How can I gain victory over sin? How can I overcome sin in my Christian life? - Podcast Episode 185

Welcome to the Got Questions podcast. This is the final episode in our series of commonly asked questions about sin, so I invite you to listen to the previous episodes, because they kind of—what we're talking about today builds on a lot of that, but today is by far the most practical of the episodes, and today we're going to be focusing on how can

I, as a Christian, gain victory over sin? How can

I overcome sin in my Christian life? Or how can I overcome a habitual sin? Those are the type of questions that were most frequently asked in Got Questions about sin in the terms of how it impacts us in a practical sense.

So joining me today is Kevin, the managing editor of Got Questions Ministries, and Jeff, the administrator of BibleRef .com.

So gentlemen, thank you for joining me again. I look forward to our conversation today, because this is obviously something that every

Christian struggles with, and every Christian has asked this question at one time or another of, how do

I overcome this sin? How do I stop doing this sin? You look even at like Romans 7, where the

Apostle Paul is talking about, I know what I'm not supposed to do, but I keep doing that.

I know what I am supposed to do, but I'm not doing that. Oh, who's going to rescue me from this body of death?

That's kind of what we're going to be talking about today, that struggle that we all experience. I remember very early on in my

Christian life, coming to faith in Christ in my late teens, it seemed like all the advice

I received on how to overcome sin was just pray more, read the

Bible more, and stay away from sinful activities.

It seemed overly simplistic. Looking back, I completely understand why that advice was given to me, but just praying, just reading the

Bible, just staying away from bad influences, that's not in and of itself enough, because ultimately sin is a matter of the heart.

I can eliminate all bad influences. Well, I can't actually do that, even if I were to.

I would still have the sin inside of me, a sinful heart that still desires, still craves to commit acts of sin, to have sinful thoughts, sinful desires.

So for me, that was a struggle in that I could not pray enough. I could not read the Bible enough to suddenly suppress or get rid of the sin in my life.

So there's more to it than that. So obviously, courage to pray. Ask for God's help.

Ask for God's strength. Ask for the Spirit's empowering to overcome sin. Read God's Word. Absolutely.

Knowing what God's Word says about sin and how to overcome it is key in this. Stay away from sinful impulses, influences as much as you possibly can, but there's more to it than that, and that's what we're going to be talking about today.

So Kevin, why don't you start us off? What, in your experience, in your ministry as a pastor, is key in gaining victory over sin?

I will just share three W's here from Scripture that will help in overcoming sin and being victorious over it.

God wants us to be victorious over sin. He doesn't want His children to be stuck in the mire.

He wants us to be climbing higher. So the three W's are wield your sword, watch and pray, and walk in the

Spirit. So first of all, wield your sword. And of course, I mean the sword of the

Spirit, which is the Word of God. John 17 and verse 17, Jesus prayed to the

Father, sanctify them, the disciples, sanctify them by your truth. Your Word is truth.

And so we are sanctified by the Word of truth. And it is so important to be using the

Word of God. Matthew 4, when Jesus faced His temptations in the wilderness, He uses

Scripture every time He is fighting one of those temptations. Jesus had the sword out.

And you've got to bring your weapon to the battle. It would be foolish to go into a battle with no weapon.

We know as believers that we are in a spiritual battle. We've got to bring our sword with us.

And so it really pays to memorize Scripture. And especially if you have a besetting sin, to memorize a portion of Scripture that's going to help you to fight that particular sin.

So for example, if you have a besetting sin of lusting with your eyes, you might memorize something like Matthew 5 and verse 28, where Jesus says,

I tell you that whoever looks on a woman lustfully is already committed adultery with her in his heart.

And so when you're going through your day and you are tempted to look lustfully at a woman, you can bring this verse out.

Bring out the note card and read it, just if you memorized it, then bring that to mind.

Say it out loud if you need to, but bring that particular passage to the point of battle.

And make this your determination that you're going to follow this Scripture and not follow what your feelings are at that particular time.

Say, I'm going to make this my guide, this Matthew 5 verse 28.

Secondly, watch and pray. Jesus gave his disciples this command in the

Garden of Gethsemane, where he says in Mark 14 and verse 38, watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation.

The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak. So watch because you know sooner or later there's going to be a battle, and pray because that's how you get the help.

That's how the help comes through prayer. Hebrews 4 and verse 16, we're encouraged to approach

God's throne of grace with confidence so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.

There's a promise right there that when we pray to the Father in our time of need, we'll receive grace, we'll receive mercy, because this is how

God has set it up. He wants to hear from his children in their time of need. So we apply prayer to that point of need as well.

So you have a besetting sin, such as a sin of the tongue, such as gossip. And so every time you're tempted to speak some gossip or listen to some gossip, you probably need to stop and pray,

Lord, help my tongue right now. I know that gossip and slander do not honor you, and I want to be honoring

Christ with the words that I speak. So help my words to be uplifting and full of grace right now at this moment.

Just a quick little prayer, a little popcorn prayer sometimes they're called, where you just take a moment and just pray for power in that particular moment when you're being tempted.

Go to that throne of grace. You can go anytime. And then walk in the Spirit. Galatians 5 and verse 16, so I say, walk in the

Spirit, you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. So the flesh and the Spirit are working against each other, they're contrary to one another, and so you choose to walk in the

Spirit. Romans 13, verse 14 says, clothe yourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ.

Do not think about how to gratify the desires of your flesh. So often it's a battle in the mind, it's a battle for the mind, as we need to just stop thinking about how to gratify the flesh, and instead think about how we can clothe ourselves with Christ, how we can be more like Jesus.

So we live in accordance with the Spirit's leading, we follow our conscience, our

God -given conscience. To walk in the Spirit means that we are yielding to His control, we are following His lead, and we're allowing

Him to exert influence in our lives. And remember that to walk is to make forward progress.

We're not standing still, we're not going backwards, but we are walking forward. We're making progress step by step.

So for example, you have a besetting sin, like of grumbling or complaining, something that does not honor the

Lord, then admit the sin, confess it to the Lord, then lay that sin aside, cast off that sin of grumbling and complaining, and then replace it with speaking what is useful and edifying to your hearers.

In other words, just be more like Jesus. If you walk in the Spirit, Lord Jesus will be honored every day in your life.

That's good advice. There's a tendency sometimes, I think, to either under -spiritualize or over -spiritualize our approach to sin.

Sometimes we want to take an overly passive approach and say, I need to just sort of go wherever I'm blown around and pray that God will do the rest.

And that's never been the way He's worked almost in any circumstance in our lives. He gives us some tools.

He gives us some abilities. Book of Romans talks about being transformed by the renewing of your mind.

There's a sense in which you have to make a choice. You have to make a decision. If it wasn't possible for Christians who are saved believers to make wrong decisions about sin, the

New Testament wouldn't spend a lot of time warning us not to make those wrong decisions. So it is possible, but we also need to remember that Scripture tells us there's no such thing as a temptation that is impossible, truly impossible, to overcome.

1 Corinthians 10 13 says God's always going to give some means that we can get through a situation without committing a sin.

Now, in other podcasts, we've talked about things like addiction. And in circumstances like that, there's a lot of struggle in how much choice a person has.

But even then, people still have the ability to make the choice, and they're still held accountable for it.

And Kevin, I think you had some more insight on that. Well, just when you mentioned that passage from 1 Corinthians 10, that's something else that I really think is important is to always be looking for the way of escape.

God said it was there. Be looking for that way of escape. You don't have to fall into sin.

Right. Yeah, that's exactly it is. We're never forced into that circumstance. And this is where we have to understand that we are all created in the image of God.

And that includes every single person, whether they're a Christian believer or not. The Bible does tell us that our primary means of fighting against sin is through the power of the

Holy Spirit. And that's only truly accessible to those who have a saving relationship with Christ.

And yet, it is possible, in a sense, for people to overcome certain things, certain sins and tendencies and habits, without having an actual relationship with Jesus Christ.

And the reason for that is because we're created in God's image. We have a moral nature. We have a rational nature.

He's created a lot of these systems and these concepts for us that will work just through that renewing of our mind, so to speak, in a sort of a secular sense.

What's important to remember, though, is that when we don't have that relationship with Christ, that to some extent, what we're doing is we're just replacing one idol with another one.

Or we're replacing one kind of sin with another. And sometimes that means we're just turning away from sin and we're turning into self -reliance.

And we're always sort of floating on this edge. So we want to be careful that we don't speak as though it is literally impossible for somebody to set aside a habit or a sin or a personal problem unless that person is a committed

Christian believer. That wouldn't be accurate. That's not exactly the way that things work, because that's not the way that God wired us spiritually.

However, real victory, lasting victory, meaningful victory only comes when you have that relationship, because that's how we really get access to that level of power.

And part of what the Holy Spirit does is he does help to provide us with those reminders. So the practical steps that are really good that you were talking about,

Kevin, include things like make good choices when you can make good choices. If I know, for example, if I'm riding a bicycle on a steep hill and I can only control myself on that hill so much, it makes sense for me to stay away from places that are too steep where I'm going to go out of control.

I can push it, I guess, and sometimes maybe I'll push my luck and I'll be okay. But the problem is once I get to a point where I'm not okay anymore, it's too late to make a decision.

Now I can't just say, oh okay, this was a mistake, now I'm in trouble. And the vast majority of times when we sin, when we commit a sin, it's because we didn't watch those warning signs.

We looked, went, thought, acted, said somewhere where we could have kind of seen how that was going to go beforehand and we didn't make a good choice.

So one of the things that God does is he gives us that first Corinthians 10 13. He will always provide a means for escape and sometimes the escape is just getting off an exit or two earlier than you would have intended to.

And that's something that we can't ignore. The other thing that's helpful with that is other Christian believers.

So when we're in fellowship with other Christians, when we have relationship with them, then we have people who can help to give us some of those points and those pointers.

Hey, I've been there, I've experienced this, this is what's worked for me. Or they can be the one grabbing you by the collar and saying, hey, it looks like you might be moving in kind of a bad direction.

Can I talk to you about this? Can I pray with you about this? So we don't ever want to treat sin like, hey, the

Bible says that I can't be sinlessly perfect. And we can't. The Bible says if we say we don't have sin, we're a liar. So I'm just going to have to go, well, if God wants to keep me out of sin, he'll keep me out of sin.

And I can't do anything about it. That's not biblical, but neither is it biblical for us to say that sin is all about my own willpower and my own ability.

We need to use the tools that God has given us as rationally as we can and as reasonably as we can. But we also need to rely on him knowing that the ultimate power to overcome that sin is always going to be through him and by him.

Jeff, I love the toolbox illustration that God has provided multiple tools.

If we're even looking at 1 Corinthians 10, 13, the way of escape is not going to be the same way of escape in each situation or even for each person.

Just for an example, I mean, one of the most frequent sins, specific sins we're asked about at God Questions is the sin of pornography.

How do I stop looking at porn? Studies show that overwhelming number of men and a surprising number of women struggle with this issue.

So people ask, well, how can I stop doing this? Like, well, here are some tools for your toolbox.

I don't know you. I don't know your personality. I don't know your background. I don't know how you've gained victory over this in the past.

I don't know what works, but here are principles. So the concept is always there are multiple ways to find what works for you.

I've heard people who, when they're tempted to look at pornography, they sing a hymn.

And for them, that resets their mind and suddenly they're no longer interested, or they go read the

Bible, or they pray, or they just literally have to remove themselves from their cell phone and from any access to a computer.

They go for a walk. They find company. They call someone on the phone. Hey, I'm struggling. Can we go hang out?

So people who, like, their mind is just craving, like, the visual stimulation.

So they go and they watch a movie, or they read a book, just anything. The only way to do this is just to fight it in my own willpower.

It's like, no, take advantage of the resources, both the spiritual ones and the practical ones. Do everything you can to find a way to refocus yourself, to begin the process of renewing your mind, to refocusing you on something that is good, pleasing, holy, rather than the sin that you're tempted by.

Don't focus on, all I have is a hammer, which with the smash is said, no, sometimes you need a screwdriver.

Sometimes you need a wrench. Sometimes you need a plunger. I mean, take advantage of all the tools you have access to, because not everything is going to work the same way for the same person, or even in every situation.

So let's recognize all the different tools that God has given us in his word, and even in our lives, to overcome sin.

And don't be so reliant on just one, that if that one doesn't work, you give up hope, or you give in to the sin.

Have multiple tools in the toolbox ready at your disposal, so that you can access them in the time of need, because who knows what will be the way of escape in that particular instance, in that particular temptation.

There was a time when I did some work with martial arts, and one of the things that we would bring up is that there's kind of a difference between fighting and self -defense.

And we would remind people that good self -defense doesn't wait until somebody's throwing punches, or you're on the floor.

Sometimes it's about that situational awareness. And you would be surprised at how many times a person who might be aggressive will get put off by somebody who doesn't look like they're an easy target.

You know, the way you carry yourself, and the way you're looking. If you're aware of your circumstances, and they can tell that you're looking around, they might be more like,

I don't know if I'm up for that. You know, if you seem very timid and very weak, then it gives them encouragement to go forward.

And the Bible says, if you resist the devil, he'll flee from you. And it's important to remember that when we feel those first little bits of temptation, we're not forced to sin.

I mean, we are slaves to sin unless we are slaves to Christ. But we are never forced to sin.

We are always in that position where we can say, I can make a good choice right now. And it doesn't have to be some colossal, massive work of the will.

It can be just as simple as saying, you know what, I know if I watch that particular movie, that's going to get my mind on this, and then that's going to lead me to this, that's going to lead me to that.

So you know what, just for right now, I'm just going to make that decision right now. You don't have to tell yourself, I'm never going to do this again, because you will.

I'm never going to say this again or think this again. But that's where God provides us those tools. And that level of resistance, it seems small, and it seems petty, but it's resistance.

And when you just, you don't give the devil a little crack to move into, you don't give him an inch that he can get in there, it is surprising how over time, you do develop the ability to be more resistant to those things.

So resisting temptation, overcoming sin does not have to be about intense willpower.

It can just be about making good decisions in the moment. Yes, that's very true. And I can't give you the reference for this, but I know there's a proverb in Scripture that talks about how the wise man foresees the evil and hides himself.

It's all about taking precautions, like you're talking about, Jeff. Making good choices now when you have your wits about you, so that you make things easier down the road.

And God always gives options. We have that way of escape. It is a battle for the mind many times, and I think it's so important to have a proper mindset.

And I've got three points for this as well. I'm feeling like a preacher here today. I've got three points.

Again, something to know, something to count, and something to offer, all from Romans 6, as Paul deals with this subject.

First of all, something to know in verses 3 and 9. He says, don't you know that all of us who are baptized into Christ Jesus were baptized into his death?

For we know that since Christ was raised from the dead, he cannot die again. Death no longer has mastery over him.

So, Jesus Christ died, and then he was buried. He was raised from the dead, and he cannot die again.

He lives forevermore. Death has no more claim on Christ. So, Paul makes a theological point with that fact.

When we were placed into the body of Christ, we were baptized by the Holy Spirit, placed into the body, we died as it were, and we were raised with Christ.

So, sin and death have no more claim on us either. We are right now united with Christ by faith in him.

He has victory over sin and death, and so that means so do we. Victory over sin and death.

So, we need to know this. And then there's also, in Romans 6, something to count. Verse 11, count yourselves dead to sin, but alive to God in Christ Jesus.

The word count here means to reckon or to consider. So, consider this to be true, and then act accordingly.

The old life is dead, and you are new in Christ. You are alive to God.

Because you are dead to sin, there's really no way you can go back. Why would you go back to that old life, the dead life?

And we really need to reckon ourselves as being in that state of being dead to sin.

That's dead and gone. It's the old life. I'm not going to go back. And then we have something to offer in Romans 6, verses 12 and 13.

Therefore, do not let sin reign in your mortal body so that you obey its evil desires. Do not offer any part of yourself to sin as an instrument of wickedness, but rather, offer yourselves to God as those who have been brought from death to life, and offer every part of yourself to Him as an instrument of righteousness.

So, every part of us is to be dedicated to God as an instrument of righteousness.

God gave me these parts of my body to serve Him in righteousness.

That old children's song that we sing at our church with the kids, you know, be careful little eyes what you see, be careful little ears what you hear, mouth what you speak, feet where you go, hands what you do.

And that's packing this truth into that song. And it's a wonderful truth that we have been given these things as gifts from God to be dedicated to God and to honor

Christ. Verse 19, also of Romans 6, says, Just as you used to offer yourselves as slaves to impurity and to ever -increasing wickedness, so now offer yourselves as slaves to righteousness, leading to holiness.

So, in your spiritual past, you were a slave to sin, but your present state is that you're a slave to Christ.

And you've been freed from that slavery of sin, which sin is a hard task, Master. Jesus is a much better Master, and I'd much rather be a slave to Him.

So, we need to decide that we're going to love God more than we love sin and submit ourselves fully to Christ.

That analogy of slavery and so on and so forth is really important. We see a lot in Scripture that talks about things like slavery and chains and bondage and so on and so forth.

And I think one of the key things that we see very often when it comes to sin and victory over sin is this failure to recognize that we are not actually bound by sin anymore.

We are not forced to do that. Now, I know it's anecdotal, and you hear it sometimes in movies and books about how, you know, once a person has been enslaved or in captivity for a certain point of time, they become so used to it that even if you open the doors and let them go, they would still just stay where they are.

And I don't really know how much truth there really is to that. I know sometimes we see that with animals, that once they get used to a certain level of training or captivity, that's just what they do.

On the cute side, you see videos of dogs all the time, where they're standing outside on the front porch wanting to come in, and the door is open, but they won't go anywhere until their owner walks up there and waves their hand in front of the door, because they're just convinced that they can't get through that door until that happens.

And there's so many times where we have this defeatist attitude about sin, and it's worth remembering that we don't ever have to do those things.

I don't have to follow that urge. I don't have to obey that base instinct.

I can take advantage of what Christ has said and said, you know what, right now, just here, just in this moment,

I'm going to choose to do something different. I don't have to do this right here and right now. And when we do that, that's us taking advantage of the power that God's given us.

And the alternative to that is to act like victims and to say, well, I'm still permanently and forever captured.

And that's how you wind up with people who are basically living like prisoners in open cages when they have the ability to be free, but they're just so ingrained in it that they think that they're not.

So it's good for us to remember that freedom chains slavery. The Bible is using those euphemisms for a reason.

Excellent points, both of you. I'm being a slave to sin versus a slave of righteousness.

It can't be a bigger contrast in terms of the practical outworking of our lives.

Like what are you choosing to be a slave to? Something that is going to destroy you and others or something that's going to honor

God, that's going to result in an abundant life, it's going to result in you being a positive influence on people's lives.

It's such a huge contrast. But as we've talked, as Jeff, Kevin, and I have discussed,

I hope you hear and see two things. One, this is a universal struggle. It still amazes me when we receive questions.

I'm sure I'm the only person who's ever asked you this question about this particular sin. And we're like, you are the 47th person today to ask us that question.

So there's no sin that's taken you except what's common. This is something we all struggle with. So the body of Christ, other believers, accountability, encouragement can be huge in this process.

Then also the multifaceted approach to overcoming sin, to avail yourselves of the many different tools that are out there.

And maybe just to conclude this episode, I'd like, I didn't prepare Jeff and Kevin for this one, so I'll go first to give them a little time to think through what they want to say.

But maybe just one more practical point of advice that you have found that's been helpful in your ongoing battle with sin.

For me, I remember, I wish I could remember who actually gave me the advice, but the advice was when you're struggling with a sin, when you're tempted to engage in that sin, to indulge in it, ask

God to help you see that sin as he sees it. And often I expected

God to give me like a hatred for that sin, just like a loathing of it, like, oh, the disgust of it.

And typically what's happened when I pray that prayer, God gives me a sense of sadness, like remorse, pain, and what that sin does, both to me and what it does to others.

And to me, just experiencing that, having that feeling of, well, not only is this sin is gross, it is horrible,

I don't want anything to do with it, but just recognizing the damage that it does, sometimes permanent damage, and how truly sad that is that people are engaging in that, indulging in that, and reaping the consequences.

That's truly a sad state of affairs, and I don't want to go there. So that's something that's been very helpful for me.

So Kevin, why don't you go ahead and you can give the next little practical point of advice.

Yes, kind of going along with what your procedure is there,

Shea, is just when I'm tempted to sin, and a lot of times

I just want to focus on the cross. I want to remind myself of what

Jesus went through to pay for this sin. This is part, when I sin, that's part of what put

Him on the cross. That was part of the agony that He experienced. And so it helps if I can get out a

Bible and read through one of the crucifixion passages, but I don't have that available. I conjure up a mental picture of Christ on the cross, and His suffering there for sin, as He had that burden of sin placed upon Himself, and He was judged in my place for my sin.

And when I see it that way, sin loses a lot of its appeal, because I don't want to be a part of that.

A lot of different topics and tips that we've brought up, and you know, we've talked about things like avoidance.

I think for me, that's one that's very important. Sort of leaning back to that sort of martial arts or self -defense analogy.

I am not a powerfully built individual. If you've ever seen me in person,

I'm not built like a linebacker. So I am not the kind who's going to stand there and trade haymakers and right hooks with somebody.

For me, by far, the best way to endure an attack is to not have my face be there when it shows up.

So that means recognizing where those weaknesses might be. So I think a very important thing is to remind people that when you know what your weakness is, and you know what your circumstance is, the thing that's probably going to lead you to that temptation, be ready to tell yourself in advance,

I'm going to stay away from that. I'm going to avoid it. As soon as I see it start to show up, I'm going to move in the other direction.

And the secret of that, that you start to find is that as you learn to avoid experiencing that temptation when you can, you start to become stronger against that temptation when you can't avoid it.

Because there will be times where things will just throw themselves in our faces and we can't do anything. But if we've got sort of a well -developed sense of saying,

I know what triggers me, and I'm going to make an effort to stay away from that, then it makes it much easier over time to build up that reserve of strength in the

Spirit in order to stay away from that sin when somehow it hits us when we can't avoid it. You know, when we battle against sin and we're striving for the victory, sometimes there will be defeats.

Sometimes we will lose ground. And if I could just offer a word of encouragement here, and I read this somewhere here this past week, can't tell you who wrote it, but the quote is, the victorious

Christian life is a series of new beginnings. And that's very encouraging,

I think, because God's mercies are new every morning. And so when we stumble and we fall, when we fail, we need to confess the sin, get back on track, take

God at His Word that He will forgive that sin. He delights in mercy is one of the themes of the book of Psalms.

And we need to just take it to the Lord and look for that new beginning.

Amen, Kevin. Well said. And be encouraged. Seeking victory over sin is something that every

Christian should have a desire to do, and it's also something we all struggle with.

So you are not alone. Keep studying God's Word.

Keep looking to God's Word for the answers for how to overcome sin. Keep praying.

Keep seeking the Lord's help. Keep relying on Him. Keep availing yourselves of the other tools that God has provided us, whether that's other believers, whether that's literally escaping, physically escaping the temptation, whether it's recognizing it ahead of time so you don't put yourself in a situation where you'll be tempted beyond what you can bear, those sorts of things, so many principles.

So I hope this conversation on how to achieve victory over sin has been encouraging to you.

And as always, if you have any specific questions, you can ask us. That's what we're here for at gotquestions .org.

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