How can I learn to stop blaming others for my problems?

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How could I learn to stop blaming others for my problems? We're going to answer that question.

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You can also discover more on GotQuestions .org. For many people, blame is a favorite game when something goes wrong.

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Living as broken people in a broken world, we can easily find someone or something to blame when we are hurt.

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Sometimes, it is true that the fault is someone else's alone. But if we habitually blame others for our problems instead of taking responsibility for ourselves, blame can become a way of life.

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The following are some steps we can take to stop blaming others for everything that goes wrong.

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1. Fully acknowledge the damage that was done. Fully recognizing the hurt and injustice we experienced prepares our hearts to forgive and move on.

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2. Recognize the pride that lurks behind the blame game. Prideful hearts don't want to admit wrong.

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It's easy to see where someone else is wrong, but it's not so enjoyable to admit our own fault.

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Did I contribute to this problem in any way? When we recognize pride, we should confess it as sin and humble ourselves before God and before the other person.

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3. Lower lofty expectations. We cause much grief when we carry too high expectations for ourselves and others.

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Often, those expectations are never communicated, but they are at the root of our bitterness and reflexive blaming of others.

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We think, they should have done this, or they should not have done that. 4.

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Surrender rights to God. Human beings are rights fighters. Common perceptions are the right to be treated fairly, the right to never be offended, and the right to be respected, loved, or included.

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God did not give us those rights. We conscripted them for ourselves.

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Blaming others for our problems often arises from a perceived rights violation.

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If we find ourselves blaming others a lot, it may help to make a list of personal rights we feel are being violated.

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Then, as an act of surrender, offer that list to God. 5. Turn blame into prayer.

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When we feel someone has wronged us, we can tell God about it. Rather than blaming others, we can begin praying for them.

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6. Repent of the entitlement attitude. Blamers typically have an attitude of entitlement they're unaware of.

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It's his fault I didn't get that job. I'm not married because all guys are scum.

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Everyone has had it easier than I have. Blame of God must be confessed as well.

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We must admit that God owes us nothing. 7. Find the good in the situation.

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God says that He is ultimately in charge and will use everything for our good if we trust and love

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Him. You didn't get that job you wanted? Perhaps you can thank God that He protected you from a job that was not right for you.

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When we turn misfortune into an opportunity to give thanks, we rob our enemy Satan of a weapon he wants to use against us.

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Taking personal responsibility for our lives and refusing to blame others for our problems is a mark of maturity.

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Blaming others for our problems only keeps us mired in immaturity. We also forfeit opportunities to learn from our mistakes, develop perseverance, and work in harmony with God to produce the character of Jesus in our lives.

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That answers the question, how could I learn to stop blaming others for my problems? On our website,

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