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Welcome to the American Churchmen podcast where we encourage men, Christian men, to be better Christian men.

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How does that sound? That sounds great to me. I think it's a good thought. We talk about the Bible and God's attributes.

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And Matt Pearson usually does the attributes. Matt is my co -host. Hey, Matt. How are you doing,

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John? Oh, well, we were just talking about it. I took a - We were, yeah.

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I took a bike ride and let's just say your muscles don't work as well in the cold.

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And I hit a wall. It was a miserable thing. I'm not going cycling. I don't understand these people who go cycling in the winter in New England, but I know some who do.

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And I don't know if they're just tougher than me. I don't know what it is, but I can't do it.

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Okay, with that, Matthew, what attribute of God do we have today?

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Yes, our attribute of God that we have today is divine immutability, which is always a good one because I think that this is one of the attributes that has a lot of very good pastoral application.

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If you're like in a pastoral role and you're preaching a sermon, you come across a text which seems to communicate something like divine,

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I don't know why my brain went blank on it, immutability. I think it's very good for the laity to understand this attribute because it helps you to better grasp the promises of God and his faithfulness to us.

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So I really love this one. So, but yeah, I'm ready to get into it. So divine immutability.

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I think when we talk about this, I'm going to read two verses from scripture, one from the old

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Testament and one from the new. Our first one that we're going to read through is just Psalm 102 verses 26 through 28.

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And our second one will be James 1, 17. So Psalm 102 verses 26 through 28, it reads this is from, both of these are going to just be from the

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ESV. It says, they will perish, but you will remain. They will all wear out like a garment.

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You will change them like a robe and they will pass away, but you are the same and your years have no end.

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The children of your servants shall dwell secure. Their offspring shall be established before you.

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From James 1, 17, that verse reads, every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the father of lights with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change.

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So in my definition of divine immutability, I'll be using, I've been using a lot of Bavinck and Bavinck will still come into play here, but I decided to use two sources for this, just Richard Moeller, his dictionary of Latin and Greek theological terms, and then

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Bavinck as well. So these will just be helpful walking us through, but divine immutability, if I was to kind of try and condense what they said, it would basically just be this, that God is free from, so when we say mutability, immutability versus mutability, when you think of mutation, that means a change in something.

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So divine mutability or immutability would be that God is free from all mutation of being, attributes, place, or will, and from all physical and ethical change.

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In other words, God does not change. God remains the same in his being, in his essence, at all times, forever, throughout eternity,

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God is without change, as well as in regard to, as I read there, and his will.

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So whatever God wills and decrees comes to pass, God does not just willy -nilly change his mind on things.

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So God does not repent or change his mind. Now, when I say God does not repent, if you're a good reader of your

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Bible, you may say, wait a minute, when I'm going through my Bible reading plan, and I get to Genesis chapter six, and it talks about how all the peoples grieved him because of what they did, so he repented.

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Does that not, do not the words of scripture directly contradict this notion that God is without change, that he does not repent?

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Well, that's not the case. For when the scriptures speak this way, they're speaking, they're using anthropomorphic language, or to use the big fancy word that Richard Muller used, the scriptures speak of God anthropopathically.

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In other words, it'll predicate of God certain human or creaturely attributes in order to communicate something which is hard for us to understand, basically.

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So for example, the scriptures will sometimes say, like, God covers us with his wings. Does this mean that God has actual wings and he flies like a bird?

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Of course not. It's using figurative language in order to communicate something about God. So these things are ascribed to God.

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So God repenting or changing, this is ascribed to him anthropopathically in order to indicate not a change within God, but rather a change in his relation between himself and his creation, perhaps.

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So God in judging man. So if God is upholding men, but he decides to judge them, there's a change in the relation.

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Now that does not at all alter a change in his very being or essence or his will, rather it indicates a change in relation which

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God has always foreordained, thus keeping God immutable. And there's some pretty important implications behind God being immutable, really.

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So were God not immutable, he actually would not be God. And this comes down to the fact that God himself is pure being.

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God is not ever becoming. He is not changing because we are becoming. There was a time when we were not, so we became.

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So God himself, he is pure being. And where do we get that from? Well, how does God reveal himself to Moses in the burning bush?

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He says, I am that I am. Him saying I am is a declaration that he is pure fundamental being in and of himself.

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He is not becoming. True being belongs to him who does not change. And given that God is he who is, he cannot change as every change would diminish his very being.

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And God, there is no becoming because this would put him on the level of a creature. And if you put them on the level of a creature, there no longer remains a creator creature distinction.

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And because of that, the difference between the creator and the creature, it entirely hinges on the contrast between being and becoming.

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So it's a really big concept, this idea that God is being, he's not becoming, whereas we as created things, we're always in flux and change.

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And it's fundamental to the gospel that we are creatures who do change because the point is that God saves us in order to renew and change us and make us be conformed more to his character.

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And to end my spiel, I will conclude with a quote from Bavinck on this topic, which

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I believe has a lot of good application for not just pastors, not just lay people, but for all

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Christians in regard to our journey to being holy. Bavinck says, quote, "'We humans can rely on God or rely on him.

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He does not change in his being, knowing or willing. He eternally remains who he is.

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Every change is foreign to God. In him, there is no change in time, for he is eternal, nor in location, for he is omnipresent, nor in essence, for he is pure being."

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And the reason why that's of such great comfort to us is when God makes a promise to us, we can always trust that he will keep that promise.

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As long as we meet the conditions which he gives to us and those conditions that we have to meet, we only meet those because God gives us the ability to do so and he guarantees that we're going to be able to do so if he gives us those gifts.

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So it's a great promise to know that you don't have to worry about God changing his mind on you because God is immutable and everything that he decrees will come to pass.

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So in a nutshell, that's divine immutability. Yeah, what a comfort. And I think this is a unique thing to Christianity.

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I'm going through all the other religions in my mind and even

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Christian cults like Mormonism don't have this because God is becoming in that, or at least there was a stage at which

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God was like us and then he became who he is and then we're on this journey to become like he is.

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And in Islam, I know there's an arbitrary nature to Allah and all the ancient pagan, like Greco -Roman stories and so forth, there's total arbitrary situations.

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And so, yeah, it's really cool that that's something that's very unique to Christianity. And I think that's the attribute to, probably more than any other attribute.

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I don't know, it's hard. There's a lot of good ones, right? But when you're going through a hard time, when you need stability more than anything else, that's the stable element in the universe.

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You don't have, maybe element's not the word I should use, but that's the stable, I mean, it's not in the universe, but it's, you know what

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I'm trying to say. No, yeah. You're speaking analogically, we understand for sure. Yes, yes, yes.

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So - This isn't presbytery exam, don't worry. You're right, yeah. If I was on an ordination committee, they might ask me to clarify, but yeah, when everything feels like it's falling apart in your life, that's the one thing that will be stable, guaranteed,

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God sustained yesterday, today and forever. So excellent job, thank you, Matthew.

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Now we have some articles today to talk about, and since it's actually probably good that we're gonna have a shorter episode, just because I don't think there's, there's some really good stuff to say, but I don't think that it's exhaustive.

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Like I don't think we're gonna spend a long time. So the two articles that I thought would be good to talk about were first this really short one by Pastor Mike Selecki called, when mercy is granted responding to Trump's victory.

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And I know probably some of you are all Trumped out the last two episodes, I think we've talked about Trump, but there is, of course, we could spend a lot of time on this, but I think it's, we don't have to.

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I think this is a point that should probably be made and we can make it briefly. I'll just read this paragraph and then we can talk about it a little bit.

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But Pastor Selecki says, as I consider this Old Testament passage, and he's talking about Amos 7, one through nine.

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He said, I knew any parallel between Israel and the United States must not be taken out of context. The United States is not a nation that has been given covenant promises like Israel.

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There is no promise in the Bible that the Lord will restore and renew the United States like he will for Israel. That said,

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I recognize our God is more than just the God of Israel. He is also the sovereign Lord of all the earth. He is also

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God who is long suffering, merciful and gracious. He is a God who delights in answering the prayers of his people, no matter the nation they pray for or where they are located.

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Since all of this is revealed to be true and since God commands believers to pray for all those in authority so that we may lead a quiet and peaceable life, it seems clear to me that we, as God's people living in the

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US ought to ask the Lord's for mercy on our rebellious nation. And so anyway, and then he talks about responding when mercy is granted.

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And I think in the context of the Trump victory, that's how he's interpreting it, that this is a mercy from God.

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This is four years where some of the things that would have happened had Kamala Harris won will not happen.

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And hopefully we can actually see some good things, positive things happen as well. But anyway, the thing to maybe camp on a little bit there is there are

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Christians out there. Some of them may be listening to this podcast who I think treat the

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United States like Israel. And I'll just briefly, this is a little story. I talked to someone not too long ago, someone fairly influential actually in Christianity.

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And they told me that there's only two nations that have ever covenanted with God. And it was, you can guess which ones, right?

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It was Israel and the United States. Those are the only two. And the

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United States covenanted with God. There's like debate on this, whether it was at the pilgrims who did it, was it the

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Puritans who did it? Was it the Jamestown settlement? But somewhere in there, someone made a deal with God that this nation was going to be a light to the other nations, kind of like Israel and propagate the gospel throughout the world.

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And you could just look and see all the missions, organizations that have formed in the United States. And I think what happens here, and maybe

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Matthew, you can jump in after I say this, if you have a thought on it. But it seems to me like this becomes kind of like an explanation for like why things are so bad, right?

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So Biden's so bad and we got all these horrible things. And instead of blaming the culprits for it, it kind of like redirects the blame to believers.

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And then the pressure becomes like, well, if the church really did its job, and maybe there's some point to be made on that.

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But if Christians would just follow God again, then like everything would fall into place.

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The United States would be, that would make America great again. And so the problem then becomes, it's not

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Joe Biden. Joe Biden's just sent from God as a curse on Christians who aren't following him.

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Now, and I'm not saying like there isn't a sense in which like God does do that kind of thing, even to pagan nations, he will judge them for their sin.

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But there is more being said in that, that there's an obligation that God has.

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If we follow him, we're gonna get blessings. And if we don't, we're gonna get curses in the same way that Israel had blessings and curses, because we made this deal.

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So I don't know if you have any comments on that, but I think that's not right. I don't think you can prove that from scripture.

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Yeah, so I do not believe the idea that there's only been two nations that have covenanted with God, America and Israel.

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I don't think that holds up. I actually, maybe I'm a bit more extreme. I think multiple nations have covenanted with God.

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I believe that Israel's covenant with God was very particular in that under the old covenant, there is a sense in which there is almost like a fusion of like the body politic with the church itself, essentially, because God covenanted in a particular way.

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But you see other nation, or when you think of what is required of civil magistrates or what is the duty of nations, one of those duties,

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I believe, is to acknowledge both tables of the law and to acknowledge

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God and to covenant with him collectively as a people. And I think that the magistrate should be the one who initiates this.

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And that I believe that there have been nations in history that have done this that are not Israel.

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And you even see this within scripture. I mean, when you look at the book of Daniel, Daniel, end of Daniel chapter four,

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Nebuchadnezzar is publicly acknowledging the Lord. Or you look at the end of, I think it's, yeah,

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Daniel chapter six with the story of Daniel going in the lion's den. How does it end?

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Well, Daniel escapes, the corrupt people that framed him were put in there. And then Darius writes unto everyone in the nation, he says, peace be multiplied unto you.

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I make a decree that in every dominion of my kingdom, men tremble and fear before the God of Daniel, for he is the living

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God and steadfast forever in his kingdom, that which shall not be destroyed in his dominion shall be even unto the end.

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So, I mean, we see magistrates publicly acknowledging God. So you see this idea that all the peoples are called upon to acknowledge him.

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And in a sense, there's a relationship being formed. Now, is it of the same nature as a covenant God made with Israel?

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No, that was extraordinary in particular. But is there this principle that men by nature owe allegiance to God, not just individually, but through, but collectively as nations?

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I believe that that is the case. And when you look at Matthew 28, 19, go ye therefore and make disciples of all nations, or as a

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King James would put it, disciple the nations, baptize the nations. There's definitely a sense in which collectives are called to acknowledge the

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Lord. Whether you wanna call that a covenant or not, fine. But I find nothing wrong with it. But I think that this particularizing of the

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US as being special and set apart is probably not the wisest thing to do.

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Though, as someone who is an American, as much as I'd love for it to be true, I don't really think that totally holds.

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But those are my thoughts on that. I think in principle, I agree with everything you said. I think the question is, yeah, like, what do you label that?

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So a covenant in the basic sense, I guess it's just an agreement, right? So if you wanna say that's an agreement that we're like, we agree to worship

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God. And with the expectation that we follow his principles, he is going to, in a general sense, bless us.

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Because even if like in a proverbial sense, like you look at Proverbs, like you do things that conform to God's order, it will go better for you generally.

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But I guess what I'm trying to say, and I think you're saying the same thing really, is that there is a special relationship

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God had with Israel where they had like particular boundaries. They had a specific land, they had a specific people and an inheritance.

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And through them, the nations would be blessed. The United States is not the same thing.

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People treat it that way though. Like here's a good like experiment on that, right? If you ever bring up the idea of secession or like, hey, maybe the

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United States is too big or maybe we should like adjust borders or something. I know there's several projects in different states to try to bring that about.

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Like the Greater Idaho Project is one. People freak out. And it's like, it's an interesting thing.

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Like if you think about it, it's really weird, right? Like what, like these are lines on a map. People change, like why is that such a sacred thing?

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Like you can't switch a border or like what if, I mean,

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I remember studying about like New England during the War of 1812. They wanted to, they had the

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Hartford Convention. They were thinking of joining Canada and. Oh, wow. Yeah, oh, that was, I think that one of the major first sort of like secession ideas.

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Well, it wasn't the South, it was New England. But you know, like, but that's like, like if you ever said that today, if you said like Alaska or Texas or whatever, like should, like people freak out.

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And like, what is that? Like there's this, like, it's gotta be 50 states. It's gotta look like this. It's like locked in, this is the special God's country or divine, you know, we have the temple of democracy in Washington and like, it is this strange thing.

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Like we have this like, this revolutionary mission to spread democracy throughout the world. That's like our job somehow.

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And so we gotta like put our hands into every foreign conflict. And it is,

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I think it is like working off of this idea that we're kind of like Israel, even people who are secular are still kind of running off of this like incorrect view of American exceptionalism.

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And I think there is a correct view of it, but like, that's a warped view. And so. I think that will largely some of that has to do with is this understanding, like sometimes this comes down to like localism or regionalism versus nationalism and where you would land in that kind of argument.

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But for those that lean a bit more like nationalistic, it comes down to somewhat of like inheritance, especially if you like have ancestors that have been in the

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US for a long time and you're not all generally located in one region, you're somewhat spread out.

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There's a sense in which America, like the country, the nation state with its borders as it is, this is your inheritance in a sense.

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And people may see it as a duty to not just care for their own local region. Like, oh,

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I've been in Florida for this amount of time. I only really care about Florida, but to see the whole as being, this is your inheritance.

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You can go anywhere here and you're still an American. If you move to Mississippi, will you be a Mississippian?

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Sure, in a sense, but not necessarily culturally and all that, but are you still an American in America? Yes. And so people attach value to that.

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I don't think that it always has to come down to like, oh, America is a special chosen people of God. I think it literally just comes down to,

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I love people and place. And that does extend beyond my local region. I think that sometimes is what it comes down to.

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Yeah, yeah, I think you're right. I mean, it really depends on how firmly someone holds to it. I'm more like,

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I'm talking about like the freak out, like the, like what you can't really even have the discussion because like, it's so sacred.

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You can't even consider like what would be more beneficial. And that's just like, that's not the full, like I'm not saying that alone proves that people are viewing the

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United States as a covenant. Like, I think some of the weird Trumpy stuff is even more like, there's a number of things that come together on this, but like,

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I don't know if you have any like relatives or friends of maybe a certain age bracket to look at Trump as like almost a messianic figure.

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And like that, it's good that you like respect a guy who's brave and stuff, but you gotta like put things in perspective here and he's not.

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So anyway, I don't know, more could be said about that, but I don't know if you have any final thoughts.

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I just think it's good to set our expectations.

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And like the expectation I have is the United States needs to honor God, just like every nation is required to honor

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God or every country, every region, every empire. And we don't have like a unique relationship that is like far and above like every other nation, like where it's just like Israel and the

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United States or something like that. Like that's, we're great people. Like it's like on Father's Day, my dad's the greatest dad.

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And I feel that about the United States. And there's some really awesome things that we can talk about, but we are not like in this unilateral covenant where God is giving us this revolutionary mission and blessings if we obey, curses if we don't because of that relationship.

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So that's just what I think. Sounds like you've said your piece.

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Yeah, we could probably go on for a while, but no, that's, yeah, that's fine. That's good. All right, well, a few comments and then we'll move on and spend the last 10 minutes on this article on dating.

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Well, I guess it's not really dating, but marriage actually applies to that.

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Well, I'm trying to include you here, Matthew. I appreciate that. Thank you. So yeah, you need to buy a real

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King hat, John, says Von Bright. We don't have it here, sorry. We only have tractor supply. That's why

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I got tractor supply. Why would a wicked magistrate adhere to any, but I think it's any of God's law.

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I don't know. I don't think they would. They probably wouldn't, which is why we need just a good magistrates.

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I used to be a proud Colorado and not anymore. Yeah, it went deeper blue last election, if you can believe it.

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You can still be proud of Colorado and its history and heritage and whatnot, while still acknowledging that the current state of it is terrible potheads who just do terrible things.

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Not everyone can live in Florida, man. Yeah, it's nice to go, but it's nice in the winter if you wanna go skiing. So I like Colorado.

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Colorado is fun. Do you go to Colorado? I didn't. I go a bit like when

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I was a kid. It's been a while since I went there. I guess I'm still a kid. I'm a little baby 23 year old, but I haven't been in a minute.

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I didn't know you ski. I did. Well, I wasn't that good at it though. I pretended to twist my ankle so I could get a ride off of it.

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Oh man. Yeah, I was a baby. I should try it again now that I think about it.

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Yeah, it's fun. Everyone likes to snowboard, but I don't wanna pay the money to spend a whole day falling.

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I know how to ski, but. Yeah, fair enough. Okay, so if you wanna attract a godly husband, first act like a woman.

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So yeah, we talked about this briefly beforehand. I was like, well, I'm married.

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So I'll let you pepper in whatever you'd like to say from the dating scene. I'm kind of curious what the Zoomer dating scenes like a little bit, but.

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Yeah, it's interesting for sure. Well, I'm sure it is.

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I mean, it's changed so much in the United States over the last century. And I'm sure that dating now is so much different than even when

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I was finding my wife. Some of it was becoming facilitated online, but there was still kind of like this,

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I don't know if that's a good idea. And now I think most of it's probably facilitated online, which changes the dynamic,

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I would imagine. Women are attractive, that's the first point here. But Proverbs 11 -

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So true. Sorry, John, continue. No, it is true.

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Proverbs 11, 22, like a gold ring and a pig snout is a beautiful woman without discretion. So beauty is not everything, physical beauty, but God did create women to be attractive to men and vice versa.

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And so he's saying, so this is interesting. He says, here Solomon is saying that no woman is beautiful regardless of outward appearance if she isn't feminine.

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And ladies, men don't separate these as distinctly as you may think. All right, so here's a question then for,

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I guess women, you're getting a little bit of a fly in the wall experience here with Matthew and I talking about this.

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But so have you met a beautiful girl that without knowing her, you think like, oh, maybe she's someone like a prospect, right?

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Someone to talk to and get to know. But then she exudes masculine traits and it becomes unattractive.

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I know, speaking for myself, I've definitely experienced this. I don't know if you've had that experience in the dating courtship scene.

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Ooh, the courtship scene, that's another - I don't know what you, I dated. No, I've definitely seen that before where a woman can be very beautiful objectively, but just the way she acts may be a bit too masculine almost.

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Like in a sense, you can have certain little traits here and there, I guess, and it's not the worst thing in the world.

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Especially if you're a girl that's grown up with brothers, it makes sense in some degrees or the other. But if your whole personality is that, it obviously, if you're gonna do any of that at all,

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I feel like there has to be a bit of a balance. And again, I say all this as an unmarried man, so I say it with fear and trembling.

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I'm not the guru. But yeah, no, I mean, just as, yeah, I've definitely encountered that before though, where a girl could be potentially attractive, but certain masculine traits repel the man.

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And that just makes sense. I mean, there are plenty of guys out there that they're handsome guys, they work out, they look good.

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They look like they take care of themselves. They talk like a, I can't really say that word on YouTube.

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They just, they talk like, yeah. Yeah, they talk like a bundle of six.

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And so that obviously is gonna be off -putting to women, or they don't really exude masculine energy.

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They're not brave. They're very insecure in themselves. They're constantly needing reassurance.

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And so in the same way that that's gonna repel women, obviously men are gonna be repelled when a girl acts like a guy. That's just how it works, so yeah.

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Someone asked if a tomboy female would be too masculine traits. I don't think necessarily, because not, tomboy is usually like, like who's it, like Pollyanna, I guess, was a tomboy.

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Like I'm trying to think of like in pop culture references, like they like play baseball. It's like a girl's good at baseball.

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If a girl likes to play sports, go fishing, go hunting, go shooting, that's not that big a deal.

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That's fine. That means that if you're into those things, that means, oh cool, I'll just bring my girlfriend or wife to go do these things with me and she won't be whining the whole time.

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That's great, that's fine. I did take my wife into a tree stand once and it was the last time I think I will ever be in a tree stand with her.

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Yeah. It was like the first, I think we were dating. I don't think we were married yet, actually. And I was like, oh, this is a way we could spend time together.

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And the whole time I was like, be quiet. You're gonna scare away all the deer. But yeah, so I'll give you an example of what

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I think a masculine trait would be. So a girl who's like very aggressive,

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I think, initiates with a guy. I'm not saying a girl can't ever let a guy know that she's available, right?

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That's different. But like I have had experiences when, before I was married with girls who were just aggressive.

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They wanted to be like the initiator in the relationship.

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And yeah, like telling me where I needed to be and like try to like ask me out and that kind of thing.

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Like that's an immediate turnoff. Here's the thing though. I think there are a lot of guys who want that in a sense.

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And honestly though, ladies, I don't think you want a guy like that. You don't want a guy who wants you to make all the decisions.

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Mm -hmm, he has mommy issues. That, yeah, there's issues there. You want a guy who wants your input, but who can be decisive, because that's his job in life.

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And that's going to affect your marriage later on. So that would be an example perhaps of like a masculine trait.

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Yeah. But yeah, so let's keep going with the article here. So, okay, so here's, okay, these are getting, this could be spicy, but I can't change the way

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I look. And who's the author of this? Who wrote this? This was Dan, I think it's

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Lowing. So he says, oh, where did I, I've lost my place here.

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I can't change the way I look. Okay, he says, you really can. So I'm going to get in trouble here.

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I'm going to get in trouble. I know. I'm going to try not to. I'm a guy in my, I'm a young guy in my early twenties. I'm going to get in more trouble than you,

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John. I'm married, so I don't have, I'm not risking it. Yeah, you're good, you're good.

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Here's the thing, I'll say what Matthew can't hear, ladies. And this applies to guys, okay, too, maybe differently.

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But you do need to put in a little effort in the way you look. Same with guys, but I don't know what the dynamic,

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I can't really quantify it, but I think for ladies, it's even, I don't know, it's more so in a sense, like it's,

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I don't know, for some reason, like a guy coming in, like, especially if he has a blue collar job and he's dirty and stuff, it's like, you know, he's got to freshen up before he goes out on a date and stuff.

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But I don't know, it's somewhat expected, I guess. There are girls that, some of them actually very beautiful girls, but they just put no effort into it.

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And I remember this from the dating scene. And here's the thing I wanted to say about that. Put the looks thing on the shelf.

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I know like girls can get like sensitive about like, oh, guys just are objectifying women and stuff. Yeah, okay, guys are visual, but here's the thing.

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There's a character thing here. And I think that it says something about you. And the same goes for guys here.

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If you don't prepare yourself to be presentable, then it raises questions about what other things in your life are you letting slide?

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And what are the things in the future potential marriage are you just going to kind of like leave to the wind?

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It's about order and it's about preferring the other person. You want them to be, to have something nice to look at and not, it's not just all about you and your comfort if that makes sense.

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Like, so yeah, like you should try to keep yourself in shape, that's also a matter of health and stewardship of your body.

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You don't have to be Arnold Schwarzenegger. You don't have, I don't know what the, what's the female equivalent, I don't even know.

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You don't have to have a perfect body, but you do need to generally take care of what God's given you.

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And that's going to show a man that you will also take care of his stuff, his house, potential children in the future, that it signals that you care about those things.

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So there's a character element here. I don't think it's about just like objectifying and looks and stuff, even though yes, there's an attractive element, it's more than that.

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So you have an exemption, Matt, if you don't want to say anything about that part of it.

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You said all that needed to be said. No worries. There you go. All right. So we're going to kind of, yeah, stop walking like men, stop talking like men, make yourself available, which is good.

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This is actually a really good article. And if you're interested, please go to TrueScript and read the whole thing. Act like a woman.

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And acting like a woman, you will attract a godly man. So that's the article.

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Some really good insights here for ladies and for guys who are in the dating scene. Check it out.

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Find out about the kind of woman that you want to attract. But any final thoughts, Matthew, before we end the show today?

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No final thoughts. Just happy to be here. Thought we had a neat little episode.

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And so excited for next week. Stormy says, millennial dating scene is abysmal. Every millennial stereotype is correct.

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All right. Well, maybe the same with the Zoomer dating scene.

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I don't know. Yeah. And Stormy says, hey babe, we're going to McDonald's.

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No, no. See, that's, no, don't do that. Not on the first date, at least. Unless you're with -

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One smart cake is enough. I was going to make a joke about that. Yeah. All right. Well, anyway, we'll see you next week for the