Fool Proof Decision Making - [1 Corinthians 16:5-11]

Fool Proof Decision Making in Light of [1 Corinthians 16:5-11](#bible?book=1Cor&chapter=16&verse=5&endVerse=11)

My question for you this morning is how do you make decisions? Got a big decision to make. What kind of thought process do you go through? How do you make a decision? Well, it seems like just yesterday but in 1974 I had a decision to make and.

So what do you do when you have to make a decision. You ask your mom or your dad. Dad wasn't around. So mom said well, I know what to do. Said come over to the kitchen table. I still remember it to this very moment.

We sat down. She opened up this board. And she put her hands on one side of the list. Little plastic thing that was kind of pointed and had a compass looking thing. On it. I put my hand on the other side of the compass thing.

We started asking this board questions. Hoping for the answer on the Ouija board. Come a long way baby, right? People have a hard time making decisions. People have a harder time making good decisions.

Does the Bible address decision-making? Actually, there are a lot of bad decisions in the Bible. Ezekiel 21 talks about Nebuchadnezzar how he would make bad decisions. One of the ways he made bad decisions is something called Rabdo Mansi, and you would take a quiver and put in two different Arrowheads.

If you're at a fork in the road Jerusalem's over here and Rama's over here. You put the names on the arrowhead shake them and then roll one out. If it's a Jerusalem go that way. Bellomancy was the same thing.

Do I marry? Jill or Julie write their names on the arrowhead. Shake it and what everyone comes out first. Thus says the Lord. Ezekiel 21 also talks about Nebuchadnezzar consulting household idols. Just get a little mini GI Joe version of your your great-grandfather and pray to him.

Ancestral worship. Ezekiel 21 also talks about Nebuchadnezzar looking at the liver. How do I make a decision? Let's go down to Haniford buy some liver and look at it. That's called a pedoscopy. The study of the liver.

They didn't think the mind really resided here are here. They thought the mind reason resided in the in the belly and the splinton in the guts. And so let's look at that Hydromancy. That was another way Nebuchadnezzar and others tried to divine the future.

Just take a little gold dust put it on the top of a water bowl and then look and. For those of us that don't have any extra gold dust around you pour some oil on the top and how the lights would come down.

You look at it. You say yeah, that's what God wants. Our Isaiah chapter 47. God lives in heaven and maybe the way he's trying to talk to us is through stars. And maybe if Jupiter aligns with Mars and I can kind of figure out what's going on I'll go to astrology that will help me understand the future.

And if none of those work bad decision-making 101 ends with let's put a fleece out. So the question is this morning. How do you make decisions? We have so many decision to make a day. One after another after another and some of us have big decisions to make.

How do we make decisions? One potato. Two potato rock. Paper scissor shoot. Flip a coin. Horoscope. Dionne Warwick psychics hotline. I Memorized that number by the way 1 -800. I am foolish. It's easy one for me to remember.

But you know, here's the thing Christians have their own Bellomancy kind of techniques they read livers, too. By praying about something and saying I have a piece about it. Therefore. It must be God's will Christians have their own way of reading the stars by saying well, I Just heard from God God literally told me to my spirit that I was to do such-and-such sometimes Christians say well, I'm just gonna play Bible twister, and I'm just gonna try to find a verse that matches up my my my theology my decision and Left-hand on this chapter right foot on that verse.

There it is. It's Bellomancy is what it is. I know I think I'll know what I'll do God if this happens in my life, then this condition that I put up there if that happens, I'll know it's time to go forward.

No, let's see. I've got another idea I just won't eat for like four days and then try to make a critical decision. That'll work. I kind of have an impression. I know I know the Bible says something different, but God's speaking to me.

I Know God in his goodness and his generosity. He has not just left us to try to figure out the world without any decision-making what father? What mother would just say? All right? Seven-year-old just Hope you make it.

No, there's leading and guiding and scriptural wisdom. So let's turn our Bibles to 1st Corinthians chapter 16. Here's the plan today. The plan today is we're going to look over. About six verses seven verses found in 1st Corinthians that talk about Paul's travel plans.

Now since these verses aren't directly applied to you. That is they're not instructions written for a church something like the Church of Thessalonica rejoice always again. I say rejoice. They're not that they're describing Paul's travel plans.

It's like opening up Paul's itinerary. You're opening up Paul's I calendar his outlook his daytimer. We're gonna look at Paul's daytimer, but you'll see laced through these plans Paul was saying I'm gonna submit to God's Word.

I'm gonna submit to God's will if God wants me to do this I'll do that. So here's what we're going to do this morning. We're gonna just teach through these verses because I'm committed to teach through every verse of the Bible even about Paul's travel plans.

Then when we have time after that and we will have time we're gonna look at biblical decision-making. The biblical principles aren't necessarily found in these verses, but the idea is there and then we'll run with it.

So first Corinthians chapter 16 verses 5 to 11 this morning and then biblical decision-making good. Is that a good choice? Good decision. All right. Now to set the stage a little bit. Let me say this Paul was criticized By the false teachers as being fickle.

Paul says he's gonna visit. He doesn't visit. But Paul wanted to visit but circumstances prevented him. He wasn't sovereign. He didn't rule the universe. Remember Paul wanted to go to Thessalonica and first Thessalonians 2 18.

It says Satan hindered me. Because when he was wanting to go to Macedonia. And so Paul says earlier in 1st Corinthians chapter 4. Some are arrogant as though I were not coming to you, but I will come to you soon if the Lord wills.

So you think I don't keep my word. You think I'm fickle. You think I don't love you. I do keep my word by the grace of God. I do love you, but God sometimes doesn't allow our plans to come to fruition.

And so you'll feel that here as we read these verses in Paul's travel plans. I don't have these verses underlined in my Bible but I think there are parts of these verses you can underline because you'll see how Paul is submitting to the sovereign King and his plans and his will first Corinthians 16 5.

Here's Paul's travel plans. I will visit you after passing through Macedonia. This is news to them. They didn't know he was going to do this so he informs them for I intend to pass through Macedonia and For us pass through might be I'll spend the night.

I'll spend the weekend here. It's a little longer. I'm going to Macedonia. I'll pass through. I'll stay there for a while, but I intend to come to you soon enough. I intend verse 6 and Perhaps I will stay with you or even spend the winter so that you may help me on my journey wherever I go.

I've got a new plan and that plan is I'm gonna go through Macedonia. And then I want to come to you before winter right around September the storm started coming on the sea. You couldn't travel in a boat.

So wherever you were you were all there. So Paul says I'm gonna stay with you and you can help me with my missionary support. With me bringing money to other churches that need it and certainly Paul probably thought and you guys have enough trouble.

It's gonna take me months to fix it. But there's no definiteness to his plan that is to say he knows God is sovereign and if God wills I'll do this or do that. Well what actually happened. 2nd Corinthians tells us that He made an emergency voyage to Corinth and that was a disaster.

Paul called that in 2nd Corinthians the painful visit. Verse 7 goes on to say you know what I'd like to do read 2nd Corinthians chapter 1 15 to 17. In your Bibles as I read it out loud 2nd Corinthians chapter 1 15 to 17, maybe a little bit farther you'll get the idea of of What Paul was battling against when it comes to these false teachers trying to say he doesn't keep his word.

2nd Corinthians 1 15. It says because I was sure of this. I wanted to come to you first so that you might have a second experience of grace. I Wanted to visit you on my way to Macedonia and to come back to you from Macedonia and have you send me on my way To Judea when I was vacillating was I vacillating when I wanted to do this.

Do I make my plans according to the flesh ready to say yes. Yes. And no no at the same time as surely as God is faithful our word to you has not been yes. And no for the Son of God Jesus Christ whom we proclaimed among you Sylvanus and Timothy and I was not yes, and no but in him is always yes.

And then he just launches off into this mini doxology for all the promises of God find their yes in him. That is why it is through him. We utter our amen to God for his glory. I'm not being fickle. I'm not saying Some lies or fib.

I wanted to come to visit you, but God prevented me. That's the point now back to first Corinthians chapter 16 verse 7. And again, we're just gonna work through this quickly so you understand the context if you ever read it again.

We'll talk about some decision-making shortly. For I do not want to see you now just in passing verse 7. I hope to spend some time with you, and then see it again if the Lord permits. I'm submitted to God's will.

I Want to show up, but I'm God's servant. He calls me and I go. He says yes, I say yes. He says no. I say no. I'm submitting all my plans to God verse 8 but I will stay in Ephesus until Pentecost. We think of Pentecost now with the coming of the Spirit of God in Acts 2.

But really Pentecost was the 49 days after Passover 49 plus the 1 50 days. Pentecost is the Greek name for the Feast of Weeks. But I will stay in Ephesus until Pentecost late May early June. For a wide door for effective work work has opened to me.

Usually we think all my doors. That's the easy way for Paul when there's an open door for gospel ministry. There must be what? There must be a lot of people. After him there must be opposition because where God's Word is to be found and God's Gospels to be preached.

Satan is there with his minions and There are many adversaries. Now what this particular thing was we don't really know. Probably it was acts 19. Remember Paul comes along and says you know all those little silver goddesses that you have around that Demetrius makes those don't really represent anything except the idolatry in your heart and they didn't like it because they were worshiping Diana of Ephesus right.

Artemis. There's a huge riot there lots of opportunities to preach the gospel but many Adversaries. I do find it interesting if you look at the verse. The door is open perfect tense and stands open. There is this great Open door for gospel ministry.

I think some of us underestimate just how Precarious it was to preach the gospel in those days at the risk of your life. Then he says in verse 10. Here's a request on behalf of His son in the faith Timothy when Timothy comes.

See that you put him at ease among you. For he's doing the work of the Lord as I am. So let no one despise him. Remember what he said to Timothy when he wrote the pastoral epistles because he was young.

Timothy don't let anyone but despise you because of your what? youth. Yeah, he's young, but he's doing the work of God. He's doing the work of the ministry. He's all about Christ Jesus. Help him on his way in peace.

What does that mean help him? How do you help a missionary? Who's with you? Be warm be filled. How do you help a missionary. Food clothes? Funds help Timothy with gospel ministry. That he may return to me.

That's what verse 11 says for I'm expecting him with the brothers. He's gonna show up. Don't intimidate him because you're older. Don't intimidate him because you're the leader of the patriarchal system.

Double honor for those elders who preach and teach the word study hard. Don't despise him. Honor him not because of him but because of the work now if I was kind of a funky Bible exegete an interpreter I would say.

Now when you go to Ephesus for Pentecost your spiritual Ephesus, here's what I'd like you to do, but this was for Paul. So what do we do when it comes to preaching it? I want you to see over and over and over again look back at verse 6 perhaps verse 7 if the Lord permits verse 9.

Open door wide door is open to me. That kind of language makes me want to say do you know the elders at Bethlehem Bible Church, we want you to make good decisions. We have some examples in our church of people that have made great decisions.

They've they've made decisions in an honoring way to God. And when we see that we just rejoice. You know what I'm gonna say next though, right. We've seen some people here Who have made tragic decisions?

Horrible decisions. Now God's grace is greater than all our sins and all our foolish decision-making. But all this talk about Decisions and I'll do this if God permits in the time we have left. Let me give you a biblical paradigm for decision-making that will help you.

I think the rest of your life. Now if you're a visitor, I'm not a Southern Baptist, but this is going to be alliteration. I usually don't do alliteration. I don't always alliterate but the Bible actually does use some alliteration for helping and.

So let me give you six W's six considerations in making godly decisions. You know, here's the great news think about this. If you've made a sinful decision in the past and you're a Christian guess what?

Forgiven. Guess who we worship. We worship Jesus Christ the risen Savior who never made a bad decision. Never made a sinful decision never had a regret with his decisions. And so the great news is when we come to this, I hope you say in the future I'd like to do this by the grace of God.

But if you've got decisions that you've made in the past that have long affecting negative consequences. The good news is they won't last forever. The other good news is we have been forgiven of those bad Decisions that we have made the sinful decisions and guess what?

God does. God is so powerful and so generous and so gracious to his children. He can take what we meant for evil what we went for sin what we meant for stupidity and turn it out for His glory and what?

Our good. So if you you say yeah, I've made some tragic decisions in my life. Well, then learn from them. Ask God for forgiveness. Live under the consequences. Temporally and then here we move forward.

Six considerations in making biblical decisions. And Beloved let me say this. These are in order if you ever made a list of ten things you say no particular order. This is a very particular order. It starts here.

Sometimes we bypass it. We want to go to number five first. I'm sorry. It is alliteration, but I don't have three points nor do I have a poem six points if you must have three points. Then you can count each of these as half a point.

I listen to SOS Johnson the other day. He said I always have to have three points and he said my sermon only had two points today. So I numbered number one one and I numbered point two three just so I felt better about having three points.

So you can do these by halves if you like if you must have three points in order of importance. We start here at the top six W's to help you when you need to make a decision. Do I leave a church? Do I join a church?

Do I marry this particular person? How about confronting this person? How about covering the sin of this person? What do I do interpersonally? What do I do at work? Do I take this job? Don't I take this job?

Do I move? What do I do? I Think it'll be helpful. W number one the will of God. Consider the will of God. Turn to Ephesians chapter 5, please. We do with the Bible what we always do if we're not careful.

God's will turns into God's will for my life. Let's think about God's will first. Let's turn to Ephesians chapter 5. I was a kid. I'd love this verse because In the Greek it says stupid and so there's a time to say stupid and this is the time Ephesians chapter 5 verse 17.

So then do not be foolish. Don't be stupid. Paul likes to do this antithetical thing. He says in verse 15 be careful. Don't walk as unwise but walk is what wise he likes to teach this way and here he says don't be foolish.

But understand what the will of the Lord is not what the Lord's will for my life is that would be more foolishness. It would be stupid to say God's will now. I turned it into some Mike Center thing. God's will for my life.

Don't be foolish but understand what the will of the Lord is. That's interesting. He says imperative. Present tense. Don't be foolish. Stop being foolish senseless. But do understand present tense what God's will is, how would we know what God's will is?

How do we decide if we were a Bible student? I I'm supposed to be knowing what God's will is. What is it? Well, here's the great news. It's found in chapter 1 of Ephesians. If you can't understand a certain verse in the Bible.

Then the best thing to do is to read the whole book that it's in. And if that doesn't read work then read the book that's before it and the read that books after it and keep going. Only 66 total. Here the answer is found in Ephesians chapter 1.

How great is this if decision-making starts with will of God? What is the will of God? Verse 9 of Ephesians 1. Making known to us the mystery of his will. According to his purpose which he set forth in Christ.

And as says he made known to us the mystery of his will. Paul says early on here. Let me tell you the mysteries of the world. And he pulls back the curtain of the Godhead and says. This is the mystery of his will.

This is something that's happened. But you would never know. By eating spicy food staying up late at night and then having a dream you have to be told by God. He pulls back the curtain and what's the mystery of God's will?

God saves people then. Ephesians chapter 1 verses 4 through 6. He elects people in eternity past and then in verses 7 to 12 He sends the son to die for them in a substitutionary death. He raises them from the dead and in time He brings the Spirit of God to make people born again to make them alive.

The whole world that revolves around. Jesus is glorified. The world exists to say ascribe glory and honor to Jesus. Now what does it say in verse 10? It gives us a little more information as a plan for the fullness of time to unite all things in him things in heaven and things on earth.

The creator of this universe has a purpose for this universe and the goal is the exaltation of Jesus Christ. The elect coming in we come to. What's God's will for my life? There's a bigger issue in the world than your life or mine.

Listen to what O 'Brien says the commentator. The will of God is closely related to even identified with God's gracious saving plan. The Lord's will is frequently understood by Christians to refer to matters of personal guidance but rather God's gracious saving plan and as a significant element of this the Formation of a people into the likeness of Christ who will be pure and blameless on the final day.

No wonder Ephesians 26 times. Lord Lord Lord Lord Lord Lord. Everything exists for the exaltation of the Lord Jesus Christ. So for us. So I've got a decision to make. Here's the first thing that you consider.

Which decision of the two are the three are of the many will exalt Christ more? Contribute to the saving gospel. It's not God's plan for my life. But the eternal plan of God. Does this factor into the eternal plan of God?

That's a completely different perspective basing your decisions on God's eternal saving plan. Reflecting the Son's glory in my decision. No wonder Jesus said doesn't this seem to make sense now? But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness and all these things shall be what?

Added unto you we shoot too low. We're thinking too much about ourselves. Not personal guidance, but does this give God the most glory. Everything falls into that umbrella. Second W. There's more to be said.

We have to go through this quickly. My old pastor used to say anytime a pastor says there's more to be said it means he's ran out of information. But he just says that so but there is more to be said.

Number two. We should memorize these will of God. Number two starts with a W word of God. Consider the Word of God. In the old days God led by a Pillar of cloud by day and a pillar of fire by night and today he guides us through the Word of God applied by the Spirit of God.

Period paragraph. Listen to some of these verses. Psalm 119. Thy word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path. The unfolding of thy words gives light. It gives understanding to the simple Give me understanding according to thy word.

Psalm 119. So you say all right? I want this decision to glorify God. That's the main thing. Number two. What does the Bible say. That's a way you could go about it. What does the Bible directly say? Well, I've been divorced.

I'd like to get remarried. What does the Bible say about godly remarriage. Maybe you just have to go for principles and say, you know, I'd like to marry either this girl or that girl. What are the principles derived from the Bible even though it might not explicitly say?

Also in this Word of God decision-making. How about let's not be consumed in trying to make a decision while we forget about what God already says to do. So the word already tells us this is God's will for your life true or false to give thanks and everything.

First Thessalonians, this is God's will. How about to submit to the government? This is God's will for your life first. Peter chapter 2. How about? Sexual purity. This is God's will for your life that you abstain from sexual immorality.

First Thessalonians chapter 4. So you need to make a decision but instead of becoming engulfed with the decision-making. Study for a decision. Do what the Bible says about the decision, but make sure you obey what the Bible already says.

One writer said the insistence of Jesus and the Old Testament writers was not on the importance of discovering the will of God but always upon the necessity of Doing it. So you obey what the Bible already says and by the way the last component to this word letter is Read the Bible.

Saturate your mind with the Bible. Bruce Waltke wrote a good book about decision-making and he said if you're struggling with a specific question. Rather than trying to magically divine God's answer.

Spend time drawing close to him. To the many Christians who spend time trying to divine the will of God I asked. So somebody says I'd like to know God's will for my life in this. Here's your retort. Here's your question.

Here's your no compromise radio response. I didn't write this though, but it would I wish I would have. How much time have you spent reading your Bible? Say well, it doesn't even address. Do I take this?

You know, do I go to Merck or do I. I do I go to EMC. The Bible didn't say anything about that. Well, what Waltke was trying to get you to do is to so read the Bible that you're thinking about things from God's perspective.

You read. I tell people all the time you need to make an important decision in your life. Read first and second Kings. Why? I just picked it first and second Kings. No I did more than just pick it because Kings is history written from a theological perspective and you're reminded when you start reading Kings.

You know God's in charge of this whole thing and I need to be reminded. This is God's universe. God's omnipotent. God's immutable God's holy and everything is going according to plan. I need to rest in that and so if you have a hard time making a decision.

Make sure you read your Bible. Saturate your mind with the Bible and then you're going to avoid things that are so much less than the word like what feelings. You can have a perfect peaceful easy Eagles feeling and be totally out of God's Word and disobeying.

Just like Jonah at the bottom of the boat. He had a peaceful easy feeling. Luther's right feelings come and feelings go and feelings are deceiving. My warrant is the Word of God not else is worth believing.

Too many Christians lead with their feelings. It's like a referee you see a football game and there's a guy with a black and white striped shirt on. You're like well the my black and white striped shirt my referee my umpire is gonna be my feelings.

Oh friends. Yeah. Packers right when he said we can never distrust ourselves too much. Yeah, but the pastor the fruit of the Spirit's peace. Yeah, it is, but it has nothing to do with making decisions.

Peace. Just think about how many people have been misled by their feelings. They think they're in love and. Really? They're dating some unbeliever and they mistake the feelings of love for simple lust or stupidity or maybe a little bit of both.

Oh, I'm in love. It inhibits critical thinking if you're not careful one man said. How often people say they feel led to get married when all they are really describing is a particularly novel state of endocrine balance.

If you're in the word it trumps you looking at circumstances wrongly. You say well the circumstances all put together. Sometimes you can misread circumstance can't you. It's like that Rorschach text test that you look at.

And the thing about that test had Robinson's right it tells you more about you than it does about what the test is. And so you look at the circumstances and you go, huh? Paul went over to get a stick to put in the fire.

Acts 28 the snake bit him and everybody looked at that circumstance and said sinner Justice of God he's dead. Then Paul shook it off and then they said hmm only a God could do that praise be Paul misreading circumstances.

The word is so much better than this whole open door closed door deal doors closed. Could it mean? Knock it down by faith of course in the Lord. Open door don't go through it. Only a fool would walk through that.

That's why the word is so important. David had an open door to kill Saul. He walked right up to him past all the guards. Circumstances were right his feelings were probably right and he walked right up to Saul and he cut off the robe of Saul.

Secretly he had an open door. But it was contrary to Revelation was it wasn't it stretching out his hand against the Lord's anointed. He knew that God forbid that. When you study the word then you get away from things like this.

Well God talks to me when I pray. He does. You know it's good. If you mean verses come to your mind great. If you mean God talks to you through scripture you talk to him through prayer. And then God answers back out loud in your gizzard in your mind in your reef for a whole Refried beans frijoles at midnight or something.

I don't know what that is, but the Bible doesn't teach that. God talks to you through prayer. That's when Jack Hayford said while alone and quiet listen with your heart. Don't strain your ears for an audible sound the Bible describes.

This is God's still small voice true or false the Bible Regularly commands you to tune into your inner voice. It never does true or false. The Bible says listen for God's audible voice in prayer. No. Impressions are impressions.

That's all they are. Number three how do I make a decision. Six considerations in order? Will of God word of God. And the consideration number three wisdom from God. I'm telling you sooner or later somebody's gonna call you and say I have a decision.

I need to make. Could you help me I? Want you to think will of God word of God. Now wisdom from God. Turn your Bibles to James chapter 1. Please you're familiar with the passage. We need God's wisdom.

Don't we. The Bible never says. Here's God's plan for your life. Look for it. But it does say get wisdom. Ecclesiastes says wisdom is better than strength better than the weapons of war. Proverbs 3 better than silver more precious than rubies.

Nothing you desire can compare with wisdom. And you know it can't be bought. God has it. And God says get it. The beginning of wisdom is what? Get wisdom. It's a good verse Robert's for and Here, can you imagine?

There's a trial going on and James's time. Trials go on for us. You don't know what to do. You're surrounded by a various kind of trial. All kinds of things are happening and God is gracious. God cares for his people.

James 1 verse 5 Says if any of you lacks wisdom what he should act he should ask God excuse me. Very pastoral there notice. He doesn't say you don't have wisdom. But that's what he means. You don't have wisdom so ask God.

Pride says I can do this on my own. I'm a self-made man or woman. I have all the resources in and of myself to handle my trials and God says just ask me. Your daughter comes to you and says I could use some help dad and some advice and If a husband or a father could give advice because he loves his daughter how much more.

So you ask from God. God, please give me wisdom, and he's a generous God. He gives you ask in faith just like the rest of the verse says and then there's also wisdom found someplace else. And that wisdom is found in other believers who are mature.

Proverbs 11 where there's no guidance the people fall, but in abundance of counselors there is what? Victory. Proverbs 12 a wise man is he who listens to counsel. Proverbs 13 Presumption comes with nothing but strife, but with those who receive counsel is wisdom.

Proverbs 15 without consultation plans are frustrated, but with many counselors they succeed. Proverbs 19 listen to counsel. Proverbs 20 make war by wise guidance. Prepare plans by consultation. And maybe my favorite one.

Proverbs 27 verse 9 oil and perfume make the heart glad. So a man's counsel is sweet to his friend. So you find somebody who's mature and you say could you help me? I've got the situation here, and would you please give me your advice?

It only takes about three minutes for me in my Study when someone says can I get some advice from you and they tell me what's going on? And then I I tell them what I think they should do and I can see it in their eyes.

When they say to themselves I wanted a different answer. He didn't give it to me. So do you have Steve's number? I'll get somebody to go with what I want. That's not what it's talking about here. Now I don't give inerrant counsel.

Steve surely doesn't give inerrant counsel, but you find someone you say what do you think? That's why I don't mean mine, but that's why gray-haired people are such an asset to the local church. That's why youth Needs to find older people.

That's why Titus to exist in the Bible. So you find those older people to say, you know what? I don't know if I'm thinking right or not rightly or not, but could you just help me? Here's what's going on my life and then you listen to them.

I mean if you're foolish you make foolish decisions. Another group of people though that I notice make a lot of bad decisions are super smart people. Because they're so smart. They can try to figure out their own rationalizations and get to where they think they want to be even though it's wrong.