2023 Laborers' Conference- Session 5 The Home

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Oh It says life, all right, so that's just Twitter Twitter's a dumpster fire.

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Anyway, we'll be all right. We are back with the laborers conference 2023 my name is

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Tyler and I'm with Dan self. We're we just came back from lunch coming into session

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What is this five five session five that lunch was worth mentioning we we we

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Packed out a Japanese restaurant and I'll tell you what they were Fantastic service great food.

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It was uh, it was worth the price of admission to our free conference So in this next session is on the home

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Yeah, that is an area that you were very passionate about Dan. Is it not? Yes, it is.

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It is I'd say most Christians are passionate. Most Christians should be passionate about the home anyway

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Some a little differently passionate than others but yeah It's it's something that I feel strongly about that We should be raising up the next generation to take over the church not in any sense that it's really theirs but that we should be raising them up in the nurture and admonition of the

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Lord that they should be knowing who Christ is from A young age and that we pray that God would

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I know there's we got a guest That we should be praying to the end that God would save them that he would regenerate their hearts take out the

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Little hearts of stone and put in little hearts of flesh I mean even if that doesn't take place when they're young still we pray and work toward the end that our children and families are

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Havens of the gospel someplace where they know that if you walk into my home

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It's not going to be too long before you recognize that this is a Christian household That's an important distinction, isn't it?

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Yeah, absolutely. I Don't have experience in the realm of fatherhood. So I will definitely be interested in how this this conversation goes

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With the session and the breakouts afterwards. Sure It's an here's the thing though, it's not it's not just for fathers and heads of household that this doctrine this this topic is importance for everyone because if you're a part of a family, even if you're

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Even if you're your only family is a church family You still have a family structure to deal with so you still need to order your home in a way that is honoring to Christ if you live by yourself you order your home in a way that is honoring to Christ if you are the child you honor your father and mother if you're the wife you

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Submit in godly submission to your husband husbands rule how they should not heavy -handed

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But laying down their lives for their wives making sure that are washed in the word that their children are brought up knowing the

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Lord You know, it's very important to order ourselves The way that Christ would have us ordered, right?

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so I'm running out of things to say here We'll talk about what we got coming up for a breakout session after this laughter after this with Jonathan and we've got breakouts on on the subject, so You'll be leading a breakout group on discipling the nation's beginning at home.

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Oh So if I'm reading it, right And that'll be here a vertical life right right right that'll be right here and then over at first Baptist Newton Robert can

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I and his wife Kelly are gonna be tackling the marriage side of the the home, right?

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I think we'll be speaking largely from their own experience and maybe sharing some stories on that I don't

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I don't know but I would venture to say with both of them. They're probably Yeah, I'm gonna be focusing on Some practical discipleship things in in the home.

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What does discipleship look like? What is it? What isn't it and Walking through what was family worship look like how can we disciple or our families?

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It changes from time to time thing to thing but Do believe we are ready to go in the main session

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So let us switch over to the laborers and we will catch all later

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The Lord Is Jesus Lord Not He will

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The soul that is trusted

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Oh Oh Obviously We would want our homes built on a firm foundation, amen

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That is our hope and our plea That we can build our homes there

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The authority of Christ in the home the authority of Christ in the family.

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I will use those words interchangeable today because I see that as as interchangeable family

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Home that when you when you study this out in Scripture, there's there's two different ways to look when you use the term home

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There's there's literally the location. This is not our Home, we're aliens passing through right?

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We're sojourners Going home, right? So home can be identified as a location.

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I don't think the intent is Necessarily talking about a specific location, right?

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So that's why when we're talking about the authority of Christ in the home We're talking about the authority of Christ in the family

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God's ordination or family and his design for family

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We have that laid out really plain in Genesis chapter 2 if you want to go to your Bibles there We're going to start there and just like every other guy we're going to be running through so my main text will be

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Genesis chapter 2 and Genesis the first part of Genesis chapter 3 and as we walk through that we see

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God's design for the home And then we see very quickly. There's this immediate interruption of God's design

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So we need to pay attention there's nothing new under the Sun agree And God gives us first of all the institution of the home and the installation of the family the

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Institution of the home of the family and the installation of the family then second of all there's the immediate attack on the family

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We find that right there in Genesis chapter 2 God does something that is good and he comes along there and then there's the immediate attack on the family and How do people handle attacks of Satan Not too well most of the time, right?

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By the way, in case you don't know they didn't handle it very well in Genesis chapter 3 For all of these for all of eternity there's been a problem from Genesis chapter 3 now, there's an eternal problem created and Our heartache and our headaches and the gout that's in my left foot

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You see me limping around is a consequence of Genesis chapter 3, right and the family devastation that we see today

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Husbands that have abandoned the role of husband and wives that have been in the role of wives and children that are disobedient to parents

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All stems back from Genesis chapter 3. But aren't you glad that God still has a plan for the family?

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See not only is Jesus's authority over the creation of the family for all things are created by him and for him and through him

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Not only is it Christ's authority over the family It's Christ's authority over the fall of the family and it's

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Christ's authority that is redeeming the family Amen But they're still the same old attack

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Still the same old games that we see going on today and we'll point some of those things out specifically here just a few moments

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So if you stand in honor of God's Word, I know you just sit down stand back up Genesis chapter 2

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Then the Lord God said in verse 18 It is not good that man should be alone.

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I will make him a helper fit for him Now out of the ground the Lord God had formed every beast of the field and every bird of the heaven and brought them to the man to see

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What he would call them And whatever the man called every living creature. That was his name

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The man gave names on the livestock and to the birds of the heavens to every beast of the field but for adam there was not found a helper fit

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For him now, let me give you just a moment context here while you're still standing This was a little bit revelatory for me.

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I I have read this text multiple times God said it's not good that man be alone

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I never put put it in order I skipped over the middle section You know what the middle section was god said it's not good for man to be alone

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So then he creates all of these other animals and all these other things and continually is bringing them to adam to give them names

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He doesn't say it's not good for man to be alone and then create these There's a time period here and then the recognition is

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None of these things Fit him Then god said

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So it's important to recognize that the man gives names to all these But for adam, there was not a helper fit for him

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Right verse 21 now So the lord god caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man and while he slept took one of his ribs and Closed up its place with flesh

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And the rib that the lord god had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man

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Then the man said This at last can you hear a little bit of his frustration there?

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He's been looking for them. He's been giving names and he's been working and he's been tolling and he's been laboring At last

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This this at last is bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh

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This is not declaration. This is this is a sigh of relief If there's finally a companion

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There's one fit for me Without being hyper graphic Biologically emotionally spiritually

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We are designed to fit together Thank god designed beautiful Amen, I know we have some younger audience here, but for you married couples

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And you adore Designed beautifully and wonderfully made to fit together

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God is such a good god, isn't he? He has such a perfect design not dirty not ugly

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And Adam says at last There's one made for me We fit together

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Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother. It's like this result at last she shall be called woman

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She's taken on a man and therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother Hold fast to his wife and they shall be one flesh.

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They fit together And Man and his wife are both naked they weren't ashamed

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Anybody ashamed of being naked You got a lot of clothes on today, right marcia and i've been married for how many years baby 21 years she still goes in the other room but change clothes.

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We've been married for 21 years. I'm just kidding. She don't that much We're fit together.

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Amen The reason we laugh and be silly about that Is because there's a shame in this that came where did this shame come from because they weren't ashamed

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They fit together perfectly. Where did the shame come in? Where did it become awkward? Where did it become something to be joked about or or or weird?

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Right here now the serpent Was more crafty than any other beast in the field that god had made

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He said to the woman did god actually say you should not eat of the tree of the garden and the Woman said we may eat of the tree of the garden, but god said

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You shall not eat of the fruit Of the tree that is in the midst of the garden. Neither. Shall you touch it lest you die

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But the serpent said to the woman You will not surely die For god knows that when you eat of it

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Your eyes will be open and you will be like god knowing good and evil So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food

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And that it was a delight to the eyes And that the trees was to be desired to make one wise she took of it fruit and ate

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And she also gave some to her husband who was with her and he ate then the eyes of both were opened

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And they knew they were naked And they sewed big leaves together and made themselves loincloths all of a sudden

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What was beautiful and wonderful It has become shame to be covered up And he said you're going to surely die in verse 21 chapter 3

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Here's where our solution really comes in and I know i'm skipping down just a little bit there What was god's response should and he had consequences

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What was god's response and the lord god made for adam and his wife garment of skin

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The first one to make a sacrifice the first one to kill an animal was god himself Close to children

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It tells me god cares about the family Father we thank you for your word and we pray

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That in the next few moments that we will be encouraged and affirmed And also convicted and challenged

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May your words speak to us plainly in your intentions for family for the whole

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Emboldened us to be courageous followers of you in jesus name. Amen. May be seated

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I've already gave you a little bit of insight there of the installation the creation and the installation

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And the institution of the family now one thing that's beautiful to think about I I personally believe that god has created two

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Clear institutions in scripture the book of genesis. He instituted the family We just read about and in the book of acts institutes what?

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The church and we have really plain Two institutions in scripture now there can be a lot of other things that spin out of that But really two primary institutions and we can see in scripture how clearly they parallel with each other, right?

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Paul gives us a very clear description in ephesians chapter 5 even how a husband is to love his wife just like christ

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Loves the church and the church And the wife is to submit to the husband in every way just like the church does to Just to christ, right?

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there's there's a clear parallel and god is Making these institutions according to his design and what is his what is his end goal for that?

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I think there's two goals one primary and one secondary. So what was god's primary goal?

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So god could have friends in the earth, right? God God was really lonely.

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What was god's motive? Come on theologians. What's the what's the chief end of man?

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First and then the second part is So there's your two it's never changed number one god created the heavens and the earth and Humans and animals and everything so that he can be glorified.

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It speaks of his glory all creation is speaking of his glory you walk outside and see the sun and hear the birds and see the trees and Look at our pretty faces and we see his glory all creation is speaking of him so that every man is without excuse

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With me so far But what's the second part of the chief end of man to do what? Enjoy him forever

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We get to flourish Under the glory of god that god's design that he's going to be glorified and then we're going to enjoy him

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There's going to be flourishing and developing and growing and and enjoyment

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I really believe that was god's motives. I believe scripture's pointing to those motives and the gospel is the restoration

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Of what was lost in genesis. Genesis chapter 3 For the gospel is the good news

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That brings glory to god that god is glorified in the salvation of his creation

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The redemption of his creation God is glorified in that And now by the gospel you and I Get to enjoy him forever

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Amen See it's not changed He doesn't change praise the lord

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I changed not god So in the family

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We have this institution right in the beginning god says i'm going to put Myself on display with something really special.

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I'm going to create man in my image Right the only part of creation that bears his image.

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Now. What is that? There's a lot of theological debate about it. Okay doesn't mean god has eyes and ears and nose and a mouth

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No, I don't think that's what it's talking about If you want to know my opinion, okay, and again

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This would be a good laborer's question. What is the image of god in us? You know, I see god in you you tell these things, right?

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I think it's the eternity of these things They were the only beings with eternal souls that when we were created

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You're created for eternity and the only thing that's In that same image is eternity and then you can go it's god himself

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It's the only thing that's eternal so he gives a part of himself to us to be eternal You know, you're gonna live forever, right?

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Yeah somewhere Somewhere there's eternal death and there's eternal life, but it's either way.

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It's eternal You with me? I think that's just the

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I'll take this down a rabbit hole. We will never get out of it. We keep digging in that one, right? At the end of the day though you need to know the creation of mankind is unique in all of god's creation because it's the only thing it says all is going to speak of his glory, but it's the

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Only thing that says it's going to bear my image, but it's very is mankind with me and then god

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Very in love with adam and adam in love with him They're in this fellowship together god says adam i'm going to give you responsibility

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I'm going to bring stuff to you now notice this it wasn't adam leading stuff to god.

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This is really wild if you think about it He is allowing adam to play a role in his creation

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You with me? It's pretty wild when you think about that. God does not have to do that at all.

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Did he need adam? Not at all But god said adam i'm going to start bringing stuff to you and I want you to name it

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I want you to put a name on it horse This one kind of looks like a horse but it's got stripes god, what do you think about the name zebra god says

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I love it perfect That one's got a long neck. What about a giraffe?

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I'm with you adam. That's a great name And away they went

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God and adam god being creative whip something up bring it over to adam.

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Tell me what you think about this one How long does this go on? I don't know but evidently there's a lot of animals in the world, right?

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You with me So this wasn't like just a one and done like the creation is spoken.

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It's done. This is a relationship This is a journeying together this is

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Adam laboring with god was it labor for god and I don't think there's anything laborsome for god.

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Amen But I can see adam being a little tired god. That's like That's like the 50 000 variation of an ant today

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Uh, you think we can call a timeout? I need some sleep. God says. Yep. I'll see you in the morning adam

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I got more work to do They are in this relationship together and then god begins to notice an atom without being hyper cartoonish or Whatever, but I think god can notice it

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God notices an atom a weariness God notices Even by this time i'm sure horses producing horses

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You with me birds producing birds and animals producing animals as they're going through this journey and There's none that fits him

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He's seeing this all going on and and god's giving him direct insight to it. Let him rename these things. He's like god

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You know, what about me? There's nothing that fits here and god's like, you know, it's not good that you're alone adam

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I got something really special in mind. I have something so special that you're going to fit together

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And and you're going to set the tone for thousands of years later With what

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I create for you You're going to set the tone to be an image bearer and a foreshadowing of something so much bigger that you can't even comprehend

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You're going to set the tone for the relationship of my son with his bride that fits perfectly together

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I'm going to institute something here that's going to begin a story And adam is going to be tough on you

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So it's going to be perfectly designed And it's going to be for my glory It's going to be for your flourishing that you will be able to enjoy me forever so create these

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Institutes the family installs the family Gives them some instruction right?

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You can do whatever you want to be fruitful and multiply We want you to be fruitful be multiplied.

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We want you you can eat of anything that you want. Just enjoy This enjoy me and in the cool of the evening god would come and hang out with adam and eve, right?

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What did that look like? We don't know Because we've never experienced it.

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We never lived on that side of the fall, right? Now it's something serious lost at the fall so they

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Had the beauty of the family and the fellowship It wasn't long until the second point

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I want to bring out today then after the Installation the institution and the creation of family where now husband and wife are fit together and they being two flesh become one the enemy hates them

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We're going to get into some practical stuff in a minute, but I want to make sure you understand and hear me say this very clearly

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There is a real enemy that hates god There is a real enemy that hates christ

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And there is a real enemy that hates you that hates you

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And there's a real enemy that hates that some of you are sitting here as husband and wife today

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Or some of you are going back to your husband or to your wife for whatever reason they couldn't be here

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But you're going to go home and you're going to strive to have a godly marriage the enemy hates the enemy hates

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God's creation and like a lion it's seeking whom he may kill steal and destroy

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And you need to know that we wrestle not against flesh and blood but against things that we can't see

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Principalities in very high places And he hates the family the institution of family that god created that god installed to be the foreshadowing of salvation and the

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And the reconciling of lost people to his son the foreshadowing that the enemy you best believe hates that And wants to do everything that he can in our modern age to destroy that for you to be image bearers of christ

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You as husbands and wives are to be image bearers of the gospel the story of reconciling and being one

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You You being two have now become one flesh the church It's supposed to be one with christ

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I am his And he is mine And I am abiding in him and him abiding in me

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And people are supposed to be able to see our marriages and say wow What a savior convicting

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It's overwhelming I know marcia and I Been through a difficult season she's had health issues i've had health issues.

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We've had stress It's definitely been times in the last four or five six months But we're not bearing that image really well anybody else with me in that or am

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I just alone up here? Don't bear that image real well People if you you come pull the curtain back and come hang out with us

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You're going to find them that don't look a lot like jesus That doesn't look a lot like the church. That doesn't look like a story of the gospel that looks

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Looks a lot more like genesis 3 And rebellion part of that is the reality that we have an enemy and this enemy deceived adam and eve that created a fall

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That brought damage to god's creation and where god had a design for them to be image bearers of him.

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They got duped So now they're image bearers of death

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They're bearers of Condemnation What do they deserve in that they deserve death?

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John, luke and I were talking one night about this very thing as we've been reading through scripture together And he says dad, you know, god could have dated this fruit that they'd surely die

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He's like like why didn't they die and i'm like well, didn't he? You better believe it.

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They're not alive today, right? God's intention I believe with all my heart in the beginning before sin was for man to never die

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Now That's theoretical he doesn't say that exactly in scripture the death is not spoken of until sin

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That's the enemy That's the enemy This sin brought death into the world god had a design to be in perfect fellowship for all of eternity with his family

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And the enemy attacked the family to destroy god's plan And our culture today in our society today would we think that the family is under attack?

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I didn't even try hard Because it was just overwhelming and depressing

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But I know growing up I constantly heard the statistics that 50 of marriages now ended divorce

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It's a little higher But you know what's even scarier now Is that 50 percent of people 25 years of age and younger never intend on getting married

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Forget divorce That's a serious matter but that's old news compared to those that say

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I don't need family. I don't need god's institution. I don't need to be married.

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I'll just have my life the way I want it I'll cohabitate

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I'll shack up. I'll do whatever I want But god's design is not my way.

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There's been a new attack on the family The enemy is deceiving propaganda and things that we see of same -sex marriage and gender dysphoria

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And transgender issues and all of those things. It's a direct attack on god's design for the family

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No male with another male or no female with another female they don't fit together

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It will produce nothing This silliness of hearing

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Transgender men saying I hope I don't get pregnant You will never be pregnant.

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That is not god's design I don't mean that in anger Frustration and sorrow.

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It's grief. It's it's it's Frustration of the deception that the enemy has brought into the world and the church has decided to be taboo about it

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No, we have a message about what causes humanity to flourish

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It's god's design for the family And people think

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I can do it better Satan deceived even that you can find something better It doesn't get no better than what god says is very good

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It'll get no better than that You can't make it up We just don't make it up as we go

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God instituted it. He installed it satan attacked it and brought deception to the family

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I'm pleading with us today that we don't fall prey to these attacks Whatever that attack is and it's easy to fall prey

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I know you may not be deceived in in the manner that i'm talking about in these Bigger worldly issues, but a lot of the church is

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A lot of the church has become just nonchalant about this but we have the truth to speak of god's design for humanity to flourish and it requires family it requires god's authority over so Now we have the creation the installation the institution

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And we've got the attack And now there's got to be a solution God has to come up with a solution to restore

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His family to restore what he created What is that solution we could come up with all kinds of things we have

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Solutions that that that there's marriage counseling is marriage counseling good. It is at times sure

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Biblical counts go to a biblical counselor, by the way, if you go to counselor Go to a bible counselor somebody that knows the word of god and will teach you the word of god

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We can put a real fancy tag on it Call it discipleship, right? So it's a laugh at that one just a little bit, right

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Attaboy tyler, thanks it is It's normal to struggle in marriage.

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You're people and you're fallen don't think it's strange Don't think there's some kind of strange thing that's come against you that in your relationship.

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You're struggling. That's normal Unfortunately normal, right?

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But it's normal so what do you do you run to christ and you run to the other brothers and sisters in christ

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You throw a hand up and say I need some help And those that have been doing this a long time will come right alongside of you

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They ought to those of you that are older ought to be training the younger spending time with one another

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It should not be a strange thing To talk with one another very plainly

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Yes about sex in marriage. Yes about loving one another in marriage. Yes about intimate matters in marriage

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Be very plain and you that are older don't be one moment ashamed to make these young folks blush

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Not for a second causing god's design and I want to throw this in for free today

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Is god's design for sex is in the boundaries of marriage you with me

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There's not as nothing to be ashamed of in there. There's nothing undefiled in the marriage man. There's there's nothing gross about that It's a beautiful and wonderful thing and it's absolutely normal I can remember and i'm embarrassed my wife a little bit, but she gets over it, right?

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Without being weird. I got two kids. So, you know, it's happened at least twice, right? And my kids like dad

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I praise the lord The bible tells us very plainly not to withhold this in marriage except for like Intentional fasting and prayer don't withhold this from one another.

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This is god's Design go back you're fit together normal embarrassing

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I can remember what I was going to embarrass my wife about was the day we got married.

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We were both virgins And We had this little horse carriage thing that was going to take us over to our car

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And we're going out to get in the horse buggy and her dad is standing right there

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And he's looking at me with tears and I thought He knows exactly what we're fixing to do

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I've already told my daughter how I feel about that One day I will give her away and she had better make a man very happy.

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But until then she's mine Right You with me?

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Now, why is it funny? Why is it funny because it's become a normal to talk about god's design even among the church

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It's weird and it's awkward and it's funny and it's silly We should laugh a little bit

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We should also probably cry because you want to know who's teaching our young people about sex

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You want to know who's teaching our young people about sexuality you wonder why they're so Confused because christian parents have lost the reality of how to teach your children the reality of god's design

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She asked me a second ago. How do I feel about this with my daughter now? Look Don't counsel the way

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I counsel all the time But I told my daughter the other day

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We had a very serious conversation and she would crawl under the pubes, you know, I was talking about this so nobody say nothing to it right

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I doubt it She got the kids But I told her

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I said baby So there's these few boys that's been liking her and this kind of stuff I said

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I want you to know there's nothing that I wouldn't do to protect you nothing That's a pretty serious statement, but I meant it

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There's no length that I wouldn't go to protect her I said there will come a day

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That you will be married And you will have sex and I use those exact words and I said and I hope you have lots of sex and wonderful sex

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And you're like, oh my gosh pastor. You said that yes Because I was raised up in a generation that this is a no -no.

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This is shameful. This is not oh, no, no, no And then you get married and then within a 10 minute hour

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Session you're supposed to be like rock stars within the next night How do you

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I mean we had purity rings we had all this kind of stuff and it was no, no, no, no No, no, never never never never never

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Listen to me young people God's design is for you to flourish in this but you will only flourish if you do it his way

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Nothing's shameful about it. We should be very plain about it that this is right inside the family

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You with me? This is right Biblical And the enemy has attacked the family through sexuality

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Through making it weird Making it uncomfortable I don't care how uncomfortable it is.

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I'm going to talk to my kids about it And now john look don't even care no more, right You know

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He's still like dad You know, I'm just kidding But it's serious we were sitting down into in the kitchen the other day and kaylin was telling us

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You know dad I used to sneak down And try to get in the room But the door was locked you better believe it was

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Right, this is mom and dad time It's not time for you to come in and sleep with us and snuggle with us.

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We had those nights, right dan You're right in the middle of it, right? But there's other times the kids is out the bed

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It's mom and dad time Doors locked you sleep in your own bed, or we'll unlock it later tonight, but this is mom and dad time

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That's not gross That's not perverted. That's the family We ought to be playing with them

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And young people I know it may be mortifying to hear your pastor talk about this But the reality is this one day you're going to have a husband or have a wife

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And and sex and the things that god has created in his institution uses this illustration for it's kind of like fire anybody like campfire

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Yeah, I love a campfire In its right place It's warm and it's welcoming and it has aroma and it has your unity and it's just It's just good to be in the midst of it, right?

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You go build a campfire in the middle of your living room Out of its place and what will it do?

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It will burn your house down and the enemy's goal is to kill steal and destroy you

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God's design is to cause you to be and the family is under attack because the enemy through sexuality through gender dysphoria through through the perversion of pornography and all of these other things is

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Destroying the family destroying god's design and today

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Really the challenge was not just for you to be a better wife and a better husband

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It's to walk out god's design unashamed unashamed of god's design

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Open and plain and let the world see how god's design

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Causes you to flourish That's the thrust of it. That's the point of it and in order for us to do that now

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I'll get back to my final point There had to be a solution Because they had really messed up and this is one of my favorite things to do and we do this

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In our laborers podcasts all the time Claude was doing a day beautifully through the book of psalms and we all do it

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We all want to find christ in the story, right? That's why I couldn't leave out Genesis chapter 3 verse 21.

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I couldn't leave it out why I couldn't leave it out because here's the gospel, baby There had to be a solution.

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They were out there trying to sew up fig leaves. God said leaves are going to dry up and die It ain't gonna last

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God said I ought to kill you But what i'm going to do is i'm going to take this animal over here and i'm going to kill him in your place

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And i'm going to take the skin of that animal and i'm going to wrap it around you and close you in that So i'm not going to see your neck in it.

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So i'm going to see your shame in this what you have now made a shame I'm going to close you that I don't see that Folks listen, there was a season in our life where you and I Were lost and undone and we were clinging at fig leaves trying to Try to just cover ourselves up and trying to hide from god and god comes walking to the cool of the day

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It says hey, where are you and i'm hiding from him? God says I don't want you to hide come out of there come out of that hiding spot

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And he sent his son to die on a cross for you and I that's the animal that was slain and the

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Righteousness of christ that's the clothing. That's the skin. He took that righteousness of christ and he closed us in his righteousness

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He wrapped us in the robes of righteousness. So now there is no more sin to be seen

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You're clean and redeemed That's the gospel right here. That's the restoration. That's the solution

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Then what is the solution for your marriage if you're struggling? It's the gospel What's the solution if you say

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I don't know how to be a husband We'll get deeper in the gospel if you're struggling submitting as a wife and being a godly woman

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What's the solution get deep in the gospel and recognize the goodness of god that you ought to be under the condemnation?

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That you ought to be under this darkness and under the defilement of the world But god said i'm going to clothe you in righteousness

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And i'm going to teach you how to do it my way that will cause you to flourish for you fit together perfectly in my design

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See the gospel is the restoration back to what god had always designed

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You with me? What was lost in genesis 3 is being restored

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I believe that's where we're headed. Amen Whatever eschatological point of view you have there's going to be a new heaven and a new earth new jerusalem

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Right I can't help it. This pre -meal guy's got it better than the rest of y 'all

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Just kidding. That's just a little side thing and my brothers know we we love to sharpen each other with that So there's beautiful perspectives and all of that that you know why we can talk about those perspectives because we agree

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God is redeeming What was lost? In church, you are the foreshadowing and in the midst of the ultimate

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Final redemption, whatever that looks like, right? Christ returned

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We agree on that. Don't we brother? He's coming again So you're redeemed now

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You're the kingdom of heaven now. You're the eden on earth now until he comes you get it

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Live like it Unashamed Be a family

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Love one another Take care of one another But if anyone does not do this and provide for his relatives and especially for the members of his own household

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He is denied the faith Get that First Timothy chapter 5 verse 6

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In other words under the authority of christ This is good But it's not negotiable either

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Because if you don't do this, it's the same as denying the faith Specifically to you men

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To be providers and protectors of your home. You don't do that. You don't be an image bearer of christ to your home

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The thing that's denying the faith That's serious Children, we want to train you and dan's going to talk about that and the discipleship that begins at home

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To train up a child in the way they should go and when they're old they'll not depart from It has to be a submitting and deciding to do that Husbands and wives submitting themselves one to another out of the fear of god

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Ephesians 5 21 and then husband love your wives and wives submit your husband Right god's design

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There has to be a decision to do that and children obey your parents. This is right before god

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This is god's design has to be a decision to do that So that the whole household and this is one that I love

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That I think we should preach and read more often joshua 24 15 And if it's evil in your eyes to serve the lord choose this day whom you will serve

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Whether the gods of your father's serve the region beyond the river or the gods of the amorites In the land which you dwell but as for me and my house

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We're going to serve the lord Right, we're going to serve the lord and I don't care what social media says

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What People say what the government says What anybody else you want to know where i'll kick rocks at the government when the government tells me that I can't run my family

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How I want to Because as for me in my house We're gonna serve the lord and if john luke ever decides not to serve the lord, then he don't have a house no more

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Right Jalen foster decides not to serve the lord He don't have a house no more It's that plain and simple now will

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I cry and be mad and angry and everything yeah, but that's not an emotional decision

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My wife and I as one a long time ago determined we're going to serve the lord

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We have not always served the lord in our marriage. We have had horrible days in our marriage

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We have every right to have lost our marriage, but were it not for the grace of god in the gospel of jesus christ

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We wouldn't be standing here today But because of that goodness of god we as one even in bad days

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Except for me and our house We're gonna serve you May that be your home

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May that be your determination? I know we've chased a lot of rabbits all the way around that But at the end of the day, that's what it is amen

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Amen So during your breakouts, I hope you'll ask good questions I hope that you'll listen carefully and I hope that you're encouraged

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And I hope that you're motivated to be image bearers of christ image bearers of the gospel

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That is the family It is it's god's institution to glorify him and so that you may flourish and enjoy him forever.

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Amen Let's pray together father. Thank you so much for your word Thank you so much for how plain it is to us and how

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We can be encouraged by it. I pray that you would give us a grace To submit ourselves to honor that And we honor and glorify you today in jesus name.

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Amen Yeah, he uh chased some rabbits kicked some dogs and What went all over the place it was good though It was it was there was a lot of stuff that needed to be said there

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Very dynamic. I had not actually heard jonathan preach yet. So I had neither That was quite the experience to see that in person let alone at all

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But for those that did not catch that on the live stream He pretty much stuck with genesis 2 and 3 and talked on god's design for marriage and the family

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And he went about 45 minutes on that Yeah, yeah said a lot of stuff about how god's design for the family was there'd be one man one woman for life

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Uh that the world has gotten it all completely twisted and that there are some things that we should not be ashamed of Such as sex and marriage and it in sex in its proper place

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And that we shouldn't be ashamed to call out when sex is being used incorrectly and we shouldn't be you know ashamed to Engage in sex and that's proper uh

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Circumstances, you know within the bonds of marriage with your spouse Who is of the opposite sex?

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And that's something I I really enjoyed. Um, i've been teaching through song of solomon Sure, you can get into the weeds with some of that stuff.

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Um when I get back It's actually time for chapter four, which is where you're getting into some of the consummation

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Language of song of solomon and so it is very much. Yes. I I agree there that we need to Say what it says

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And it's kind of take the some of the taboo out of it Yeah, because we're really The whole mystery of marriage and the family is is pointing to christ.

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So there's an intimacy within marriage that While not a one -for -one it does point to an intimacy that we have with Our creator now, it's not a sexual intimacy or anything like that But it's it's a it's a depth of knowledge of our creator who knows us

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That can only be summed up in a human relationship in the sexual bonds of marriage.

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It's um, It's incredible Jeremiah talked about um god's covenant with israel as a marriage covenant, didn't he?

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Sure, he said a lot of stuff uh or uh It was uh ezekiel

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I believe was it ezekiel. Well, he went there as well. Okay so I was thinking it was either jeremiah or ezekiel that uh, this covenant they broke though.

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I was their husband Well, there's a lot of different places. I don't know if we're talking about the same place

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Yeah, I do know that um Yeah, i'm thinking of something else

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Or am I I don't know It's somewhere in there I think ezekiel has a very graphic language on israel whoring after other gods

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Which would still be the the same The same thing offering your worship to something that is not christ which would be a picture of of adultery spiritual adultery

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Hosea does that as well What's that hosea does that as well? Oh, yeah Yep.

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Yep Yeah, which I think the whole If you if you want to put it all together

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The whole thing is that jesus is lord. He has saved people for himself. He has instituted marriage before before uh

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The fall is something is one of the ways in which god expects us to live on this side of eternity

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So until we we cross on over um, anyway, we are Pointing to the goodness of god through marriage in the family.

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So we ought to take it as seriously as he did When he instituted marriage for us beautiful Well, we've got breakouts on on the home coming up real soon

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And then I will be preaching the last session of the day On god's sovereignty over the christian and the painful way that god sanctifies his people through suffering

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Sure, you want into first peter? Actually proverbs three. Okay, that works too

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Proverbs three despise not the chastening of the lord that is where we'll be hanging out Sure, and then we'll have a breakout group on the suffering aspect and a breakout group on Um the unity aspect how we're unified with other believers.

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Sure. So claude will be doing suffering I'm, pretty sure he's going to go through the book of job.

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I think that was where he was wanting to go and then jonathan one of jonathan's big, uh passions is

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Unity among believers. So he is he was delighted to tackle that topic in a breakout group, right?

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Maintaining unity with the bond of peace Absolutely. And so you've got a breakout group to get to so why don't we close this off?