TLP 190: 10 Things All Parents Should Hate, Part 2

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We never ever ever have a right to be unloving in fact It's our love for our children that demands that we can't just go along with their sin

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We can't tolerate their wicked choices. We can't allow their selfishness Welcome to truth love parents where we use

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God's Word to become intentional premeditated parents Here's your host a .m.

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Brewster. Welcome back to this two -part episode about the ten things all parents should hate I promise you that if you haven't heard episode 189, there's going to be some huge misunderstanding and one of the things

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I hate Most is being misunderstood. So make sure you check that episode out first And if you're just joining us,

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I almost feel like I should apologize that these episodes would be your first experience with truth

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Love parent why would a podcast with the words love and parent in their name talk about ten things that all parents should hate?

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Of course, I don't apologize and it's really not that confusing This is God's Word and it's beautiful and pure and the better.

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We understand it the more loving and truthful. Our lives will be However, there's also the off chance that sinfully hateful people have joined us today people looking for biblical

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Justification to act unlovingly if that's you I pray the Spirit does a work in your life

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And there's also the possibility that some people have tuned in just to find another reason to believe that Christians are all terrible people

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Why else would a Christian podcast encourage parents to hate? I pray that God will use his word to show you today that he and his true followers.

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Love you Unconditionally and want nothing but the best for you Still we cannot understand biblical love correctly until we understand biblical hate and that's why our last episode was so important But before we go any further

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Don't forget to send us an email to team TLP at truth Love parent comm if you're planning to attend our first ever

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TLP meetup in Dallas, Texas on September 17th 2018 It's gonna be so much fun and Lord willingly so very helpful for you your relationship with God and your family

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You can also follow us on Facebook and click that you're attending on our event page Okay, so let's continue to build on the foundation.

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We laid last time concerning biblical hatred First by way of review because I have the feeling that some of you may not go back and listen to the first episode in This series love and hate are not emotions

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They are conscious choices to ally with or against something Love is a decision to ally with someone to want and to work toward God's best interest in his or her life

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Hate is the decision to stand against something or someone. It's the proclamation that I cannot side with you

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Now we have to be reminded that biblical love and hate Coexist God draws a cosmic line in the sand and says

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I am light in me is no darkness at all I cannot fellowship with you in darkness. So I invite you to join me in the light

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However, if you choose to remain in darkness, you must know that there will be eternal consequence There's nothing more loving than to sacrifice everything you have to make an enemy a friend and there's nothing more just than to hold an enemy

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Responsible for not taking such an offer and we saw last time that God hates false worship

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Incorrect worship the prideful liars murderers those with wicked intentions mischief makers people who hurt relationships

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Divorce and perverted speech and today's question is what that has to do with us

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Well, the title of the series is ten things all parents should hate and I think you probably see where I'm going

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Christian parents need to hate all the exact same things that God hates We need to hate when our children worship their own desires above God's We need to loathe when our kids use the legitimate expressions of true worship to satisfy themselves

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We need to hate when our children are prideful. We must detest lying Of course, we all claim to hate murder and yet we ignore our children in the next room cutting each other down with their words

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Matthew 5 21 through 22 says you have heard that it was said to those of old you shall not murder and Whoever murders will be liable to judgment

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But I referring to Christ say to you that everyone who is angry with his brother will be liable to judgment

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Whoever insults his brother will be liable to the council and whoever says you fool will be liable to the hell of fire

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We need to hate murder, but we also need to hate the attitudes that Jesus says are just as bad as murder We need to hate it when our children's motivation isn't

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Christ honoring this goes for their sinful behaviors But it also goes for the sinful motivations for their seemingly good actions

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For example a child who does their best in school simply for the praise of men We need to hate when our children are actively working to hurt the relationships in their family.

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We need to hate divorce It should never be something about which we joke or a threat we use when we're angry

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Now, like I said last time there are biblical justifications for divorce and I plan to discuss it on this show at a future date

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I don't want anyone writing me today trying to explain why their divorce was the exception The reality is that God hates divorce and we should too

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We should also hate when our children have perverted speech But this isn't simply when our kids tell dirty jokes or swear a perversion is anything that's been twisted from its original intent

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God wants us to use our words to lift people up and point them to Christ We pervert the purpose of our language when we speak from our selfish desires

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You pervert the purpose of sexuality when we participate in it outside of God's design and God hates perverted things

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Now some of you may be thinking Aaron I accept the fact that God hates those things But I'm not comfortable saying that we should hate those things

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Please keep in mind that this entire study is being done primarily by using the scriptures that include the words

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I and hate What I'm saying is that I could make this argument from numerous passages in the

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Bible But all I really need to do is point to Psalm 97 10. It's there that the psalmist proclaims

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Oh you who love the Lord hate evil. He preserves the lives of his saints. He delivers them from the hand of the wicked

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Now the word translated evil is used over 600 times in the Old Testament and refers to every form of spiritual or physical badness

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It's part of the name of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil It's the same word used in Genesis 6 5 where the

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Lord says that the Lord saw the wickedness of man was great in the earth And of course, he subsequently decided to send a worldwide flood.

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We parents who say that we love the Lord Must hate evil in Psalm 101 3

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David says I will not set before my eyes Anything that is worthless. I hate the work of those who fall away

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It shall not cling to me even Paul proclaimed that believers should hate things in Romans 7 15 through 18

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He says for I do not understand my own actions for I do not do what I want But I do the very thing

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I hate so now it is no longer I who do it But sin that dwells within me for I know that nothing good dwells in me

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That is in my flesh for I have the desire to do what is right, but not the ability to carry it out This hatred of sin includes false worship and incorrect worship and pride and lying and murder and everything else that God says is a sin

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Therefore we must hate everything God hates Okay, so God hates evil and we're to hate evil.

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This should bring up two other questions number one Why am I supposed to hate those things and number two?

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What does this kind of hatred look like in my family? You know what's the practical application and I think many people are afraid of this whole topic and may even stop listening to the show because They're gonna jump to the wrong conclusions about the application of this concept

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Stick with me and this will all make biblical Christ honoring and liberating sense

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First let's answer why we're supposed to hate what God hates I want to look at four verses from Psalm 119 as many of you know

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Psalm 119 is the longest chapter in the Bible and it's all about the Bible it proclaims and explains the eternal glory and value of the

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Scriptures, but it also says this in verse 104 through your precepts.

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I get understanding Therefore I hate every false way in verse 113.

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I hate the double -minded, but I love your law in verse 128 Therefore I consider all your precepts to be right

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I hate every false way and in verse 168 says I hate and abhor falsehood, but I love your law

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David's whole motivation for hating evil was not that evil was evil. It was that evil didn't please

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God it stood against his scriptures Listen, I don't hate my enemy because he's against me or because he's different from me or because I don't like him

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I set myself against him because he's chosen to be an enemy of God and I love God with all my heart

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How can I be on his side God's side and my enemy's side at the same time? I can't think of it this way

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Imagine a friend of yours who's really nice and wonderful, but all of a sudden he tries to kill your spouse Nothing else matters anymore

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Now some of you have unfortunately experienced this with your kids You may have a child who's been rebellious and has terrorized your family and you've probably put up with a lot but there may have come a time when your child crossed a line and now the

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Physical and spiritual safety of the rest of the family brought you to a place where you had to send them somewhere like Victory Academy for boys and it's not because you don't love your child

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It's because you need to protect the family members who are trying to please the Lord. I Think this brings us to our final question for the day.

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How is this concept practical? How can you legitimately leave this podcast and use this information in a way that will please the

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Lord? How can this talk of enemies and hate be liberating here's the reality

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Thank you for listening in just a moment. Aaron is going to give us six practical applications of today's discussion

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But I'd like to take a moment to thank Ray and Carolyn for being faithful supporters of TLP We are a listener supported ministry and we wouldn't be able to do what we do without the sacrificial gifts of people like Ray and Carolyn Now imagine what we might be able to accomplish if the

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And now back to the show Number one the hate God calls us to have is not a vitriolic angry hatred

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It's simply a choice to stand against sin you stand against things all the time Okay In fact,

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I'm amazed how many things parents are willing to go to war over with their kids The kid didn't empty the trash on time.

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The child forgot to close the door. She broke a plate He accidentally turned off the TV in the middle of the game and the next thing, you know, mom and dad are yelling

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Let's at least be honest enough to realize that we draw plenty of lines in our lives God is simply asking us to draw them in the right place and for the right reasons

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And that's why number two the hate God calls us to have must be rooted in our relationship with him

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The more we love him the more we'll hate sin the more we love him The firmer stand will take against that which doesn't please him.

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This is why in Luke 14 26 Jesus said if anyone comes to me and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters

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Yes, and even his own life. He cannot be my disciple Now this is a slightly different meaning for the word hate but it exemplifies the same concept

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Our love for God must be so great that our love for our own family seems like hate in comparison

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Does a candle produce light? Yes, but when you compare its light to the Sun, it's as if the candle isn't doing anything

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Of course, can we really say that we love him if we don't really know what his word says to us and our kids?

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This is why it's so important that our relationship with him be as strong as it can be Number three the hate

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God calls us to have must be exercised lovingly We never ever ever have a right to be unloving

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In fact, it's our love for our children that demands that we don't just go along with their sin We can't tolerate their wicked choices.

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We can't allow their selfishness. We won't play dead while they tirade against God and his glory

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We love them too much to want them to put a gun to their head and pull the trigger and that's exactly what sin is

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It destroys it hurts it kills How could loving parents tolerate sinful behavior in their children's lives worse yet How could loving parents model for their kids how to be sinful?

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And the reality is that genuinely biblically loving parents won't only sinful hateful parents would do something like that Are there any areas in your life where you are a better example of selfishness and you are of godliness?

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What is your eating teach your children about biblical moderation and glorifying God? What is your language teach your children about love and holiness?

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I was at Walmart a few days ago, and I heard a dad casually use the f -word in front of his two elementary aged children

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Now you may not do that. But what kinds of things do your kids hear you say about the president or your pastor?

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Number four the hate God calls us to have must be exemplified biblically. Don't make it about your desires

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It's about God's will don't make it about your opinions. It's about God's law Don't make it about your likes and dislikes.

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It's about God's desires Remember we're drawing a line in the sand, but we're inviting our kids to join us on God's side

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It's never to be a you'd better watch out because God and I are gonna get you It's a God and I love you so much that we want you to join us over here

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There's life and joy and peace over here. There's only death over there. Please come over here This is the essence of ambassador parenting.

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What I just described is the educator and interpreter role we discussed in the series before this When you have to take a stand against something your children must know that it's because their choice dishonored

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God It wasn't that it annoyed mom or bothered dad mom and dad wouldn't allow that kind of talk or behavior or motivation because they love

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God and want to do what he says is Your educating and interpreting and counseling and training rooted in the

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Bible or man's failure philosophies Number five the hate God calls us to have liberates us from selfishness

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It's difficult and tiring to try to rule the world I did a show way back in episode 22 called five ways you take

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God's job And even though it's impossible and even though we fail when we try to do it our sinful pride and self -sufficiency

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Deludes us into thinking that we can be the center of the universe But the reality is that we break things when we try to run our own lives let alone the lives in our family village state country continent or planet

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God's in charge and that's a freeing reality It should wrap you in a comfortable blanket of peace knowing that it doesn't have to be about what you want

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It's not about how you think life is to be lived instead of dreaming up rules and expectations for your kids

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All you have to do is fall back on the high biblical expectation. God's given us in his word do you experience that freedom in your parenting or are you constantly trying to reinvent the wheel and Lastly number six the hate

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God calls us to have will protect our children Biblically speaking and keep in mind that I'm trying my hardest to consistently and accurately use the word hate in the biblical context

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If you didn't hate kidnappers your kids wouldn't be safe If you didn't hate drug dealers your kids might be addicts if you didn't hate car crashes your kids might be dead

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Those things are your enemies. You don't embrace them. You don't you stand against them you fight to keep your children free from them

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Biblical hate protects your children because it means that you're fighting against sin and its consequences

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Even if it means that you have to stand against one of your own kids. It's the best thing you can do for them You don't stand against drugs until your kids become an addict and then well,

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I guess everything's okay Unfortunately, that's what many people are doing with the many forms of sinful sexuality today

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They say that homosexuality is a sin But then they find out that their child has succumbed to the temptations of the flesh and all of a sudden the parents are

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Questioning their trust in God's Word and far too often they abandon their obedience to God and embrace homosexuality for their child

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That's destructive because God says that sin hurts the most loving thing you could do would be to stand against your child's sin

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Now again, this is where too many Christians mess up horrendous places like Westboro Baptist Church spew forth vitriolic wickedness against homosexuality

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No, we must be truthful. But we also have to be loving and kind and gracious and patient A Christian parent who loves the

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Lord must not embrace homosexuality or any other sin for that matter But it doesn't mean you act unlovingly toward your children

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It may mean you have to withhold all the doughnuts But you don't stop giving the bread and you definitely don't start throwing rocks at them

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If you're not sure what I'm talking about, please listen to the rock the bread and the doughnut series starting in episode 106

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It may mean that you have to give your children the very real consequences of their actions But you do it in love because God is holy and beautiful and he commands us to hate sin

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Now I've worked very hard to make sure you understand what God means by this I don't want to be misunderstood and I don't want to cause you to misunderstand

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God's Word But the real problem is that the world's definitions of love and hate are going to cause more trouble for you and your family than Anything else?

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So feel free to email us at counselor at truthloveparent .com if you have any questions about this

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We must have a working dictionary filled with biblical definitions However, if you understood today's episode and it helped you frame a biblical worldview of true love and hate toward evil

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Please share this episode with your friends How crazy would the change in our parenting be if we simply looked at sin the way

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God does I? Also hope our episode notes will help make you make sense of this topic and even be a tool with which you can teach these truths to your children

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Many of us struggle with these concepts because we've lived our whole lives with an unbiblical understanding of hatred

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But what if your kids learned the biblical truth before they had a chance to be taught the world's lies? Now I normally like to have some standalone episodes in between our series, but we're coming to the end of season 7

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There's one more series. I want to get in here. So Lord willing we'll be starting that on our next episode The series is called family worship.

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We're going to talk about God's definition of family worship Examples of failed family worship what happens when there's split family worship and what unified family worship looks like and Believe it or not.

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It probably has nothing to do with what you're thinking when I say family worship This is not going to be specifically about the time that the family gets together to talk about God's Word So I hope you're really looking forward to this episode

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Now the more I study God's Word the more amazed I am by his complexity But at the same time

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I view all of this multifaceted glory I see how it perfectly fits with all the other truth in Scripture, and I don't walk away more confused

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I walk away in awe excited to tackle another day of work parenting growth adventure

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So to that end, I'll see you next time truth love

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