Myths of Marriage #5

Does, right? But I am saying that the, now, you might hear this and think, that sounds very archaic, right? So before that, everybody just agreed that this is the case. And even in our own time, look across the world at all the different cultures that exist, and how many people in the world really disagree with what I'm saying?

It's only a small minority. So I might look like I have a minority view in this valley, an objection to this, on the foundation of the idea that men are different. Technology can't, right? For example, a man's not gonna give birth, a man's not gonna nurse a child.

And there's a lot of ways technologies have tried to minimize those differences. For example, formula. Formula's a great invention, that a woman's not able to nurse her child. And this used to be a very, make the sexes more equal, but it's actually become passe, as more people have realized, oh, this isn't maybe.

The Creation of Male and Female

So there's differences between, there's a difference between their, Genesis 127 says, so God created man in his own image, in the image of God, he created him. Male and female, he created them. Man is not just, there are inherent soul differences, all those differences, but people generally recognize even there are differences in the way men and women act.

Definitely true. And once again, it's only a very, and patients for the way, are at the same, they might be different in every way that they are, but not in any of their roles. Well, if there are difference in what they are, if God created man male and different, we should not just be, we should not be surprised that there would be a difference.

He rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household. Verse 21, it says, she is not afraid of snow for her household, or clothed in scarlet. It says in verse 27, she looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.

So repeatedly throughout Proverbs 31, classic passage talking about what an ideal wife or in care of her home, the house is her domain. Now consider also the words of Titus. Titus two, women likewise are the irreverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine.

They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind and submissive to their own husbands that the word of God may not be reviled.

So it talks about them being working at home, right? Once again, you see that the home is a domain. A side note here, it also talks about, look at the way you think that might be. There's not a lot of cross-generational interaction.

Could that not be the case? I really, I really, first of all, the Bible just says this directly. Secondly, what is the man supposed to do? The Lord God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to work it, the garden and keep, consider what a man skillful in his work, he will stand before kings.

He will not stand before obscure men. A man skillful in his work will stand before kings, not obscure men. You know, that kind of greatness is something that the Bible says is accomplishable. It isn't really accomplishable if you aren't setting your mind to it and really dedicating yourself to such excellence.

And no one can dedicate themselves to such excellence. A soldier does not the same as true pastors, right? Ideally, a pastor is full-time. You know, I'm a pastor, I'm a bivocational pastor, and I know it's the case that I'm not able to do a very excellent job because I'm not, you know, there's reasons why I've chosen this particular route, but if you have a home that's running and the man is required, is responsible for, and the woman is responsible for a significant portion of it, is such Bible describes the man, once again, I would say, I would say that it's not, you know, an unclear, also leads to a lot of bitterness.

You know, if you have multiple people responsible for something, and something doesn't go right, it's very easy to point fingers to get bitter. And this, you know, Sarah and I were actually recently counseling a couple who's going through this exact thing, right?

Not clear divisions of responsibility in the home, and so it's very easy to get upset at each other when things aren't, for example, different roles, like for example, baseball. I use a not actually sure, like how different the roles of the center of the spiker are, but for baseball, would you rather have a player who's really good at pitching and a player who's really good at first base, or would you rather have two players that are above average in both of those things, would be someone who's pitching, but good at focusing on those things, and maybe not pursuing them with that.

You don't find people, you know, switching between these, that role of assisting a man, so that he got in first, and it's not made from a woman. Scripture says perhaps a little more clearly, that Christians more readily accept, where a lot of Christians come, the Bible says the woman's supposed to submit to a man, and it's very clear about that.

So they accept it, but then they don't necessarily accept these other things. Full submission, without the notion of purpose, that actually that submission is found in the idea that you have this support role, that you have this particular domain, you have this, without a notion of purpose, and it's something that can become, once again, very, and then they end up, so, yeah, let me handle several objections, people, I'm sure there's just, I would say that a man who, when pursuing careers, you know, once you have, reading that passage, that is taking care of research, talking to, right, these are things, managing the home is very, but it's still, the last thing people might say, is that this is, given that my views are often seen as, really more offensive, me saying that homes function best, when a mother is running them, or the idea that, this particular set of, you know, one is really, I think also, just going back to, what I had said previously, that we live in a special time, and a special place, where what I'm describing, is a very minority view, you know, if you're having trouble, accepting this, or swallowing it, consider just how bad, the cards may have been stacked against you, and that should be something encouraging, not discouraging, because there's, but if you have been raised in a way, to not think, that such things were dignified, if you've been raised in a way, to not be prepared, right, if you've been raised in a way, so that none of these things, were priorities, or values, that the way, many of us, doesn't exist, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord, for the husband, is the head of the wife, as the church submits to Christ, so also wives, should sell the church, and gave himself up for her, that you might sanctify her, having cleansed her, by the washing of the, wasn't the church to himself, and splendor without spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing, you see it's not just the case, that men, women, and that this is supposed to be, let me go ahead, and I'm out.