TLP 301: Be Honest with Your Children about Death

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We're gonna talk about a subject that can sometimes be scary or at least uncomfortable But I believe there are super important aspects about this discussion because God has a lot to say about the issue

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God's Word has everything we need for life and godliness and he calls us to do all to his honor and glory and he further

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Promises to equip us all for good works. That means that his word will help us answer all of our

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Halloween related questions as well In fact, our next four episodes are going to deal with Halloween ish ideas today

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We're discussing how to be honest with our children about death on our next episode We'll be talking about how to prepare our kids for what's after we'll touch on the dreaded zombie terrorists

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We hope you will prayerfully consider how the Lord may have you bless our listeners with your year -end giving Okay, let's talk about how we should equip our children to think about death

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One of the reasons many people Christian and non -christian alike keep their kids away from Halloween is the overemphasis on death

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But is shielding our kids from death truly the Christ honoring approach? That's a good question and don't forget that we have free episode notes linked below so you can go back and read the passages

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I cite and use this information as a template for guiding your kids through this topic I'm gonna present this information a little differently today instead of trying to convince you of something

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I'm going to assume we're all on the same page and guide you through the information in a way that would be useful and Helpful to your kids.

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In fact, if you want to invite your family to listen along to these episodes, that would be wonderful By the way, hi family if I'm glad you joined us if in fact you did join us and if your family hasn't joined you and I'm just talking to You and this has gotten kind of strange.

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I'll just move on For the rest of the show, we're gonna talk about a subject that can sometimes be scary or at least uncomfortable

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But I believe there are super important aspects about this discussion because God has a lot to say about the issue

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We're going to talk about death It's something that people talk about a lot around Halloween graveyards zombies ghosts chainsaw murderers

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It's everywhere, but the Bible says a lot more about death than the world does

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In fact, there's so much in the scriptures on this topic. I won't even be able to scratch the surface above the surface

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It's also important to note that what the Bible has to say about death is far more intense than what you see during Halloween So let's just sit back and get a sweeping picture of the beginning of the

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Bible all the way to the end The Bible starts with a glorious story about life and it ends with an absolutely amazing story about life

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That will last forever and ever with no possibility of death This is incredibly exciting.

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Mankind is constantly looking for a way to extend their lives Immortality is enticing.

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It's one of the reasons people like stories about vampires But we have to acknowledge that life is so beautiful in part

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Because death is so scary and that's what we find in the entire middle of the Bible There's death on nearly every page and though the story ends with glorious eternal life for some

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For billions and billions of people death will last for an eternity But from where did death come?

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God didn't create it. His initial plan didn't include it He gave man a chance to live forever in a perfect relationship with him, but Adam and Eve wanted to do their own thing they wanted to make choices that weren't theirs to make they just like us chose to sin and because of their sin

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Genesis 3 tells us that God said to Adam Because you have listened to the voice of your wife and have eaten of the tree of which

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I commanded you You shall not eat it Cursed is the ground because of you in pain you shall eat of it all the days of your life

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Thorns and thistles it shall bring forth for you and you shall eat the plants of the field by the sweat of your face

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You shall eat bread till you return to the ground for out of it where you were taken for you are dust and to dust

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You shall return Romans 3 23 tells us for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God and Romans 6 23 says for the wages of Sin is death.

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I Believe it's important for children to know about death because God thinks it's important for them to know about death

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And God wants us to know about death because he wants us to understand what our sin costs

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When you disobey your parents when you lie when you cheat when you say something unkind about someone in your school

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When you're lazy when you refuse to eat your vegetables and when you take someone else's toy You're sinning and even if you only send one time in your entire life that one sin would have been against an infinite

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God Because God is infinite you would owe an infinite debt and The only way a finite person can pay an infinite debt is to pay it for all eternity

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Our sin purchases us a place in hell for all eternity That's how bad our sin is

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This is why in Genesis 5 we read about the genealogy from Adam through Noah and after each name

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God writes And he died in that one passage alone. God repeats himself ten times and he died

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Millions of people died in the flood billions more have died in the centuries since the flood But there's one death in particular though that stands out amongst them all

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Because God loves us so much and because he doesn't wish that any should perish God sent his son

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Jesus to die for us Jesus was and is 100 % God and 100 % man

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I can't explain how amazing that is right now But I'm sure your parents would love to talk to you about it about how that could even be possible

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Well, Jesus died a terrible horrendous death on the cross to pay the infinite debt you owe and I owe and the people in your house

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Oh and people in the world. Oh, and what's ever more amazing is that he rose from the dead three days later

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Conquering death and showing through his own resurrection his ability to save people from death anyone and everyone who trusts that Jesus is who he says he is and believes that he died on the cross to save them from Their sins and rose from the dead can be saved.

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They can become a follower of Christ Now I need to point out that God didn't promise that Christians would never die

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In fact Hebrews 9 27 reads it is appointed for man to die once and after that comes judgment

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The first death the death that will separate our eternal spirits from our temporal bodies is guaranteed for most

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Christians Sure, some may not see death because they get raptured right before the tribulation But the vast majority of Christ's followers will die the first death

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However, his sacrifice on the cross saves us from the second death for all eternity in hell

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You see in hell people don't cease to exist Everyone's spirit is eternal the people who reject

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God and die in their sin will be given new bodies as well These bodies will be able to pay what they owe

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God They will be able to be separated from God being burned for all eternity without their bodies being destroyed

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This is the only way that sinful man can pay their debt to a perfect and holy God Of course,

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God would rather that no man go to hell He'd rather they accepted the free gift of Jesus Christ But he won't make them and many will choose to live separated from God in this life

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And the penalty for that is separation from him for all eternity This is the first reason that children of all ages need to be aware of death

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If they're sheltered from the realities of death, they're sheltered from the significance of their sin If they're sheltered from death, they're sheltered from the debt they owe

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If they're sheltered from death, they're sheltered from an appropriate understanding of the immense nature of Christ's sacrifice

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But there's a second reason children need to understand death. They need to understand that they are not

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God Children generally have little to no concept of death It's not until they see a dead bird or squirrel or lose a pet that they start to really grasp the significance of death

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It's a thief. It steals everything from an animal or a person Since many children are sheltered from the lethal nature of life on this planet

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They start living in a delusional mindset that they are immune from death. It's just really not a concern for them

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That's something that, you know, old people and daredevils have to worry about and this is a problem for many reasons

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First, they aren't immune from death. Thousands of children die all over the world every day Sickness, crime, abortion, and accidents are the main perpetrators

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Children are often very foolhardy as well They do dangerous things because they're not really concerned they're going to die

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My children had an opportunity to sit by the deathbed of their great -grandmother. It was a sobering reality They saw the frail nature of life.

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They watched how easily it slips away They heard the stories of this woman's life and though she looked so old it was clear that her life wasn't all that long

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She had done many wonderful things and yet it all came and went so quickly Children should not be sheltered from death lest they not understand the internal significance of sin and salvation

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But children should also not be sheltered from death lest they misunderstand that life is short and that they are not

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God They're not in control of it James 4 14 says what is your life? For you are a mist that appears for a little time and then vanishes

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Second corinthians 6 2 says now is the favorable time behold now is the day of salvation

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I'm sad to say i've counseled many young people who were betting that they could live a long life However, they wanted and then they could come to the end and they would turn to christ

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But in luke 12 20 through 21 Jesus spoke of a young man who was very rich and this man had his whole life planned out

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But god said to him fool This night your soul is required of you and the things you have prepared.

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Whose will they be? So is the one who lays up treasure for himself and is not rich toward god

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I don't mind that my children are surrounded by pretend death all october because it's a sobering reality

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Dr. Bob jones iii has been known to say quite frequently the most sobering reality in the world today is that people are dying and going to hell today

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Now we don't decorate our house with tombstones and skeletons and things like that They see plenty of that out in the world, but children need to know that They need to understand that there is death in this world and that that death is going to send some people to hell

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They need to know how they also can avoid that death And it's good for children to be reminded of those two things regularly

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Now there's so much more that could be said, but I only have time to address one objection There are people who might say that children are too young and innocent exposing them to death would only scare them

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My friends that is privileged western thinking Most of the world is surrounded by death and carnage on a daily basis

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I think of the people living in the middle east Yes, death is scary. Yes, it cleanses children of their quote -unquote innocence

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But if by innocence we mean delusion of the single most important realities of life Then I am happy to remove that delusion from my kids if by innocence

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We mean that they just aren't aware of death. What good does that do them? If you don't know who

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Lloyd Legalist is he and church curmudgeon are twitter users who have a keen satirical

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Sometimes just ridiculous way of dealing with heavy issues in the church from a comedic perspective Well on this specific topic

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Lloyd recently posted Explaining to a child that we're mortal and that death is inescapable

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Is probably for me the hardest part of being a party clown And that right there either made you laugh or sent shivers down your spine

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We all understand there are wrong ways to do certain things and have certain conversations Well, i'm not suggesting that it's appropriate for our kids to watch gruesome horror movies in order to teach them these concepts

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We'll talk about horror movies later, but I am saying that we should not be sheltered from the realities of death

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They should not be sheltered from the realities of death and I do believe they should be introduced to it Actually as early as possible and reminded of it often

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They should attend funerals. They should comfort ones close to death It's okay for them to be reminded by a plastic yard toy that death is a reality for all men

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It's been promised by god But they need not fear it The rest of the world is petrified of death because they have no idea what it really is

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All they know is it takes all they know And that's scary enough But we know that death is a necessary evil that can usher the born -again christian into the arms of his savior

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We also know it's something so dangerous to the unsaved that we should want to warn as many people as we can

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So that they do not have to experience the second death Don't steal the majority of the bible from your kids

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Don't take away the foundational pieces of man's plight and the eternal consequences of sin Don't allow your kids to live in the delusion of immortality in their present form

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You know my wife when she was in high school She lost a friend in a car accident a friend of mine a listener to this show lost

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His daughter a year or so ago These are difficult things and when a young person experiences that when they lose someone close to them

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Especially someone who was young that impacts them and my wife uses that story of the young lady who died in the car accident

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To wisely prepare my children to think correctly Wearing your seat belt is important making smart choices in the car is important.

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Not distracting the driver is important all of these things My kids wouldn't normally think about if my wife and I hadn't painted a realistic picture for them of what could happen

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Now, of course, we don't allow that to create fear and panic in them God is still in control, but god expects us to live wisely and I don't want my kids living in the delusion of this worldly Immortality We all have a very short time to live on this planet.

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We all have super important things We need to do before we die. We don't have the luxury of living this life for ourselves

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There's work to be done and that work deals with rescuing people from the jaws of death

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Now if you have questions as to how to introduce children of various ages to the Concerns that we've discussed today.

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You can feel free to write to us at counselor at truthloveparent .com But I would recommend you just start in Genesis I would also encourage you to make a big deal out of the most amazing holiday.

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We celebrate Easter Talk about the passion week and celebrate god's glorious triumph over death

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Don't forget to do your amazon shopping with one of our links at truthloveparent .com And join us next time as we discuss how to prepare your child for what's after it'll be a great follow -up today to today's discussion

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God wants for you to be the one to lay the necessary foundation for your child's understanding of the things of god

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Whether this involves death and the afterlife or how we're to glorify him now. The bible has all you need

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And team tlp and I are here to help. So let's do this again next time Truth Love parents is part of the evermind ministries family and is dedicated to helping you become an intentional