce and about children.

And where are we to go? We're to go to the same place that Christ went to. For those of you who are theological geeks like me, I want to point out something here, that it's no exaggeration to say that Christ's philosophy in this exchange demonstrates that he held to sola scriptura and analogia scriptura.

And what I mean by that is this, that sola scriptura is that Christ recognized that divine authority belonged to God's Word alone. When the Jews, when the Pharisees came to him with questions concerning marriage, he didn't go to his own opinion.

He didn't go to what a rabbi taught. He went to what God said in his Word. And not only did he do that, but he used what we would call the analogy of Scripture. He used Scripture to interpret Scripture.

When he saw that the Pharisees were misapplying Deuteronomy 24 verses 1 -4,.

What did he do?

But he went to another verse in Genesis chapter 2 at the creation account. He used Scripture to interpret Scripture and to correct the Pharisees. And Christ, as we have seen in the Gospel of Mark, is consistent with this across the board.

In Mark chapter 7 and verse 9, for instance, he said to the Pharisees, you have a fine way of rejecting the commandment of God in order to establish your own tradition. They rejected God's Word in favor of their own tradition.

And if we are to be a people, a church, if you're to be a believer who has a right view of marriage, we must understand this, we must follow Christ's example. This is the very foundation of marriage. This is the very foundation of the Christian life, that God's Word alone is authoritative.

Now, children, I could say any number of things from behind this, we'll call it a pulpit. Just because I say it doesn't mean it's true. Your parents, as wonderful as they are, can say many things, but just because they say it doesn't mean it's true.

It must come from the Bible. We must be Bereans, to hear what people say, to read what we read in the news and in books, and even in good theology books, and to weigh it against Scripture. And then I'm going to do something that I don't normally do, but I'm going to fast forward us for a minute to verses 13 through 16.

I'm not going to read it all, we've already heard it read. But these children were brought to Christ. And Jesus says, I'll say this in verse 14, He says, Now there's many perspectives of what this means.

For instance, John MacArthur. I respect John MacArthur, he's a brother in Christ, but I disagree with his interpretation here. He says here that salvation, this means that there is salvation for the young, and for the mentally impaired.

I do not think that that's what this text means. There are many people who read this text, and they think it means that we are to be simple. Simple-minded, like children. And that means that we throw aside all study of the Bible, any academic type of work at Scripture, any kind of rigorous study.

Others think that it relates to blind faith, that we should just receive things at face value, the way that children do, the way that children believe in Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny, and any countless number of other creatures, beings.

I don't know where some of our children are in this congregation on that topic, and I'm not going to upset the parents, but I know what my children believe. So does this describe you? Are you fully submitted to the Word of God, as it relates to everything?

Or are there aspects of your life that you're holding back, where you are hard-hearted to the Word of God, where you are obstinate, where you say, I know the Bible says this, but this is what I want.

For anyone who's been around me for any period of time, you know that one of my guilty pleasures, one of my secret guilty pleasures, is the study of aviation. My kids will sometimes find me squirreled away on my phone or something, watching YouTube, and oftentimes it's either a political video or it's an aviation video.

And Steve knows this. He's seen me when I get around pilots and all the questions that I like to ask. And one of the things, the very first things they teach a pilot when they're learning to fly is to trust their instruments.

For dozens and dozens of hours, a pilot will spend flying probably in skies like this, clear blue skies, with nothing to obscure their vision. And eventually after they've been through enough training and they get their instrumentation training, they learn to fly in the clouds.

And one of the things that the flight instructor always reminds their student is this, that when you are in the clouds, trust your instruments. When you're in the fog, trust your instruments. When you can't see the horizon, trust your instruments.

It's a statistic in aviation that the average pilot who doesn't trust their instruments when they're flying through instrument conditions will survive 178 seconds, less than three minutes, before their plane will plunge into the ground.

Even after a commercial pilot has been flying for hundreds and thousands of hours, even when their minds and their senses, the sensations in their bodies tell them otherwise, they've been trained to trust their instruments.

There's an aviation saying,.

There are old pilots,.

There are bold pilots, but there are not many old, bold pilots. And brothers and sisters, if we are to become old, faithful, persevering, enduring Christians over the long haul, we must trust our instrument.

And what is our instrument? But that which the Lord has given to us. So that when we are, as Steve and I sometimes talk about,.

In the fog,.

Not able to tell which way is the right way and which way is the wrong way, the instrument that God has given us to discern truth from error.

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The Word of God. And like children, the children that Christ speaks about in verses 13 through 16, it's not to be simple-minded, it's not to give blind faith to things, it is to submit ourselves, to trust humbly in God and in His Word, to have a sweet submission to the Word of God.

Marriage as a Covenant Between One Man and One Woman

The next principle that I want to turn to in our text is this, that marriage is a covenant between one man and one woman. It's a revolutionary thought, isn't it? Marriage is a covenant between one man and one woman.

And what we're going to find, actually, is that there's a lot of overlap in the text, and so I'm going to read a few texts that we've already read again, but I'm going to highlight something else in that text.

And so we'll begin in verses 6. Verse 6. But from the beginning of creation God made them male and female. Therefore a man note that shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.

So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Because God's Word and not man's Word is what defines marriage. We must confess with Christ that there are only two genders. And marriage is only to occur between one man and one woman.

Now, if you talk to many Christians, or, I'm going to say it, professing Christians who affirm the LGBTQ sexual revolution, they will often point out that it was only Paul that spoke about homosexuality and about the nature of marriage and things like that.

And often they think about passages like 1 Corinthians 6 and verse 9. Paul writes there, 1 Corinthians 6, 9,. Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? I think we would agree with that.

The unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God. Paul, tell us who they are. And one half of the list reads like this. He says, Do not be deceived, neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality.

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These affirming Christians will come to passages and say, Well, those are Paul's words, but Christ never spoke on the matter. And here I am to point you to Mark chapter 10 and verses 6 to 8,.

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Christ teaches authoritatively a gender binary. There is no such thing as non-binary in Scripture. There is man, and there is woman, and there is nothing else. And some of you in this room might be offended by that fact.

This is not my opinion. This is not the opinion of the Universal Church. This is not the opinion of the local church. This is God's authoritative word. And so your problem is not with me,.

But with God.

And with what He has said. And what Christ teaches us here is that when a marriage is to occur, it is to be between a man and a woman. The Bible teaches from Genesis to Malachi, the whole scope of the Old Testament.

And then throughout the New Testament, that this marriage covenant, Malachi calls it in Malachi 2 .14, a marriage covenant, is to be between one man and one woman. Now, I know that many of you in this room, I'm preaching to the choir.

You know this already. But children, I'm saying this to some extent especially for your benefit. Noah, even you in the back, I want you to pay special attention to this. I promise you that your generation, more than mine, more than your parents, more than all of us probably, your generation, children, is going to tell you that a man can be a woman and a woman can be a man and you can be any gender you want to be on any possible spectrum of genders.

And I want to say something to you, children, specifically, that I want you to take to heart. And I don't say this to be mean. I don't say this to be intolerant or hurtful. I say this because it is true and it's what the Bible teaches.

When the world teaches that a boy can be a girl and a girl can be a boy or something in between or neither, it is a lie. It's a lie like Satan lied to Eve in the garden. It's a lie like the lie that the Pharisees believed about divorce.

It is a lie and you must not believe them. And pay attention to me here. When the world asks you why you don't believe this lie, don't tell them that it's because of your own opinion. Don't tell them that it's because it's your parents' opinion.

Don't tell them that it's my opinion. I'm not afraid of getting in trouble for this. But tell them it's because this is what the Word of God says. And I will not believe. And I will not support. And I will not forward a lie.

And then children and adults, if I can include you, marriage is to be between one man and one woman. Now certainly we can harp on the one sin of homosexual marriage. But let me bring this in for you young men who want to be married, who plan to be married, young women who want to be married, who plan to be married, young men and young women, old men and old women, who are married.

I'll include myself in the old category. Marriage is to be not only between one man and one woman physically, but in the head, in the hands, in the heart. The Lord Jesus Christ said in Matthew 5, 28, He said,.

But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart. The world will tell you, as I've been told many times, it's okay to look, it's just not okay to touch.

It couldn't be further from the truth. You are to be faithful to your wife with your hands, with your heart, with your head, to your future wife. Solomon pleads. I remember reading through the Proverbs last year with my children and getting to Proverbs chapter 5 and the dramatic scene that Solomon paints in Proverbs chapter 5 is so compelling.

And we should all be attentive to this, whether it's a young lady at work that we meet or it's something we see on the internet or a website that we have no business visiting. Proverbs 5 says this, verse 1, My son, be attentive to my wisdom.

Boys, be attentive here to the word of God. Incline your ear to my understanding that you may keep discretion and your lips may guard knowledge.

Why?

Why does the writer of Proverbs want our attention? He says this, For the lips of a forbidden woman drip honey, and her speech is smoother than oil. The speech and appearance of sexual immorality can be so enticing, Solomon says.

But he says this, But in the end she is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword. Her feet go down to death. Her steps follow the path to Sheol. And then in verses 8 and 9 of Proverbs 5.

It says this,.

Young men, young women, keep your way far from her. Do not go near the door of her house lest you give honor to others and your years,.

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Not your hours, not your months, your years, to the merciless. Now someone might say, if I click on this page on the website, is it really going to, am I giving my years to the merciless? Am I not just giving a day or a weekend to the merciless?

John MacArthur tells a story about a man who wrote to him. And the man was inquiring about getting a set of his MacArthur Bible commentary set, which if you like books, you know it's expensive. It's an expensive set.

And this man wrote to him and said that by God's grace he had been saved from a homosexual lifestyle. It was 25 years before he wrote this letter to MacArthur. But he said that prior to that, he had spent 40 years living a life of rank sexual immorality.

And he said in his letter, he said, I would really like a copy of your commentary set because I need to fill my mind with the word of God. And he said this, that even though it had been 25 years, he said, I still need to read my Bible four hours a day, five hours a day to get those thoughts out of my mind.

Those scenes, those images. Men, maybe women too, you know what I'm talking about. Those images that are burned into your mind for years. I remember being a young boy discovering some magazines that my dad had.

I could, if I wanted to, bring those images to my mind now. They burn into your brains and it's merciless. We must guard our hearts. We must be faithful to our wives. Be faithful to our future wives. Be faithful to our future husbands.

Marriage is second only to obedience to God and sacredness, one commentator writes. The third principle that I want to bring before us is this. Marriage is a complementary union. This is just such a controversial passage, isn't it?

Verses 7 and 8 read like this. Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother, leave and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh. The image that Christ is taking from this text is the same image that we see in Genesis 2 .24.

There's a good rhyming expression that I like to use, to leave and to cleave. To leave your father and your mother and to cleave, to hold fast to your spouse, to your wife. The connotation of that is almost like to glue together.

The root of that word is the same root of our word zygote, where two cells come together. And so this is what the Lord is picturing in this, that when two, when a man and a woman come together, they create one flesh.

And if we go just a few verses earlier to Genesis 2 .18, why do these two come together? In Genesis 2 .18 it says,. Then the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone, I will make a helper fit for him.

Why did God create woman out of man? And it happened. It was because it was not good for man to be alone. And not only that, but God saw that it was fit to make a helper for him. God saw to it that he would create a woman out of man for companionship, for reproduction, but also for complementary values or complementary purposes, that she would be a helper fit for him.

And in Genesis what we read is this, that man was given the mandate, and man, we've talked about this almost ad nauseum, haven't we? To work and to keep. Men in this room, the Scriptures call you not to be boys.

They call you to be men, and to work and to keep, and to provide and to protect, to be the leaders of your household, to use a biblical expression, to be the head, to exercise headship in your families.

Now there are many people that are just as grieved about that as they would be my last two points. But men, you were called to lead your households. And women, you were called to be the companion of that man, to be in a one-flesh union with that man.

And you were called to be a helper to that man. In Genesis 5 .22 it says, Wives, submit to your own husbands. What a revolutionary thought. Wives, submit to your own husbands. I remember, I believe I've shared this story before, but maybe for the benefit of those who haven't heard it, I remember speaking about this passage with a young woman who was preparing for marriage, a professing Christian at work.

And she was talking about being excited for marriage, and what all the things that marriage would entail. And I went to my favorite passage on marriage because I wanted to rejoice with her, this professing Christian.

And I said, look at God's good design for marriage. Wives, submit to your own husbands as to the Lord. And then, later on, husbands, love your wives. And I highlighted that the passage to husbands is at least three times bigger than the passage to wives.

And the important responsibility of the man to love, to cherish, and to lead his wife, to sacrificially love her as Christ loved the church. And after I waxed eloquent about the beauty of God's design for marriage, she said, I hate that passage.

But this is the way that God has designed marriage. Wives, submit to your own husbands as to the Lord, for the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church. Man is not the highest authority.

He is under Christ. But God has ordained man to be the head of the wife, and to husbands. Husbands, we can chuckle about this, but the serious call to be a man, to be a husband. Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of the water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.

In the same way, husbands, in this room, should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife, loves himself. Have you ever thought about that? That when you do not love and care for your wife, you're not even loving and caring for yourself.

For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes it and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of one body. Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.

And then the kicker, he says, this mystery is profound, and I'm saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

This is what God has called men and women to in marriage, that the man would love his wife like Christ did his church, even unto death, and that the wife would respect her husband. Now I know that there are people that think that this is the most grotesque idea in all the world.

I know there might be people in this room that think this is the most grotesque idea in all the world, but it's biblical. And not only is it biblical, but let me just say, it just makes sense. And what I mean is this, that for those of you that do not believe that this is a good thing, for those of you that think this is an egregious thing, think about this, that the world tells you it is okay for you, young lady, to go to work and to submit to your boss without batting an eye, to do whatever it is that they tell you to do, joyfully.

And there's not a concern in the world. The world can tell you to go to school and to listen studiously and carefully under your instructor, to submit to them grading your papers and marking your exams, and not to worry.

They would say there's nothing wrong with that. But then they would say in the same breath, for you to go home and to submit to the man of whom you have devoted your life to through the vows of marriage, under Christ, under God, the very one in whom you have become one flesh with, for you to submit to that man is disgusting and disturbing above all things.