Proverbs 3:1-6 (The Father's Wisdom)

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The Crisis of Masculinity and the Need for Biblical Fatherhood

80 there's good though now I'm not telling you anything. You don't know when I say that we live in a world That has been emasculated. Where masculinity has been viciously attacked? Where being a man is now viewed as a kind of disease?

Or a mental illness to be treated medicated or cured. Men are shamed for their masculine character like courage Risk-taking hard work chivalry entrepreneurship and ambition and even righteous applications of things like anger and aggression.

These are God-given qualities that men have been taught to feel like pariahs whenever they Exemplify them and these are the very character traits that God himself has given to men to bring glory to God.

And in their absence society has absolutely crumbled. Instead of society becoming stronger and healthier because of a feminacy it is actually crumbled before our very eyes. Instead of homes being happy and holier with weak men.

They have become devastated marriages have become Disintegrated because weak men become cowards and cowards become immoral and the immoral become utterly selfish. Selfish men are infants in their maturity incapable of leading incapable of fighting.

Incapable of preserving and incapable of keeping anything that God has given us to steward. This is result in the abandonment of children rampant divorce the proliferation of pornography. Communities that have fallen apart and a nation that has slid into utter ruin.

And the cure for the world is not more men in dresses. The cure for the world is not more roid raging boys who never grow up. The cure is a revival of biblical masculinity and even under that a cure is the gospel.

The gospel will ensure a revival of masculinity where we will look to the perfect man Jesus Christ and we will see how he thinks how he walks how he talks how he acts and we will act like him. The revival of the gospel will empower a redemption in masculinity by the power of the Holy Spirit so that men now act like men and This is especially true in fatherhood.

We need a revival of masculinity because we need to see young men marry. Well again young men raise families young men work so that their wives can stay home with their precious little ones and men who will Push back the enemy with the gospel of Christ because it is not the gospel that has failed.

It is our men who have failed in this weak world. The gates of hell will not stand against the advancement of the gospel. The only time the gates of hell keeps standing is when the church stops advancing.

We need men who are not just men and what I mean by that is men who are just present. Men who just get a paycheck. Men who just go downstairs when there's a bump in the night to check to make sure that there's not a robber who broke in.

We don't need men who are just that. Those are good things. I Am the designated checker in my house to the glory of God. I See you there, brother. But We need men to take up the mantle of godly leadership, it's not enough to just be male.

It's not enough to just get a paycheck. We need men who will step into leadership headship. Biblical leadership where men are now leading their families and teaching their families who Christ is. We need men who will not only talk about God on Sunday morning.

But who will bring up God in the morning and in the evening of every day of the week. We need men who will pray with their children many will sing with their children. I mean it will lead their family and family worship.

Men who will work tirelessly to impart wisdom as Solomon points out in our passage today. Now how do men impart wisdom. When this passage we're going to learn that wisdom is imparted through discipline.

Spiritual discipline and it is the man's job to bring spiritual discipline to his home. A man who abdicates that responsibility is a man who needs to repent. A Man must according to Solomon bring that kind of discipline into his own life.

He must first apply it to himself before he can lead anyone else. Kind of discipline that's not rooted in frustration. Anxiety annoyance or punishment but a kind of discipline that enriches the life of his family and points them to the only Savior Jesus Christ.

A kind of discipline That brings life to his wife. That brings health to his children. That brings gospel vitality to his home so that his children grow up as believers. To now be the next generation who will go.

And make disciples who make disciples who bring the world to Christ. A wise father disciplines wisely. He doesn't discipline as a hammer to break his children's will. He disciplines as a chisel to carve out Godliness in his children.

Discipline is a means of grace. We don't like discipline. When I was in the army, I didn't like waking up and doing Hundreds of push-ups. I didn't like marching in formation. I didn't like all of the tediousness of Discipline and yet discipline is for our good.

It brings blessings to us and to our home and it mirrors the way that our father disciplines us our heavenly father. So today I want us to look at three examples of spiritual disciplines and I want us to look at them through two lenses.

Primarily I want us to look at him through the lens of God is our heavenly father who gives us these disciplines for all of us. Secondarily though brothers. I want you to look at it as men. Your responsibility doesn't end unto yourself.

For everyone else in the room discipline is for you for you men discipline is for you and your family. So I want you to hear it in that way. We're gonna talk about three things. We're gonna talk about the discipline of loving the word the discipline of loving our neighbor and the discipline of trusting God.

So with that we turn with me to Proverbs 3 chapter chapter 3 verses 1 through 6. We were gonna do 12 verses today, and we're only gonna do 6. If you're new to the Shepherd's Church, this is not surprising.

Let us read starting in verse 1 of chapter 3 my son. Do not forget my teaching. But let your heart keep my commandments. For length of days and years of life and peace they will add to you. Do not let kindness and truth leave you.

Bind them around your neck write them on the tablet of your heart. So you won't find favor and good repute in the sight of God and man. Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding.

In all your ways acknowledge him and he will make your path straight. Let us pray. Lord, thank you for this passage. Thank you for what it means to us as your people. What it means to us as women what it means to us as men.

What it means to us as a church and what implications it will have for the world. Lord help us today To see the goodness and the glory and the truth of your word. Let us rejoice and be glad in these things and Let us trust you in all things so that our paths Will be made straight.

It's in Jesus name. We pray. Amen. Solomon begins this passage as a father. At the start of the passage it is Solomon himself who is in view speaking to his son. Now I love this because he said do not forget my teaching he says him talking to his son my son.

Do not forget my teaching. This is a dad talking to his boy. And what I love about this is you think about how busy Solomon actually was, you know running the Empire. Doing foreign policy overseeing building projects meeting with foreign dignitaries.

Making sure that this and that and this and that were we're good to go in the kingdom and yet he still prioritized discipline for his children. He didn't let the busyness of life. Take him away from the most primary responsibility that he had as a father, which is to bring Discipline to his son.

And how many of us? Myself included need to be reminded that our busyness is not an excuse for Lethargy in this area. We are not as busy as Solomon at the height of Israel's Empire. So we are not too busy to bring discipline to our children.

When Solomon says my son do not forget my teaching we see that Solomon is indicating that this is not something that he did Sparsely, but it's something that he did regularly. Solomon was the kind of man who who brought lessons to his children who pulled them aside to teach them morality.

Who talked to them about the truth at the dinner table who imparted wisdom to them at their bedside? He was a father who had a knife and a body of teaching that he could point to. Now in that sense brothers Do you have a body of teaching?

Do you have a corpus. Do you have if you were to add up the conversations that you've had? Teaching your children about God enough to call it my teaching. Solomon calls his instruction to his children my teaching because he's pointing to a body of work.

Do you have a body of work? That you can point to. That you could point your children to and say remember my teaching you see the saddest thing I think and This is what the enemy has done in our society.

The enemy has attacked masculinity so hard and Made men so discouraged. And listen, I'm not pummeling you right now, and I'm not shaming you right now. But I am saying that you've been hit hard for decades and you're discouraged.

But do not in your discouragement remain silent at your table. Do not in your discouragement. Allow yourself to be passive in your leadership. There are far too many children. Who grew up with a father?

Who was there in body, but was he did not have a body of teaching to equip his children in the things of God and Unfortunately, it happens far too often even among pastors and elders and deacons. Brothers and sisters.

We have to have a body of work that we can point to that. We have had these conversations with our children teachings times moments conversations. The question is do we have a rhythm of that because if we don't teach our children who will we know who will?

Disney is spending hundreds of billions of dollars To teach your children their values our government Has spent decades Sexualizing our children covertly. Do research on men like Alfred Kinsey? Do research on women like Margaret Sanger?

Do research on these things and you will see? That they have a plan to disciple your children. Do you have a plan? To disciple your children this passage begins with the fatherhood of Solomon and brothers it begins in your home with you.

If you're not a father prepare well for fatherhood. If you're not married yet prepare well for marriage and what I mean by that is learn to lead yourself. So that when God should trust you with a precious diadem and a wife that you will be ready to lead and When he should trust you with little ones that you would be ready to teach.

But do not forget this most precious discipline we have lost too many children to Satan so far. Enough is enough. Now this passage begins with the fatherhood of Solomon, but it doesn't end that way. Solomon actually in verse 11 Which we were going to cover today, but we're not.

He switches from my son my teaching to discipline of the Lord. So he switches it he says that yes, it's important for me to teach my children. But underneath it there's something even more important than my teaching it is the fatherhood of God.

Because if we don't have the fatherhood of God we can teach our children. Pagans can teach their children. Atheists can teach their children. They can have the same Mealtime rituals as us except devoted to a pagan God.

It's not enough for me to just say that we must teach we must be grounded in and rooted in the fatherhood of Almighty God. Because his fatherhood informs our fatherhood his discipline informs our Discipline and Solomon again not downplaying our role as men.

He's saying even more that you must be rooted in the fatherhood of God. If that is not your foundation, you are going to fail because you are replicating you. And you will make twice the son of hell as you are.

Instead of giving our children us We are called to give them him. We are called to share with them him. We are called to share not our opinions. Not our anecdotes those are fun. Those are okay, but that must not be it.

We are called to share with them him. And that is the point of this passage that we would be grounded all of us in the fatherhood of God and men. Especially that you would allow the fatherhood of God to inform your father ring.

So that as we learn to master These disciplines that the Lord is giving us personally. That we would then learn how to share them with others the first discipline that comes up in this passage is To love the word.

This is the first command in this passage and it says do not forget my teaching but let your heart keep my commandments. Because we know that this passage is from Solomon to his son, but even more specifically it is from the Holy Spirit of God to us.

Because God left it in the Bible for us. We know that this is actually pointing to beyond Solomon to the commands of God. Do not forget God's teaching and do not forget his commands because they are life for the people of God.

This mirrors and echoes what Deuteronomy 6 5 through 6 says you shall love the Lord your God with all of your heart and with all Of your soul with all of your might and these words shall be on your heart.

Loving God begins with loving his word and Loving his word. It's a very simple formula in this text. If you want to love God love his word if you want to love his word your heart and your mind Must be engaged.

It cannot be one. It must be both. In order to love God's Word, we cannot forget his teaching. But we also must keep our hearts on his commandments. It's both head and heart. If it's not both then you're going to fall short.

If it's just the head then you can be a fantastic man of knowledge or woman of knowledge. You can be a professor of the highest order and have nothing to show for it at the end of your life. Because all it was was here and if it just is Bouncing around in your heart then sure you can be like a bleeding-heart liberal or a hippie, but not a true Christian.

Because it's not rooted to anything of substance. It must be that our Doctrine is based on the Word of God and our reception of the Word of God hits both our head and our heart in order for it to be Christian.

Christians are not empty head and emotionalist and Christians are not dead Orthodox professors. We approach the Word of God with both a rational mind and a tender heart. We are not to forget the teaching that's cognition.

But we're also not to let our hearts be far from his commands. That's emotional. So that the lover of the word is one who loves it with their head and their heart which is why Jesus says Love the Lord your God with all of your heart with all of your soul with all of your mind.

It's an integrated kind of love. It's a love where every bit of us is working together for a End. It is the kind of person who reads the word who ruminates over the word and who rejoices in the word. Now listen, I Have woken up early got my cup of coffee and had the best of intentions and And a few brain cells touched each other.

And that was it. This is not what this is talking about. Where a small spark happens and then you're basically a zombie again. This is the kind of reading that produces cherishing. This is the kind of reading that produces clinging.

This is what caused Peter to say, where can we go Lord? You have the words of life. Hell for Peter Would be away from God's words. Is that our hell? This kind of reading produces a hungering and a thirsting after the Word of God.

This kind of reading is what David said that made him Stay up at night and pants like a deer pants for the water. This kind of reading is not vanity. It's not treating the Bible like it's a dusty relic or it's a part of our morning checklist.

This is storing the Word of God in our heart loving it and treasuring the Word of God. Here's an example if you try to bend steel. You're not gonna do very well. Try to bend it over your thigh. You're gonna you're gonna hurt yourself.

You're probably gonna pop a blood vessel in your head and then you're gonna have to go to the doctor and when you're better We will laugh. All in good fun. But if you put steel into the fire and you let it sit in the fire until the fire gets into it.

Then you can bend the steel. The same is true for us. We are unbendable. We are unmoldable. We are rigid and We are unmoving. Until you put us in the Word of God you let the Word of God sit in us and work its way into us like fireworks its way into the steel and then as You softened in your this the Holy Spirit of God bends you according to the Master's purpose.

He shapes you according to the way That you were designed to be it is as we sit in the word. That the word gets into us. That the Spirit of God crafts us into the Master's purposes. So for us today. Read the word.

Read the word and don't just read it. Read in such a way that your head and your heart are captivated. Read in such a way to where you grab it and you scream and someone has to come in the other room and they're like What's going on?

Look at what I found in the word. Don't be embarrassed it's okay. Show your children your excitement for the word. Let them see you read it. Let them see you. Enjoy it. Let them see you be excited about it.

Let them see you memorizing it. Solomon says bind them around your neck and write them on the tablet of your heart. Brothers sisters. We have to get off our tablets and get actually in the word so that it we write on the tablet of our heart.

We need to get off of the things that distract us from him and get into the things that will actually shape us. This happens my memorization. I had an old pastor once tell me. Does the Holy Spirit bring to memory a verse that you've never read?

And I was like, well, I can't say that he can't. Because that would be to divine to deny his divinity, but I can't say that he does. Because that would be to deny the ordinary means of grace that is in the word so because of that.

The word that you put into your heart is the Ammunition that you have given the Holy Spirit of God to sanctify you. How much ammunition? Do you have? How many bullets are in there? Because I'll tell you It has not failed.

It's happened. So many times I will memorize a verse that has to do with this topic or that topic and The very next week something will happen in my life life will punch me and that'll be the verse that the Holy Spirit draws up to my memory and Causes me to weep or causes me to rejoice or causes me to praise.

What have you put in that the Holy Spirit will draw from memorization is so important. Pick a verse and start there. Maybe it's maybe it's Jesus wept. It's a little easier to memorize. It's just two words.

You'd be surprised though. If that's the only verse you knew how the Holy Spirit wouldn't bring that verse alive. You think it's simple it has depth in it. Start with a passage and then pick another passage and then pick another passage make it fun.

Do it in your home. Pick a topic. I am prone to melancholy which is an old-timey word for depression. Pick a verse like cast your anxieties upon him because he cares for you. And then when you the anxiety hits you say it over and over and over again as a ministry to yourself.

It's like lip balm in the middle of a desert. It's like a canteen when there is no water. Put the word into you brothers and sisters. Meditate on it. Meditation is different than memorization. Memorization is when you know it.

Meditation is when you Ruminate on it and dwell on it and think about it. If you're whatever you're struggling with if it's anger if it's frustration, it's bitterness if it's jealousy. But whatever it is pick a verse for that day.

Set an alarm on your phone redeem Apple and Samsung and then Four times a day five times a day six times a day, whatever it is. When the alarm goes off The Lord is my shepherd. I shall not want he makes me to lie down in green pastures.

He restores my soul. And then do it again the next time the alarm goes off. Ruminate on the word because you are cultivating not just your head. You are cultivating your heart. You want both to come into alignment.

Discuss these verses with your family put them on your walls. There's biblical precedent for that. Deuteronomy 6 says put them on your doorpost. So we have done that here. Do in your home have a family verse that as soon as you enter into the living room, that's the verse that you see and Praise the Lord.

We live in a time period where now verses look beautiful on. They've decorated them quite nicely so they match your Decor is what I'm saying. Hobby Lobby for the win. More than anything live the word.

Because it's not just your head and your heart but it also needs to come out of your fingertips. This is why James 1 22 says but prove yourself to be doers of the word and not merely hearers of the word.

James even says that the veracity of our faith will be demonstrated by what we do with the word and Not just what we think and feel about The word. And Solomon even says that when we get to this we're head heart and hands are Connected to the Word of God where we're loving God through his word that there's blessings that are to be had in that.

Listen to what he says in verse 2 that it will add length of days and years of life and peace. He's saying that that not superficial prosperity. Like if you do this and you're gonna live to be 97 that he's not saying it quite like that.

He's saying that the quality of your life the Concentration of your life will be such that it is totally different than it ever was before you will have peace. Shalom in Hebrew is The word for peace. It doesn't mean the cessation of war.

It means the completion of everything that was broken. You think about a car engine that doesn't start it has no peace and It only gains peace when a skilled mechanic comes in and fixes the things that are broken so that it runs like it was supposed to.

You have a way that you are supposed to run and When you're running Optimally is when you are loving the word. Considering the word and doing the word and when that happens you have peace. That's what God is promising.

That's why he says that the fear of the Lord and saw in Proverbs 1923 leads to life. So that no one or so that the one may sleep satisfied untouched by evil. What a promise. That's the first spiritual discipline.

And again, everyone that applies to all of us because God our Father has given it to us his children. But for us men in the same way that your wife when she's pregnant eats for two. When you or three or four however many are in there.

When you go to the word you eat for more than you. When you open it up you plunder it for more than you you seek and you hunt and you gather for more than you. Yes, you gather for you, but you always gather extra because God has people in your life that he Expects that you will share these things with and that they will be blessed by your faithfulness.

Amen. Second spiritual discipline that we see in this passage is that we are to love our neighbor and loving our neighbor is a combination of two things as well just like loving the word is a combination of our mind and Our heart being fully engaged.

Loving our neighbor according to this passage is a combination of both kindness and truth. Verse 3 says do not let kindness and truth leave you bind them around your neck write them on the tablet of your heart and When you do this, he says that you will have a good reputation Among men, so this is about how do we love our neighbor?

With kindness and truth. Now, I'm gonna say for a second what kindness isn't because kindness has gotten a little bit of a bad rap. Kindness is not the same as niceness. Evangelicalism today has adopted a 11th commandment that thou shalt always be nice.

That is not what this means. Niceness runs as deep as the wrinkles on our faces. Niceness is Sharing the best of you. Kindness is sharing the best of him. Do you see the difference? Niceness is sharing your best day your best personality your best smile your best temperament.

It's it's sharing you. Kindness is not about you. Kindness is about sharing the best of God. Niceness is when you share your best. Kindness is when you share God's best his love his care his patience, and that doesn't always make people happy therefore.

Niceness is dependent upon people's experience, but kindness isn't. Kindness is not shallow. It is not plastic compliments. You've met that type, right? The schmoozer. I'm so glad It's not pretentious handshakes.

It's not any of that nonsense. It's not flattery. It is a sharing of the things of God with people who need the things of God. And how would you share the things of God if you don't know the things of God?

Kindness and truth is how we love people. Think about this truth. How can you love someone if you don't share the truth with them? How can you love someone if you only give them lies. So they both work together.

Truth leads you to be truly kind and kindness leads you to share truth. If it's just about niceness and it's about their experience, but if it's about kindness, it's about what God says and it changes you.

Because when you know how much you've been cherished by God. It allows you to be able to cherish other people. When you know how much you've been loved by God it allows you to love other people. When you know how faithful he's been to you, you'll know what to say to someone else to tell them that God is faithful.

When you see his kindness, it actually transforms you to be kind. Niceness is linear. It's about me and you. Kindness is triangular. It's about us and God. The Hebrew word for kindness is has said. Our brother who was just here a couple weeks ago the Sermon on Jonah.

Loving kindness of God endures forever. Remember. That was the loudest we've ever been in this church when we were yelling. The loving kindness endures forever. This is the covenantal love of God the faithful love of God the long-suffering love of God.

This is not the kind of love that God does in order to make us happy. This is the kind of love that God gives to make us holy. So brothers and sisters when we have that kind of kindness a dedication to share the things of God.

With that kind of truth a dedication to share the truth of God. Then we will truly love our neighbor. During Kovac. This was so interesting to me. Because the evangelical church forgot what loving neighbor really means.

We must wear a mask or else. We're not loving our neighbor. That's niceness. That's not kindness actions that this require. The Bible's replete with good godly kindnesses for instance. We show hospitality.

Hebrews 13 12 do not neglect to show hospitality to strangers for by this. Some have entertained angels not even knowing it. Kindness calls us to provide for each other's needs. First John 3 17, but if anyone has the world's goods and sees his brother in need and yet closes his heart against him.

How does the love of God abide in him? That's not niceness. That's kindness. Kindness causes us to speak the truth in love. Therefore laying aside falsehoods speak truth to each of you with his neighbor for we are members of one another.

Ephesians 4 25 kindness causes us to pray for our brother. Niceness requires that you're in their presence so that they can see how good you are. Kindness is something you can do when you're not even with them.

First Timothy 2 1 first of all, I urge you that in treaties and prayers petitions and Thanksgiving be made on behalf of all men. It causes us to forgive one another. It causes us to restore one another.

It causes us to rebuke one another. You won't find a whole lot of rebuking in niceness, but in kindness you will. It causes us to bear with one another's burdens. Niceness often doesn't have the time for bearing with someone's burden because niceness is a quid pro quo exchange that happens quickly.

Have you ever met the person who wants to be nice to you, but your problems are too big for them and they they move on. How are you doing today? You won't believe it this and this and then you're like that the person who's being nicest.

I'm sorry. I asked. I Had a moment like this. I felt terrible. I was in seminary. I didn't plan on sharing this example, but we'll go with it. There was a sweet little Gentleman from Nigeria who was in class with me and we walked outside for a break and.

And I said the American nice thing. I said, how are you? Because he's standing right in front of me. It was that's what you do. And then he started telling me a 20-minute story of financial burdens and Things that were happening at home.

We were late for class and I am a very like uptight anal student who wants to be on time front row you know taking notes and The whole time I was struggling and he looked at me and he said he said you're not listening to me.

Are you? And I said, I'm so sorry. I'm not he said that is something that's been so hard for me. But living in America that you asked me how I'm doing and you don't really care. How am I? It hit me because he was right.

It was right. I was being nice, but I wasn't being kind. To really truly love our neighbor. We must be both kind and Share the truth and there's blessings when we do this. It says in verse 4 so that you will find favor and good repute with both God and man.

Did you know that God is pleased with us when we are kind? Not just nice. Kindness is a four-inch thick mahogany cabinet. Niceness is Ikea veneer. God is pleased with us when we're kind and God is pleased with us when we share truth.

God is pleased with us husbands. When we put the life of our bride before our own God is not pleased when we take on a kind of macho Egotistical leadership that I said it in some Neanderthalian way. Therefore.

That's what it goes. No, Christ gave himself up for his bride. Christ died for his bride. Christ lived for his bride. Christ Sacrificed for his bride brothers. That is our mission Is to be kind to the dear woman that he has given us when wives love their husbands.

With a kindness. Did you know this is a very interesting fact? In Ephesians chapter 5 men are told to love their wives. Like Christ loves the church, you know what Greek word is used there agape. Men are to sacrifice for their wives.

Why? Because men are by nature more selfish than women. It's true. It's true. We don't think about things in the multivalence beautiful spaghetti woven together sort of way and We are reminded to sacrifice for those who were called to love.

But in Titus 2 when it says that wives are supposed to love their husbands, you know, what word is used? It's not agape. Because women naturally sacrifice for their ones that they love. You could have been the greatest dunderhead that has ever lived.

Insulted her new dress and said that you don't think it looks pretty you could have done it any number of things to hurt her. Feelings and guess who is still in the kitchen making lunch for the family.

She's not happy with you, but she's sacrificing for you because women do that. Naturally. The word that Paul uses there for women to love is Philandros, which means have a friendly love. Have a pleasant love.

Have a joyful love. Allow your love to make you smile and be joyful kind of love. Because women struggle more than we do they have more thoughts going on in their minds than we do. So it causes them to be sometimes worried or sometimes fearful.

Men sacrifice. For your wife, that's kindness. Ladies be present to your husband. That is kindness. Brothers sacrifice for your children. Brothers and sisters sacrifice for one another. Be kind to one another.

Did you know that the way that we love one another tells the world the veracity and the validity of the gospel? It says that they will know you by your love. You may never Share the gospel in a way that Peter did where 3 ,000 people come to Christ in truth.