TLP 87: What Is Successful Parenting?

You may not have started a mom blog to share the miracle that is your housekeeping, but that's okay because that's not the measure of parental success.

Welcome to Truth. Love. Parent. Where we use God's Word to become intentional, premeditated parents.

Here's your host, A .M. Brewster. Last time we talked about the fact that you can't be on the same parenting team if you're not living the one -flesh relationship

God called you to as a couple. And we talked about what a biblical one -flesh relationship looks like.

Please, by all means, check that out if you haven't heard it already. And today we're continuing the theme of high expectations for our parenting by discussing what is successful parenting.

All of us want to be successful parents, but what does that look like? Well, we're going to discuss that in just a minute.

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Just go to Truth. Love. Parent. on Facebook and tell us what you think. All right. So what is successful parenting?

I'd have to wager there are just about as many definitions of successful as there are people defining it.

I mean, just check out Pinterest, and you'll see countless examples of what people consider successful parenting to be.

It may be a project or a curricula or a mantra, but it'll be there set up as a high -definition, perfectly lit, well -edited standard for good parenting.

But here at TLP, we don't hide the fact that we believe God's definition of words is the only one that matters.

I believe all Christians should care more about what God says than what man says, and I think they should care more about how he says it as well.

Today, I want to look at one main passage. It's not considered a parenting passage by any means, and you may not have even thought of it as an answer to today's question, but I believe really there's no better answer.

So let's turn to 1 Corinthians 4. As you read through the Pauline epistles, I hope you're constantly awed by how many times

Paul refers to himself as a servant. Over half the times, he even uses the word servant he's referring to himself, and most of the others are referring to his fellow followers of Christ.

And obviously, there's a famous one in Philippians 2, which is referring to Jesus himself. But in 1

Corinthians 4, he adds another word to his job title. Verse 1 reads, This is how one should regard us, as servants of Christ and stewards of the mysteries of God.

I love that word stewards. Merriam -Webster's first definition is one employed in a large household or estate to manage domestic concerns.

Its fifth definition refers to its position more broadly by saying that a steward is one who actively directs affairs.

Here's the idea. If you hired someone to live in your home, whose chief responsibility was to facilitate and manage all of the domestic concerns,

I imagine you'd have some pretty high standards for them. I mean, we generally have high standards for the domestic concerns of our homes, and most of us aren't even paying anyone to oversee them.

When you add the checkbook into the equation, our standards shoot up that much more, and I think that's appropriate.

So, what would be your expectations for a steward? How would you judge their success at their job?

No doubt there would be some differences in our lists, partially because our homes are different, our domestic concerns are varied, and our personal priorities differ from one another as well.

But I think it's safe to assume that you'd want your steward to be just as good as Joseph was in Egypt.

Consider Genesis 39, 1 through 6. Now, Joseph had been brought down to Egypt, and Potiphar, an officer of Pharaoh, the captain of the guard, an

Egyptian, had bought him from the Ishmaelites who had brought him down there. The Lord was with Joseph, and he became a successful man.

And he was in the house of his Egyptian master. His master saw that the Lord was with him, and that the

Lord caused all that he did to succeed in his hands. So Joseph found favor in his sight and attended him, and he made him overseer of his house and put him in charge of all that he had.

From the time that he made him overseer in his house and over all that he had, the Lord blessed the Egyptian's house for Joseph's sake.

The blessing of the Lord was on all that he had in house and field. And so he, Potiphar, left all that he had in Joseph's charge, and because of him, he had no concern about anything but the food he ate.

Yeah, I'm pretty sure that's the kind of stewardship we'd expect from our investment. Well, does it come as a surprise that God has high expectations for His stewards as well?

Who are His stewards, you ask? Well, all of His children have been tasked with stewarding a number of things.

The Bible calls us stewards of God's grace, gifts, truth, faith, and the mysteries of God.

In addition, though we may not be specifically referred to as stewards, it's clear from Scripture that Christian parents are stewards of their children.

Listen, these kids don't belong to us. They are God's. We've simply been tasked with managing the domestic concerns.

And don't get me wrong, it's a huge responsibility, but may we be as spectacular parents as Joseph was a household steward.

Okay, so back to 1 Corinthians 4. Paul says, this is how one should regard us, as servants of Christ and stewards of the mysteries of God.

Then he continues in verse two, he says, moreover, it is required of stewards that they be found faithful.

That, my friends, is the standard of success. God hasn't called you to change your kids.

He hasn't tasked you with guaranteeing a certain level of academic affluence or laying a solid financial foundation for them.

It is required in stewards that a parent be found faithful.

That word faithful means trustworthy. Basically, you are a successful parent if you parent the way

God has commanded you. You may not have a high -resolution, perfectly lit, well -edited baker's dozen of Disney -themed cupcakes for your child's birthday.

You may not have remembered to post a picture of your child holding a mini chalkboard proclaiming their grade this year.

You may not have matched all the paint and decorations in your child's bedroom perfectly because your budget only allows you to have secondhand furniture.

And you may not have started a mom blog to share the miracle that is your housekeeping with the internet. But that's okay because that's not the measure of parental success.

Have you been faithful to the parental calling God has given everyone blessed to have children?

So many of our episodes on this podcast deal directly with God's expectations for our parenting, but I really want to encourage you to listen to episodes 26 and 27.

It's a short series called The Fifth Way to Parent. Those episodes will lay the groundwork for us understanding that the only parenting style that really glorifies

God. I also encourage you to listen to our series on anti -terrorism in the home.

It starts with Parenting a Terrorist on episode 37. And by all means, please stick around for episodes 90 and 92 in our upcoming series called

The Merest Christianity, which I believe may present the quintessential guide for biblical parenting.

Now, let's close today by going back through that short paragraph about Joseph's stewardship. Now, Joseph had been brought down to Egypt and Potiphar, an officer of Pharaoh, the captain of the guard, an

Egyptian, had bought him from the Ishmaelites who had brought him down there. The Lord was with Joseph and he became a successful man and he was in the house of his

Egyptian master. His master saw that the Lord was with him and that the Lord caused all that he did to succeed in his hands.

So Joseph found favor in his sight and attended him and he made him overseer of his house. That's a word for steward and put him in charge of all that he had from the time that he made him overseer or steward in his house.

And over all that he had, the Lord blessed the Egyptian's house for Joseph's sake. The blessing of the

Lord was on all that he had in house and field. So he left all that he had in Joseph's charge.

And because of him, he had no concern about anything but the food he ate. What made

Joseph a successful steward? It was one thing and one thing only. The Lord was with Joseph.

And that's just another way of saying that Joseph was faithful to the Lord. His allegiance to God governed everything he did.

He did his job to the best of his ability. He was fair, just, hardworking. He was joyful despite persecution.

He was honest. And when it came to Potiphar's wife, he was pure. So what about you?

Do you parent the way God has commanded in his word? Do you parent for the reasons God has outlined?

Are your goals God's goals? Are your responses a reflection of Christ's? We parents have been called to steward our children.

In order to do that successfully, we must, I need to say that again, we must be faithful to God and his word.

So are you faithful? Let me ask it this way. Does God trust you to parent the way he commands?

Now, if you're realizing that perhaps you haven't been a successful parent up until this point because you realize that you haven't been parenting like Christ, then please, please feel free to contact us at counselor at truthloveparent .com.

We'd love to help. And don't miss our next episode. We'll be discussing the social media apps you thought were safe for your kids but aren't.

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There you'll find links to all of our social media accounts like Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and yes, even

Pinterest. Listen, none of us are perfect parents, but we can be successful parents when we faithfully give our children

God's truth with God's love. See you next time. Truth.

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