Effeminate Men Need to Learn to Act Like Men...Right?

Effeminacy, Masculinity, and the Tweet That Sparked the Conversation

All right, so let's talk about this this tweet of mine. Oh Man, so this tweet got a lot of engagement way more than most of my tweets. In fact, I don't know how to really even look at this stuff. So if you guys do maybe you can you can tell me the truth.

But I believe that probably this tweet has gotten more engagement than any tweet I've ever tweeted in my entire existence on Twitter now I don't have a ton of followers, but you know this this tweet got a hundred and thirty eight likes and about 56 looks like comments and many of those comments were Offering some level of pushback.

Some of it was kind of lame. Some of it was actually pretty good. But I think it's worth Talking about because I've kind of hit on something that obviously people care about a lot of people agree a lot of people disagree.

There's I don't think any of my tweets have Divided people up more so than this one and honestly, I don't think I could have worded this tweet any better. I picked words that are that come straight out of the Bible.

And I don't really think that my tweet is very controversial. Assuming that you accept that I'm using the terms according to biblical standards now a lot of people were asking for definitions of the words That I was using which doesn't usually happen when I tweet.

But it happened a lot here and some of those calls for definition were legitimate. You know seemed pretty honest to me and some of them were just attempts to zing me. Which I will not indulge so good luck with all that.

But but one of the things I think that some of those some of those questions Reveal is that we need to talk about this a lot more and I have some recommended resources for you at the end of this video so go ahead and watch all the way through if you want to talk about the concepts of femininity and masculinity and what it what it looks like to be an effeminate man so that you can not be an effeminate man because The scripture says in 1st Corinthians chapter 6.

Let's go ahead and read this. Actually it was yes, it is chapter 6. Hold on a second here. This is from 1st Corinthians chapter 6. It's the King James version. I could have also picked the New American Standard or a few other versions as well because they all pretty much say the same thing.

But I use the King James because this is the most popular Translation ever in the history of mankind at least I think that's true anyway. Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God.

So this is a list it Paul's about to provide us a list of what the unrighteous people that will not inherit the kingdom of God. This is serious stuff. This is serious stuff. Ready. Be not deceived neither fornicators nor idolaters nor adulterers nor effeminate nor abusers of themselves with mankind.

Nor thieves nor covetous nor drunkards nor revilers nor extortioners shall inherit the kingdom of God this this I could not have picked a safer Word right. Effeminate. Paul clearly says in the King James version of the Bible also the NASB a few other versions as well.

English translation remember. He says clearly the effeminate will not inherit the kingdom of God. So I picked a very safe topic in my opinion. So here's what I said. I said effeminate men should be church disciplined to act like men.

Okay, that's the first sentence or the first part of the sentence the effeminate men which according to Paul They're unrighteous men because they're effeminate. Should be church disciplined to act like men act like men.

That's another phrase. I lifted directly from the Bible. This is 1st Corinthians 16. This is the New American Standard Version, here's what it says. 1st 1st Corinthians 16 verse 13. Be on the alert. Stand firm in the faith.

Act like men. Be strong. Okay, so these are two phrases that I could not have been safer with because I pick them. I'm a Christian. I tweet about Christian things all the time. I'm putting forward Bible verses.

I'm putting forward what I think is good theology. And so obviously the context of this tweet. I'm talking about the Bible here. I pick these terms very carefully. So here's what I said effeminate men should be church disciplined to act like men.

I Don't think anyone should disagree with that. It goes on leading to excommunication after a lack of repentance is demonstrated over time. Okay, so I could not be more careful of how I chose this word.

If you're an effeminate man and you're in a church. You should be taught to act like a man if you refuse over time and you refuse to repent of your effeminate ways. You should be excommunicated because the church should teach that effeminate men will not inherit the kingdom of God.

This is really not a controversial tweet unless you're thinking at the outset that I'm defining effeminate men in a way that that that that Is is inappropriate and I think some people did assume that because they don't like me that's fine.

But you have to understand that I pick these words very carefully. They're biblical words. We need to understand what they mean. Because at the end of the day if you are effeminate You really ought to know that so that you can no longer be effeminate because effeminate men do not inherit the kingdom of God.

Neither do drunkards. You see I could have written this tweet about drunkards. I could have said drunkards should be church disciplined to not be a drunkard anymore leading to Excommunication after a lack of repentance is demonstrated over time.

I could also have picked a word that's a sin. That's not in this list. I could have said the same thing about gluttony. Right gluttons should be church disciplined to no longer be gluttons leading to excommunication after a lack of repentance is demonstrated over time.

How much do you want to bet that if I had said either of those things? I probably would have had not a single person saying well, how do you define drunkard? How do you define glutton? How much do you want to bet nobody would have said that.

Nobody would have said that and you know what that someone might say. Well, it's easier to define glutton or drunkard than it is to define effeminate. No, it's not. No, it's not. It's not easier. It's about the same easiness because here's the thing.

What what a feminacy and gluttony and drunk and being a drunkard have in common is that we? Absolutely know it when we see it. But it's hard to put a list of do's and don'ts so in other words if I have three beers at dinner tonight Am I am I am I drunkard?

If I have three beers at dinner tonight, am I drunkard or if I have a beer every night one beer every day with dinner? Am I a drunkard? To some people the answer would be yes. To other people the answer would be no.

But I think it would be obvious if you sat if you spent time with me. If I was a drunkard or not, it might am I taken to alcohol? Am I letting alcohol affect my my relationships? Am I letting alcohol affect my judgment things like that?

Like like it's very easy to see it when you see it. But to say well as one or two beers the line or as three beers the line or as three beers a week of the line. Or something like that. It's not quite as easy as as a list of do's and don'ts.

Is it same thing with gluttony? Am I glutton if I have meat every day? I? Mean some people might say so some people might say so my glutton if I have meat with with with my meals every day. And the Bible talks about gluttonous eaters of meat, right?

Or in my glutton if I have dessert every day, which you know, I don't have dessert anymore every day because I'm keto. But I used to so was I glutton back then? Well, I don't know I mean I mean the reality is that if you spent time with me and you knew me you would know if I was a glutton or Not my pastor should know whether or not I'm a glutton.

And so the answer is even though we might not be able to define it like it's not like it. You know, I can't tell you well you can have one Twinkie. But you can't have a ho-ho as well. And then you're a glutton you like you can't give me a list of do's and don'ts we kind of know it when we see it, but you see with with a feminist see there actually is a quite a lot of Talk in the Bible about what it is to act like a man.

So no, it's it there's there's probably less talk about what defines a glutton or what defines a drunkard than there is about what defines? A man, so it's it's not it's not like that. You see what I'm saying now now.

Defining Biblical Manhood Through Protection and Responsibility

Let me just before I continue all of the pushback wasn't wasn't you know attempting to zing me not all the pushback was disingenuous. Here's a here's a good example. I don't think that this was bad pushback.

I think this is good pushback. This is a guy named Jason who responds to some of my stuff a lot. We you know, oftentimes we agree and it seems like we agree here. But he wants us he wants to be careful which I think is is fair because I Honestly do believe and I've talked to many people who who believe with the same with me that we've kind of neglected this area of being a masculine person as a man or being a feminine person as a.

As a woman like we've neglected what that means biblically really what it means to our core. How were we created to be men and women? What does that look like? We've neglected it and I think I've been programmed in many ways to act like a woman.

Even though I'm a man and and some people have told me that's godly I think a lot of us have if we really think about it. Anyway Sorry about that. My kids came in there for a second, by the way I've got three sons and or as I like to call them future men and Some of my credits were talking ridiculous stuff like well, I guess if you like the color pink, you're not a Christian.

I'll tell you right now both of my sons or my older ones that can talk. They both have told me their favorite color is pink at various times in their life. And guess what? I Did not discourage that Pink is a completely adequate color and I would not dress them in pink.

But hey, you know, I'm not that progressive. But anyway, here's some here's some good. Here's some good pushback. He says, okay I want to be with you in this good good for him because that you can't really not be with me on this if the Bible says effeminate men don't inherit the kingdom of God.

But you allow effeminate men in your church and don't discipline them and teach them how to act like men. Eventually leading to excommunication if they do refuse to repent then you've got problems. You've got problems.

Anyway, he goes I want to be with you in this but you're gonna have to define effeminate. For example, I don't like guns. I rather enjoy baking. I like musicals and when my daughter is feeling down or upset.

I let her paint my nails. It helps her so so so here's the thing. So it sounds to me like this guy has had some really bad I don't know if it was advice or he's heard heard very bad teaching about what being a man is because you know.

You don't be being a man doesn't mean you have to like guns, right being a man doesn't mean you have to Spurn baking if you enjoy baking people being a man doesn't mean you have to not like musicals. Like I even I even tweeted at him.

I love musicals. You know what I mean? Musicals are great. I've never watched a musical I didn't like in person. I think there's been a number of movies that I didn't like but but in live. You know in a playhouse kind of thing.

I watched guys and dolls a couple years ago guys and dolls, man I remember always thinking that sounds so lame and I watched it and it was awesome. Guys and dolls is a good that's a good one. Anyway, um, so You know.

It seems like like what Jason saying here confirms what what what I think is is really true that we need to have real teaching On what being a man is and I gave him an example like in all the people that have been asking.

Well, you haven't given us a definition. I'm not gonna indulge you with with a list of do's and don'ts. That's not how it works. But I've even given good examples of what I was talking about here and I used one of Jason's things here I said look the fact that you don't like guns not a problem.

Nobody has an issue with you not liking guns. But if you refuse to defend and protect your family or be prepared to defend and protect your family. Then you're not acting like a man and you need to repent of that.

Whether or not you choose to use a gun to do it. That's up to you. A lot of people choose to have a gun because it makes it easier. It's a good equalizer. You could probably fight off more people with a gun than without them.

But if you choose to not do it with a gun, that's not necessarily unmanly but the refusal to be prepared to protect your family that is. Being effeminate and that's something that you should repent of if you say well, you know, someone else will protect me.

I'll call the police if you know that so, you know, that's not it. You can call the police if you'd like. That's not a problem, but you also need to be prepared to do it yourself as well. If necessary you need to be prepared to do it.

And so so if you refuse to prepare, you know yourself to defend your family. If you need to if you refuse to actually defend them when the time comes I know there's a lot of Christians out there that say well if someone was was coming after my kids or raping my wife I wouldn't attack them because violence is unchristian.

I wouldn't defend my wife. I would just try to talk them out of it and hope hope hope that God would provide that. You know, he would I could reach his heart and he wouldn't rape my wife. Like if that's you you need to repent of being effeminate.

Okay, so that's an example of what I'm talking about. You know and and the thing is again, you know Bible has a lot to say about what being a man is. In fact, we can we can go to like first Timothy we can go to the Old Testament code.

It talks a lot about this as well all this kind of stuff. It has a lot to say but it's not like a list of do's and don'ts another example people were saying Well, I guess if I have a lisp, I'm not a Christian and and again.

This is another perfect example to use because it's really not about the lisp. It's about the why it's about. Why are you speaking with a list because some people have a lisp and they just have always had it and they're not trying to Signal anything through it but lots of people who speak with the lisp are trying to signal passivity are trying to signal Homosexuality so, you know, if you ever talked to a homosexual sometimes they'll speak with a lisp on purpose to throw up a flag and If you talk to people who you know the two people who've come out of that lifestyle, they'll admit this.

This is something that they absolutely did. So it's about the why are you trying to project? Womanly traits with your lisp then it's a problem. Do you just have a lisp and that's how you've always talked and you know.

You don't know how to untrain yourself to do it. That's different. You see it's it's not always about the reason. It's not always about the thing itself. It's about the why and I think you know. One of the things that that one of the ways that we can really see this in action is is in prison, right?

I don't know about you guys, but I have. You know over the years had a bit of a guilty pleasure. Well, well where I'll watch prison shows. Like there was a you know locked up, you know on National Geographic, you know prison movies as well.

I used to watch a lot of prison movies and actually now on YouTube. There's a lot of people who are ex-prisoners. Who have like shows and tell you about how prison really is and things like that. And prison is a topic I'm interested in because I think prisons and prison sentences are evil.

I think I don't I you don't see prison sentences in the Bible. God God's law doesn't have any prison sentences. Like you don't you know, you don't go in a penitentiary. You know get locked up in a cage for 20 years as a punishment for for breaking the law in God's in God's economy.

That just doesn't exist because it's evil. It's evil and it's it doesn't treat them. It doesn't treat prisoners with with respect. It doesn't give them it doesn't treat them as image bearers or essentially I think prisons are evil.

So I'm interested in the topic of prison and I watch you know stuff like this to sort of inform me about what prison is. Like and things like that now if we all you know, if we're honest with ourselves we all kind of fear going to prison for a variety of different reasons and one one reason that people fear going to prison is because of the movie Shawshank Redemption.

Shawshank Redemption, right and Shawshank Redemption is interesting but but like so one of the most Hard to watch things in Shawshank Redemption is the the characters the sisters, right? And the sisters are homosexuals that basically go around raping people and they that's what they do to to the the main character they beat him up and they rape him and things like that and.

And that's something that we fear, you know being being made someone's woman kind of thing. And the reality is that if you watch modern-day prison shows or modern-day prison, you know YouTube channels and things like that.

It actually doesn't happen like that anymore I'm sure prison rapes still do happen from time to time. But more so more often than not people who are made to be someone's wife quote-unquote. It doesn't happen through rape.

It doesn't happen through that kind of thing. It happens through manipulation. It happens through manipulation. And so what what I mean by that is you'll get. You'll get someone that'll that'll offer you protection.

Right and you go into jail and you're at prison and you're scared because man it's a scary thing. Anyone who says they go to prison and they're not scared as a liar. Essentially, it's a scary scary thing.

And so you'll get someone on your first day or second day and they'll say hey man. You know like I'll show you the ropes kind of thing, you know, I'll take you under my wing, you know. It's obvious you haven't been in prison before you're like, okay, you think you met you think you're making a friend and stuff like that.

And someone will offer you like, I don't know they'll offer you food or they'll offer you free things or they'll say hey man. You know like it's tough in here man. You there's a lot of gangs. There's a lot of people like look I you know, you I'll watch your back man.

I'll watch your back. I've been here a long time and they'll offer you protection right and then through that they kind of manipulate you into being Their partner essentially being someone that they protect they offer protection and they take care of you.

But you know, you got to provide for them as well. If you know what I mean, and you so this idea of of becoming a woman in prison. You see what happens in prison is they'll oftentimes they'll dress like women.

They'll act like women. They'll have mannerisms like women. You know, they'll do things that women typically do they'll act like a woman and it all starts With this desire for someone to protect you and things like that.

So when we when we look in prison and we see prisoners acting like women. Dressing like women we might understand more because they're in a stressful situation. We might say well, I understand I get it.

You know, I feel bad for them, you know things like that, but that's obviously acting effeminate, right? That's obviously acting in an effeminate way. And so we know that as Christians we shouldn't act that way.

We shouldn't act like women. Okay, and so so here's that here's another example of this kind of thing. So what are some of the traits of a man, right? A lot of people were offering on the threads that on Twitter different things that the Bible says men should be.

Men should be protectors of their of their families protectors of women men should be providers for their family. In fact, the scripture says that men who don't provide for their own are worse than unbelievers in other words Effeminate men are worse than unbelievers.

Okay, we're defining these things biblically here. I'm not saying men who like musicals are should be excommunicated. I'm not saying men who enjoy baking should be excommunicated. Because you could be an absolutely Epic Baker provide, you know bake to such a degree that you can provide, you know.

A life for your family and that is completely manly. There's nothing wrong with baking. There's nothing wrong with having artistic flair in your baking because that can be something that's God-honoring that glorifies God that provides for your family.

That protects your family's financial future and things like that. See these ideas of like well, I guess if I if I like, you know. You know, I guess I'm not a man well I mean look if that's how you want to answer you want to answer with a little bit of sarcasm and just kind of a Little bit of of ridiculousness saying things that I've never said and trying to put that on me.

That kind of says a lot about you. It really does. It really says a lot about you. But the reality is though that when Paul says that a man who doesn't provide for a family is worse than an unbeliever.

He might as well have said Effeminate men are worse than unbelievers. You see here's the here's the thing though. So here's an example of an effeminate Trait in a man you ready. You thought you liked that you you thought you didn't like that tweet.

Well wait till you get a load of this men who don't want to work and Instead advocate for a government to take care of them so in other words men who don't want to earn it for themselves and Want welfare and want other people to pay for their stuff and want money that they never earned things like that.

They want reparations for for slavery that they never endured and all this kind of stuff. They want to to take extract money from people that they never earned themselves. That's effeminate. That's effeminate because they want protection.

That's like that's like the guy in prison who just wants Bubba to protect him. You know what? I mean? That's like the guy in prison who just wants Big Tony to protect him. You know what I'm saying? I Want to be taken care of.

I want to be provided for. I don't want to do it for myself. That's effeminate. How do you like that a man who? Advocates for that kind of thing for the government to take care of him and unwilling to work for themselves.

Unwilling to work for them. So I'm not talking about incapable. I'm talking about unwilling to work for themselves and earn it for themselves and provide for their own. Paul says you're worse than an unbeliever.

I agree with Paul, but I'll also say that's effeminate and you better repent of that. You better be taught to act like a man and provide for your own. This doesn't mean people who need a little help are effeminate.

That's not what I'm saying. That's not what I'm saying. But I'm saying people who act and advocate in such a way that they don't want to do they don't want to work for it. They want to get the stuff for free.

They want to be taken care of by nanny state things like that. That's effeminate and you need to be trained to not act that way. So anyway, yeah, hopefully hopefully that clears it up. But but but here's the thing.

So people want to know like, okay. What's the definition of of a feminine and things like that? There's a there's a lot of people out there that are way better at this than I am. I'll recommend to you the the blog how to be a man.

He's here on Twitter. And he's and it's two guys. It's two guys that do it. They're on Twitter and they're online. I think they do a podcast as well. It's good to be a man. Go ahead and go ahead and watch it.

I recommend to you Aaron Wren the masculinist. I recommend to you that kind of stuff. I recommend to you Doug Wilson this is the guy that everyone hates in fact, I think a lot of the vitriol that came to me about this tweet has really more to do with Doug Wilson than it has to do with me because I'm Associated with you know, the cross-policy guys and all that kind of stuff.

I'm cool with that. Go ahead. There's actually some other people that I I can recommend that I I'm not sure if I'm able to at this point I don't know if there a lot of their stuff is public but but but interesting interesting things.

Anyway, yeah go to that stuff. You're not gonna get a list of do's and don'ts from them. You know, you're gonna get a whole, you know, you know kind of litany of things. It's it's it's not about that.

It's it's deeper than that kind of stuff. And the reality is that we better figure this one out we better figure this one out all you people who are asking for a Definition. I'm just gonna assume that all of you were honestly asking for a definition.

Well, you better go to your pastor and figure this one out because if you are feminine, you don't know it that that's something that Needs to be repented of you know I mean that's something that needs to be put to death the effeminacy that you have you need to put it to death you get To work on it right now.

Because Paul says that the effeminate will not inherit the kingdom of God. Paul says you need to act like a man. So so you better figure it out. Whatever it means again. I chose my words very carefully I said effeminate men should be church discipline.

There's no way to argue that as long as you assume that I'm talking about effeminate according to biblical standards Church discipline to act like men. There's no way you could disagree with that. You better act like a man because Paul says so in the scriptures.

Leading to excommunication ever after a lack of repentance is demonstrated over time. I don't see any way that you could disagree with this tweet and and and can consider yourself a consistent Christian.

I just don't see it.

Practical Wisdom, Weak Handshakes, and Self-Reflection

Anyway, I hope this was helpful. God bless. Look at the end of the day. Yeah.

I know I've kind of said a couple times. This is not about a list of do's and don'ts, but there is some practical sort of Wisdom you can apply to various things. Like I said earlier, you know, it's not really about if you have a weak handshake.

It's about why you have a weak handshake. Is are you trying to are you trying to be passive by having a weak handshake? Is that something you're intentionally doing? And things like that like it's just.

There's no a lot of the rules so quote-unquote that we would have it really depends on the motivation. It really depends on a lot of different factors. But there is a lot of things that we could cover in terms of general principles from the Bible.

Like I said many times that we should talk about so I do intend to do more videos about this. And explain myself further and hopefully better define things. But I really do want to encourage you though if you if you Responded to me like we need to define these things or what's the definition of these things and and I want to encourage if you Really don't know what the definition is that you really should get to work finding out especially if you're a man.

You should really get to work what acting like a man is according to the Bible. Because it's important. It's very very important. In fact, I think if we figured this stuff out if as a church We were more masculine in other words the men were more masculine in the church.

A lot of the problems that I talk about like the social justice stuff and all it would it would it would solve itself. It would solve itself. I wouldn't have to discuss it as much as I do. So anyway, I encourage you to look into some of the resources I gave you and again, I do plan on going into this further in more episodes.

But I want to leave you with this if I if my tweet which again, it's very not. It's not debatable at all. If you believe the Bible is true. You should believe this tweet assuming that I'm defining things biblically, but if this tweet just sort of kind of rubs you the wrong way or you get a kind of visceral reaction to it the idea the very idea that something could Be effeminate or someone could not act like a man in a way That's morally and ethically a problem for them a sinful so in other words If you if you bristle at the very idea that there's a way men should act and not acting in that way as sinful I think you need to do some soul-searching and some self-reflection.

About why is it that I have this visceral reaction to the idea of an effeminate man being something? That's morally blameworthy because there's no way to deny that according to Scripture. You should let act like a man and there is a certain way to act like a man.

You should be cultivating that in yourself all the time. Anyway, I hope this is helpful. God bless.