TLP 351: Linguistic Theft | Hillary Morgan Ferrer Interview, Part 2

I always told the teenage boys I worked with not to be too impressed when a girl said they were cute Because a girl will call a puppy cute.

They will call an old man cute Oh, we will totally call an old man cute Which is what I'm saying, so it doesn't mean anything when the girl calls them cute

Or even those dogs that are so ugly that they're cute So yeah, it doesn't always mean what you hope it means No, it doesn't

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Here's your host, A .M. Brewster If you were with us last time, then you were introduced to Hilary Morgan Ferrer Of course, if you started listening to the

Mama Bear Apologetics, you probably knew about her way before you ever knew about me So really, in a way, I don't have to introduce her

But I'll give her a chance to tell a little bit about herself, who she is, and her ministry And then we will dive into today's show, which is the second part of our interview from last time

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Friday And I hope you win Hilary, thank you so much for being back How are the hiccups?

Are you okay? Well, same as they were since fifth grade Just random and just obtrusive

Why don't you tell us a little bit about yourself and your ministry? So my name is

Hilary Ferrer My husband is John Ferrer And he was doing formal apologetics ministry before I even was

And my kind of specialty, I was a science teacher And so I wanted to go back and get an advanced degree in science

Specifically biology so that I could really speak into A lot of the questions that I saw coming out with students

In the sciences, especially in regards to faith And so, but then the Lord really called me into I guess a more roundabout apologetics ministry in general

When he kind of started placing just the phrase Mama Bear Apologetics on my heart And realized that, you know what?

Women will stand up and learn stuff That they wouldn't necessarily do for themselves

But when they see that it's going to take their children down Suddenly they become a whole different beast And they will rise up And they will teach themselves apologetics

Because they are saying, not my kids, not today And I thought that that would be a really good instinct to harness

So that's kind of where Mama Bear Apologetics came from Yeah, this is nothing compared to getting an advanced degree in biology

But I actually read the Harry Potter series My motivation at the beginning was one reason and one reason only

People were saying, Christians in particular were saying So many bad things about it It's demonic, it's witchcraft, all that kind of stuff

And I couldn't speak intelligently into it So I thought, well, I'll study it, I'll read it So that I can speak intelligently

And I think really that's what we talked about last time And what we're talking about this time That's kind of the invitation

The invitation is to you parents, all of us To take that extra step, to study To know what the world is saying

Know what's out there Know what our kids are hearing And then be able to intelligently respond to it

Yeah Alright, so last time we talked about the book Mama Bear Apologetics Empowering your kids to challenge cultural lies

And I mentioned that we were going to be having a giveaway A contest, a competition So that you could win a copy of the book

If you want to know how to do that You can stick to the end of this show Or you can listen to the end of our last show

To find out how you can win that book There are three different ways to get your name into the drawing I hope you'll do all of those

Today though, we're not going to talk about the book in general We're going to look specifically at chapter 4 Now, I mentioned last time that the book is broken up I've got my book here in front of me

I always like the guys on the radio You can hear them rustling their pages I never do that, so this is my page rustling

The book is broken up into two parts The first part is really laying a foundation For what it means to be a mama

Or a papa bear And the second book is dealing specifically with all the isms The lies that Part two is lies you've probably heard

But didn't know what they were called So they tell us what the lies are They tell us what they're called

And they help us to learn how to equip our kids To reject those lies To challenge those beliefs

Those worldviews So the first four chapters of the book are these First is calling all mama bears

And I love their subtitles You have to get the book for so many awesome reasons But you'll smile every time you read the subtitles

The very first subtitle is My kid has a cheerio shoved up his nose Why am

I reading this book? And that is so beautiful I love that The second chapter is

Taken from an actual mama bear conversation I have to say I think this was Hillary Short's contribution

Oh my word If you ever want to find yourself saying ridiculous things Just have children

Oh my goodness And then the second chapter is How to be a mama bear Which their subtitle is

Is this code for being the weirdest mom on the playground? Third chapter is The discerning mama bear

And then the fourth chapter is called Linguistic theft I love that terminology

I've been trying to I've been calling it different things And when I found that That's the term

I'm going to use from now on Linguistic theft That perfectly describes what is going on in our society today

We're going to kind of dig into The chapter a little bit And discuss this Because I want to have a couple more episodes after this

Where we the TLP family are talking about The importance of Our family vocabularies

The importance of what we say How we speak Not just the tone of voices and things like that Not just being kind and loving and gracious But literally what we mean when we say the words that we mean

So this is an awesome way to Segway into that conversation I appreciate you taking the time to do this with us

But to you, succinctly What is linguistic theft? So linguistic theft

Is when people have taken words That have traditional meanings And literally changed the meaning

And specifically for the terms we're talking about in this book They change the meaning And then they put it back

On say Christians And say well your god says That he's love and this is what love means

Or your god says to Be in unity and we're going to decide So it's taking these

Christian ideas And words, changing the definition And then placing them on us as if we're required

To obey the new definition Instead of the definition As it was understood when the bible was originally written

But I mean this can go Not just with Christian stuff This is going in all sorts of different directions right now

That words are just losing their meaning Left and right and that is how propaganda Is being used That if you can just define assault

However you want Well then yes everybody got assaulted Or if you can define gender however you want

Then yes your march for women Can include anyone who wants to be a woman All of these things are words that have meaning

But if you take the meaning away Then all of a sudden you can actually change The identity of the cause that you're supporting

And that's concerning Yeah I love the way that you summarize that We're going to talk more about some of the words

That are commonly stolen From our language But I want to pinpoint one of them

Just as an example here at the very beginning You used the word gender For the longest time the word gender

Didn't have anything to do with a person's sex They were completely different terms

In fact the word gender was never used To apply to a human It was a word that was used of linguistics

For example if you're studying a language You would talk about the gender of a word Right That's the only time gender was used

But here's the interesting thing Now this is a personal opinion I don't know that it's 100 % true But I think that the word gender

Came to be used as a substitute Originally for the word sex Because Christians and even the world

At large at the time Didn't like using the word sex So the word gender seemed like a really decent

Substitute and so they started using the word gender Gender started to become A substitute for the word sex

Which it never was And nowadays it's gone beyond that It is now seen as separated out

It's not a substitute for the word sex It's something completely different But it's been filled with all this brand new meaning

Within the past few years that it never ever ever had And if we don't understand all this

Then we don't know what gender means We don't know what it's supposed to mean We don't know what people mean when they say it So that's an example of this

Of a way that the world Takes a word and redefines it Yeah I'd like to see more history on that actually

Because I just kind of assumed That it was for the most part synonymous Because there were going to be 6th grade teachers

You know There have always been 6th grade teachers Shall we say Trying to talk about the concept of sex and gender

To a bunch of 6th graders It's like you get the hee hee hee You know giggles or something So I always figured it was just a way

To get rid of the word sex Because the word sex obviously had two very different meanings

Biological sex and the act of sex Exactly So I thought that's what ruined it But I'd be interested to see your research

On that When it was just used for So when he's talking about language

He's talking about how in Spanish You have el and la And it's going to be a masculine or feminine word

We don't have that in the English for the most part But basically every other of the romance languages do

Yep So let's look at different categories In the book I want to look at three in particular

As we talk about linguistic theft today First one is the nature Of linguistic theft

Then the consequences Of linguistic theft And then we kind of want to Finalize this discussion

Really asking how can we fight back And I like the way it's put in the book How can I fight back without being a jerk

We're talking about a fight here A war Challenging things

Apologists are often times unfortunately negatively seen As being people who are just super argumentative So we need to understand what it is

We need to understand what it's doing to us and our families And we need to understand how we can address it

So let's start with the nature of linguistic theft Where do we go When it comes to understanding this concept

Really wrapping our brains around it Well I think we need to know that it's happened in the first place I think a lot of times

Who was I believe it's Voltaire Was credited with saying If you wish to converse with me

First define your terms That even when I was early In our marriage

With John We would have these I won't call them knock down drag outs For us they were basically us debating back and forth

Very different than other people's But it would usually come around to We were actually talking about the same thing

But we were using different words for it And so when we finally figured out That we were referring to the same thing Oh okay the argument's over We actually agree

We thought we disagreed but we didn't So I think I think just knowing

That this substitution For words has happened in the first place If you think that words

Just have always meant the same thing Or there's just a natural evolution of language I mean there is a natural evolution

Of language but not to the extent That we're seeing We're seeing people purposely changing words

And changing the definitions And I like how Holly Ordway says That once language becomes routinely distorted

It becomes increasingly easy To justify and promote evil While at the same time

Hiding behind positive words If you were to even look At the book

Have you ever heard of Rules for Radicals? It's this book on basically How to be a community organizer

And when I say community organizer I mean kind of the Obama Chicago Saul Alinsky type community organizer

And one of their tactics Whatever political thing you want to do You have to phrase it in moral terms

So you have to turn this into a moral imperative And so they'll take some kind of moral word

And then cram it into the situation And then say We're fighting for justice We're fighting for equality

Which justice and equality Are two of the words that we talk about In linguistic theft Yeah sounds great

Who's going to be like boo justice boo equality I hate that stuff No one's going to say that So it's like you have to hide things behind their words

And one of the things I just gave a talk at the Women in Apologetics Conference And leading up to my talk

I was going to be kind of Doing an intro to the Mama Bear book But I became really convinced About this concept of identity

That I would say identity Is probably one of the biggest Battlefield, battlegrounds

In our society right now And what happens is you have to have two things In order to have a correct identity You have to have the concept of truth

Something that's actually true You can't have a true identity without the concept of truth But in order to convey an identity

You need words So we've got truth and words All both pointing to this identity here

And if we topple either of those Then we're going to be completely confused About identity

And so I think that society Has attacked the concept of truth Over and over and over again

There is no the truth, there's my truth And his truth But now they're also taking on the concept of words

That you can't even talk about a true identity Because they're changing the words And I also thought back

If we want to just take this Where does this Pull the thread, where all does it go And that Jesus Christ Is called the

Logos He is the word So if society really wants to attack Christ himself

They are going to attack words That is in some ways His identity from John 1

In the beginning was the word And the word was with God And the word was

God So no surprise that we're seeing an attack on words So how do we start We have to recognize this attack

First and foremost And Satan's been doing this since the beginning too He started by trying to reinterpret

God's words Questioning God's words And that's what led to where we are today

One thing that you mention in the book Is that words in general Are being commandeered

To promote lies But Christian words, our Christian virtues Our Christian concepts are also being kidnapped

It's not just justice and equality It's specifically biblical stuff And one thing that I read recently I can't cite it right now,

I wish I could Is the fact that a broader and broader group Of individuals are starting to use the phrase

Born again Oh my gosh, I haven't heard that That's totally a bible thing Jesus said to Nicodemus, you need to be born again

But people are going, hey we really like the way that sounds And they're using it to describe themselves When they would never call themselves a biblical

Christian So it's happening It's happening all over the place Yeah, I've seen the same thing happen with the concept of gospel

That basically Anything that produces kind of warm happy feelings Is the gospel

And we're here to bring unity And service It's like they're basically redefining gospel

To just be unity and service And that's, I mean those are good things Those are part of acting out the gospel

And showing the power of the gospel But that's not the gospel Yep I'm part of Natasha Crane's launch team

For her upcoming book Talking with your kids about Jesus And I just read a chapter that was talking about The confusion that people have when it comes to the word

Judgment Like passing judgment on something To judge someone Because they're saying, you know, you Christian You're not supposed to judge

Or we're not supposed to judge And the Bible does say that But it comes down to an understanding Of what the

Bible means when it says that And one thing I think that's super missing in this discussion And we don't really have time to dig

Go down this rabbit hole too far Is the fact that oftentimes the same English word Is used to translate to different Greek words

Or whatever the source language was And because our language maybe isn't as broad

Or doesn't have the same depth as the other language And so we read it and we see one passage says Don't judge

But another passage basically tells us That we should be judging Yeah, judge rightly is what it says that we're supposed to do

You are to judge rightly Exactly And these ideas just totally get kidnapped

Because people think that they know what it means And they've packed their own meaning into it Man, there's so many things that come

Just from the... You think about what happened at Babel The Lord said I'm going to confuse them And I had the same problem going through My Old Testament class

We were asking which part of the Old Law Is applicable for New Testament Christians And I was like How in the world are we supposed to know

Because there was like I think up to 12 different words Used for the different types of law

In the Old Testament And there was two as far as I could tell In the Greek And so there was no way to distinguish

Between these different things You just had one word And I think when it goes from even Greek Into English It's like it pairs down even more

Kind of like the concept of love I think there's a total of six different definitions In the Greek for love Most people are just not familiar with the four

And we've got one word That describes how I feel about pudding And how I feel about my husband That's a problem

I always told the teenage boys I worked with at Victory Academy Not to be too impressed when a girl said they were cute

Because a girl will call a puppy cute They will call an old man cute

We will totally call an old man cute This is what I'm saying So it doesn't mean anything Or even those dogs that are so ugly

That they're cute It doesn't always mean what you hope it means And a friend of mine, Mark Massey The director there

He would say I love my wife but I also love pizza

And it doesn't end too well for the pizza So what in the world So what we're talking about here

These confusing things Destroying pizza Or destroying people the way I destroy pizza And being called cute like an old man

May be some of the silly consequences of linguistic theft But what are some of the serious ones Like when the world has sneaked in And stolen our family's vocabulary

Basically in a way When we give our family vocabulary to the world To allow them to define the words

And then we start using it the way the world says What are some of the consequences that happen in our homes? Yes I think that probably one of the largest concepts

In Christianity Is God's identity as love And we are told God is love

And we are to love others And our two greatest commandments Are loving the Lord our God And loving others as ourselves

And this is a foundation of Christianity So when the world takes the word love

And they say that it means Feelings of comfort Or accepting

Everything about somebody Or sexual attraction Romance Yes, sexual attraction, calling something true

All these different things And it's like we can't just look at How do we define love But what do we define as unloving

And if you make someone uncomfortable That's unloving If you make someone feel judged Whether or not you're judging them or not

If they even feel judged You have objectively done something unloving And so they can look to our kids and say

Your God says to love people Why are you disobeying your God And the child is going to go Oh, I didn't know

And they're going to try to rectify the situation Because we don't want to be jerks We don't want to make people uncomfortable

We don't want to hurt people's feelings So if society keeps telling us That what we're doing is hurting them

Then we're going to try to change that But it's all based on this bogus definition of love They can convince us that we're actually

Following scripture By affirming Maybe a certain sin

Or by affirming I don't know, just different things And that's the definition of love

You have to affirm all these things Call them equally true In order to love And that's a problem for our kids

Who have only been shown a felt board That says God is love That's right

So Hilary, in the book One of the consequences of linguistic theft Is that it stops a discussion in its tracks

What do you mean by that? Well, I'll say it stops a normal discussion in its tracks You try to pull this on my husband

It does not work But he has had guys actually ask him Why do you hate women?

And because It's like, wait, huh? Probably because he's talking about He's very passionate about pro -life

Apologetics And so if he's arguing for the cause for the unborn They're turning that into You hate women

Because you don't want them to be able to make choices So they've taken that word hate And instead of it meaning that you have

Ill feelings and you're wanting To, I don't know The worst for somebody

It's like, that's a really loaded question To say, why do you hate women? Right there

Most people would not know how to answer that You stumble all of yourself

And you could immediately try to I don't hate women But then you can't really say anything Because if you say what you were saying before They're just going to come back and say, well, why do you hate women?

Yeah, but you'll also see it with them saying Why are you content with injustice? Why are you content with oppression?

Why are you okay with oppression taking place Right before your nose? Because they have defined what oppression is

Or they've defined what justice is Or they've defined what equality is And they've accused you of being the opposite And so, basically

You can't You can't answer the question, really Without it Without having to first back up But when it backs up, then it's like, oh

If you try to actually define the word I think you mentioned before, oh, she's all fancy She's using the dictionary now

As if that's a bad thing And good grief, it's like, okay, let's define these words But a lot of times, people will get so Caught off guard by being called

That they'll try to defend their character And say, oh, no, I'm not like that Well, why are you arguing as if you were?

And this is an important thing to remember With our kids You have the opportunity, especially in the home

Before the conversation Becomes totally derailed To say, oh, that's interesting

What do you mean by that? They're spouting off something Natasha mentioned in her new book

She mentioned an example of her daughter Yelling out that she doesn't Want to be judged anymore

And one of the things that she needed to do was Wouldn't we all love that? Don't judge me anymore

What exactly do you mean by judge? You never want to be criticized again? You never want somebody to pass it?

You don't want to have your head put on the guillotine? Okay, I respect that So we need to think about this

When we're starting with our kids And you mentioned something earlier I wanted to jump in and say it This is just super empowering

When you just start a conversation with these words What do you mean by that? I have to do this all the time in my counseling

Somebody uses a word, it might be a Bible word But I have to ask, what do you mean by that?

Otherwise we can't have a conversation Another thing you say Is that linguistic theft compels people

To act without thinking Through the issues What does that look like? Specifically in the context of a home, what's that going to do?

Well, there's certain things That elicit a knee -jerk reaction Because they should So if someone is being abused

That should be stopped right away However If you redefine abuse To be this whole umbrella term

That includes all sorts of stuff Or just Spiritual abuse is a good one

People are saying that because my parents Took me to church and prayed with me That I was spiritually abused

Oh yeah, and I think there was somebody I can't remember what school it was from Where he preached on I think it was 1

Corinthians 13 Oh I know, it was the guy from Piper Not John Piper, Everett Piper Back when he was,

I think, a provost Or dean at Oklahoma Wesleyan University That someone Came and basically said that they felt

Maybe that they felt judged Or something from a chapel on 1 Corinthians 13 They had no concept

Of, he's like, do you mean you felt convicted? Are you saying that you don't love people well enough? And they were like, don't put your hate on me

Kind of thing As if the bad feeling that they had inside When they realized that they weren't loving people Since it was an uncomfortable feeling

Well obviously it's because he's judging And he's speaking something wrong And so therefore I need to tell him

That he's offended me For talking about love And he let that fly for about 2 seconds

And then wrote the book Not a Daycare To describe This is how our school is going to be run

So I appreciate him for that I think we recommend that actually at the end of the book Another thing you say

Is that, and I think we've touched on this But linguistic theft blurs the details You know, it just makes it hard To have an intelligent, erudite conversation

With somebody Because you really don't know what anyone's talking about This happens enough with our kids as it is

You know, children as they're learning to speak I love my kids are constantly Making up words And I'm constantly having to do the mental gymnastics

Of figuring out what they really meant But this linguistic theft blurs the details even further Because who knows what the person's really saying

Yeah, you're just packaging You're packaging assumptions Into a word to describe what happened

Like, um I think, who was it I think it was Jay Richards with Discovery Institute Wrote an article for the

Atlantic Like 10 years ago It was something along the lines of how you can tell When an agenda is being put into something

And one of his things was It is an umbrella for multiple things So he was using Some of the environmental stuff

But I would say a good example If you go onto the Mama Bear website And you look There's a blog titled

So you marched for women this weekend Here's 8 things you probably didn't know you were marching for And it was this umbrella term

Of marching for women And if you went out and asked people What they were marching for They were all like, well, for women

Well, what does that mean? What exactly for women? And if you looked at the organizer's own document

It was everything from the Dakota Pipeline To More rights for sex workers

Not to help get people out of sex work But to Protect their rights

In some way I mean, as if being in sex work Isn't just giving away your rights That we're trying to protect you from And gun control

And all these different things But if you could smuggle it under one phrase Of march for women

Then you blur all these details Of what people are saying you're marching for And then you can go out and say We had this many million of people

Marching against gun stuff Because that was in your stated document Which no one took time to read

So that would be an example of linguistic theft Being used to blur the details And that leads clearly into this next concept

Linguistic theft vilifies The opposing viewpoint Because if you stand against If you stand against over 50 %

Of what's in that document Then they can say Well you clearly don't love women You don't stand for women

You hate women Because you can just take it And it gives me the opportunity I mean children do this all the time

We'll have to give them a consequence Or talk to them It's cliche for them to go You hate me, you don't understand me

You become the villain Simply because of a misunderstanding Or a deliberate misunderstanding

In our terminology Yeah well I mean just think about the pro -choice Versus pro -life

They're both kind of using That tactic of Oh we're pro -life

Are you saying the other side is anti -life Or the people that are saying pro -choice As if we're anti -choice

Like no I don't like people making decisions They're not saying which choice this is

Pro -life is pretty clear Because we are pro -life We're fighting for the unborn Pro -choice, there's a lot of choices

That we are not allowed to make You know what this should not be a shock We are not allowed to do everything we want with our bodies

You will get a ticket if you don't have your seatbelt on You are not allowed the choice Whether or not to wear your seatbelt

You are told to wear your seatbelt So choice isn't the actual issue But they're going to make the issue

Just because of this one particular choice But if you're against it You're anti -choice That also ties into this next one

They've also stopped calling us pro -life They started calling us anti -abortion That's the next consequence of linguistic theft

Is that it turns a negative Into a positive Or vice versa They can do whatever they want with that I think the example

I gave in the book Is kind of what we talked about earlier About how the word gospel is being taken

And the word sin There was this one ministry that would not use the word sin

And when they were asked Why aren't you using the word sin They said we're going to speak up for love

And I can't remember what the other thing was Basically we're going to shout the love of Christ Louder from all the rooftops

And we won't back down Shouting our cause of love Okay so What they're doing is they're answering

As if we're saying no Don't shout love The person was just asking

Why aren't you discussing sin And the refusal to talk about sin Was then equated with shouting love from the rooftops of Christ And they weren't going to back down From shouting his radical love

And it's so easy to do it It's so easy to not engage with the actual topic at hand

But just to kind of throw up a straw man Or to come in And to change the subject

Is basically what they're doing Yes it's changing the subject And we're going to have lots of examples of this

We're coming into political season here Oh my So we're going to be dealing with people

Who are really good at this So if you just kind of listen to how They evade questions And turn whatever

It is that they're against Into being for something else And oh if you're going to fault me For being pro this

Well then count me guilty You also find a lot of good examples

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Because you bought the book With our link So that's pretty cool But some examples of the book From the book of Linguistic Theft We've talked about a lot of these

Love, truth, marriage, male vs female Tolerance, justice and equality

What it means to be a bigot What it means to be authentic Oh my word No one knows what that means anymore

That's actually something Church has imposed on itself Even people out in the world

They probably wouldn't even understand it That's where churches Have done their own linguistic theft

I think I'd throw into this list We don't have to discuss them in detail

But we need to be thinking about this We talked about gender But we haven't discussed

The whole concept of using an incorrect pronoun To refer to somebody That's an idea of linguistic theft

But I also think that a lot of the mental health Jargon out there Is a form of this linguistic theft

God refers to that part of our being As our spirit And the mental health world

Doesn't believe in the spirit They believe that we're completely biological And so they're going to look at the idea of our minds

From a very different perspective And we've allowed them to do that And I think the church has hurt a lot because of that So we see what it is

We see the huge consequences And no doubt as you've been listening You're like yeah you know what There's been a lot of this going on in our home

Either we as a family are using the wrong ideas Or I found myself on one side of an issue

And my child on the other side of the issue Conversations have been derailed We've been vilified

So how do we fight back And specifically Because truth in love

How do we fight back without being a jerk Well I think just Again kind of teaching

The biblical definitions of things So looking at justice If we know that things are attributes of God Then let's look at some of the examples

Of God acting in justice Or God acting in love Or God acting in mercy or compassion

And just kind of look at How God really Shows those qualities

And what we can learn about What that actual definition is I'd also recommend going back to older Older dictionaries

To see how they have been defined In the past before Agendas have crept in And kind of helping kids to identify buzzwords

Because I think Whenever someone says something That you're like that's not quite right But I can't quite put my finger on it

I think a lot of times that's a clue That you have something that's been stolen there There's some buzzword that's been used

And it's how do you know the princess bride I do not think that means what you think it means So that's kind of a clue

And I've heard a lot of women Or just people in general When they read this book They said there were so many things

That I couldn't put my finger on But now I can, I can identify it It's like they knew it was there

But they just didn't know what it was And just deciding to be salt and light It's one of those things

Where you kind of have to own What our role is as Christians As I was writing this chapter

I was thinking about salt and light We did a study on that in my church A couple years back

And how both of those have Both a helpful

And an irritating quality to them Salt was helpful for Seasoning meat

And keeping it from decaying And we're called to be the salt of the world But you put salt in someone's eye

Or like me if you accidentally get salt Or in my case lemon juice on your fingers And you forget to wash your hands

Before you take out your contacts So that is not comfortable

So we have to kind of embrace The idea that sometimes If we're pointing out something that is wrong

It's going to be an uncomfortable situation Same thing with light Nobody likes to have light in their face

When they've been in the dark But there's a way to do it To where you're not just barging in On someone in the dark

And waving a flashlight in their face That would fall under the Fighting back and being a jerk category

You kind of need to just Lead people along And ask them questions To where they kind of figure out

Maybe I have changed that definition Or maybe we're defining this thing In two different ways

And it doesn't have to be this big battle It's more like a learning experience Where you keep things conversational

And just kind of ask honest questions And you can't ask them as if it's a leading question Like what do you mean by that?

There's a way to ask a question Where it's not really a question Personally I think this is a little bit easier for women

Because I think it's easier for us to play dumb And not really have it count against us So I have this thing where sometimes

I'll twirl my hair And be like I'm not sure I understand that Can you explain that to me? And it can be really non -confrontational

And I'm like yay It's good to be a woman So you know Just doing some of these things without being obnoxious

I think Yeah I can't do the whole hair twirl thing Yeah you can't but I can I can stroke their goatee though Explain that a little bit more

What do you mean by that? Let's recap These ways These four ways of fighting back without being a jerk

Because I think they're super important First of all And the big one is know the biblical definitions

We here at Truth Love Parent And I know that Mama Bears try to do it as well We try to help you guys with this We have a whole multi -part series

On what biblical love is Where we look at the Greek words What Jesus meant when he said agape

Or what he meant when he said phileo And all these words are translated love in our bibles

You need to know the biblical definitions We did an episode called 10 things parents are supposed to hate

And biblically speaking It is not wrong to hate something To draw a line in the sand

And say Man is that unpopular to say though Oh I know it is unpopular How much hate mail did you get from that? You know

I didn't get any Which means I don't have that many listeners Or that all the right people were listening Oh my word

But we have to know biblical definitions And we are going to talk more about that In the upcoming episodes

Also teach your kids to identify the buzz words You really do have to know What the world is saying

You've got to understand what they mean With all of their various pronouns I think it is interesting

People are stopping the terms latino And latina And I actually don't even know what the pronunciation is

Because I have only seen it written But it is latine with an x at the end Huh I don't know what the pronunciation is

I have not seen that Yeah you've got to be familiar with it Because if you don't know that it exists

Then you can't be prepared to address it Your child is going to come in confrontation with it And they are not going to know what to do

It is like our conversation with Kristen Jensen About porn proofing your kids You don't want to show them porn

But you've got to prepare them to know what to do When god forbid they see it This is the exact same idea

Identify the buzz words I just want to say that this is a big one for science

If you'd like to see a talk that I do Called Darwinism and Discernment That kind of talks about the buzz words

That people use in science To kind of obfuscate the details Of like oh and then this happened Yeah you'll see those buzz words in science a lot

By the way you get two points For obfuscate It's a three point scale So you're doing really well

The third thing is Identify when you are embarrassed To state your position

If you've come to a place where you're kind of feeling like Man I've got to be on the wrong side of history I've got to be on the wrong side of this debate

Because you're embarrassed You've got to be able to identify that Because that means that either you're on the wrong side

Or that linguistic theft has occurred And you need to be able to address it And then lastly

As Hilary so wonderfully put We need to decide to be salt and light We have been called to be intentional

Premeditated disciple making Ambassador parents And God says our ambassadorial role Is a role of reconciliation

We are a city set on a hill We are salt to the tongue And we are supposed to be drawing people to us

And if we're not going to do that If we're just going to go through our lives Hoping nobody knows That we're a

Christian So we can avoid all of these conversations Then linguistic theft is going to creep into our house

It's going to steal away our family's vocabularies And we're going to be left at the end Wondering what on earth anyone's talking about And not be able to figure out

Why our kids have gone off the rails Or why they're being called haters at school

Oh yeah They'll come home asking us Mom and dad everyone hates me This is what they're saying And we're like oh

I don't know why My grandfather was really great I come home complaining that people were making fun of me

And he goes well at least they're talking to you Thanks for the advice

Not super valuable And we do that We're not valuable Because we're not equipping our kids

To be able to challenge these cultural lies And that's what the Mama Bear Apologetics books is all about I really encourage you to pick it up Hilary thank you so much

You guys are awesome Thank you for what you're doing I really hope one day we can have you back on the show Whether you guys are writing a new book

Or putting out a new tool I want to talk about it I want to get it into the hands and ears of our listeners Because what you guys are doing is really awesome

Thank you We must not allow the world to define God's terms

He is the creator of ideas Communication Philosophy Definitions Our brains

And their ability to make sense of anything we absorb Through our five senses We need to doggedly pursue a family vocabulary

That submits to the scriptures Lord willing the next two episodes Will help you and your family do that better In addition

I'll include links to some of our other shows About family talks So you can have easy access If you want to continue your study of godly communication

Now for those of you who have stuck with us Through the end of this episode I want to tell you how you can earn a chance To win a copy of Mama Bear Apologetics Empowering your kids to challenge cultural lies

And it's the exact same instructions That we gave last time And it's the exact same instructions That are located on our website

TruthLoveParent .com Under giveaways Now I'm going to announce the winners of this contest

On Friday April 3rd So you have until this coming Thursday In order to participate Now between now and then

You have three ways to get your name into the drawing And I'll explain them here And of course again go to TakingBackTheFamily .com

And you'll see the instructions there on today's post Or you'll see them on our giveaways tab

Now again you may be saying Aaron I already have the book it's been out for a while And again that's fantastic I invite you to participate

As long as you promise just to give away the book to another parent This can be just an awesome opportunity To invest in your own parenting community

Just like our last contest Which by the way is still running until Monday You have three different ways of getting your name

Into the drawing okay And you can get your name into the drawing up to three times Your first opportunity to get your name

Into the drawing is to go to TLP's Facebook page and find the post With today's episode and the hashtag

Contest And there are just a few things you need to do Make sure that you have liked TLP on Facebook Like or love the post

Comment on the post by telling us What you loved about Hillary and this particular episode And then share the post publicly

With the hashtag LinguisticTheft Please make sure you do all of those steps If you only like it or you only comment

And you share it but you forget The hashtag linguistic theft It's going to be really hard for us to figure out Who did what so you need to make sure

That you do absolutely all of these steps Just so that you can get your name into the drawing It's not complicated we have it there for you

Make sure you do all of it Some people have missed some of the steps In our previous contest Now in order to double your chances

You just have to do another social media So for example you can go over to Instagram Click the heart under the image

Make sure of course that you're following TLP on Instagram Comment telling us what one word You wish we could steal back from the culture

And then click on what looks like a paper airplane icon And share the image to your story Really important that you do that And that you include the hashtag linguistic theft

On your story Okay And then if you do that you can be submitted a second time

And then obviously you can go over to Twitter Make sure that you're following TruthLoveParent on Twitter Find the image with the contest hashtag

And then select Retweet with comment If you use Twitter you know what I'm talking about Retweet with comment

And this time for your comment tell Twitter How TLP is equipping you to be a biblical parent

And that's it Again you only have to do one of these To be entered into the competition However if you do all three your name will be entered three times

Anyone can participate As long as they have followed TLP On their chosen social media platform

They like the post They comment on the post They share the post And they use the hashtag linguistic theft

Using that hashtag is very important Because it's how we're going to be able to find your submissions And enter you into the contest

You have a week to share the contest episode We'll tally up the submissions on Thursday And announce the winners on Friday's episode

And speaking about social media Please share this episode On your favorite social media outlets

I bet that most Christian parents Have allowed the world to steal their vocabulary And the language of their children

We all needed this challenge And I'm excited to see a generation of Christian families Steal back a truly biblical vocabulary

Now if you or someone you know Would like personalized help for their family struggles Don't hesitate to contact us

At counselor at truthloveparent .com And remember if we want our children to grow up into Christ We must parent in truth and love

But we can't speak truth If we use God's word the wrong way To that end join us next time

For Watch Your Language Don't Confuse Your Children's Thinking We look forward to helping you become an intentional premeditated parent