TLP 478: Should You Consider Homeschooling this Fall? | Scott and Becky Aniol Interview

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So it's it's shaping our children's worldview is shaping their values their affections their tastes their imaginations

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Parenting isn't about us. In fact parenting isn't even about our kids Parenting is just one way

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Christian dads and moms are to worship God So welcome to the truth love parent podcast where we train dads and moms to give

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God the preeminence in their parenting I am your host a .m. Brewster and today doctors

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Scott and Becky annual are joining me to talk about homeschooling In the past couple years homeschooling has been thrust into the spotlight and people have been choosing to do it for many many different reasons

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But what are some of the biblical reasons a person should consider homeschooling? Well Scott and Becky are going to give us a ton of really important things to talk about When this interview was recorded

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Scott was teaching in a university, but now he's working for g3 ministries and doing a really amazing job

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God at work and school Not only will these studies help you to be a better disciple of Christ But they'll also help you prepare your kids to grow in their relationship with God Now, let's talk about whether or not you should consider homeschooling your kids this fall

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Today's question is should you consider homeschooling this fall when my wife and I answered that question?

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We answered it with a resounding. Yes, and our two special guests have also answered it in the affirmative today

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We're joined by Scott and Becky annual. Thank you so much you guys for joining me today. Thanks for having us

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So the three of us, you know, we're homeschooling parents I know as well as you do that there must be some type of a story behind why you chose to homeschool, you know

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Scott I'm pretty certain you attended a Christian school your whole life. I'm not so certain about Becky So did your past experiences influence that decision to homeschool your kids or were you swayed by something else?

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Yeah It really it really comes down into sort of a shift in our thinking about what?

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Education is and our philosophy of education. I think a lot of times we think

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Education is just imparting knowledge and that's kind of how we used to think But we've come to view it as the formation of a whole person

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So it's it's shaping our children's worldview is shaping their values their affections their tastes their imaginations

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And we've come to recognize that all of that is done in and through education whether we know it or not

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And so we felt that it was our biblical responsibility as as our understanding of education changed

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We realized it was our biblical responsibility as parents to be the primary shapers of everything

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That our kids believe everything they they love And we came to see that we could do that best

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As an integrated whole where education and parenting are actually one in the same process

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Yeah, I also attended private Christian school K through 12 like Scott So I had a really strong academic experience, especially in high school

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A lot of my teachers had doctorates in their field. So originally that's what I wanted for my kids.

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I never planned to homeschool but through talking to a couple of friends who are homeschooling and Through my own reading our thinking about education really started to change and we realized homeschooling better fit

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What our philosophy of education? As we grew in our understanding of that Now you're talking about you're growing in this understanding and whatnot

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I'm curious and you guys met in college and I'm no doubt like every other dating couple You know, you guys talked about potential baby names and whatnot at what point in your relationship at what point in your family?

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Did you actually start seriously considering homeschooling? I don't think we really started talking about it seriously till after I think probably both kids were born

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Yeah, Caleb and Kate And I I sort of had an inkling that I kind of wanted to homeschool.

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Although maybe for different reasons I'm not even sure why I really wanted to at that point But began began to talk about it.

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And like Becky said because I mean both of us really had very strong Christian school experiences

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She especially she went to Bob Jones Academy in high school So she I mean the people who wrote the textbooks for her teachers, so, you know, it was a really great experience

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I think she was hesitant at first To homeschool because she wanted the kids to have that same experience but again at that point our understanding of education was

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It's to impart knowledge to their brains and to give them skills for life so that they can have a job one day and it wasn't until we both started reading some things and Talking to some people and began to see education as something far greater than that that we realized that we that we wanted to do it all as an integrated whole that that Education and parenting are essentially part of the same

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It's really what it means to disciple them Yeah, I mean, I think homeschooling eliminates a false dichotomy between school and the rest of life

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It allows us to see everything as educational informative All of life as an integrated whole we certainly of course, you know cover subjects in school

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Or I guess a better word would be disciplines But school education isn't divorced from parenting, you know and I think disciplines really is the better word there because It's really important that we think in terms of discipline and discipleship when we think about Educating our children because if we think in terms of discipleship, then we're better able to see how parenting and education are

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Inextricably linked and the Bible of course is clear that parents are in charge of discipling their children So an education is a discipleship ministry

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Yeah, so for us really education and parenting aren't separate. They're part of the same thing

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Yeah in fact What you just said was exactly where my wife and I came I'd actually was homeschooled all the way up with an exception

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I went to kindergarten and went to seventh grade But so I loved homeschooling from the get -go.

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My wife went to Christian schools growing up But well when we had this decision we needed to make, you know

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Do we really really really was that the decision we want to do? We do really want to put our child into? the homeschooling atmosphere

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We and we it was a big decision for us because it was specifically tied to a life change for our family

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Then we came to this conclusion that we really wanted to be what I what I coined Intentional full -time disciple making parents

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And the key thing for me, I think was really the the full -time because you're right You know, we're all supposed to be disciple makers.

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We're all supposed to be intentional But in our minds we saw the fact that we could be full -time disciple makers of our kids

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So let me ask you this Let's just say that there is a young couple out there very much like like what you guys were

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They've maybe graduated from the public school experience. Maybe the homeschool experience who knows And their kids are young and they're really for the first time realizing that hey, you know what choosing where my kid goes to school is a big deal

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So if someone came to you for advice, how would you answer the question? Should I should my wife and I consider homeschooling my kids this fall?

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Well practically speaking I think the biggest hindrance that the biggest fear in people's minds about homeschooling is ability

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People don't think that they can provide their kids with a good enough education and I have people tell me that all the time

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So what it comes down to I think is what your end goal is for your kids. Is it that they become really smart people?

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So that they can get into a really good college so that they can get a really good job Or is it that they learn the best things about God's world and learn to love those things?

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that they can become wise and God -fearing and Have habits of Christlikeness the peaceful fruits of righteousness.

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Yeah, so like, you know as you said if if if this hypothetical young couple you know wants to have

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Like you said the ability to to disciple Educate shape and form their children from the morning they get up to the morning.

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They go to bed then homeschooling is Certainly the easiest way to do that I mean it is possible to send your kids off to school and Then just be really actively involved as a parent and work with them in the evenings and talk with them about what they're learning

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I mean both Becky and I had parents who were very actively involved in our schooling So it's possible to do that, but we've seen how it's actually really so much easier when you're with the kids all day

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You're the ones teaching them everything And and you can really like you said be a full -time disciple er

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You know and and nothing is outside that realm whether it's their formal what you might call formal education

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Reading writing arithmetic or their music lessons or they're playing or whatever they're doing

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You're always there to help them transition from being a child to being an adult essentially from from being

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Someone immature to hopefully a God -fearing mature Christian. So I think

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I think ultimately the answer that question is Real, you know, some people think well homeschooling is gonna be harder

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Well in some senses it is because I mean, especially for the the mom who's doing doing all the work

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But it makes we feel it makes discipling your children actually easier

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Because you're doing it through everything Every aspect of their education every aspect of their life really, correct

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And I think to be fair Becky if a young mom were speaking to you and she and she knew about you and she knew you had a you know

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Your master's degree in education and she knew that you were accepted into a PhD program for education

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She might be kind of like smirk at you go. Yeah. Okay. Well, you know, yeah, you're saying that it's easy and I think

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I think one of the ways that I've liked to encourage Parents on this particular note of you know,

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I'm not an educator Well, first of all, that's not true. I mean God has commanded us to educate our children, right?

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Now I think when people say that they're talking about well I'm I was never taught how to educate in math or English or history of science

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And that's true but one of the things that I actually used to encourage my wife because my wife she has her undergraduate and it was not in education and She was very hesitant because she felt that way she felt and she looked at me

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She said Aaron, you know, you have your master's degree And I know mine was in counseling but involved a lot of education classes and she said, you know, what am

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I supposed to do? I said well actually Remember that the books were written primarily for the student at that age to understand and what

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I found is that When I when I actually taught in a Christian school, I taught in a Christian school for seven years

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I taught some subjects that I had never quote -unquote learned to teach and When I picked it up and I opened up to lesson one and I read through it

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I was like, oh, well that makes sense I had now I hadn't thought about the cotton gin since fifth grade

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And I hadn't done any of that but it really really really wasn't that difficult and I think that I like to encourage the listeners to pay close attention to what

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Becky just said there because it's not a situation where You can't do the education.

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Yeah, and like Scott said it's it's about making the discipling easier Though the education might seem a little rough at first.

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It actually isn't that difficult? Yeah, and but again, it really I think it's it comes down to how you define education right, because if you define education in yes, well, we what we've really come to understand is sort of a really a more modern understanding of education as experts imparting information to students using carefully crafted methodology

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Then yeah, you might feel inadequate and you might want an expert to be able to do that for your kids but if you understand education as something more profound than that, right it is it is formation of spiritual people then

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You're what you said earlier is exactly right Biblically speaking every parent is what every good

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Christian parent is by definition equipped to do that and and so You know

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Yeah, I mean, I think Becky would say math is not her favorite subject and you know

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So she really wrestled with what curriculum can she you know, could I use that best helps me and that kind of thing?

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But in some of the earlier conversations we had when we were talking about this she was bringing some of this up and and my comment was

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You know the most important thing in my mind for our kids with this understanding of education is their understanding of history

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Their love of good literature their ability to read and write well and think well

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Those are the most important things science math. Yes, of course, you know, you're gonna read about the world

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You got to learn math These are important things and they're very very valuable But the most important thing and I think anybody who you know

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Anybody is equipped to do this is to teach their children to love God's world To love what is true good and beautiful to cultivate virtue within them

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Through all the subjects and beyond and any any parent can do that Yeah, and yeah, and this isn't 1980 resources aren't the issue, you know, there's so much out there these days to really support parents in this endeavor

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You know You can accomplish the necessary academics with all the help that you can get

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The issue is do you want to accomplish those academics through the Christian discipleship of your own children?

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Do you want to be the one to shape your children spiritually and emotionally? Do you want to be the one?

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to Train your children's habits and loves or you know, do you want their peers to have those jobs?

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Wonderful. Were there were there other facets? Is that the the main like for example if a young couple came to you and said should we consider this and and you say?

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What you say what you told them about, you know, we want We want to rethink more biblically about what education is we want to make that of the part of the broader picture of discipling and then

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They're sitting there going. Okay. Yeah. Yeah, that would be great. We want to We want to disciple our kids

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But they're not convinced What might you say to them? I think one of the great benefits for us too is because we have sort of a larger view of what education is

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I mean really for us Everything is part of our kids education There is a certain portion of the day when they're doing their math and they're learning

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Latin and they're you know Doing their specific assignments that Becky's given them, but everything is education and when you view it that way

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So for us, you know, you know, we're a very musical family. Our kids take piano and violin and cello

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We try to take them to concerts. We try to take them to Parks we you know, we try to do things that in in a normal again sort of modern view of education

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Those are extracurricular, right so you do the education and then if you have time

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Then you do those other things. Well, what homeschooling really? provides is the freedom to see those as just as important right music and Enjoying God's creation and going to good concerts are all

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Just as important as their math lesson or learning Latin So, you know and and and if if your kids go to it or what what our kids call out schools, right?

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Hope you have homeschools and then you have out schools if your kids go to out schools Sometimes that's harder to do.

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So let me give an example of this a couple months ago I received word that there were some free concert tickets available that evening to hear

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Hilary Hahn Who's a famous violinist in downtown Fort Worth? Well, if this was a

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Tuesday evening, so if our kids went to out school, right? I probably would have thought oh, well, that would be a wonderful experience and we really think that would be beneficial for them

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But it's a school night and if we take them to this concert and don't get home till 11 Then they're gonna be groggy all day in school tomorrow but because we homeschool and because we recognize that taking our children to a

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Hilary Hahn concert is part of their enrichment as people Then the the ability to take them to that concert and Then let them sleep an extra hour in the morning and still accomplish everything that they needed to do school -wise the next day

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That would not have been possible or at least would have been far more difficult in what you might call a traditional school setting

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With homeschooling we have a lot more liberty to take advantage of those wonderful opportunities for our kids

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When we might not have otherwise had that freedom and I think that that answers another criticism that sometimes comes up about about homeschooling is the fact that They don't have as many experiences, you know

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You can't be part of a drama department if you're if you're not in a school that has a drama department You can't play on a sports team.

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If you're not part of a school that has a sports team. Well Though sometimes that may be true. Obviously, you know, there are homeschool co -ops and whatnot

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They have their own sports teams and drama departments But even if that weren't true, there are many other things like what you just said

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Growing up when I was homeschooled and it was winter time. My mom would take us to Pine Mountain and we would have our ski lessons there.

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Well, everyone else was in school We were learning to ski and then get like you said that was part of our educational experience

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I was part of life learning and so yeah That's that's definitely a critique that some people bring up thinking that somehow the homeschoolers miss out when in actuality

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I think they have far more access oftentimes in their educational pursuits Now I'm curious what you would say to This young couple who goes.

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Okay. Yeah, I know that sounds really cool But you know, I've heard that it's really important for kids to be, you know

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Socialized, you know, what's what's gonna happen if I keep my kids at home? Yeah, that's a common question right with homes with homeschooling and I what

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I would say is if by social Socialization you mean that our kids need to learn how to respect others and interact with them in ways that are right and biblical

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Then absolutely We want them to be socialized from that point of view But we actually believe that the best way for our children to learn how to interact rightly with others is if we teach it to them

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Not if not just by throwing them into, you know peer groups And and so we're very we're very active in our church and in fact, you know

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Ultimately, we want them mostly we want them to know how to interact with adults. We want to we want them to know how to interact

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Maturely with all ages not just with their own peers. And so that's you know, we're very active in church we we have

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Families over to our home and we are constantly, you know trying to impart to our children

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This is how you act with others and and not not just you know

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We don't want our kids to only want to be around people their own age They have friends their own age at church, but we don't want them to have this segregated mindset

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We want them to to know how to interact with with people of all ages and and we've seen this

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You know evidence itself in our kids like Caleb just had his 10th birthday in January and we had a party for him and we asked him who do you want to invite and he didn't give us a list

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Of children his own age. He gave us a list of families in our churches He said we want to and I want to invite the

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Jacks over and the Devenport's over and the Tichler's over And so we invited their whole families and yeah, there were kids his age

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But also there were their teenage siblings and their parents and our children are learning how to interact with all ages

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Not, you know, we live in such a segregated kind of society where everyone is is Cornered off into their own, you know cultural age demographic and that's really that's that's not a biblical picture of the church

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Right biblical picture of the church is the older and the younger integrated together

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And we found that homeschooling actually helps us provide that true biblical

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Socialization better than segregating our kids off into their peer groups Yeah, I noticed that with my children too, especially on Sunday mornings

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Obviously my kids hang out with the kids that are their own age. They love them They have very good friends in that age, but I find that my children really enjoy

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Spending time with elderly people in our church I had a wonderful lady come up to me last week and she just said

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I just want to say thank you so much Your son comes up to me and he hugs me and he has these conversations with me and we talk about everything and you know there he is and this this elderly lady and my son and my son against ten and Right in the middle of this church and there are kids all over the place and there are teens all over the place and all

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These people and my son's just feels drawn to sit there and to have this conversation with this woman

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You don't see that too often and that's I think that right. That's a good side of socialization.

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Yeah awesome All right. So I'm curious I think

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I think I know what the answer this one will be too I guess I should say before I move on that criticism or that question, you know, how will my kids be socialized?

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I think one of the nice things is that when homeschooling was first becoming popular as a movement back in the 80s and whatnot

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That was a big question people were concerned about but the nice thing is that the research has proven time and time again for decades now

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That that's just not the case to homeschool kids are doing fantastically well and like Scott said With people from every age group and there really are

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This this this socialized this idea of being socialized far better oftentimes because they have had to Interact with adults more often than they've interacted with people of their own age and that's right.

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Not a bad thing Great. So I think my last question. I want to get some feedback for you because The question we're asking is, you know

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Should I consider homeschooling this this fall and I have to say that I've heard a number of parents say when they find out that My wife and I both homeschool

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I have the unique ability that I am at home during the time that my kids are doing their their disciplines

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And they say to me Wow, I just I don't think that I could spend that much time with my my kids

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I think we kill each other now obviously in a moment like that, you know, you want to be tactful, but I've heard that so many times and perhaps what

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What might be your encouragement to them? Well, I'll let Becky speak to it because she's home all day

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But I I get the text messages, you know, it's real life.

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There are struggles there there are temper tantrums and stubbornness and grumpiness but again if your view is

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Becky and I talk about this all the time, right? You can't view the temper tantrum as this is interrupting education.

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You have to view it as this is part of This is an opportunity to point my child to Christ and So what if you know the math lesson breaks down in tears or temper then the nice thing about homeschooling is

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You can save that math lesson for tomorrow and you know, it makes no difference whatsoever

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And you can take that time instead to deal with the heart attitudes

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And you know, so save lesson 11 for tomorrow, you know, you don't have to check off that box Just because you know lesson 11 was in your lesson plan for today you can

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Use that time to disciple your children and that is every bit if not way more

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Important than finishing the entire math lesson for the day I mean, so it probably is true that we see more of our kids sin

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Than if we sent them off to school because we wouldn't see them for you know, several hours So we do that there in that sense maybe there is more strife or there is more difficulty but But we see it which is a good thing, right?

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So if they if they have a problem with temper, but they're only you know But they're they're they're having these temper tantrums off at school and we never really hear about it unless it reaches

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You know a level where the teacher notifies us then we never have that opportunity to help our child through that But if if that's in problem that our child is experiencing,

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I mean they can't not Demonstrate it in front of us because we're always together.

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So we're gonna have to deal with it And yeah, it is hard right parenting is hard And it's a sanctification issue for us to you know

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It grows us as parents in ways You know It stretches us in ways that we wouldn't be stretched if we were just here by ourselves all day

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You're not dealing with that conflict Well, I love what you guys are doing and if I'm not mistaken

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Becky the most of the homeschooling articles you write they are published at religious religious affections.

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Is that correct? Yes Okay, great. Do you publish anywhere else? Occasionally different places but most of what

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I write is for religious affections Okay, great. I'm gonna be I'm gonna have a link to that Site in the description

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So if you parents are interested in Hearing or at least reading some of the things that Becky has written on this subject and would like some more encouragement

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Please do that. Obviously, you can feel free to email us at counselor at truth.

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Love parent comm because I Want to I want to be able to answer these questions and I know this is a longer show than usual and I want it to be because I want you guys to have as much

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Information as you can to be able to make a Christ honoring decision So if you if you're if you're asking for more it's like yeah, okay,

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I get that and I love it It sounds so great. But what do I do about this? Oh, then by all means, please send us those emails.

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We want to help and Once again, I want to thank Scott and Becky for investing their time in us.

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I believe they did a great job Enumerating what I believe probably are the single most important considerations for anyone desiring to homeschool their children

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The question is this how much of their discipleship do you want to have do you want to have the discipleship from?

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5 p .m. To bedtime and in the morning hours, or do you want to have the discipleship of the entire day?

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I thank you guys so much for being here with us today and sharing that with us There is so much to think about when it comes to our children's education.

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I really hope and pray we're not making mindless choices It's such an incredibly important topic and I pray that you receive some biblical clarity on the subject

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If you're interested in learning more about what homeschooling entails, I want to invite you to email counselor at truthloveparent .com

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I speak on homeschooling and I consult parents all the time about homeschooling if I can be of any help to you whatsoever

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I'd be honored to serve you in that way And also, please share this episode on your favorite social media outlet so that other parents can consider these very

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Christ honoring concepts And I hope you'll join us next time as we once again open God's Word to discover how to parent our children for life and Godliness to that end.

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