Wrestling with Providence

Well this morning I'm hoping my voice will make it through we're hoping to not only complete chapter 42

But also make some headway into chapter 43 Where we left off Joseph was giving his brother terms in order for them to retrieve

Benjamin come back to Egypt and release Simeon and Adding insult to injury on their way back as they're feeding donkeys by the campfire one of them finds money in his sack the very money they had brought in order to buy the grain and they all were greatly afraid and Now the pressure is on will they return not only as accused spies, but perhaps accused thieves as well

They did not know as we'll come to know next week that such kindness was meant by Joseph to lead them to repentance

For now where we left them off all they could do was stutter What is this that God has done to us

They relate their circumstances to God's providence and they're afraid

They understand something of the guilt of their past their evil acts now are

Illuminated to their conscience as we saw last week and they rightly understand that God is at work in their midst

God is at work in all the events that have unfolded Since they arrived in Egypt and so they're wrestling with the providence of God and that's our focus this morning wrestling with the providence of God The whole narrative is now shifting away from Egypt back to Canaan back to the household of Jacob And we're seeing how the same grace that's been operative in the life of Joseph has very visibly and evidently

Been an operative grace in the lives of Joseph's brothers and we'll see

Jacob the patriarch of the family wrestling with the providence of God So as we work through these verses,

I hope we'll have time to draw some application from them, of course That's always the challenge

Well first we see the brothers report to Jacob They went to Jacob their father in the land of Canaan told him all that had happened to them saying the man who is lord

Of the land spoke roughly to us didn't forget that and took us for spies of the country

But we said to him we're honest men. We are not spies We're 12 brothers sons of our father

One is no more and the youngest is with our father this day in the land of Canaan Then the man the lord of the country said to us by this

I will know that you were honest men Leave one of your brothers here with me take food for the famine of your households and be gone and Bring your youngest brother to me so I shall know that you are not spies

But that you are honest men and I will grant your brother to you and you may trade in the land

Well, we read in verse 29 the brothers come to Jacob and they tell him all that had happened to them

This is already a big change from the way these brothers worked 20 years prior the last time they had approached their father coming from a distant land with a brother missing they very callously took a bloody robe and Thrust it in front of his face

Showing absolutely no remorse for what they had done to Joseph and they didn't even show any concern for how that might affect

Jacob They could have given the old man a heart attack when they did that They were unconcerned their bitterness toward Joseph was also a bitterness toward the father that showed such favoritism toward Joseph But here notice the change not only do they come to Jacob speaking truthfully to Jacob I think they also show a concern for how this difficult news might affect

Jacob They don't mention that Simeon is bound in the Egyptian supermax They actually glide over the detail of his imprisonment

And they simply say the Lord of the land told us leave one of your brothers here with me. That's as much as they say

It's as though they're trying to soften the impact of what has taken place out of concern for the the frailty of their father

And notice how they couple it immediately with he also said take food for the famine of your households

So they're saying you know, he's very generous. So Simeon's in good hands And then they make it sound like the whole point was so that we can trade in the land

That's why he wants us to go back rather than if we go back and we don't have

Benjamin. He's gonna execute us all That's what Joseph said do this that you may live and not die

And so they're presenting it as though Simeon is an honored guest and I can't read this as a deliberate attempt to mislead their father

So much is to try to soften the devastation of this news as these men are being softened by the providence of God We see that they no longer are callous in the way they interact with their father and the same

Softening providence in their lives. I hope is a softening providence in Simeon as he's behind bars in Egypt perhaps this newfound

Honesty and integrity that is being worked into their lives and relationships is building some confidence in them

Maybe as they're reporting these things to their father They're building up their resolve to immediately take

Benjamin and march back down toward Egypt But then almost as a curveball

Or what we might call Murphy's Law Right if something can go wrong, it will go wrong verse 35

As soon as they emptied their sacks each man's bundle of money was in his sack and their father saw the bundles and they were all afraid

So if any confidence of their integrity has been rising to the surface now they see oh, no

We're all going to look like thieves And so all of them shrivel into fear and this fear becomes contagious to their father

Notice verse 36 Jacob reacts to this report. He says to them you have bereaved me

Joseph is no more Simeon is no more and you want to take Benjamin. All these things are against me

Well Jacob doesn't take this news very well Jacob doesn't take the pile of silver at their feet very well

And you wonder if the brothers who have been So aware and sensitive to their guilt felt something of the sting when

Jacob said you have bereaved me Joseph is no more And he was simply making a list of all the grievances in his life

Joseph is no more Simeon is no more you want to take Benjamin from me But I wonder if the brothers couldn't help but wince when he said you have bereaved me

Joseph is no more Ironically his blame is on the right target

Notice how the grief of losing Joseph has remained It's been 20 years and when he hears of this news

Joseph still comes first in his heart Joseph is no more Still foremost in his mind coming before Simeon even before Benjamin And he's so overcome with despair that he basically writes

Simeon off he Simeon is with the Lord of the land Simeon is no more He essentially writes

Simeon off as if I'll never see him again Simeon's gone Simeon's dead the logic of it is something like this every time

I send a son to you He does not come back. I sent Joseph to you. He did not come back.

I sent Simeon with you He did not come back and you want to take Benjamin The aged

Patriarch is throwing his hands up in a doubt -filled tantrum saying all these things are against me

And it appears that Jacob has forgotten

God's promise Jacob has forgotten God's revelation

When he returned to Bethel in Genesis 35 verse 11 and the

Lord came to him and said I am God Almighty be fruitful Multiply a nation a company of nations will proceed from you kings will come from your body

But all that seems so upside down now the whole land is desolate

His own household in the households of his sons. They're all starving Simeon's away from Egypt Benjamin is the key to their survival

It seems that rather than being fruitful and multiplying and living in the land and blessed abundance

Everything is upside down He's not being blessed It's just the opposite.

He's now losing his sons. He's not being made fruitful He's losing his sons one by one and so he desperately clings to Benjamin.

He is clinging Refusing to let Benjamin go with them. He is clinging refusing to let go

Does that sound familiar for Jacob? clinging refusing to let go

The patriarch who once said I will not let you go Lord until you bless me now says

Essentially, I will not let him go because you have cursed me Now, what is

Jacob doing? He's wrestling with Providence Perhaps it has become very hard for this man to trust

God's Providential control Especially when he returns to the vivid memory of having that bloody robe in front of his face

It was easier to trust God when he returned to Bethel and he felt like he came through the trial and God had protected him and secured him and now he was in the land and he built an altar and thought it's downhill from here

Maybe it was easier to trust God's Providence then But then he lost his beloved

Rachel And he had to bury her And then he lost his beloved

Joseph never to see him again Everything seems so hopeless

And now it's very difficult for this man to wrestle with the Providence of God Jacob appears to have forgotten

God's revelation What a contrast with Joseph.

Do you remember what we've been saying for several weeks now? Joseph lives by faith in what

God has revealed to him Jacob is Joseph is walking not by sight but by faith in God's revelation

And that's how he he rolls down the roller coaster of very difficult Providences What a contrast between Jacob and Joseph where Jacob is failing

To trust God and to walk by faith and he's almost willfully forgotten the revelation of God Joseph consistently remembered

God's revelation We began with it when his brothers came before him as as zap not

Panea and it says he remembered the dreams like father not like son

Joseph responded to the seemingly hopeless situations in his life with faith Whereas Jacob looks at this relatively hopeless situation and he's filled with doubtful fear and in his grief and his despair

He takes it for granted that Joseph is gone. Now that much is reasonable But now

Simeon who's alive He says Simeon's gone and then he assumes if Benjamin goes Benjamin's as good as gone and then he cries out all these things are against me

Because it never seems darker to Jacob but the reality of the narrative as we know

Every single one of these things is instead for him not against him

For his blessing for the promise of God For God's promised blessing upon him all the things that he says are against him are actually for him

Is that something that the Christian can understand that the most difficult? Providences in our lives that we can cry out and say this is against me there's a coming resolution when we will be forced to say by the all of the reality of Understanding what

God has done. All this was for me All this was for me

Reuben sees The dread of his father and Again, because grace is beginning to work into the lives of these brothers rather than being callous or indifferent

Reuben wants to jump in Reuben wants to alleviate that that pain and that suffering again

We see the sensitivity God turning the heart of the son toward his father

Unfortunately Reuben makes a very rash offer verse 37 Reuben spoke to his father saying kill my two sons if I do not bring him back to you

Put him in my hands and I will bring him back to you But he said my son shall not go down with you

For his brother is dead and he is left alone Reuben makes this rash offer desperate times call for desperate measures

This is almost unthinkable Kill my two sons kill your grandsons.

That's his solution to this predicament Reuben is certainly sincere

Reuben is certainly sincerely foolish if not sinful for making this kind of offer but at the same time just Appreciate the evidence of grace we see even in this foolish plea

The man who had once attempted a coup of the family Remember it was Reuben who went in to lay with Jacob's concubine

And that was not because it was a romantic interest so much as it was a power move He wanted to say

I can now be the head of the family Let's marginalize dear old pop because I'm gonna be calling the shots from here on out.

His leadership has not been effective Well that Reuben That Reuben is now the one that says take my sons if I don't bring your beloved son back to you

He's willing to put his own children on the line For the sake of Jacob's concern

He absorbs almost the insult of Jacob pretending that Reuben is not his son

Or that Benjamin does not have these other brothers He acts as though it's a family of three.

My son shall not go down with you. His brother is dead. He's left alone Reuben is saying what am

I to you? What are my sons to you? But he ignores that Insult And he offers he tries to make a foolish sacrifice, but he tries to make a sacrifice and that's an evidence of grace

It's a profound evidence of a changed man. It's an emphatic way of trying to compel

Jacob Please let Benjamin go look I'm putting my own life my own heritage my own sons on the line if I can put my sons on the line

Can't you put your son on the line? But Jacob does not budge an inch

Jacob is still playing favorites Both of Reuben's sons

Reuben himself all the other boys None of them are comparable to the beloved Benjamin as far as he knows all that he has left of Rachel And so he says if any calamity befalls him on the way you go

You would bring my gray hair down to the grave with sorrow No thought for Simeon No thought for his remaining sons.

No thought for their households He clings to Benjamin and refuses to let go he's wrestling with the providence of God the limping patriarch

Who had once been humbled by God refuses to humble himself

And instead he pins his hope on next year's harvest. Let's just get through this year At least we have some food from Egypt.

Maybe next year will look better Simeon's a goner, but at least I have Benjamin But then we see in verse 1 of chapter 43 the crisis presses on we read now the famine was severe in the land and It came to pass when they had eaten up the grain which they had brought from Egypt that their father said to them go back

Buy us a little food So the narrative jumps ahead perhaps from this to the next harvest season where there really was no

Harvest it's a disjunctive clause in Hebrew So we don't we're not told how much time just that there was a passage of time and it came to pass

Apparently there had been just enough grain for Jacob and his sons and their families to survive through that harvest cycle

But then they eventually ate up all their supply and when the next harvest came it was not helping

Jacob knows that Egyptian grain is needed if his family is going to survive And so he comes to his sons and he says go back buy us a little food

Even here we see that he's not walking in faith Even here his planning falls radically short two years of devastating famine

And he says take this very treacherous and dangerous trip all the way down to Egypt just to buy a little food

Just get us through one more little stage in this trial. He's not thinking long -term

He's not thinking of what God might be doing. In other words He's he's ignorant to the reality of the situation a little food will not stretch across the remaining years of famine

But crises have a way of turning our attention to the immediate need rather than the long -term cost

Jacob of course is hoping there is some way any way to get grain without having to release

Benjamin And again just to show you the dysfunction He's more concerned right now about getting food from Egypt than getting simian from Egypt No love lost

But God has desired reconciliation God has desired to bring about reconciliation for salvation

For this family for the church to be preserved for the messianic line of the seed

And so he allows the pressure of this famine to provoke Jacob remember Jacob is

Israel one who strives with God and as he wrestles with his Providence We're reminded that God Sovereignly leads his people in this way

He allows days of trouble so that we become captive to his will

We're wanting to do our own thing in our own way And when God has a different plan and different purpose for our lives

He allows the day of trouble to come so this famine presses on and now

Jacob is running out of options He is being forced to come to this decision that he does not want to make

How does that translate into our lives and our walks well often

God will bring a Spiritual famine if you can put it that way until we relent and we follow his will and He leads us to spiritual food not on our terms, but on his terms you can picture

Jacob praying hard for this famine to break All right, I do not want to let

Benjamin go I will not let him go And so what does he do he resorts to prayer

I'd say fasting in prayer, but everybody's fasting in a time of famine, and he's begging

God send rain send rain Send rain

Give crops give crops give crops. He's pleading the promises of God.

He's reminding himself of the covenant of God He's got perhaps the right thinking and the right heart and prayer, and he's consistent.

He's persistent But the prayers aren't being answered are the prayers even being heard. Why have you cast me aside?

Because what I put my hand upon you will not relent Look at the providence of the situation

You have a son whom you have no concern for he's trapped in Egypt You have brothers that are all imploring even putting their own sons on the line that you might release

Benjamin All of the circumstances and all that I've put before you say my hand is upon Benjamin.

You must let him go and I will not hear prayers that accord to your will

I will only hear prayers that accord to my will Father let thy will be done

Benjamin is the one subject you get the sense. He will not hear he doesn't even bring it up Go back to Egypt and buy us some food

Judah says not so fast If it was that easy we would have done it Judah reasons with Jacob and again just notice the tenderness here

There was once animosity and rebellion in this family this this cold indifference in the way they treated each other almost of violence

And look at what grace is beginning to do in the way that they communicate Look at how

Judah patiently in a very ingratiating way begins to reason with his aged father

Judah spoke to him saying a man solemnly warned us saying you shall not see my face

Unless your brother is with you if you send our brother with us, we will go down and buy you food

But if you will not send them We will not go down because the man said to us you will not see my face unless your brother is with you

Man said more than that the man said you'll die if you don't bring your brother with you

Reuben had tried to sacrificially reason with Jacob But Jacob in his wrestling with Providence would not let

Benjamin go now Judah steps forward And Judah tries to reason with his father

Jacob Jacob's wrestling with the Providence of God and Judah reminds

Jacob of the facts. He reminds him of the situation Jacob is the head of the family

Jacob is the patriarch He has authority that he wants to exercise in the midst of this crisis

So he comes in as the head of the family and he says sons Go down to Egypt and buy food

All right. He has the authority to direct them in that way But then Judah comes in and very graciously reminds him

There's one who has greater authority than you The man in Egypt that you would send us to he has greater authority than you

He has authority and all the land and you may command us to go But we will not be bringing back food because he has authority over the food and he made his terms crystal clear

If you will not send him We will not go down If you want to eat and live you must let go of Benjamin Judah puts the decision back in front of Jacob back where it's always been

Though Jacob has ignored it and tried to negotiate with it and trying to get past it entirely

Notice also this word play You will not see my face unless your brother is with you

It's repeated again. You will not see my face unless your brother is with you

We're reminded it's sort of an idiom to see my face means to have an audience with me if you go to see a royal official

To go and see their face means you can go before them and have an audience and that's all that really

Judah implies We're not going to be able to go before him unless Benjamin is with us But this idiom is so clever because we're reminded that until Benjamin comes

Joseph will not reveal his true face reveal his true identity Judah has taken the initiative

Judah has put himself on the line and Jacob reacts verse 6

Israel said Why did you deal so wrongfully with me as to tell the man whether you still had another brother?

Jacob ignores the facts the reality of the situation and he just again responds with a doubt -filled

Tantrum now, he just wants to go back in time and argue from the past about things that cannot change

Jacob feels the weight of this dilemma. He knows a decision has to be made Judah's right.

He's put the terms before him He's wrestling with Providence and as people are want to do when they wrestle with Providence.

He lashes out This is true to experience, isn't it? We lash out We're unreasonable as we're wrestling with Providence.

Why did you deal so wrongfully with me? In the Hebrew literally it could be translated.

Why did you bring evil upon me? The thoughts of Jacob's heart now begin to erupt out of his mouth.

He's been allowing this bitterness to creep into him We're starving because of what they did to me not because of what

I'm refusing to do for them Misreading the providence of God He begins to blame them hold them accountable make them guilty.

He doesn't want to budge. He will not let go But the brothers now again they come

Again, look at they all now come almost as a as a group to implore

Jacob verse 7 They said the man asked us pointedly about ourselves and our family saying is your father still alive?

They must have given this answer a hundred times Every time Jacob lashed out they just patiently reminded him of the facts and they do it again

The man pointedly asked is your father still alive? Have you another brother and we told them according to these words

How could we possibly have known he would say bring your brother down? The brothers are very wise.

They don't allow Jacob to distort the reality. They're dealing honestly

They're dealing honestly, they don't resort to lashing back an acid tongue does not meet an acid tongue

They very graciously sort of ignore his his insults his accusations and they just return to the reality of the situation

This is the first time we discover that Joseph had pointedly asked is your father still alive?

Remember when his son was born and he named his son and said you Lord you have caused me to forget my father's house

You so blessed me it what happened in Canaan 20 years ago. Not even a thought to me

But as soon as he sees his brothers he says is your father still alive is my father still alive

We can see the heartache the yearning on his part He must have been waiting day by day by day by day

For his brothers to return with Benjamin This is the the backdrop for the whole crisis before them

Is your brother still alive? Benjamin must come with you is my father still alive and Perhaps the most significant part at this point in chapter 43

Judah again steps forward Verse 8

Judah said to Israel his father Send the lad with me We will arise and go that we may live and not die both we and you and also our little ones

Once again notice Judah's reminding his father of the facts We've been saying how at this stretch of the narrative that the

Joseph cycle within Genesis There's this unique intersection with wisdom literature so that the themes of wisdom literature

Begin to become evident in the narrative of Joseph We see the same thing with Daniel Which makes sense as we said

Daniel is very similar to the narrative of Joseph and that makes sense in terms of the biblical Theology but here you have this intersection with wisdom literature and one of the major themes of wisdom literature is

What is the way that leads to life? And what is the way that leads to death? how does one live that they may find life and how does one live that they enter into death and So we see this just as Joseph had brought them before him this wise man filled with the

Spirit of God And he put an existential fork in the road before them do this and live

If you don't do this, you will not live you will die Now Judah himself puts that same existential fork before his father

Jacob There is a situation before them all with life on the one side and death on the other

Send Benjamin with me. We will arise and go that we may live and not die.

That's wisdom in the face of Jacob's fierce in disastrous favoritism

Judah reminds him that life is not only for him and for Benjamin, but it's also for Us and our little ones.

Yeah, there's more at stake here dad than Benjamin What about my sons and daughters about my household?

What about all of us is Benjamin worth? dozens and dozens of lives in other words

Judah Wants to put this point right before Jacob You you're willing to risk the life of one

That you may save the lives of so many You and in us and all of our little ones

Are you not willing to lay down the life of one if you are laying down the life of one to risk that?

That you may actually bring about salvation for the many And if that doesn't get across to him

Judah takes the next step Judah risks his own life so that he can be the one that saves the lives of the rest verse 9

I myself will be a surety for him my hand You shall require of him if I do not bring him back to you and set him before you

Let me bear the blame forever. Now. What does that mean? We're not told it's a carte blanche. It's a blank check

Father you put Benjamin in my hands, and if I don't bring him back to you do what you will with me Disinherit me exile me execute me.

I'll bear the blame forever alive or dead He puts himself on the line his posterity on the line his future.

Hope on the line In other words Judah was willing to accept whatever penalty Jacob wished to inflict on him to take revenge upon him

And this is not an empty offer when we get there in chapter 44, we're gonna see he does the same thing before his brother

He puts his life on the line. He lays his life down This has become a consistent pattern in this man's life

Judah has been so changed by the grace of God that where it's needed He steps in and he lays his life down as a sacrifice that others might receive salvation that others might be blessed

Judah's faith is evident here and his faith is evident not only in his humble self sacrifice

But also in his confidence He really has faith that this is part of God's sovereign plan verse 10 if we had not lingered

Notice again the grace if we had not lingered why are they lingering if you had not lingered

Jacob? But but he includes himself in this listen Whoever's fault it is if we had all not lingered we could have been back now

Maybe even twice by now with more food. We could have gone down twice and so Judah's faith is evident not only in self sacrifice, but he knows

God would not only allow them to go down But God would bring them back What a contrast now we talked about the contrast between Jacob and his son

Joseph Look at the contrast between Jacob and his son Judah where Jacob has a selfish concern for himself in Benjamin And a very weak faith and he lashes out and and he's completely rash and ignorant to the reality of the crisis

We see in Judah a grace and a patience self -sacrifice and a confidence in God's plan

We see that contrast and I think finally Jacob sees that contrast as well.

And so Jacob relents Verse 11 and Their father

Israel said to them if it must be so must have been music to their ears.

What's this? He's moving he's relenting he's repenting he's turning around he's changing his mind

Their father finally perhaps Exposed by the contrast with his own son.

Judah says if it must be so do this Take some of the best fruits of the land in your vessels carry down a present for the man a little balm a little honey spices and myrrh pistachio nuts almonds

Take double money in your hand take back in your hand the money that was returned in the mouth of your sack Perhaps it was an oversight

Take your brother also Arise Go back to the man

He finally relents They must have been slack -jawed to hear him say take your brother

Take your brother he's prodded by this stunning example of grace in the life of Judah and Because of that he springs into the action.

He should have taken long before He commands that an elaborate gift be gathered together and this would have been customary whenever you went before One of higher stature, especially one of imperial stature.

You would want some sort of elaborate gift We're reminded that this tactic worked pretty well for old

Jake the snake back in Genesis 33 He sent wave after wave after wave of very elaborate gifts to his brother

Esau and it seemed to Smooth things over quite well Unfortunately, they're in a time of famine so he can't send waves of camels and donkeys and in cows and goats

He actually has to send nuts and a little bit of honey Whatever they can scrape out of the corners of the cupboards basically and for this stage of the story

The grace of God at work in this household really comes full circle with verse 14

Jacob who from the moment he heard the news has been wrestling with the providence of God Refusing to let

Benjamin let go Not only does he relent he finally takes his focus off of herself and puts it where it belongs on God May God Almighty Give you mercy before the man

That he may release your other brother and Benjamin If I am bereaved

I am bereaved So now Jacob this faith that's been in quick dry cement throughout the beginning of this famine

It's beginning to pump and beat and break through the crust and now his faith being prodded and provoked and and held up by Judah's Self -sacrifice now it begins to burst onto the scene and the

Jacob we knew that returned from Bethel the altar building Jacob finally, he turns to the

Lord and he invokes the covenantal name of God May God Almighty Give you mercy

No more selfish despair No more tantrums or wild accusations.

No more. All these things are against me, but now a submissive May God have mercy

May God Almighty have mercy and look at this declaration

He says may he have mercy to release your other brother and Benjamin Finally Simeon is in view.

He's been missing all along. He hasn't been a concern for Jacob But now that Jacob is beginning to turn his heart to the

Lord the Lord turns his heart toward his family Benjamin now comes after Simeon may he have mercy to release

Simeon and Benjamin as well Look at his declaration if I'm bereaved

I am bereaved It was rather distressing to me to find so many commentaries

And so many expositions of this particular passage where they claim.

Oh, this is Jacob Faithless doubtful Jacob And even though there's some good signs of faith.

Look at this fatalism if I'm bereaved I'm bereaved He's throwing his hands up.

He's just saying what can I do? Who knows how this is gonna turn out and I'm sorry. I Think we if you've been tracking with the way we've been reading.

It's impossible to look at verse 14 that way You're essentially taking half of the verse and twisting it over against the other half

This is an actual turning point in Jacob's life sparked by the self -sacrifice

Which is a real turning point in Judah's life and we're gonna see that again in chapter 44 that Judah now

Becomes foremost and it's his willingness to lay down his life that affects change that would have been unseen

And so no wonder as we move forward Judah receives this exaltation

It's from his loins his line that the Messiah will come the royal lion of Judah Because it's his self -sacrifice

That brings about real change. So I have to agree with John Gill here

Jacob said this if I'm bereaved I'm bereaved not utterly despairing of their return

But expressing his patient submission to the divine will Jacob certainly is resolving himself to the reality.

I might lose Benjamin and Simeon and all of my sons this man in Egypt might have a design to take all of these sons away and Then what what of Genesis 35?

What will God do then? I'm elderly. I'm bereaved. What will God do? Well, if I'm bereaved

I'm bereaved My grandfather trusted in God and when it seemed hopeless and he was as old as I am

God answered and moved and blessed and made him fruitful if I'm bereaved I'm bereaved You see we're meant to look at this exclamation as Jacob relenting not relenting toward futile despair

But Relenting as casting himself on God's mercy May God have mercy

Ultimately, there's two ways to say if I'm bereaved I'm bereaved

One way is to say it fatalistically in other words just Like this if I'm bereaved, what can

I do about it? The world is a cold cruel place Ultimately meaningless

I could rage I could take measures to try to prevent this but Everything will be lost eventually anyway, so if I'm bereaved

I'm bereaved Well, that's one way to say it But that's not the way

Jacob is saying it The other way to say it is this resolute dependence

If I'm bereaved Then God has willed it I'll read an excerpt from a different letter, but reading some of Rutherford's letters a

Frequent correspondence he had with Lady Kenmore Who he he often wrote lengthy letters to and there's one letter where he reported the news of the passing of his wife

He spoke very briefly about the illness that had overcome her and that she had died and the immediate sentence

He put after that it was a very long flowing sentence and and she died and then this the

Lord has done it The Lord has done it Resolute dependence if I am bereaved then

God has willed it and I'm trusting in him Oh God help me to trust in you

You show mercy as God Almighty So show me just how almighty you are and show me just how merciful you are

But either way give me the grace to submit to you if I'm bereaved I'm bereaved

Jacob has been wrestling He's a pro wrestler by now much of his life has been spent wrestling with God He's been wrestling with God's providence

And as he wrestles with God's providence here, he prevails just as he did the first time he prevails but here he prevails by submission as As professional fights today, there's technically a victory by submission right if you do judo or something like that he prevails by Submission if you want to win the wrestling match with God's providence.

The only way to win is by submission Notice that he invokes this covenantal name of God God Almighty El Shaddai That was what

God revealed to Abraham in Genesis 17 verse 1 And Jacob knows that God is almighty not only in Canaan But even in Egypt and he can say may

God Almighty so move in this man's heart in Egypt that he restores everything back here to Canaan Not only is

God revealed to Abraham in Genesis 17 as El Shaddai But to Jacob himself we already read

Genesis 35 11. I am God Almighty be fruitful and multiply and so no wonder

Jacob takes that name from that pledge and said you You told me to be fruitful and multiply and see

I'm sending all my sons to Egypt So be merciful to me Remember your promise

El Shaddai God you promised me seed in the land and in your providence

You have now called me to send all of my seed out of the land

Be merciful to me He is utterly dependent upon God's mercy and he knows it

But he knows that it is the mercy of an almighty God a covenantal God if anything

This is Jacob's I believe help my unbelief moment So we've seen the brothers wrestle with the providence of God What is this that God is doing to us and that providence begins to work grace into their lives and we see that grace

Evidently in the way they regard their father and the way they interact and patiently moved him toward this crisis in his life and then we've been watching

Jacob wrestle with providence between chapter 42 and 43 and we've seen how that Providence has so moved in his life and situation that grace has again sort of Resurrected his faith in the

Lord and his heart toward his family And we're reminded that we too as believers must wrestle with God's providence

So, how do we wrestle with God's providence? What principles can we draw from what we've just read?

Well, I'd like to suggest Three things to avoid as you wrestle with God's providence and three ways to think as You wrestle with God's providence three things to avoid and three ways to think first avoid blame

Avoid blame remember when Jacob said you have bereaved me Jacob blames his sons

Jacob blames Egypt Jacob blames the man in Egypt Jacob blames everything and Veiled within that that murmur within that protest within that rebellious blame shift

Jacob is ultimately blaming God Charles Simeon Speaking of a man who knew difficult providence very well if you've never heard of Charles Simeon An incredible entrance into ministry where he basically came in Devoted his life to ministering to a people that would often lock him out of the church.

Very thankful. I know we have locked the doors After a certain time on Sunday, I'm thankful I've never come to a locked door

But as he sought to preach the evangelical faith in England The the factions that were looking to modernize and move away from that old

Puritanical gospel that they began to want to oust him and be rid of him so they would they would not show up or they would lock him out of the pulpit lock him out of the church and he put up with and began to just preach and preach and preach until these people were converted and finally when there was some success and Substance to his ministry and he had this plan.

Oh, this is taking a toll, but I'm relatively healthy now I'll preach for the next 15 years and when

I turn 60, I'll have my what he called the Sabbath night of my ministry I'm no longer preach.

I'll be able to retire and Use the the last bit of my health so that was his plan in his prayer and then

God gave him 15 years of Plague after plague after plague and he almost never had a year with good health

And he finally got to the end of that and immediately God took it all away He was 60 and God had taken all of that away

Now you might think thank you Lord. I endured and now you've blessed me and I can finally retire in peace

That's not how he read Providence He understood Lord if if I've gotten to this point and you've removed these afflictions from my health

You must strengthen me. You must mean to strengthen me that I may continue to endure

And he kept on preaching for decades after Well, anyways

Charles Simeon says Jacob meant to complain of his afflictions

Which was in fact to complain of God who had appointed his afflictions

Here's one convicting to New Englanders William law the Puritan said when you complain about the weather

You rebel against the God who provided the weather And When you complain and blame and lash out against anything you are ultimately in a veiled way complaining about the circumstances

God has seen fit to introduce you to remember that Jacob is called

Israel and Jacob like Israel is a complainer Israel in the wilderness is known as grumbling and murmuring and complaining against every twist and God's providential even fatherly improvision and So when we begin to start looking elsewhere because of the difficulties

We're facing the crisis around us We begin to blame and to vent to complain and lash out.

We need to be struck as Jacob needed to be struck Are you in a veiled way actually blaming

God are you in a sense saying I don't deserve this

This shouldn't happen to someone like me. This can't happen to me. This can't happen now I've never done anything to deserve this

Well, if you want to wrestle with God's providence or right, you must avoid blame Jacob is essentially saying to God what he says to his sons.

Why have you dealt so wrongfully with me? Actually in Hebrew, it's so emphatic me is the first word

It's the reflexive pronoun begins the whole sentence me you have it in the King James translation Me ye have bereaved we essentially

Blame God When we complain and blame shift about the difficulties that we're wrestling with so avoid blame secondly avoid self -pity

Avoid self -pity Remember when Jacob cried out all these things are against me and very closely tied to blame and complaining and murmuring is

Self -pity. In fact, you can't do one without the other you can't blame without self -pity. You can't self -pity without blame

Jacob is full of self -pity Rather than standing by faith looking for why has

God allowed this? What is his ultimate purpose? What is he trying to show me? How is he examining me?

How do I need to turn to him again rather than? Examining himself. He he reacts against everyone else

He's full of self -pity rather than full of faith And as we said, he appears to have forgotten

God's promise and that's like us we forget God's promise And so there's a need to keep

God at the center of our concern, especially as we wrestle with Providence When Jesus was in the

Garden of Gethsemane, he kept his eyes fixed upon his father It was God first as he wrestled with the unfolding

Providence of the the dread before him And so if we're to wrestle with Providence in the right way, we must avoid self -pity self -pity is a horrific form of unbelief

Spurgeon said our best things are reckoned by unbelief to be our worst

God sends his mercies to us in blackened envelopes and we sit down crying over their dismal covering

We don't actually open the letter to read the heavenly news within it No, summer days contribute much to the healthy growth of our souls

It's those sharp wintry nights which are so trying to us when we fear that we are being destroyed and our inner life is at the moment being

At that very moment being affectually preserved if we read things are right rather than in self -pity

We would understand all things are for us Difficult to do isn't it?

Psalm 31 David says I said in my haste right I rushed into Analyzing the situation.

I said in my haste I'm cut off before your eyes Nevertheless, you heard the voice of my my cries.

Oh The Lord all you his saints the Lord preserves the faithful do you see what David is connecting there in the very situation that I Immediately rushed to I didn't think about didn't pray about wasn't stepping out in faith

I just looked and reacted out of self -pity and I cried out. I'm cut off before your eyes

But you heard those cries and you were actually preserving me. That's the conclusion he comes to The very things we think are against us are for us

Do you see how wicked self -pity is it prevents us from seeing that? Third if you would wrestle a right with God's providence avoid foolish negotiations

Ruben says kill my two sons reminds me of Sarah Who tried to negotiate with the difficult providence of her barrenness by grabbing

Hagar and putting her before Abraham We have to be very careful that the pressure of the crisis

The pain of the trial doesn't lead us to make rash foolish even sinful maneuvers around the difficulty

And that's what we see with Ruben Kill my two sons murder your grandsons, isn't that a great solution?

Spurgeon says some Spurgeon quotes are just so I mean, they're all glorious, but this is probably my favorite just this first part

The unbelieving generally do stupid things So that great we get business cards with that the unbelieving generally do stupid things

We conclude that God is against us by the way, we're in that when we're on so we're talking about those out there

He immediately says we when we are unbelieving when we are blaming and self -pitying and then foolishly negotiating

We conclude that God is against us and then we act in such a way as to bring troubles upon ourselves

That otherwise would never have come Sarah Exactly if she hadn't taken it upon herself to negotiate with that difficult

Providence rather than submitting to it She would have never brought the heartache of Hagar and Ishmael into her home

So, how can we think we avoid blame avoid self -pity avoid foolish even sinful?

negotiations But as we wrestle with God's Providence, there's ways we must positively act positively think we need to renew our minds and first We need to think sacrificially

Think sacrificially Judah said if I do not bring him back to you and set him before you let me bear the blame forever

That's thinking sacrificially in the midst of the crisis Not well, what can we do the old man?

He's stubborn stubborn as they come Stubborn as a needle is straight. We're never gonna bend him.

So It is what it is Maybe we'll have to resort to stealing. Maybe we'll have to start raiding our

Canaanite Nate, you know We've got a few pistachios and almonds to go around What does

Judah do? How does Judah wrestle with the Providence? He thinks sacrificially. What can

I do? What can I lay down? What might God use?

Well, how might he use me to answer this difficulty to answer this situation?

To be a blessing and a relief to others You notice that the way that God used

Judah was to actually Bless that self -sacrifice and turn Jacob's heart

So that Jacob could say if I'm bereaved I'm bereaved and he finally comes around he's made willing because of Judah's willingness

And so often when we face difficult Providence when we're thinking sacrificially, we'll see

God bless our desires in the same way humbling of the self a

Willingness to make sacrifice that is how you begin to prevail wrestling with difficult

Providence humbling of yourself willingness to make sacrifice

Judah does what Jacob failed to do. He would not humble himself. He was arrogant and defiant

He wasn't brought to limp yet He was not willing to lay things down When a difficult Providence comes in your life you examine yourself and you say

Lord, what would you have me lay down? What would you have me let go of What have

I been clinging to Lord and your hand is upon it and This Providence will remain difficult until I let it go think sacrificially

We see it further in the way Jacob gives instructions take the best fruit of the land

Carry it down to him balm honey spices myrrh pistachio nuts almonds take double money

As we said these presents to an Egyptian viceroy are not very extravagant but this is essentially like the widow's mites

They're in a time of famine Jacob has been refusing to budge and even he's forced to say go down to Egypt.

We're starving. We're gonna die if you don't go But with that sense of sacrifice

They gather up the best of what they have whether that could be traded Because of its value or just consumed as they hit dire straits and some began to pass out or tie knots around their stomachs like Haitian women did

During times of great famine and so like the widow's mites.

This is a costly sacrifice Jacob doesn't say well, it is what it is.

Take him and go At least I have all these he just says we'll just take what's left Take the best of what we have and go he's thinking sacrificially.

That's the way to think. I remember a preacher telling me about when he was a student and began his ministry and I think one of the things that he helped with was sort of Diaconal duty and he would help collect and count and distribute the funds from the church and every now and then he did get these blank envelopes and he would always have a bank account that was week -to -week and He sort of made it a practice to think very diligently about how he could tithe and all right

You know, I've got five dollars left and I can get a cheeseburger and I get paid to stay He had to do all these calculations about what can

I tie? But it always relatively embarrassed about the the proportion of what he would give to the Lord But there'd be these blank envelopes that would come in and they'd have random amounts of money in them and there was no telling whence they came and Then he found out it was it was actually the minister in the congregation when he would come to a very

Difficult point in his finances rather than what this man would do rather than clinging on to it and saying, okay

I'll give 10 % of what I have left. He would just put it all in an envelope and trust God Thinking sacrificially.

All right. It's essentially here's the pistachios and the almonds and the honey. It's all we got left Take it with you

Thinking sacrificially Secondly thinking charitably we need to think charitably

That's a little bit different than sacrificially To think sacrificially thinks of how you can lay down how you can let go how you can give away thinking charitably

Is actually causing you to think the best of the situation the best of people around you

So it's the very opposite of blaming of venting and murmuring and complaining you're thinking charitably So what had caused the brothers to fear going back to Egypt?

How are we going to go back with this money? Look at how Jacob thinks charitably take double money in your hand

Perhaps it was an oversight Perhaps it was an oversight.

That's charitably thinking And it must have relieved some of the fear of his sons When you're wrestling with Providence you're almost led to be cynical and bitter and resentful

Remember the cry all these things are against me But when you're wrestling rightly and you're avoiding blame and you're you're thinking sacrificially you also think well, perhaps

Perhaps you know that man did send all of you but one back. He didn't have to do that And he sent all of you back with food and he even gave you supplies for the journey

You know the more I think about this charitably, I think we have good reason to expect that he's a man of integrity.

I Think perhaps this was just an oversight and he will understand. So so take take double and go back

If Jacob had looked at the circumstances differently, he could have judged them charitably in that way and it would have been a very different outcome

So think charitably and then third and most important Think beseechingly

Think beseechingly gotta use that word Kenny used it in his prayer. I was tickled when

I when he said it Think beseechingly To beseech is to implore

It's to ask intently Resolutely to seek something out

Think beseechingly and that's what Jacob does when he says may God Almighty give you mercy

He's wrestling with the providence of this if I'm bereaved I'm bereaved and he turns to the

Lord and he beseeches the Lord May God Almighty show you mercy It's not hard to picture that as his sons departed that became his daily prayer his hourly prayer

God show them mercy God protect them Wherever they are right now at this moment

Lord, whatever they're facing encourage them strengthen them Lord Be merciful to them

He would have prayed this over and over and over until they all returned

You know that you're wrestling with providence rightly when you're led to pray in a beseeching way

You know that you're not wrestling with providence rightly if you're distant from praying to God if you're distant from seeking

His face This is perhaps the most obvious Litmus test of how we're wrestling with difficult providences in our lives

Do we gravitate towards prayer or do we move away from prayer? Are we beseeching the

Lord or are we guessing and blaming and venting and complaining? Are we self pitying and and lashing out?

How are we reacting to difficult providence? Well as we come to a conclusion,

I think these six aspects of wrestling can

Be seen from the text itself between chapters 42 and 43

But the conclusion the final point I'd like to put before us is really takes us beyond this particular passage to the whole story arc to the very conclusion as we wrestle with providence as We avoid blame and self -pity and foolish negotiation as we think sacrificially and charitably and beseechingly

We must look beyond the wrestling of the day and the pain of the moment and the fatigue and exhaustion of the season

We must look beyond that to our great. Hope and our great.

Hope just as it was for Joseph Just as it is for Jacob Our great.

Hope is in what God has revealed to us Paul says we rejoice in hope of the glory of God Not only that we glory in tribulation because Tribulation produces perseverance and perseverance character and character hope and hope does not disappoint sometimes providence disappoints

Sometimes unexpected turns in our walks in the seasons of our lives sometimes griefs and losses and relational breakdowns disappoint

But hope never disappoints and as we wrestle with God's providence

We look for a hope beyond what we're wrestling with When we think of Jacob who had cried out all these things are against me finally being led

To let go of Benjamin and watch as his whole heritage Begins their caravan travel down to Egypt We're reminded that the day comes when those same sons come back and They say you now come with us and that Jacob will finally see the beloved son

And all the confusion the pain of wrestling with God's providence would immediately give way to joy unknown unspeakable

We're reminded that the day comes when Jacob finally not only sees but dwells with the beloved son

Whom he thought had died and was now literally resurrected before him

Joseph is alive and now he dwells with him in Goshen in the land of abundance and refuge and how instantaneously every dark night of fear every painful dreadful moment the weariness of the days the soul

Exhaustion of wrestling with a very thorny and difficult providence are instantaneously overwhelmed with unspeakable peace and then the the tear -filled acknowledgment of God's goodness and wisdom

The joy of embracing a son he thought was dead his beloved son his now resurrected son

He must have had to find little corners to run off and cry to just like Joseph had to run off and cry

When he saw his brothers before him as changed men And in those cries, he must have said

God when I prayed be merciful to me. I never imagined you'd be this merciful How wicked could

I have been to say these things are against me only you only you

God Could have brought such resolution that every single one of these pains has been for me

When Jacob finally dwells with the beloved son All the pain of the difficult providence is instantly taken away brothers and sisters when we

Finally see and dwell with the beloved son Who has been resurrected before us in a land overflowing with goodness and abundance and refuge?

We will finally perceive Even by the reflection of his scarred wounds

We will finally perceive like Jacob in his old age That the hardest wrestling of providences in our lives was only

God's way of securing us to his presence forever Samuel Rutherford Writing to Lady Kenmore essentially says the same thing

We may indeed think cannot God bring us to heaven with ease Well who doubts that he can

But in his infinite wisdom, he decrees the contrary Now we cannot see a reason for it, but he has just the reason

We never with our eyes saw our own soul, but we have a soul we see many rivers We know not the first spring or the original fountain yet.

They have a beginning madam When you come to the other side of the water and have set down your foot on the shore of glorious Eternity and look back to the waters into your wearisome journey

You shall see in that clear glass of endless glory Nearer to the bottom of God's wisdom and there you shall be forced to say if God had done anything

Otherwise with me than he has done. I would never have come to enjoy this crown of glory

You see our hope of glory Does not disappoint

We have an even more glorious conclusion than Jacob We see all the merciful designs of God developed in the wisdom of his providence perfectly displaying the glory of the risen

Son our Lord Jesus and Until that day his unfolding providences teach us to trust and obey him to walk by faith not by sight

But as we do That we walk in the hope of glory so as we said at the beginning of the service be of good courage and He shall strengthen your heart all you who hope in the

Lord Let's pray Father we're reminded there are some in this room

This morning Lord some known perhaps some unknown Who have encountered and are wrestling with very difficult providence in their lives?

But it's your providence and so Lord we

We confess that it is you Who has authority you who has control and it is you who gives mercy we pray that you would give mercy

Help us to avoid ways We should not wrestle and to think wisely about ways that we should and let all of it be done with view to our great hope

Let not our hearts be weakened Cast down in despair or Disappointed but give us the hope of glory that does not disappoint give us courage

Lord and uphold our hearts for those Lord who are strangers to your grace who

Who want to see your hand in their lives? But have never come to the cross have never dealt with the

Lord Jesus have never Turned let them see that they're as defiant as Jacob Let them like Judah instead be moved to lay themselves down To bow beneath you

Lord in repentance and in faith That you may change them