What Goes Before Destruction?

Good morning gentlemen, I want you to take out your Bibles and turn to Proverbs 16 16. Good morning, we are we're going to do something different today this is a Message that I think is important. It's important for not only you guys, but it's important for the It's important for the church as a whole because it deals with a very relevant Social issue and as Christians we are called not only to be Not only to be proclaimers of the truth, but we are also to give a defense for the hope that is within us and sometimes that means that we are to defend what we believe but also to speak out against things that are untrue and.

So we are going to talk today about a very controversial thing. And I want to make a point one if you don't know me I normally teach the systematic theology Lessons and last week I had a special guest come in with me.

You remember, mr Rich came and we we had a back-and-forth on the subject of atheism. Because I had a guest in town speaking at our church. So he came and spoke here and so I give a 12-week theology course here.

Pride Month, the Rainbow, and the Meaning of Pride

But every once in a while as the Lord allows I will I will throw in something additional something different. Somewhat break up the monotony, but also because sometimes I think it is Necessary and I and and what we're going to talk about today is we're going to talk about the the subject of pride month and homosexuality.

So it's a very serious subject and I'm going to encourage you in a couple of ways before I get started number one. This is a this is a subject that is very sensitive and emotional. So I would encourage you to keep yourself in check if you get if I say something that offends you or upsets you.

Understand that's never my intention. I don't come here to throw bombs and leave. Alright, I come here to try to preach the truth. But I also want you to understand that if if you ask me a question and I answer it you don't like my answer.

That that's okay. I'm not here to satisfy you. So if I am if you ask me a question I answer if you disagree with me, that's fine, but we're not going to argue I don't come here to argue. I've been teaching for a long time.

I Give the best answers I can but I don't claim infallibility so Understand that there's you know, there's not going to be a we're not going to do a tit-for-tat on on anything. Okay, we cool with that.

You guys would get what I'm saying. Okay, just sort of laying my parameters out at any time. You know at Christmastime oftentimes, I'll I'll deal with some controversial subjects about you know. You know how people attack the the the virgin birth and then around Easter I deal with controversies around that the the the resurrection, you know I try to do these things because these are relevant to.

You know if you turn your television on and I know here hey, you don't get TV. You know a lot but but when you go out into the world and you turn your television on. You're going to see these things and what happens you have to deal with it.

And what do we deal with in the month of June? It's called Pride Month. If you go into Target or Walmart you're going to see rainbows and the rainbows are what a Celebration of the LGBTQIA plus that's where we're at now because it's lesbian gay bisexual transgender intersex asexual and.

They are always adding because there are there's an ever-growing spectrum of sexual identity which is happening in our world and so. That's what the rainbow is meant to represent by the way. It's meant to represent the different the different types of people just like there's different colors in a rainbow.

There's supposed to be different types of people so you understand. But the most ironic thing though is that the rainbow in the Bible represents what. Represents the promise of God not judging the world by water.

It's a promise of the Noahic Covenant so that that picture God gave has been absconded with and and used for something else. But I use Proverbs 16 18 simply to ask this question. What goes before destruction and what is it right, right?

So when we say this is pride month we have to deal with the issue of well is pride a good thing well. We have to consider meanings because if I said I'm proud of my son. You know, he's serving in the Air Force right now.

He's over in Germany if I say I'm proud of my son. You wouldn't say that's a sin, right? You would say it's right the father being proud of his son is not simple or if you said to me. You know, I I got my GED or I got my diploma or I got my college Certificate my degree and you said pastor Keith here.

I got this thing. You know, I would say I'm proud of you. That's not a that's not a sin and it's nothing to be ashamed of. So we have to be we have to be fair when we deal with the use of language and what the pride month Conversation is saying it's saying that They are proud to be Who they are.

They are proud to be who they are and in regard to that it becomes the issue of. Well, okay, why why is that the term. Well because they argue when I say they I'm speaking of the Community that it identifies itself with that LGBTQ Community would say well forever.

We were pushed into the shadows forever. We were pushed into the corner and we don't want to be we want to be out. And we want to be free and we want to show that we're not we're not we're not. We're not going to be put put it put aside anymore.

We're proud of who we are right and and and for a basic and again I'm trying to be really fair here from a basic standpoint. We would say that we understand that, you know. If you came to me and you said I'm not going to let anybody make me feel bad for being a white man.

Or I'm not gonna let anybody make me feel bad for being a black man. I'm not gonna let anybody make me feel bad for having a long beard, you know, you know. You'd say I'm not gonna let anybody make me feel bad for who I am right and so the concept of pride in that regard is the idea that they want to be who they are and not have to be ashamed and.

So I'm trying to be very fair and in coming at it from that perspective. Okay, the Bible says pride goes before the fall. And and and they're celebrating pride right away a question comes up. Well, why are they celebrating pride in there?

The argument is they want to be proud of who they are and My initial response to that is okay, but is this something is this something that? Should be. That should be exalted or is this something that should be considered not good or something that should be considered wrong?

And From that we have to address it from a biblical perspective. That's where we have to go because if I said I was proud and I'm not making an equivalent here. But if I said I was proud because every night I beat my dog.

You would say that's nuts. Because you're crazy. I said, but I'm proud of it. That's who I am you say but it's wrong you wouldn't and again I'm not making an equivalent there. I'm just simply saying if I came and said I'm proud of something that was not good.

You would say well, that's not something to be proud of. And you would say that's not good. So the question then becomes is this something that should be? Exalted or is this something that the Bible says should not be exalted?

All right, so that's the question and and I Want to read to you a couple of passages today from a book. This is actually This is a the title of the book and Don't get offended by it. The title of the book is a queer thing happened to America and It's a of course.

It's a play on words. The word queer is often used to reference homosexuality and it's a word that is used in the LGBTQ Q stands for queer. Queer simply means to be different or to be Outside of the norm.

That's what queer means and it was a more common word Before it would began to be used for homosexuality. It was simply if you said that a person in fact If you read some of like Tom Sawyer and stuff that you'll hear the word queer come up as a reference to somebody who is just Different, you know, they'll say that person is acting very queer today.

And it would reference simply the difference and the book a queer thing happened to America was written by Michael Brown Who is a he's a charismatic theologian. I don't really care for a lot of his theology but he does he's a good scholar and he does a lot of good writing and he basically documents the history of the homosexual movement in the United States and I want to read to you What he writes in the preface of his book.

He's talking about the changes that have happened in our society. Now this book was written about ten years ago. I read it about ten years ago. So so this is the this is what he saw then and you can imagine fast forward to today where we are today.

I mean, we're much further down the line than we were ten years ago. Everybody agree with that, right? All right. So this is this is dr. Brown and he's writing in the preface of the book and he says in October 2006 New York City's Metropolitan Transit Authority legalized the use of ladies bathrooms for men who identified as women and vice versa.

With one article running the headline be careful ladies. It's his bathroom, too. In San Francisco schools a boy who identifies as a girl can use a girl's bathroom in a locker room while the New York Times reported in December 2006 that the Park Day School in Oakland, California Quote teachers are taught a gender-neutral vocabulary and are urged to line up students by sneaker color rather than by gender.

In Charlotte, North Carolina a little closer to home a Preschool teacher shared with me that she was not allowed to address the children as boys and girls since that would be making a gender Distinction.

Instead she had to call them friends. On August 16th 2010 Newsweek asked the question are we facing a genderless future? One year earlier Newsweek featured a major article on relationships with multiple mutually consenting partners.

The article was entitled polyamory the next sexual revolution. Have you how many of you have ever heard of polyamory? What is polyamory hand up? I only saw one hand up. So what is it? Not quite you're thinking of pansexual.

But it's close very close polyamory. Poly means many amory means love and it simply means to be have more than one partner at a time. So a person who may have two or three girlfriends at once. That's called polyamorous and and it's it's.

You know a person who tries to have that relationship going on with multiple partners. Yeah, so it's a little different than pansexual pansexualism. Yeah, polygamy would be something married to multiple people, right?

Yeah, so so polyamory tries to avoid the marriage part. It's just it's you know. Like if you had three girlfriends and all of them knew about each other and you all related with one another that would be polyamory.

It's different than. You know, it's sort of a newer term and it's being popularized. It's very popular now actually. Where they found I'll say yeah. Okay, so Moving on. I'm sorry. I Stopped just to make sure understood the term.

The article entitled polyamory the next sexual revolution stated it's enough to make any monogamists head spin. But but the traditionalists had better get used to it just two years before in 2007 Time magazine raised the question should incest be legal and.

In December 2010 when Columbia University professor David Epstein was arrested for a three-year consensual affair with his adult daughter. His attorney noted well, it's okay for homosexuals to do what they want in their own home.

How is he any different? We have to figure out why some behavior is tolerated and some is not. Not surprisingly some Columbia students asked why any sexual acts committed by consenting adults should be considered a crime.

In September 2004 the convocation addressed for the hundred and fiftieth anniversary of the Chicago Theological Seminary was delivered by a gay professor and focused on a quote queer reading of the Bible.

In 2006 the 859 page queer Bible commentary was published while gay reformed Jews now have a prayer book featuring a blessing to be recited after. An anonymous sexual encounter and the list goes on and on.

It's kind of an interesting reality. Now I want to for a moment read just one other portion and this is From Verizon Wireless, you guys know Verizon Wireless. This was in 2002. How long ago was 2002. Right.

Around 20 years. Nineteen and a half years, okay. It got me you got me. You're right. All right, so. Yeah. So we got almost 20 years ago nineteen and a half years ago, but listen to this Verizon Wireless distributed a handout 101 ways to make your workplace more inclusive in.

Inclusive more inclusive. A hundred and one ways to make your workplace more inclusive. To be included to include people to include people. At the gender public advocacy coalition the gender pack Annual conference these were that these were among the hundred and one ways.

Number one, well not number one, but among them use examples of same-sex couples and business exercises and training role plays. So we see this happening. We see commercials now prominently displaying same-sex couples.

If you watch television movies, there's a lot more inclusion of same-sex couples. Make gay and lesbian employees visible in your organization's newsletter and other communications. So when you put out the newsletter, make sure you you highlight the those who are gay and lesbian.

Order and display gay. Publications like 10 the advocate out or victory where other magazines are displayed. Those are particularly homosexual magazines. So they say order these and put them with your other magazines.

Bring gay lesbian and bisexual sexual speakers into the workplace. Seek out opportunities to learn from transgender people on Gay Pride Day and National Coming Out Day. Fly the rainbow flag at work locations.

That's become almost Ubiquitous everywhere you go. The rainbow flag is flying. Even over the White House just a few years ago. We saw the rainbow lights lit up the White House to where it was. It was turned into a rainbow flag.

Sponsor a booth at a gay pride event. Give your gay employees time off to attend funerals of close friends. When putting together information packed packages for out-of-town guests include information on gay lesbian and bisexual places of interest.

Include a copy of your local gay paper. Now again, I didn't write any of this. I'm just reading from Verizon's own Statements, but you see the change that's happened. We have seen in the last generation a change where Homosexuality was generally and almost universally understood to be wrong.

To now it's generally and almost universally among secular people and even within the church being considered to be Right, and we say well, how did that happen? How did that change? Occur and Is it right because any group I want to say this any group who disagrees with the homosexual revolution including the church is considered to be out of step with the culture and on the wrong side of history.

In fact, it has even hello. It has even led to some arrests of pastors who have spoken out and if you think I'm exaggerating I absolutely am NOT. 71 year old pastor in North London was arrested on April 23rd Under the United Kingdom's Public Order Act for allegedly making homophobic comments.

He was preaching outdoors and he was preaching on the sanctity of marriage. Marriages between one man and one woman and during that public sermon. I've seen the video. He was arrested handcuffed and drug away.

Not because he was saying anything that was hateful or he wasn't calling for anyone's death or torture dismemberment he was simply proclaiming the Sanctity of marriage and he was arrested and why here's a here's a key.

Here's a buzzword. Because what has been stated is that anyone who gives a biblical view of marriage is preaching this. And that is often how the conversation goes and I know and of course, I'm I'm not immune from this over the years I have been willing to preach on this issue willing to teach on this issue and have Had received emails have received messages on our Facebook page On our YouTube page from people who have said that I am a hate Preacher that I am a provocateur hate monger and I want to I want to stress very clearly.

I I hope that I have demonstrated today that I'm trying to be very fair I'm trying to show Love and deference to people who are made in the image of God that has to be understood when we talk about someone who is Who is a homosexual we're talking about someone who is made in God's image and and and and so there is no There's no animosity towards Individuals.

My concern is that we have we have changed the we have we have moved the bar. Because the bar for what constitutes biblical sexuality righteous sexuality has been moved and when the bar is moved and the Bible doesn't allow for it, then what has happened is Society has decided that it knows better than God and it determines what is right and wrong versus God determining it and By even saying those words, I know that I am Outside of What society has deemed as the right side of this issue.

The Biblical Standard of Righteous Sexuality

So I Want to express it like this often the issue comes up. This is how the question is often asked does the Bible condemn homosexuality, but I want to I want to approach it from a different way Rather than asking the question.

Does the Bible condemn homosexuality? I want to ask this question. What is the What is the biblical teaching on righteous sexuality. Rather than saying what what but before you answer, let's make sure we understand the question.

We're saying that the Bible is the source of our standard. Because I said what's the biblical teaching so so that in itself assumes a certain standard. I want to know what the Bible says number two. I'm saying that there is a righteous Form of sexuality which would indicate what?

There's an unrighteous, right if there's a righteous than there is an unrighteous. So we're going to begin we're going to go through the Bible and we're going to look at the Bible's position on righteous sexuality.

Very very quickly because I have three major points. I want to make today one. We're going to consider the the Bible's position on righteous sexuality. That's number one number two. We're going to consider the claim that the Bible is unclear on Homosexuality because that that does that is raised and then finally thirdly we're going to sit we're going to deal with the question of well Jesus never addressed homosexuals.

That's a third argument that we're going to look at today. But let's look first at the Bible's position on righteous sexuality go to go to Genesis 2. Genesis 2 now, I want to I want to make a statement as I'm as I'm going here.

I affirm the biblical the biblical account of creation. Now that that right away puts me on a certain side because by affirming the Bible's Account of creation. I'm saying that I believe what the Bible says about where I came from is true.

And where you came from is true right away that puts me on the outside of norm, right? You go to you go to any college campus and you say I believe in Genesis 1 and 2. I think you're crazy. All right, you go into a lot of churches and you say I believe in Genesis 1 and 2 and they'll say oh no.

It's allegorical. You got to understand that the framework hypothesis and you have to understand the distinctions of Literary genre and how the Bible was put together and it was not meant to be a textbook of how it happened.

But just that it happened and and this is a this is a poetic framework. This is not. This is not really how it happened we know how it happened. Charles Darwin taught us how it happened we you know, we all came from from the same ancestor is the Bonobos and the chimpanzees and all that we're all part of the same family of Erect hominids, right?

That's. Yeah, so that's that's what the world would say what I so I'm so I tip my hand to you and I say I believe Genesis. So by saying that when I go to Genesis 2 your immediate thought will be why I don't believe in Genesis.

Okay, that's fine. But I'm here to teach the Bible. And so I want to tell you what the Bible says. The Bible says when there was a verse 5 when there was no bush of the field and yet in the land. No. No small plant in the field had yet sprung up for the Lord.

God had not caused it to rain on the land. And there was no man to work the ground and a mist was going up from the land. It was watering the whole face of the ground then. The Lord formed the man of dust with the ground and breathed in his nostrils the breath of life and the man became.

The ESV says a living creature. The Hebrew is in the fashion means a living soul the living soul. So so so right away, what do we have? And God I'm going to erase this what we have from God's perspective.

On on the on the on the role of sexuality and you say well, this isn't about sex. Well, it's not about sex, but it teaches us something about sex. What does it tell us it tells us God created a man? He did not create a ubiquitous form of protoplasmic mass.

He created a man who had a body and I'm pretty sure he had a penis. Met him a massive protoplasmic. Sometimes I get sometimes I can't go he didn't just create a blob. Oh, there we go. He created a man and that man was man.

Formed he had a body arms legs fingers toes eyes and a man a male sexual organ. All right, so he was a man. The story goes on. It talks about God Making the trees to spring up it talks about God bringing water into the garden and it says something very weird in verse 18.

In fact in verse 18, we have the very first time where God Expresses something in the negative everything up till now has been positive. You know, he makes the light and it's very good. He makes the he makes the earth and it's very good.

He makes all these things and they're very good and he rests on the seventh day and it's all good. But here it's the first time it says but there's something that's not good. It says the Lord God said it is not good.

The man should be alone. I Fit for him. So so now here's here's the really weird part verse 19 now out of the ground the Lord God had formed every beast of the field. Every bird of the heavens and brought them to the man to see what he would call them and whatever man called the living creature.

That was its name. The man gave names to all the livestock and all the birds of the heavens and every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not a helper found fit for him. So what does that mean?

Well God brings all the animals to Adam and he sort of parades them by and he allows him to make a. It allows him to proclaim a name upon them. And by the way, this is this is actually in the in the ancient Near East.

This was a way of demonstrating authority over something by proclaiming a name you were proclaiming authority. And what is Adam? He is the vice-regent of God. He is called by God to have dominion over the world.

God allows him to name the animals. Remember when Daniel went to went to Nebuchadnezzar stole Daniel and took him to to His homeland and took him away from Israel was the first thing they did change their names.

Show authority right giving something a name was it was a was a way of demonstrating authority over something, right? Well here we see that Adam is shown to have authority over the animals. He's given them their names, but it says among the animals.

None of them was fit to be his. His helper his his help man. Not a brother. Not one of them was fit for him. And that aren't you glad yeah that you know that there wasn't a. There was the beasts again, I'll try to be weird but it's that's not.

And you have to think for a moment Adam is alone. It's not good that he's alone. He has to understand some sense of his own Singularity of his own aloneness and and God provides all the animals to parade by and he doesn't see anyone that is fit for Him.

There's not another one like him. So God verse 21. So the Lord God caused the deep sleep to fall upon the man and while he slept he took one of his ribs. And he closed up its place with flesh and the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man he made into.

Second sexual reference a woman and brought her to the man and the man. By the way, this is the first song in the Bible if you notice in your if you have a history translation, it's offset. From the rest of the text as a poetic statement.

He says this at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh. She shall be called woman because she's taken out of man. It's a expression of delight. Adam is delighted in. What has to have been the most beautiful creature he'd ever seen?

You all know that There is a certain Distinction between men and women and their and their look. In fact the Bible expresses the difference and the masculine and the feminine and and this is Adam's first experience with the feminine physique and he is excited and.

After this God performs the first marriage ceremony. Verse 24. It says therefore a man shall leave his father and mother. By the way, this can't apply to Adam alone because Adam didn't have a mother father.

Adam was created by God. So this is not about Adam. This is about the generations that would flow out of Adam. Listen what it says therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and Hold fast to his wife and they shall become Get this one Flesh they shall become one flesh and The man and his wife were both naked and we're not ashamed.

Now I do not have the time. I really wish I did. I do not have the time to express the depth of the importance of that statement. Because prior to the fall Adam and Eve experienced a level of intimacy and a level of Commonality that was not interrupted by sin.

That would never be enjoyed again until the new creation. And their their ability when it says they were naked and unashamed that doesn't just mean they were physically naked which they were physically naked.

But it refers to their relationship. They too they were together without any walls or barriers. They didn't have anything hiding themselves from one another. Praise God they had a they had a perfect union which was placed by God.

So you say well What what do we have here in Genesis 2? We have the what we call a creation ordinance a Creation ordinance. Now, what is an ordinance? Let me finish with this thought and I'll answer your question.

Ordinance is a law and it's one of the few laws that we have that go all the way back to creation the law of Marriage and the law of marriage is that a man will leave his father and mother. He'll hold fast to his wife and the two will become one flesh.

You guys got to go. Sorry, brother so marriage is Established by God and it is designed by God for his purposes. And and I'm spending a lot of time on this because before we even get to the arguments about homosexuality.

We need to understand what the Bible's model of sexuality is and the model of sexuality is that a man Leaves his family and holds his wife and the two of them become a new family. That is supposed to happen prior to sexual intimacy boy.

Isn't that destructive? Haven't we seen our world has just thrown that away. Because if I say to a group of young people, hey, you know what? You should wait until you get married to have sex. They are Yes, old Old-fashioned, you old prude, you old Puritan.

You don't know nothing. You're over 40. You don't know anything. You think I'm exaggerating only a little I Talk to young people. I used to work at a high school. I was a substitute teacher for eight years.

I'd have conversations not real in-depth because you know, it was kind of had to you know. The student I had to sort of let the students sort of talk to me, you know. It's hard to engage them especially don't talk to teenagers about sex but to talk about just the concept of Marriage sex is supposed to be held within the bonds of marriage and How do we know this?

Well, we know this because the Bible uses a term that is very important and it is the term Fornication. I would like for oh wait, I brother you had a question and I ran right by it. So let me go back.

What was your question? Yes, the Bible says that they had no sin prior to the eating of the fruit of the tree yes, and we don't know if it was an apple, but we but but but there is a that the fall is Eating the fruit because there was that was the only prohibition that was the only command do not eat.

And so that brought sin in the world. The Bible says in Romans 5 12 That that sin entered the world through one man and death through sin and death spread all men because all sins. So that tells us sin entered the world through Adam and his action.

Okay. Yes. Well that but that's not a the Adam's Apple is a Human anatomy things interestingly, I Don't know where the name comes from. I don't know where the term Adams Apple comes from and if it has anything to do with the forbidden fruit I don't know.

I know a lot of people believe it was an apple. You know, I don't know. I'm a big fan of watermelon. So could've been a watermelon. Little more awkward, but you know, she was carrying it back like this.

Look what I got. And they don't grow on trees. They grow on vines. So probably not a watermelon, but. But but yeah, I mean could have been an apple could have been a could have been a anything that grows on a tree.

Yes. No, there's nothing biblical to substantiate that. I've heard that but that is not true. There's nothing biblical or to substantiate what you're saying Doesn't mean what you think it means. Because there's nothing beguiled means to be deceived.

No, it doesn't. Okay. What I say earlier about arguing. Okay, okay. I Mean the term simply means to be deceived. All right, so move on we look at Genesis 2 what does it tell us tells us God made one man.

God made one woman. He made them to be one flesh and then later in Scripture We have a word that comes up over and over and over and it is the word fornication. Now, what does the word fornication mean?

Okay, we usually say sex before marriage, right. It means in morality sexual immorality. The word in the Greek is for nigh or for day. Yeah, if you if you think of what do we call what is pornography?

Pornography is the word Pornaya combined with the word Rafi. Which means well actually means writing but it can you mean a scripture so pornography? Means. It means a picture or it can even mean words that are sexually.

The sexual nature particularly of an illicit sexual nature. Certainly. Yeah, absolutely a billion-dollar Industry so you have fornication which is the word pornaya pornaya and The ESV translates. It's simply a sexual immorality.

Well, how do you define that? How do you find something? That's actually immoral? Well, you have to define it from the positive. What's the positive? The positive is what is sexually righteous, right?

They don't the way that you define something is wrong is you have to define it over and against the standard. Right if you have a if you have if you have a wall that's on level. How do you determine whether it's on level or not?

You put a level on it, right? Because you got to have a standard right the standard is the level and if you put us if you put the level on The wall in the in the bubble go group over to the side. That lets you know the walls and level because the standard says it's on level.

So what's the standard man? Shall leave his father and mother shall hold fast to his wife. The two shall become one flesh. That's the standard if you go to Hebrews 13, it tells you the marriage bed. Is undefined undefined?

Right, so we have a standard for sexuality and it is the standard of the marriage relationship. So what does pornaya then refer to it refers to anything that's outside the standard? So somebody you know a lot of times look especially young people, you know I used to be a youth leader as well as working at the high school a lot of times young people will try to push The envelope well pastor.

Well, what if me and my girlfriend just make out? But we don't but we don't Have sex or pastor. What if we just you know, we do a little touching a little heavy petting. But we don't but we don't move forward now.

I'm going to say something a little gross. But I don't mean it to be gross, but I've you know, even the question of well It didn't if we didn't penetrate it was just it was just oral Pleasure, right? What's our mutual manual stimulation, which is a physical using of the hands?

Oh, he's we're good. He's good with me. I'm good with him. So we have these we have these terms, right? And the question is well, is that Porn a is that sexual immorality? And honestly the quite oftentimes I kind of I use the daughter standing I say if you do it to my daughter.

It's wrong. Don't touch my daughter keep your hands off keep your lips off keep everything off, you know. You know you shake hands at the end of the night and by the way, I'll be there because you're not going on a date without me.

My Oldest daughter when she when my son used to be here. He's in he's in Germany now my oldest daughter went on a date. I'd send my son with him. It's worse than sending me. Yes, he he was the informer.

She knew she knew he'd go come back and tell me everything. So but long story short. Huh. Maybe. Well, then again though there's there's righteous sexuality there's unrighteous sexuality and The Bible defines righteous sexuality is that which is held within the bond of marriage?