Nouthetic Counseling Pitfalls

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So anyway, there you have it. I�d like to talk today about counseling. What about counseling? Do you like counseling? Do you like to go to counseling? Are you in counseling? Do you counsel other people?

There are psychological counseling people. There are folks that counsel with the Bible, and there are those that mix the two. They integrate psychology and the Bible. I am for the last one, that is, no, the second one, no, the first one.

What am I for? If you don�t know who you�re for, you don�t know who you�re against. I�m obviously for biblical counseling. I think psychology, out of the 300 different types and veins of psychology, pretty much all have the view that man is good or man is better than what the Bible states regarding Adam�s fall and the consequential sinful nature that everyone inherits, of course, except for the Lord Jesus.

And when you try to mix oil and water, it doesn�t work. Same thing with the Bible. I�m not one of these guys that says, �Let�s take some of these truths and see what we can do. Obviously, if psychology means we analyze behavior and routines and patterns, then those things, I�m not going to disagree with Pavlovian salivation in dogs and hoons, but I am going to say you can�t change the behavior into godly behavior using anything less than the Bible.

If the behaviors changed, well, the common grace of God would influence people and they can�I mean, I quit cocaine and marijuana without the Holy Spirit in terms of indwelling me directly. I�m sure he was helping me as my mind was getting clearer so I could understand the gospel better and the implications of it.

The Benefits of Nouthetic Counseling

But I want to talk about there�s some different stripes of biblical counseling. Not all biblical counseling is the same. If I had to say, �Do I like what�s termed �newthetic counseling �news is mind, and so using your mind to admonish is one of the words in 1 Thessalonians 5 I would say that much of the theology in newthetic counseling I would agree with.

If I got to pick one, that�s the one I would pick, biblical counseling, of course I would pick that. And there are some benefits of newthetic counseling. I would say, what are some of the benefits? Well, number one, I think it understands drugs and how to use drugs.

If you should use drugs, at least that�s the right question to ask. Should we use drugs in treatment, right? What is a mental illness? Can your brain have an illness that�s different than your mind having an illness?

Is there a difference between brain and mind? Can your mind that�s tainted by the fall, supposed to be used by God, used by us to worship God, loving the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength?

I think it rightly understands chemical imbalances is just this catch-all term that even many unbelievers would say, �Well, what do you have to try to balance out when you give lithium to people? What�s that balancing?

What�s that balance? How does that balance? What poison does that balance out? So I like the way newthetic counseling thinks through that. I think that�s a benefit. Secondly, I think newthetic counseling exposes man-centered, humanistic psychology for what it is and how it doesn�t sanctify the saints.

When I was in Vienna, I went to Freud�s house, and whether it�s a Freudian psychology or anything else, as a matter of fact, he came here to the United States, Freud did, after he was fleeing Vienna because of the Nazis, and he spoke here in Worcester, right?

Spoke in Worcester, Clark University of all places, Zygmunt Freud. So, smoked 20 cigars a day, and basically his face was getting eaten away toward the end. I don�t think he quit though. So I like newthetic counseling because it has a bead, aim small, miss small.

It goes after psychological counseling and the �science� of psychology. How can it be a science if it keeps changing all the time? That�s what I�d like to know. It shows that psychological tests are basically worthless.

Again, when it comes to changing behavior, analyzing behavior, that�s one thing. Changing behavior, that�s another. Newthetic counseling is wonderful when it drives people back to the text. What does the text say?

The Bible is sufficient, Sola Scriptura. I think newthetic counseling excels in that area. What else is it good for? Back in the day, remember Larry Crabb, newthetic counseling would expel integrationists like Larry Crabb.

He�s not really one of us when it comes to the counseling realm. There�s psychological counseling, there�s biblical counseling, and when you mix the two, these integrationists, as we might call them, we know what you�re doing and we don�t agree.

Probably the last thing, well, second to last thing, it emphasizes dealing with sin as sin and it emphasizes forgiveness and hope. You can be forgiven for sin. Every sin is forgivable short of the blasphemy of the Holy Spirit, which you can�t commit now on earth.

At least I don�t think you can. If you die in any sin, you�re going to hell, but die in sin meaning not forgiven, not justified, you�re condemned then, of course. That�s the opposite of justification.

There�s a sin that leads to death and you�re not to pray for that, but you can find out what that is in context in 1 John and that�s the repeated over and over and over, Jesus isn�t God in the flesh. Maybe you think it�s something else, but that�s for another show.

You can get on the troll Facebook and debate it all you want. Sometimes I pop in and make comments on Facebook, most times I don�t. People are crabby, I especially don�t. People send in money, I especially do.

Fred, just kidding, and it says in New Thetic Counseling that you should focus on hope. You should focus on hope. If we do things God�s way, there�s hope, right? There�s hope for the future, right? And so there�s many things.

I�m sure there are other things too, but those are a few things that I like about New Thetic Counseling. But there are a few things that I don�t like about New Thetic Counseling and the dislike that I have from New Thetic Counseling that I�m going to mention now is nothing to the degree where I dislike integrationist or psychological counseling.

So if somebody comes to the church and says, �I�m big into New Thetic Counseling. I�m pretty much happy that that would be the case, that they�ve studied, but there�s a few things that over time we might have to tweak here or there or the other, right?

The Preaching of the Word Is Not a Band-Aid

So what about the preaching of God�s Word? Bill Goode said, �Unless the issues of sin are seriously and properly dealt with in counseling, is the context, �the preaching from the pulpit is merely a Band-Aid solution.

Now, see, that�s the kind of stuff I don�t really like. I think if you talk to him and you work through it, it would be closer to where we would be, you know, both be and all that stuff. But I think that language is tough to swallow because the proclamation of truth from the pulpit pretty much is everything.

Now, should there be some discipleship behind the scenes and pastoral ministry behind the scenes? I�m not saying there shouldn�t. I�m just saying you shouldn�t talk this way about preaching from the pulpit as a Band-Aid solution for anything.

If there was no counseling, nobody trained in euthetic counseling, no discipleship, the Word of God would still do what the Word of God does. And I just would agree more with John MacArthur. The Word of God always accomplishes its intended purposes.

Then he quotes Isaiah 55, 11. �So shall my word be which goes forth from my mouth. It shall not return to be empty without accomplishing what I desire and without succeeding in the matter for which I sent it.

MacArthur also says the greatest need in the church today and therefore the greatest need in the world today is biblical, powerful preaching. In recent years, I feel that preaching has been minimized.

It has been given a backseat to counseling, administration, programming, entertainment, and so forth. On the same tape, you can tell this was older when I did this research, MacArthur quoted Lloyd-Jones regarding the substitution of the Word of God by counseling, which was, of course, in that case, psychological counseling, but the primacy of the Word of God.

I think here's what happens often. I think pastors begin to counsel people, and if they're going to meet with seven people during the week at an hour at a time for 15 weeks in duration each, pretty soon that starts taking away your day, besides the emergencies that would come up and brush fires and forest fires that would come up just in life, in his own life and in the life of the people in the church.

And then you cut back some of the preaching because you're doing a lot of preaching one on one. Now, I think preaching one on one is important, but one of my problems with emphatic counseling, and of course, there are some emphatic counselors that don't do this, but just this is a potential trap where the pastor counsels a lot of folks, and instead of counseling folks, I think he should be, you can counsel folks and train leadership.

2 Timothy 2, verse 2, where you're training up the leaders for the next generation and even the current generation. And so you have people in 1 Thessalonians language, some that need help, some that need encouragement, some need to be rebuked, right?

Some are mature, some are immature, and so if you're only hanging out with immature people, telling them the truth, well, pastors, of course, have to do that. But if you train others, then those others can hang out with some of those that are just chronically needing help, that are people who are redeemed by the blood of the lamb, and you should invest into them, but not to the exclusion of training other leaders.

It is my own anecdotal research that when I find a pastor who does an inordinate amount of time of biblical counseling, he doesn't train other leaders as much. You can kind of do one or the other, and so I'm not saying it's either or.

I'm just saying heavy on biblical counseling means light on men's discipleship. You say, well, then he brings in people for counseling, and then they listen in. So I understand those things, but I'm just saying don't ever underestimate the power of the word preached, no matter what else is going on.

You say, well, I'm a New Theta counselor, and I wouldn't disagree with you. Okay, good. Don't overdo counseling so that you underdo the pulpit ministry because, of course, there's preaching house to house.

I know that, but there's also the discipleship element, okay? So Mike Abendroth, just a few concerns, some concerns when it comes to New Thetic counseling. Maybe you disagree with me. You can write me.

Maybe you say, yeah, I see some of the warnings there. Thirdly, what about hermeneutics? Sometimes there's something called the New Thetic hermeneutic. That's coined by Abendroth, Patrick, a New Thetic hermeneutic.

Actually, maybe before Pat, Dr. Robert Thomas talked about the New Thetic hermeneutic when I discussed this with him in 1996. There is a quote here that I will read. The Bible has much to say about resolving conflict.

Almost every book in the New Testament says something about this topic. Romans 12, almost an entire chapter focuses on preventing and resolving conflicts. Romans 14, same emphasis culminating in verse 19.

This is in a book called Biblical Principles of Conflict Resolution. I don't know who did that book. I want to say that's a Jay Adams thing, but I'm not really sure. There are some New Thetic counselors that have stated that the key verse or theme of the book of Philippians is, I urge you Odia and urge Syntyche to live in harmony in the Lord.

Jay Adams, New Testament commentaries, I think you will see a New Thetic hermeneutic where everything is looked at through the lens of biblical counseling. I think that's an error. I think the proper grammatical historical method of interpretation isn't the New Thetic hermeneutic.

How about this? Intro to biblical counseling. Finally, page 262. Finally, in order for our instruction to be appropriate, we must be aware of our counselee's receptivity to counsel. Jesus said, do not give what is holy to dogs and do not throw your pearls before swine.

As they trample them under their feet and turn and tear you in pieces, tear you to pieces, Matthew 7, 6. So what we don't want to do is take a verse about unbelievers and make it for believers and say this is receptivity to counsel.

This is common where you want to, you know, you're so into things. And by the way, being into things, people are into counseling. People are into New Thetic counseling. A lot. And maybe there's some things that have been changed and you can get degrees in New Thetic counseling with a proper understanding of the Word of God is central.

Discipling men, if you're a pastor, is key. And having the right hermeneutics. I'm not saying there isn't. I'm just saying these are some ditches that you could drive into if you're a New Thetic counselor.

Watch out for these ditches. Okay, that's a better way. The ditches of New Thetic counseling. How about, fourthly, the structure? Here's the fourth ditch that you might drive into if you're not careful.

The structure of counseling. So, you know, psychological elements. You meet for 10 or 15 weeks, you know, you get your halo data, you've got your PDI, you've got your form, there's the solver acronym that I was taught.

You talk about the right things from the Bible. But you do it in a framework or a format or a setting that's talk. It's talk therapy. It's back to Freud again. Hey, we can talk through these things. Now, of course, there has to be some talk.

This is what the Bible says about the subject. This is what the Bible says about how you can change, you know. Okay, I'm not against talk. That's not my point. But the 15-week structure of let's talk and work through this.

I think maybe if you were doing something together, it would be better. You see, that's what we do. We talk for three weeks and we go do something together in light of ministry. So, I know there's exceptions to the rule.

These are possible ditches. MacArthur, the typical modern Christian breastplate is a little paper bib. Absolutely useless. It's made up of a system or a method or a program. 10 to 12 sessions with a counselor.

That's not what you need. What you need is about 10 or 12 hours in the presence of God until you sort out the unholy characteristics in your life and get right with him. End quote, Believer's Armor Study Notes, Ephesians 6, page 33.

And then lastly, the fifth ditch in euthetic counseling movements that you should watch out for is the kind of the Gnostic aspect, the training that's needed. I am trained in euthetic counseling and you are not.

And I have the insider knowledge and you don't. You say, well, I believe in euthetic counseling. I don't believe that. Well, again, it's just a ditch to watch out for. I know I'm lacking in so many areas, but I believe that when the Spirit of God, through his providential hand, dropped me here in central Massachusetts with a Bible and his Spirit dwelling in me, he, the Spirit dwelling in me, that I was competent to counsel.

That I was competent to counsel. I believe that's true. I was with one of the key guys in euthetic counseling years ago in the car, giving him a ride to the airport and discussing a friend of mine that was struggling with homosexuality, a man calling himself a Christian.

And he would leave our Bible study and we were talking about the Word and the Lord, and then he would drive past some bar and just go in there and do things he shouldn't. And basically, this person told me that if he was working with him, that there would be progress.

And so there's a Gnostic inner knowledge, people that have been trained. One man said, there's a team of counselors available to minister to regular attenders, according to Romans 15, 14. Any Christian should be able to be competent to counsel.

Proverbs 20, verse 5, though, it is clear that not all can draw out the deep waters of the heart. In Introduction to Biblical Counseling, interpreting counseling data is both a science and an art. Becoming an effective counselor involves not only spiritual giftedness and knowledge of the science and interpreting data, but of a continual practice of those principles until they become second nature.

Goode said, in addition, we insist that every staff member who counsels non-members must complete successfully the NANC certification. Thank you. And MacArthur, Romans Commentary, page 328. All faithful Christians are divinely equipped to admonish one another as needs and opportunities arise among them.

I could just say the priesthood of all believers, couldn't I? So, Mike Ebendroth here. Watch out for these ditches when it comes to the euthetic counseling movement. I probably in seminary had all kinds of thoughts about this, and I probably had some extreme thoughts.

Me? That I would have an extreme thought? And I think I've mellowed over the years, but I still see the possibility of driving off the road into these dishes. And if you're going to have a conference and you're going to say it's a marriage conference, packed.

Marriage and sex conference, packed. End times conference, packed. Counseling conference, packed. And then if you say we're going to have a conference on the Trinity, say what? I mean, people just don't show up.

Very, very popular to have the euthetic counseling track. I think you could do it. If you avoid these five ditches, I wouldn't say, hey, you shouldn't teach euthetic counseling. You shouldn't get a bachelor's degree or master's degree or something like that.

I wouldn't say that at all. I'm just saying you're going to drive down in the ditch if you're not careful. And you're going to go searching for idols of the heart. And I don't think sometimes even anybody knows what the idols of the heart are, except maybe that person.

You know, Adam sinned and God deals with the act, not some inner issue. Or he was dealing with the manifestation of the heart, the outward act. You know, what's the idols of the heart? So maybe that'd be my sixth ditch.

Be careful of the idols of the heart business. But we're out of time on NoCoRadio. So my name is Mike Ebendroth. This is NoCompromiseRadio .com. Don't forget the new books out. Go to the website. Check it out.

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