TLP 343: Parenting Suffering Children, Part 2 | the God of suffering

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Men will never become great in theology until they become great in suffering and I believe those who are great in theology

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Will be great in suffering Welcome to truth love

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Okay, so last time we started a study in parenting suffering children, but before we get back into that I need to make an important observation

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TLP has many listeners who don't have children. I've asked a number of them why they even listen and they've all said the same thing

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Please allow me to paraphrase what you talk about is Bible the illustrations may be parenting related, but the content is true for all of us.

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I Share this with you because I could have easily called this study Husbanding suffering wives or wifing suffering husbands or God's will for your suffering

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The truth is applicable to all. I Hope even if your child is a newborn that you can grow because of this study and that you can know

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God better because of The suffering you've experienced and that your growth will be a blessing to your own family

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Last time we looked at the nature of suffering we saw that suffering is subjective It's broad and can refer to various experiences.

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We also learned that suffering is inevitable and contagious But lastly we learned that Christians suffer differently

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We learned that they shouldn't be suffering because of the consequences of their sin also that they understand the purpose of suffering and they don't make their suffering about themselves and That set us up for discussing the

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God of suffering today. So let's dive in If Christians are the only ones who can genuinely suffer well

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Then it follows that the one thing that makes us different from everyone else is the one thing that makes it possible for us to suffer

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Well, simply put God is the reason Christians can suffer Well, and some have argued that it is the process of suffering that helps us to better understand

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God Charles Spurgeon once said that men will never become great in theology until they become great in suffering and I believe the inverse is also true.

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Those who are great in theology are great in suffering My hope is that by the end of this study

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We will better understand what Spurgeon meant and that suffering will be a completely new experience for us and our homes

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Who is God? Who is he really? Let's forget about suffering for a moment and consider some key attributes of God in a very particular order

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Number one God is holy In Leviticus 1144 God pronounces.

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I am the Lord your God Consecrate yourselves therefore and be holy for I am holy

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Holiness refers to being set apart. So all that God is is set apart to a very specific purpose

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He never transgresses his own character. Therefore when we know his character, we know exactly what

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God will and will not do However, this doesn't provide us any comfort if God is set apart to evil

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So number two God is also good in Luke 18 19.

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Jesus says no one is good except God alone Therefore since God is holy, he will never not be good

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God is entirely set apart to goodness in such a way that no one else is he cannot be bad.

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He cannot be evil Still this might not comfort us if his goodness somehow alienated him from us if he simply rejected us because we're not good like he is and That's where his next character trait comes into play

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Number three God is love 1st John 4 7 through 8 reads beloved

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Let us love one another for love is from God and everyone who loves is born of God and knows

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God The one who does not love God does not know God for God is love

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God wants our absolute best and since he's holy he will never not want our absolute best

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But this won't comfort us if God merely wants what's best for us, but is incapable of actually giving us what's best

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So praise the Lord that number for God is omnipotent Omnipotent means all -powerful

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Now I don't have time to read it It would take about 10 minutes to read the whole passage But in Job 38 through 41

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God shows Job how absolutely powerful he is Chapter 38 starts out with God Challenging Job God shows up in a whirlwind and says who is this that darkens counsel by words without knowledge

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Now gird up your loins like a man and I will ask you and you instruct me

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Part way through God's dialogue Job cries out behold. I am insignificant. What can I reply to you?

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I lay my hand on my mouth but God continues and by chapter 42 all

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Job can utter is I know that you can do all things and That no purpose of yours can be thwarted

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Therefore I have declared that which I did not understand things too wonderful for me, which I did not know I have heard of you by the hearing of the ear, but now my eyes see you

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Therefore I retract and I repent in dust and ashes The Bible from creation through the eternal heaven earth and lake of fire is a testament to the fact that God can do whatever he

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Wants we need never fear that he's too impotent to accomplish our best Of course, this is not encouraging if God doesn't know what's best so at number five

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God is omniscient Omniscient means that he knows everything Psalm 147 5 proclaims the

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Lord's understanding as infinite in 1st John 3 20 We learn that God knows all things and Hebrews 4 13 says there is no creature hidden from his sight

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But all things are open and laid bare to the eyes of him with whom we have to do The scriptures are overflowing with the infinite knowledge understanding and wisdom of God Yeah, but what if he misses something?

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Consider this number six. God is omnipresent Proverbs 15 3 teaches us that God sees all things both good and evil in Psalm 139

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David poetically portrays that there is nowhere you can run in the whole of the created and uncreated realms where God is not

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Present he won't miss something. He won't be caught off guard Now all of this would be the most comforting truth in the universe if only

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God were in control of the circumstances of my life number seven God is sovereign

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Psalm 115 3 our God is in the heavens. He does all that he pleases Proverbs 16 9 the mind of man plans his way, but the

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Lord directs his steps Daniel 4 35 all the inhabitants of the earth are accounted as nothing

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But he does according to his will in the host of heaven and among the inhabitants of earth and no one can ward off his

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Hand or say to him. What have you done? Ephesians 1 11 in him also we have obtained an inheritance having been

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Predestinated according to his purpose who works all things after the counsel of his will God is completely separate from everything that is evil and unloving he has all strength and all knowledge and sees all things and he's completely sovereign over the events of this life and As we noticed before he's not a capricious or foolish in his oversight

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Number eight God is wise Romans 16 27 to the only wise

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God through Jesus Christ be the glory forever. Amen And because he loves us

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James 1 5 says if any of you lacks wisdom Let him ask of God who gives to all generously and without reproach and it will be given to him

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But how does God give us the wisdom we need to respond correctly to the suffering in our lives? Number nine

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God's Word is truth in Psalm 119 160 David proclaims to God the sum of your word is truth and Jesus echoes this in John 17 17 as he prays to his father.

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Your word is truth and Of himself Jesus proclaims I am the way and the truth and the life.

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No one comes to the father but through me and because of all of this his holiness and goodness and love and omnipotence and omniscience and omnipresence and sovereignty and wisdom and truth number ten

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God is trustworthy He is the best. He wants the best.

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He's capable of knowing what the best is He's capable of accomplishing the best. He promises that he is actively accomplishing the best

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The God of the Christian is this God the God who is sovereign over suffering is this

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God? Now for some of you that last sentence confuses you

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Atheists and agnostics alike in chorus constantly proclaim that God can't be good and he can't exist because suffering

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Exists in this world a truly loving and all -powerful and sovereign and good God would never allow suffering

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It's a fair question I guess a question that hundreds of thousands of theologians and millions and millions of Christians have answered and it's a question

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We plan to address and deal with next time But I will say this the westernized world has lost a biblical theology of suffering because we haven't experienced that much deep suffering in the first place and Then we've bought into the

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American dream that suffering is bad and it shouldn't happen to us We view it as some divine punishment or proof of God's non -existence

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I'm gonna argue that the confusion does not live in the character of God in the experience of life The confusion comes from the fact that we're trying to squeeze

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God into our tiny little boxes Now your kids they're gonna do this

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They're gonna question and doubt and eventually wander if they ever try to understand God in light of their own experiences

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So in order to parent our children through suffering we need to start with a biblical understanding of who God is

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His character and glory need to fill our eyes Only then can we hope to enter into a season of suffering with the right

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Understanding of suffering and a knowledge of the response were to have to our suffering Now, please understand that questions and doubts and the struggling of a finite mind to comprehend the infinite are not wicked and terrible

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I'm so pleased that the apologetics movement is helping parents understand that we shouldn't be afraid of questions

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We should embrace the questions and doubts because we know that God has the answer I'm really excited because in a short period of time

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I'll be talking both to Natasha Crane and to Hilary Morgan Ferrer and they are totally in this apologetics movement

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They are amazing at it They write fantastic resources and they would they would applaud what I'm just saying here because it's not about the questions and the difficulties

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It's about the fact that God has the answers to it We don't need to be afraid if our kids are struggling.

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We just need to point them to the truth So in conclusion to parent well in suffering we need to precede it with good theology

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Only then will the suffering deepen and then prove our theology When we enter suffering with nothing more than empty secular platitudes and failure philosophies suffering will challenge what little theology we have left

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As God's ambassadors to your home. I promise you that fulfilling Deuteronomy 6 will prepare your children to suffer.

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Well Quote now This is the commandment the statutes and the judgments with the

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Lord your God has commanded me to teach you that you might do them So that you and your son and your grandson might fear the

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Lord your God To keep all his statutes and his commandments, which I command you all the days of your life and that your days may be prolonged

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The Lord is our God. The Lord is one You shall love the Lord your

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God with all your heart and with all your soul with all your might These words which I'm commanding you today shall be on your heart you shall teach them diligently to your sons and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the

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Way, and when you lie down and when you rise up You shall bind them as a sign on your hand and they shall be as frontals on your forehead

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You shall write them on the doorpost of your house and on your gates Ephesians 6 for fathers bring your children up in the discipline and instruction of the

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Lord If you and your family know the God of suffering you and your family can suffer well

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Remember if we want our children to grow up into Christ, we must parent in truth and love

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This is going to include knowing the God of suffering and why he brings suffering into our lives To that end join us next time as we look at the purpose of suffering truth love

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