Watch Out For That Woman! - [Proverbs 6-7]

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well Sunday nights we've been in the attributes of God going alphabetically although tonight's a little bit different I was privileged to speak last
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Sunday morning during the Sunday school hour in Proverbs 6 and I want to finish that tonight and then also teach
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Proverbs 7 if you'll take your Bibles maybe you only have a New Testament so there should be a black pew
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Bible in front of you believe me you'll need a Bible tonight and we're going to look at Proverbs chapter 6 finishing it off and then
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Proverbs 7 basically under the theme that you need to teach your sons dads, dads need to teach their sons many things about life, about God, about righteousness, about those who are unrighteous and Solomon in his
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Solomonic way teaches these Proverbs, inspired Proverbs about what do we teach sons now certainly if you say
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I'm older my sons are gone this is good for you because you need to know what to teach your grandkids if you have daughters only these are still good truths to teach your daughters but the way it's set up in this teaching style he writes to sons and last
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Sunday morning we looked at four of the five things that fathers should teach their sons now does anybody remember those first four from Proverbs chapter 6 in Sunday school anyone?
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you can just shout them out if you want number one if you're in some kind of financial entanglement because you've given yourself as a surety to something or someone you need to get out of that quickly interesting advice and we talked a little bit about finances the second one was you should not be sinfully lazy you should work and he says look at these ants and out of the hundred species of ants and the kinds of ants he says look at this ant and the
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Palestinian ant was industrious and was a hard worker had no leader and Solomon said sons you need to work number three he said in verses 12 to 15 of Proverbs 6 don't be devious and he looks at the evil wicked man and says that's not how you're supposed to be and then he says in verses 16 through 19 in that very poetic lively style there are six things which the
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Lord hates yes seven which are an abomination to him and when you see that in scripture he's basically saying the seventh one is the worst the seventh one is having the most emphasis and he says basically the
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Lord hates many things but he especially hates false witnesses who utter lies that's number six but number seven even more so the one who spreads strife among brothers so those are the first four things that Solomon teaches his son about life
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I want to encourage you all because you're teachers you have been blessed to sit under the ministry of the word from MacArthur to R .C.
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Sproul, Steve Lawson comes all these people come here and preach or we can listen to them on the radio and you are taught things for a reason and one of the reasons is so you might think properly about God another reason is so you might honor him with your life and obedience and a third one would be so that you might do what teach other people you don't want to be the classic dead sea how many people have floated on top of the
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Dead Sea and when I say on top of that's exactly what I mean because there are so many bromides and so much salt on top of the
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Dead Sea I have a picture of me basically laying on top of the Dead Sea reading a newspaper the
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Dead Sea Times or whatever it was called and you just are on top of the water you know if you swim in your swimming pool in the backyard and in the ocean you're more buoyant in the ocean and the
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Dead Sea is just filled with all these bromides and salts and it is dead for a reason and that's because there's no what?
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outlet and so we learn about God to think properly to then obey and then to teach others and so Solomon here in an inspired way says son we need to have a little father -son chat and as you would imagine he has one more thing to talk about and that is immorality verses 20 through 35
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Solomon is going to sit his son down we don't know how old the son is certainly their age appropriate ways to discuss things with your children especially when it comes to sex but you'll notice here it's all appropriate it's all fine to teach it's all good to teach your children and you can just tweak it enough for the age of your children and he basically says in verses 20 through 35 of chapter 6 you must avoid the immoral married woman now we could take that and stretch it and apply it to all kinds of immorality fornication adultery homosexuality but the context here is going to be purity in sex life and abstaining from sexual immorality he does it in chapter 2 he says avoid it chapter 5 chapter 6 chapter 7 and chapter 9 ignorance is not bliss when it comes to the subject and if you have sons and daughters you need to teach them what the
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Bible says let's take a look at the passage in verses 20 and following and then 7 is almost an amplification of this last section of Proverbs 6 and this morning
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I said we're gonna have drama tonight it's not because I'm going to be acting it's because chapter 7 is dramatic in fashion it is amazing to just watch 7
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I mean if you are going to sleep tonight either A. I've made the Bible boring and that's a sin or you're boring yourself because 7 is so exciting my son he says
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Proverbs 620 observe the commandment of your father and do not forsake the teaching of your mother see both mother and father teaching the son bind them continually on your heart tie them around your neck he's saying there comes truth from us from God to us to you son and I want you to try to remember this truth
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I want you to fasten it to your mind bind it to your hearts what would be some other synonyms for securing one thing to another
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I thought of welding I thought of soldering I thought of taking some kind of rivets and putting things together
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I thought about those little cable ties and you tie things together and he's saying don't lose this this is important information this is not just kind of life skills what's the batting average of you know your favorite batter this is important information and he's just using language very figurative
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Hebrew language to say don't forget it's kind of like Columbo he leaves the door he's gonna leave he's gonna walk out the door and just before the door shuts what does he do he comes back in this detective on TV in the seventies and he says there's just one more thing
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I wanna ask in this particular case Solomon isn't asking he's saying I told you all these things son but don't forget this memorize it ingest it haven't impressed on your mind keep away from the adulterous look at verse 22 through 24 when you walk about these things that I have taught you they'll guide you that's straight out of Psalm 23 language with the
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Good Shepherd how the Good Shepherd guides and tens in and takes care the flock these words that I teach you from my own wisdom derived from God's counsel will shepherd you when you sleep they'll watch over you what language just very vivid language and when you awake they'll talk to you for the commandment is a lamp that sounds familiar and the teaching is a light and reproofs of discipline are the way of life for what singular purpose in this context verse 24 tells us for this particular reason this is the purpose statement of 20 to 35 to keep you from the evil woman the woman of evil literally from the smooth tongue of the adulterous she is a smooth talking woman and son you need to watch out for that woman now
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I've thought is my I have my kids and I thought about saying and have had said said to the kids now here's kind of a couple the older ones these are the facts here's the birds and bees talk etc etc and we work through those issues but in of my own self
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I don't think I'd ever say now by the way son you watch out for that a moral married woman
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I don't think I get that blatant that specific I would probably just say watch out be pure be clean save yourself for marriage but here's
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Solomon says you teach your kids run from that kind of woman run just imagine the kid looking at Solomon Solomon knowing what sexual sin will do to a person listening to his father verse 25 it says do not desire her beauty in your heart that's where sin always starts that's where sexual sin always starts in the heart of the person nor let her catch you with her eyelids this reminds me the sermon on that with Matthew 5 about having our heart captivated by God's Word and not with some woman not with staring long enough at the lady so she catches you staring at her and you have that desire literally the word
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Hamad in Hebrew is to lust to covet you look at this girl and in your heart you see how pretty she is and it's not just pretty it's pretty and sexual and your heart pines away and covets and lusts and it's not just she's a beautiful creation of God it is
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I must have and I must own and I must use it's the first step to sin always starts in the heart by the way
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Bruce Waltke insightfully says in his masterful commentary on Proverbs the command assumes that people can govern their hearts by binding the parental teaching to it did you get that he's saying watch out for your life for your sexual life for the purity of your life and you're gonna do it by watching out for your heart and with the
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Word people say well you know this a Bible church and whenever we get counseling it just here's a couple Bible verses and call me in the morning we shouldn't just throw
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Bible verses out but Bible verses Word of God as it is ingested in and thought about can help in this very area they painted eyelids back in those days as well and Solomon says it starts in your heart and you better be careful why can you imagine verse 26 a tragic horrible awful ending for on an account of a harlot one is reduced to what a loaf of bread and an adulteress are literally a man's wife hunts for the precious life what a catastrophe
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MacArthur I remember him saying when I talk to the men and women at the Masters College I tell them you better brace yourself now because sexual sin can cost you your ministry even when you're 21 lifelong consequences and I find it interesting that you can see
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Solomon pushing and he's basically saying adultery is more costly than harlotry verse 27 what language isn't this a amazing way to teach a kid can a man take fire in his bosom and his clothes not be burned what's the answer with the walk is over the other night
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Wednesday night and we had a little fire pit outside and all the burning hot red coals and this verse is on my mind as I was studying
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I said Luke what would it feel like if I went and got these big coals and then you had just like a swimsuit on like a little kinda thin speedo suit or something and you had that suit on you were sitting right there and I took that big huge ember that burning hot ember and just dropped it right on your lap what would it feel like you know you can just imagine it'll take your breath away kind of thing that's hot and that's exactly what
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Solomon saying they had fire back then if you are going to engage in this it's gonna be bad cost full and his clothes will not be burned you think you're gonna skate in and out without being caught think you're gonna be like the men in the fire who they get out of the fire and even their clothes did not smell like smoke wrong thinking illicit sex all sex outside a marriage is like playing with what fire or can a man walk on hot coals and his feet not be scorched rhetorical question we know the answer so is the one who goes into his neighbor's wife whoever touches her will not go unpunished there are consequences there are severe consequences dire consequences not going to be unpunished maybe the husband of the woman will punish you maybe society will punish you maybe venereal disease will punish you are maybe
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God will punish you because first Thessalonians 4 says when it comes to sex in God is what he is the avenger of these kind of sins and then he he pushes the idea with a good comparison so we would learn verse 30 men do not despise a thief if he steals to satisfy himself when he's hungry if you got a steal for food we wouldn't despise that man we wouldn't think ill of him he shouldn't be doing it but we would understand but when he's found he must repay sevenfold he must give all the substance of his house we can understand that we're not going to celebrate it but the one who steals another wife you don't pay back seven times you're looked down upon verse 32 the one who commits adultery steals the woman with a woman is lacking sense he would destroy himself he who would destroy himself does it what's he gonna get wounds and disgrace he will find his reproach will not be blotted out not forgotten for jealousy enrages a man the husband will come after you and he will not spare in the day of vengeance he will not accept any ransom here's some money here's some stuff that I own he will not spare in the day of vengeance he will not be content though you give him many gifts
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Solomon says to his son it is stupid to be sexually immoral especially with a married woman it's like a it's kind of a form of suicide he's telling his kid no matter what you give they will never say oh that's fine no big deal and now so we get a wider eyed picture we move to chapter 7 these are just linked together link together we see the call for Solomon son to watch out for the adulterous woman verse 1 chapter 7 my son keep my words and treasure my commandments within you the whole context is gonna be sexual sin when it comes to sexual sin think about the
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Bible think about what the father has taught you how do you how do you keep these kind of commandments like a treasure they didn't have secure banks back in those days they might hide them they might dig a little area to secure things but as you would take up money and put it in a bank so it's what is it called
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FDLIC approved or something or some kinda guarantee FDI FDIC isn't that a card to carry a gun in Massachusetts that's another story alright but you want something secured treasuring these commandments within you and you don't keep these treasures under a rock are in the wall are buried out in a field you treasure them where you burrow them down in your heart in the fabric of your life he says in verse 2 with the same kind of repetition keep my commandments and live don't keep my commandments and die and my teaching as the apple of your eye do you protect your eye if somebody's gonna poke it maybe any other external organ you don't have that kind of protection and you say you know what
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I carefully guard protect the word in Hebrew is teaching as the little man of the eye what's the little man of your eye?
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the pupil you better guard that pupil it's tender it's valuable and he's using all kinds of language eye and hand and parts of the body to say with the totality of your being watch out
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I have to stop just for a minute give a little exhortation I like to preach some dads if you have sons have you talked to them about this kind of issue it can be appropriate language when they're five you don't need to sit down and say that's an adulterous over there watch out
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I mean what do they know at five but I want to be the one teaching my kids about this issue
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I don't want the church being primary I don't want the school being primary I don't want the people in Boulder Colorado teaching
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I'm the teacher fathers your sons will not get this by osmosis you know what they get by osmosis?
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ignorance and this is the kind of ignorance that we're gonna have to watch out for because there are crafty subtle tricky ladies out there and of course you ladies are saying why is this not saying hey daughters watch out for this man who's after you well you can make the implication if you'd like both men and women true or false have fallen in Adam true verse 3 he just keeps adding it on bind them on your fingers and you can almost think of the
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Jewish phylacteries that would be wrapped around and strapped around the middle finger just showing by visible example tie these things close to you write them on the tablet of your heart tattoo your heart with these things engrave it all this metaphorical internalization say to wisdom
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I marry you that's what it's basically trying to say say to wisdom you're my sister
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I'm gonna make a commitment to you wisdom I take this person wisdom to be my lawfully wedded wife that's the kind of language say to wisdom
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I make a commitment to you for better for worse that's what people do when we stand right here those that get married in they make commitments to one to the other they want to fulfill those and that's what is the idea here this walk he said you are my sister underscores the
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Sun's commitment to an intimate and confidential relationship to this idealized figure a parental teaching why would all this happen the same reason is chapter 6 look at verse 5 chapter 7 that they may keep you the words the
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Word of God the words of Solomon from and adulterous from the foreigner who flatters with her slick smooth words here comes the drama the next set of verses from chapter 7 verse 6 through 23 is a picture of Solomon looking through the lattice peeking into the street and watching this young man be demolished by this woman and it's as if Solomon is taking his son saying you know what stand up on that little box there you're gonna peek out this window with me you gonna watch what's gonna happen because as you see this young man go to the slaughterhouse you don't want to do that I wonder if Solomon was thinking about his own father on top of a roof looking down at Bathsheba we don't know that but here we see the anatomy of a seduction this is like a
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PBS narrative kinda the black and white film that kinda shakes a little bit this is a historical documentary set in a way so you go wow
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I mean could the Bible just say do not commit sexual sin all sin all sexual activity outside of marriage is sin the
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Bible could say that right why do we go through all this trouble all these metaphorical figurative language thing so it is impressive when
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I read chapter 7 I just go wow I don't want that and I want that here's this eyewitness account peeking through the lattice so this man this young son can resist because as I said this morning to be forewarned is to be what for armed one man said the father graphically portrays the unchaste wife's danger in a gripping autobiographical autobiographical narrative of her seduction of a gullible dimwit and about 10 times in my sermon notes
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I've wrote I've written three letters all together to form a word and those letters are
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D you H the the there's the moral woman you're gonna just see this kinda guy and you're gonna need to to to fortify yourself against that I can prove it look at verse 7 action -packed and I saw among the naive and discern among the youths a young man lacking sense this guy was the dimwit and sometimes when you read the word naive and lacking sense you think he just uneducated he doesn't know he's never had seduction 101 taught to him before so he just kinda wandered around doesn't really know but when you study in the
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Proverbs someone who lacks sense you will find people who lack sense need a rod to the back
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Proverbs 10 you'll find people that lack sense despise their neighbor
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Proverbs 11 you'll find the people that lack sense pursue vain things
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Proverbs 12 and you'll find people who lack sense becoming surety when they ought not to Proverbs 17 this is not some person who is uneducated oh
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I just never understood differential equations because I've never been taught them no this is someone who's got the edge of depravity and who is not just naive but he is naive and he is sinful he's lacking sense wandering around yes he's gullible yes he's untaught yes he's unexperienced yes he's naive but there's a an edge to it and what does he do verse 8 passing through the street near her corner and he takes the way to her house he's gonna get nice and close getting right up there you look back at Proverbs 5 verse 8 it says keep your way far from her house if you want to stay away from sexual sin don't get close do not go near the door of her house
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Proverbs 4 do not enter the path of the wicked avoid it do not pass by turn away from it and pass on give sinful people who could make you stumble a wide berth run but what does he do you know what it's kinda the night time thing because most other people can't see and maybe
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God can't see either and if you look at verse 9 we see the night time for descriptions of time to show that it's past twilight and getting dark in the twilight in the evening in the middle the night and in the darkness isolated alone safe no one can see we are going to enjoy ourselves because nobody's gonna notice and you know if I went there in the daytime my father might see me and say now don't you go around that lady's house in the middle the day
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I saw you stop that but it's night time and even the Bible talks about people like to sin when the darkness the dark of night literally in the center same word for the center of the eye the pupil and this word here going to this path taking the path in verse 8 isn't just you know
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I just happened to take a wrong turn I didn't have my GPS monitor this is stepping marching going up with the determination to kinda get there oh if I take a left and I take a right
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I happen to be at her house this is amazing and here we find in verse 10 as one man called her the vixen here's the vixen here's the temptress and with great
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Hebrew language it says my new american center says and behold this is language that says take a look now
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I take a picture last longer outta nowhere who comes out of this house and behold it's sudden it demands attention and the hunt is on wanna go hunting she just started the hunt a woman comes to meet him on the outside she's dressed like a harlot and on the inside she's cunning of heart on the outside it's all show on the inside the cunning of heart means hidden he's naive and lacking sense and she is smart and she knows what to get and she knows how to get it she is clever he is ignorant he is naive she is secretive and she's got the advertisement of her clothes on there and as we would all imagine she is dressed to kill she's guarded in heart clothes tell it all but inside she's hiding and that commentary
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I was telling you about from Bruce Waltke listen to this if Potiphar's wife could make brilliant Joseph look guilty how much more can this sly vixen make the brainless
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Hulk look guilty should they be caught this is not a fair fight this is one hand tied behind your back kinda deal call the match right now and look at how she is verse 11 she's boisterous rebellious her feet don't remain at home she has the roving lustful urges and she's gotta be out she's loud and stubborn never at home always agitated you look at a clothes washer what you see in the middle that spindle what's that kind of action agitation she is just can't sit still she can't sit still because she has desires going to and fro hither and thither she is now on the street she's down the squares and lurks at every corner she's not at home where she should be like we're watching a movie of what not to do she's lurking line in ambush line in the weight with the hostile purpose that's what that word means in Hebrew she doesn't care about culture and being out alone and here comes the seduction verse 13 to 20 and she goes against all cultural conventions because she knows what to do so she seizes him you don't do that and she kisses him with a brazen face she says to him with a brazen look of Jeremiah 3 -3 the brazen look of a prostitute grabs him and just smashes her face to his and kisses forget cultural propriety and forget how they would act back in those days can you imagine you're not supposed to let your hair hang loose or expose your arm or your ankle in public in those days and she just grabbing the guy putting her arms around her and kissing him and those arms are acting like a noose may
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I tell you and the noose is getting tighter and tighter shock treatment then it's amazing that people hear what they want to hear this could be a whole sermon right here to assuage his conscience to talk properly she gets religious she grabs him she's kissing him she's brazen she's boisterous and now she's going to say
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I'm spiritual I'm a Christian I'm a follower of God I everything's fine and I do what
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I'm told well I'm a Christian I was due verse 14 to offer peace offerings today
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I paid my vows let's flip over just to look at some of these vows in Leviticus 7
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Leviticus 7 a book that we rarely read to our own chagrin because you can't understand
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Hebrews without Leviticus but I do think it's important to read Leviticus 7 11 to 18 so you can see what she's doing and she's telling him
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I've paid my sacrifice but what he doesn't know he's the next sacrifice and look at Leviticus chapter 7 how spiritual she is this is way beyond dating unbelievers now this is the law of sacrifice of peace offerings which shall be presented to the
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Lord verse 12 Leviticus 7 if he offers it by way of Thanksgiving then along with the sacrifice of Thanksgiving he shall offer unleavened cakes mixed with oil and unleavened wafers spread with oil see this is what she was doing with cakes of well stirred fine flour mixed with oil with the sacrifice of his peace offerings for Thanksgiving he shall present his offering with cakes of leavened bread of this he shall present one of every offering as a contribution to the
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Lord it shall belong to the priest who sprinkles the blood and peace offerings now here's where we get into our tie -in with Proverbs 7 now as for the flesh of the sacrifice of this
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Thanksgiving peace offering it shall be eaten on the what day of his offering he shall not leave any of it until morning or any other over until morning but if the sacrifice of his offering is a votive etc etc point being when you make the peace offering you are consecrating this to God and then you go home and you have to eat the rest of the offering she says today
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I paid my vows and I've worshipped God and and I'm gonna take it home and have a feast after all it's a a religious celebration we don't want to spoil the meat now do we these are great tactics sad tactics but she knows exactly what she's doing how could love so right be so wrong love were engaged
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God wants us happy you can just name all the things people talk about food is for the body in food is for the stomach and then she pours the flattery on we don't even know if she's ever met this guy before and then look at this this is just so sad here's
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Solomon teaching his son this very thing therefore I've come out to meet you you you're just the next guy in line to seek your presence earnestly
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I have found you I mean how hypocritical can you get
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I've been out from this morning since the early morning looking around for you
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I found you she's so calculatingly kisses him so calculatingly talks about religion and now so calculatingly talks about you are the one and then she pours it on verse 16
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I have spread my couch with covering this is where I want you to take me with colored linens of Egypt I have sprinkled my bed with myrrh aloes and cinnamon every little expenses for you
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I did it all for you those things when I was put the cinnamon on and other things had your name on and what she's trying to do is she's trying to paint a picture of delights that a young man in those days would just go oh that would be great imagine the horrible smells of the day and there's none of that there myrrh aloes cinnamon fine
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Egyptian linen she's rich there's all these spices and it's the right kind of colors too colored linens status high -quality garments aphrodisiac smells and that she blatantly does it it's just blatant now there's a woman in the east thousands of years ago saying this to a man she's probably never met before she's married and she says basically let's go have intimacy come let us drink our fill of love until morning let us delight ourselves with caresses love how about lust this has nothing to do with love this is carnal and fleshly if you look back over to Proverbs 5 you will see that drinking is often used in the
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Bible as a metaphor for sex properly in in Proverbs 515 husband and wife drink water from your own cistern and fresh water from your own well she's you know we're gonna have a party we are gonna have a party there was a party outside of our house today two houses down there's a swimming pool and then there's a lake over there and they were having this big party and they got the kinda karaoke microphone out and I was they were listening
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I was listening to some of the songs and they were doing songs like from Greece and and Olivia Newton -John and all these different songs and wham and these songs
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I just thought why would I ever have to hear those in my own house again and so I'm listening to these and then a guy gets the microphone and they're all saying thank you for coming to the graduation party and this one guy just yells out we're gonna party all night long
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I just go give me those binoculars who are those people she is so direct so bold so brazen and she says we are going to drink deeply we are going to be easy for me to see how do
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I want to say that word insatiated sounds kinda like Satan to me almost you're surely not going to die this fruit looks good that that that that looks fine everything's good she's independent and then she says to say you know what if you're if you're wanting to say no because you need reassurance
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I've got reassurance for you for my husband literally he does she doesn't even call him that she says the man the man her husband is not at my house she doesn't call it a home in Hebrew he's gone on a long journey he's out of town he's at some courtyard
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Marriott doing business he's never gonna come back he's just gone and by the way
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I'm married and therefore since I'm married there is no commitment needed on my behalf except tonight tonight's all we need he's gonna be gone for a long time he has taken a bag of money with him at the full moon he will come home days away you surely are not going to die
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I haven't seen it since I've been a Christian but I know the premise in the premise is the right premise without you going to see it because I know it's not proper to see but that basically what what
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Solomon is doing is showing his son through the lens of scripture in a proper way you know if you mess with that kind of woman it's going to be a fatal attraction at full moon he's gonna come home the camouflage of sin what should he do you can imagine
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Solomon looking at his son now if you're ever in this situation what do you do you run you flee you go for it because you're not gonna get out alive but you know what he falls for it and look at how he capitulates verses 21 to 23 with her many persuasions physical and verbal she entices him with her flattering lips she seduces him with her many in Hebrew doctrines doctrines of adultery she uses with her words to lure him and he doesn't know that there's a big hook yesterday
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I was at the marine place to get a piece for the boat and I saw these huge fake fish that were about this big and the bottom of that fake fish nicely disguised was a huge treble hook first I thought how big of a fish do you catch when the bait lure is this big but then
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I also thought you know what it looks so nice and silver and so sashimi -y like that the big fish just come and just take it and they don't know there's the treble hook that goes right through the mouth and she's got her doctrines of adultery down and he is too stupid and sinful to know what to do and then with language that should pierce
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Solomon's son and yours too suddenly when you see suddenly 25 times in the
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Bible Old Testament it's always doom gloom judgment disaster just mark it in your mind
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Old Testament suddenly we are coming upon a thorough disaster suddenly there's a disaster and again all languages you could teach your kid nothing inappropriate in the
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Bible it's not Victorian either he follows her as an ox goes to the slaughter or as one in fetters to the discipline of a fool you talk about reality
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TV here's reality Proverbs no lure details but certainly very vivid with the butcher we went to a lot of places yesterday we went to the butcher shop there's that guy with one of those big huge butcher knives hacking that meat up we should take field trips to show you how crazy
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I must have been what kind of weird school environment I was raised in in Omaha Nebraska we would go on field trips and I know here in New England school the kids go to the
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Butterfly Museum or some kind of expo or to the Higgins Armory or what's that place downtown and Worcester some kind of what ecotarium we go to those things you know we were kids in Nebraska we took field trips to the stockyards in Omaha Nebraska and in they'll go through the cows and in comes the clubs no they didn't show us that part but you can imagine it's slaughter time it's butcher it's blood and it's the flies that attend as well verse 23 until an arrow pierces through his liver a very very important organ you watch in the operating room when
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I'm in the operating room as a sales rep years ago they were very very careful with that liver vascular tissue important vital you don't live without your liver and it pierces the liver as a bird hastens to the snare so he does not know that it will cost him his life not the bird necessarily but the boy and as an animal is so stupid and naive and sinful not to say traps equal death so to the trap of the seductress need to be fixed in the boy's brain trap of the immoral woman means trouble death the predator is going to have her pray run one man said from sexual sin to divine judgment think
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Solomon had his son's attention I think so and so now he comes back almost like with with bookends and he says now therefore based on what
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I told you son any bronze a little bit here with the plural sons anyone who would listen including us listen to me and pay attention to the words of my mouth you were young inexperienced naive bent with a sinful
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Adams fall he gives these imperatives verse 25 do not let your heart turn aside to her ways do not stray into her path don't wander don't drift
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I learned a new latin phrase this week anybody guess it obsta principi obsta principi anybody anybody get it right free book in the bookstore anybody didn't think so I I didn't know either resist beginnings three seen earlier in chapter 7 resist those it all comes to your heart early on you start wanting and coveting and desiring resist beginnings this is not a once in a while thing that happens verse 26 for there are many victims she is cast down and numerous are all her slain take heed lest you fall is not just weak men who do this it's it's strong and brave in courageous and godly verse 27 her house is the way of she'll descending to the chambers of death you thought you're going to for fine
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Egyptian purple linen and it's to hell death he tries to startle tries to say to the
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Sun don't turn aside stay on target don't get sidetracked he could say if you go back to Proverbs chapter 5 verse 20 asking questions he's already asked his son this but these are good questions in the context we're in why should you embrace
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Proverbs 520 my son why should you my son be exhilarated with an adulterous and embrace the bosom of foreigner what are you thinking boy for the ways of a man or before the eyes of the
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Lord who watches it all and he watches all his paths nothing is is is outside the holy gaze of God for Samuel to says
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God is a god of knowledges Proverbs 15 the eyes of Lord are in every place look at verse 22 his own iniquities will capture the wicked and he will be held with the cords of the sin he will die for lack of instruction in the greatness of his folly he will go astray what a great lesson from Proverbs 6 and 7 to say parents it's good to sit and down and teach our sons to teach our daughters about more than the facts of a life but just avoiding those people who would hurt them
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I have a bunch practical application I'm gonna go bullet point and and go for it number one if you're sexually active outside of marriage now repent repent stop it like MacArthur called up the guy and he answered the phone he left his wife he's living with a new girl
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John called him up on the telephone and the guy answered and John says hi this is John MacArthur the guy like blah blah blah blah blah and John said what are you doing with this other woman well and John said you pick up your luggage right now and run and get home to your wife this second the guy did run number two be careful of mental sins when we look on a woman with lust in our heart we have committed adultery that is why pornography is so horrible number three don't deceive yourself that you can always protect yourself that is in other words
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Galatians 6 God is not mocked whatever man sows he reaps don't be deceived we are strong we can still fall so we have to be careful we never think we're above somehow sexual sin number what number am
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I at four don't flirt if you're single don't flirt if you're married don't flirt with anybody but your wife you wanna flirt with your wife fine what am
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I gonna say carry on be warm be filled but if you're not married why are you flirting
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I could give you number five if you're married do you have great close friends who are women
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I don't think it's the best idea here's a good one number six I can't wait to say this one last time
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I said it we had like five marriages the BBC I've been waiting all night to say this one if you struggle and you're not married and you struggle with sexual sin and temptation
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I have two words for you get married all
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I gotta pay off all my loans and we have to get my degrees and I have to do this and I have to do that friends get married if they do not have self -control let them marry for it is better to marry than to what if you have self -control then fine you don't have to marry
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MacArthur said if a single believer does not have self -control that person should seek to marry if a
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Christian is single but does not have the gift of singleness and is strongly tempted sexually he or she should pursue
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Mary let them marry in Greek is an imperative get married you know what
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I just love to say that I just love to say get married it's a good thing alright
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I don't think you'll predict that I'm gonna say this one if you have friends who call themselves
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Christians and are sexually active then you need to disassociate yourself from those friends see how could you do that 1st
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Corinthians chapter 5 I wrote you in my letter not to associate with immoral people inside the church you need to confront them goes all the way to church discipline and then for the men lastly would you go look for a wife would you take the desires that God has given you through testosterone and other things and say you know what
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I'm gonna use those things to go look for a wife he who finds a wife finds a what good thing but men you better go look as I'm telling all you ladies if you're not married you don't be the aggressive one you don't be the one who goes you let them come to you there's ways to be in the path of a man and that's you know he's got the rest home ministry and you just show up on the front row the rest home ministry every week that's fine a under your dad's supervision
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I don't want to get myself in trouble here and then lastly if you have committed sexual sin outside of marriage or even in marriage
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I want you to know that you can have forgiveness in Christ Jesus God forgives sin and he forgives sexual sin as well
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I didn't see anybody sleeping tonight not a one Solomon said in Ecclesiastes 7
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I discovered more bitter than death the woman whose heart is snares and nets whose hands are chains the one who is pleasing to God will escape from her but the sinner will be captured by her
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God uses sexual sin to manifest hearts of saved people and unsaved people and it is one of the reasons why first Corinthians 6 talks about that subject so much because apart from the
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Spirit of God you can't say no to immoral sex but with the
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Spirit of God there's self -control and many other fruits well dads
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I think you've got some teaching to do your sons you say pastor you already taught them all they need to know tonight more more than I bargained for there are teachable moments that you can give your sons and those under your care that just come up in day -to -day life do
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I think you should teach your sons the Bible four to five days six days a week the answer is yes but you'll find
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Deuteronomy chapter 6 is not about Bible time it's about living with your son looking for opportunities you'll find
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Deuteronomy 6 has not a wit of thing to do with homeschool that is a perversion of the text it has everything to do with I've got this kid
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I've got an opportunity to teach and it's time to turn off the TV it's time to go out for a walk and it's time to say here's a conversation my kids never gonna forget and I'm gonna teach them in London let's just pray
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Lord we look to you tonight to help us all these commands all these imperatives all these things that come from Solomon and we have no a way to fulfill these commands outside of your grace and outside of your power and we are
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Christians and we are able to obey because what you have done for us and so help us Lord not to approach this moralistically or a bunch of do's and don'ts we would acknowledge that we are your people and that you have in love given us these commands and I would pray for our church myself and for the leaders to start elders and deacons that you would give us faithfulness towards our wives that you would help us to be that way that we would be having not only doctrinal fidelity but also sexual fidelity and that we would be people who would be good models of loving our spouses properly and faithfully we pray for the rest the church as well people struggle with sexual temptation people have fallen in our congregation people struggle with pornography and Lord we would ask that you would be mighty to save and mighty to sanctify and that you would work through the hearts of these dear people so we might be a clean cleansed bride approved by you in Jesus name